New GF texting a guy she met at the club

horologist2018 · 2018-11-22T23:01:55+00:00

First of all, new in this sub. So bear with me, please.

Fair enough. Thank you for the warning. Because you're likely to get lambasted, based on everything you're about to say...

So I and this girl were FWB for a few months.

Cool...

I really liked her and could see future with her.

I understand that. Except for all these red flags I'm about to point out.

I asked her to be my GF a couple of months ago.

Solid.

Things were good, other than I felt like she is lying to me about some minor stuff like where she was and what she was doing etc.

Red Flag #1: She lies, you got in an LTR anyway.

Lying Bitch -1 = -1.

It didn't really bother me that much.

You're insane for having this mindset. But, I understand.

She always prioritizes her friends she has known all her life over me,

Lying Bitch -1 = -2

that's kind of understandable.

See, it's not though. I understand why you would logic yourself into this thinking. But fact is, in a LTR; you are each other's priority. She obviously doesn't take your relationship seriously.

But last weekend we had an argument about she going to club with her friends on girls night

Like OMG YAAASSSSSSS gurrrlll GIRLS NIGHT!!!!

Lying Bitch -1 = -3

Girls who are addicted to the club and girls night; red flag.

but never agreeing to go out to bars/club with me.

Lying Bitch -1 = -4

You are not a priority.

She still went to the club and was texting me sporadically from the club. I asked her to come over when it's done, she did and he had sex and all.

After getting turned on by the guy at the club.

Next morning I checked her phone, found out she was texting a guy with very flirty messages she met at the club.

Lying Bitch -1 = -5

What a quality lady.

Also texted shit about me to her friends,

Lying Bitch -1 = -6

She was talking shit about her boyfriend to her friends. Man this girl is classy.

with they calling me baby and all. All while she was sleeping with me in the bed.

I am confused now. This girl is probably not trustworthy.

Probably not trustworthy? Probably? You've lost your mind if you think "probably" even begins to measure how shitty your girlfriend is.

Should I just drop her or keep fucking her while trying to meet other women.

The short answer is no, get away from this chick. Dump her. Audio Record the dumping on your phone, don't tell her about it, ever (legal protection for if/when she punches herself in the face and calls the cops).

AMHash77 · 2018-11-22T22:52:30+00:00

Asking her to be your GF was a huge mistake. Never do that, ever. Stop.

Do yourself a favor and next her.

gregoire_ · 2018-11-22T23:05:09+00:00

Reread your post and act like you know what a self respecting man would actually do.

Theyozman · 2018-11-22T22:54:30+00:00

Dump her ass. Fuck her one more time a d then throw her to the curb.

throwawayycheyeah · 2018-11-22T22:58:45+00:00

Shes not worth it. End it. Zero relationships have worked out well without trust and this girl is far from trustworthy. You can either be the man who stands up for himself and walks away from a poisonous women or be the little boy who cant stand to be alone and stays with a girl who is going to cheat on you or already has. I've been there so I feel for you. Trust your gut and get out before you get fucked up.

Ravenscar7 · 2018-11-22T23:02:20+00:00

Learn the red flags. When girls lie about small insignificant things barely worth lying about that is a huge red flag, it indicates bad parenting because she wasn't punished for lying. Also Sounds like your clingy dude. That's why she priorities her friends. She should be inviting you out and enthusiastic to introduce you to her friends.

Also she grinded up against that guy and snogged him at the club. Sorry bro. Read more of the subreddits sidebar and recommend books and start fresh.

vandaalen · 2018-11-22T23:10:36+00:00

http://archive.is/yxzC1

Whisper · 2018-11-23T06:10:36+00:00

Why the fuck are you in an LTR with a girl who would even consider going to nightclub without you?

Because you are a fucking loser who will tolerate disrespect to get pussy. Stop that.

Retstortion · 2018-11-22T23:27:19+00:00

It’s over

CharlesChadworth · 2018-11-23T11:54:05+00:00

Girls night to a club... Dafuq is wrong with you cunt!!. She shouldn't have been promoted past plate status..

throwitdownman · 2018-11-23T04:44:34+00:00

Even if you stay in this ‘relationship’ any longer, she’ll suggest a break-up. Why isn’t she doing it now, when she has so clearly lost respect for you? Because of the CC - women dump when they have a #2 ready.

Her texting the guy was her finding a nice landing pad for when she dumps you. Move on.

friendandadvisor · 2018-11-23T12:50:03+00:00

You should already keep fucking her while looking for other women. This one is getting ready to drop you.

Don't throw her away, but, be ready for her to either drop you or cheat on you. "Always have two in the kitty."

Bedtimeshine · 2018-11-25T21:35:13+00:00

Bro I messaged you but there is no need to dump her. But you should let this go back into casual. Give her freedom, meet other girls, give her less time and energy, keep it light, flirty, and fun, don’t be one iota of possesive. Don’t even call her when she’s out.

If she calls you out on your indifference, tell her your not commiting to someone who does what she does. That you won’t control her but you won’t be her fool and she’s free to do as pleases and we can just have fun. I don’t give 2 fucks about going through a girls phone to get info if my gut is telling me something. And I wouldnt feel sorry, say sorry, or even hide that I did it. And if she had a problem with it, I would tell her that I won’t do it again because what she does and who she does it with is officially none of my business and she can leave if she likes.

[deleted] · 2018-11-23T17:35:18+00:00

Party girls are not fit for anything but FWB at most.

Next morning I checked her phone, found out she was texting a guy with very flirty messages she met at the club.

Next part one.

Also texted shit about me to her friends, with they calling me baby and all. All while she was sleeping with me in the bed.

Next part two with extreme prejudice. This is literally cut contact type of next. I wouldn't even tolerate that from a bottom-drawer plate, let alone a gf.

Stop acting like a baby, dump her. and move on.

DadOnDabs · 2018-11-24T04:53:28+00:00

Ex-gf*

Title	New GF texting a guy she met at the club
Author	roy53672487
Upvotes	2
Comments	17
Date	November 22, 2018 10:43 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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