Summary: This introduces a simple, effective tactic for maintaining superior frame during arguments and shit-tests. I have field tested this, and it works in a large number of cases.

The Bewilderment Effect

Have you ever had a girl give you a shit-test where she says something that is meant to completely neg you, accuse you, and throw you off your game? Sometimes, these statements are completely illogical. But even when they aren't, here is a proven tactic to take back your frame:

Example - Her: "Well, we've been seeing each other for 3 months now, and not once have you bought me a gift or took me out to a nice dinner. I think you're just using me for sex."

This is a pretty nuclear hypothetical example of a shit-test argument. She just accused you of not giving a fuck about her and treating her like garbage, all because you haven't yet bought her a gift or paid for an expensive dinner. There are many ways to handle a situation like this, but my preferred method is as follows:

The first step is to act like you are COMPLETELY bewildered by her words, and you don't understand them at all. Literally respond as if she just spoke to you in a lost tribal language. Shake your head. Pause for an uncomfortably long moment, as if you are truly attempting to digest her statement. Draw imaginary calculations in the air if you wish. Then shake your head again, as if you just gave up on trying to solve Pi to a fixed integer value in your head.

"....what? .....the fuck are you even talking about? I honestly don't understand."

When she pushes the issue, do it again.

"....you're still not making any sense. You're gonna have to explain this a little bit more. Why am I using you for sex?"

Force her to explain her version of logic, and when she does, force her to explain even further, or in different words. Do this as many times as you see fit - until she has given you a full, complete, and honest (if ridiculous) explanation of why she feels this way. If you can get her to lose her patience a bit, that's even better.

THEN address the issue. But, as you do, be calm and keep it framed in a way that implies that what she is saying is completely ridiculous and incomprehensible to you. Your goal is to make her feel like a ditzy blonde flat-Earther trying to explain her position to Carl Sagan.

From there, it's your choice how you deal with it. But once you make her feel completely stupid, and she starts actively seeking your validation, your job is essentially done. You can defend yourself however you want.

Why does this work?

First, because it automatically puts you in a frame of superiority. The burden of proof rests with her to explain her position to you, therefore she must seek your validation to some degree - specifically, the validation that you even understand the very words she is speaking.

Second, it makes her feel completely stupid. It also implies to her that she may, in fact, be so far off base that you have no idea what her point might even be. So what does she do? She starts seeking your validation even more.

Third, it puts you in a position to calmly explain to her why she is wrong, using whatever arguments you choose. This should be done in the same way a father might explain to a small child why she is wrong when she enthusiastically insists that two plus two equals seven.

I have used this technique many times before, and trust me - it helps a LOT. If you get angry and start arguing back immediately, it puts you on her level. And that, my friends, is not where you want to be.

Thoughts?

Conclusion

This is a simple superiority framing technique designed to get you past shit-tests and arguments. When she makes an argument, act completely bewildered, and don't allow her to think, even for a moment, that she may be correct. Then, explain to her calmly, kindly, and logically why she is being completely retarded.

EDIT: There is a dark side to this as well, if you do it consistently whenever she tries to make any intelligent / logical / creative statement. This is essentially a simple form of gaslighting, and can result in psychological damage in the form of mental isolation, paranoia, fear of self-expression, learned helplessness, and conditioned dependence when implemented long-term. PLEASE use this technique sparingly and wisely. Contrary to popular feminist ideologies, it is not (and SHOULD NOT be) our goal to harm or abuse women - physically, sexually, or psychologically.