The Best Man Doesn't Always Win - I don't think some of you even know what winning is.

Sdom1 · 2016-02-19T18:30:29+00:00

"There is no such thing as luck; there is only adequate or inadequate preparation to cope with a statistical universe."

-Heinlein, Time Enough for Love

The actual deeper problem here is that most people don't understand the nature of risk. They think that outcomes are determined completely by their own actions. "If I would have just done X instead of Y, then Z would have happened instead of A." Every success is because you're a boss, every failure is because you fucked up. That girl cheated on you because you were beta. If you were alpha, she wouldn't have. Maybe that's true, maybe that's not.

Some girls are just cheaters. She'd cheat on Leonardo DiCaprio. Other girls have the propensity, and there are things you can do to increase or decrease that probability, and there's nothing you can do to completely eliminate that risk. Some girls just won't cheat, they don't believe in it. Generally, the first and last category are fairly rare. Your girl is probably in the middle.

In a more general sense, sometimes shit just doesn't work out. For example, you approach Sally and get shut down. Your approach was tight and worked another day, but Sally just got yelled at by her boss and wasn't in the mood to talk. There was nothing wrong with you per se, things just didn't go your way.

Now, don't take this reasoning and, like a dumb fuck, refuse to blame yourself for anything. Just understand that nobody bats a thousand. This will make your frame much stronger in the end; oftentimes, if you consider your beliefs infallible, your frame will break when you are inevitably wrong about something.

One lesson for sure is to not be discouraged by a single setback, or a setback here and there.

vengefully_yours · 2016-02-19T20:44:28+00:00

Fucking right that you don't always get your bitch fucked by "a better man than you." Bitches can't tell a high quality man that has more important shit to think about than her from a loser addicted to a drug that makes her far less important than his next hit. All she knows is that he doesn't kiss her ass, and that turns her on.

All it takes is a momentary drop in smv, illness, massive stress, job loss, or anything out of your control that shakes your self confidence and any loser who appears better than you at that exact moment can fuck your bitch. They are fickle, shortsighted, impulsive, and can swing to anyone without a second thought like you flipped a switch in her head.

Fuck yeah if you're letting yourself go, getting fat, begging for pussy, and carrying her purse, she just might be finding a better man than you. Let your life go to shit and shit on your hands, and you deserve to get fucked over. But... Even if you're not fucking up, she can still go stupid and burn her life to the ground without warning and with zero remorse. She will only feel bad about getting caught. You can't do the right thing, obey all the rules, be alpha enough and expect a bitch to never suck a dick not attached to you. You're applying logic and reason to girls who are ruled by emotion. Those wild emotions and impulsiveness will override any logic and reason she might have, and there is fuck all you can do about it.

Live for you. Don't put her on a pedestal and think she is different or special, she is a fucking girl. She doesn't complete you, you don't need her to be happy, you only need her to fuck. Build your fucking life, make yourself the priority, and next any bitch that doesn't follow the basics, as well as the big things, no matter how hot she is. She will cheat, probably with someone like me who has mind numbing confidence and highly effective game, who may or may not look better than you.

Bitches come and go from your life, your only constant is you. It's only your turn to fuck any girl you fuck, she will fuck someone else and you probably will not know about it.

Winning is living for you, achieving goals, realizing dreams, building your life, it isn't getting the girl. Getting the girl is a tangent, a side mission, distraction, and nothing more, it sure as fuck isn't winning.

wakocid · 2016-02-19T21:06:01+00:00

When I was in college, FB player, frat boy, hot gf. Graduation is getting closer and my gf wants to get married. Hell, I told her I just want to graduate and get a job. She dumps me for a "golfer" at the rich boy frat...I am crushed. I lose....A year later I meet a 10X hotter chick, better boobs, ass, face, and insatiable. I win... win some, lose some, be able to take the losses in stride, learn from them and move on. btw, I married the hot chick, still married 30 years later, 2 great kids and lots of land and money...I heard my old college gf married the golfer. The guy was trying to make the senior golf circuit and guess who his caddy was?????? my old gf.... I win again....

jnsu_ · 2016-02-19T20:30:52+00:00

Finally, these are the positive post that trp used to post, I don't know if it's just me but what's up with all the negative bullshit on trp lately such as the post contrary to this one? it's as if everybody is posting problems but giving not solutions/negative bullshit. this may be far fetched but is this sub being hijacked?

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-02-20T01:11:23+00:00

Well in all fairness sometimes the guy that "wins" her is just another lucky slob who will in turn become the unlucky slob. I'm not here to advocate victim mentality but it pays to examine something for being bullshit. Women rarely upgrade. They devalue their old boyfriend and overvalue their new fling. They believe that they are making progress while all the same they are stuck running circles. Bad luck plays a huge part in all of this. That's why a man must know hot to capitalize on the moments of being lucky.

I've yet to meet a woman who had a new boyfriend that didn't praise the guy up in the heavens like he was the messiah himself. Only to compare him with her ex boyfriend and come to the realization that they are comparable in SMV. Often the ex (if he was reasonably alpha) actually improves with the free time on his hands.

We know why this happens. Personally I decided to stick to this method. When I break it off with a girl I opt for two things.

If I initiated the break up I allow for future contact should it result in sex. It really depends on how receptive she is after the fact. Usually I left quite an impression.
If she initiated the break up/or destroyed my frame back in the blue pill days. I will claim to have utterly forgotten about the time with her should she contact me. I will 'forget' major facts about her like if she had siblings or not. Where she lived etc. I maintain an aura of bewilderment and aloofness. If she asks me about my current dating life I always have a girl to show that's hotter than her.

This utterly crushes their fragile egos and lets the hamster spin a thousand miles. Nothing is worse for a woman than to believe they are "losing". Given that they are incredibly insecure and doubtful about life they will believe this first hand, especially at a younger age. Now you can either enjoy eternal silence from their part or the hamster making way to you at light speed trying to safe face.

Women are incredibly memory dependent. This is why they love taking pictures of everything. Any memory that reminds herself of being amazing is cherished- ex boyfriends included. Not sharing in that memory will seed doubt in her feeble mind. Wondering if she was worth remembering, now you throw the hammer of some hot girl you're banging (add some screenshots for proof should she ask) and it destroys the ego-foundations she so long dependended on.

Some of you might argue that this is not necessary. I beg to differ- any ex reaching out to you that dumped you is doing so to further abuse and manipulate you and she needs to be utterly crushed. She is our biggest enemy and not to be taken lightly until she either leaves you alone or submits to your dominance. In the words of OP- now you are ready to show up to the fight.

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Invalidity · 2016-02-19T21:39:04+00:00

You're missing one huge point that sets the foundation for why relationships are a challenge for men.

All the time up to the relationship, she was fighting to secure your commitment. Now that she has your cock and balls in a knot, she no longer has to fight. If you give a woman your commitment, you'd better at the top of your game every second of every damn day, for the rest of your life.

The bottom line: don't get married, don't commit to a girl. If you do, always prepare for the worst case scenario and maintain absolute control of yourself at all cost.

AndrewWaynePost · 2016-02-20T17:47:03+00:00

Awesome post.

You nailed a couple of good points here.

"You don't have fun."

My approach to women, and most of life is this, "Fun or funny." If I am not getting the lay, I am going to make her angry, which may still lead to getting the lay. It is funny watching their emotions go insane, while I am maintaining my cool, and picking apart their psyche. I feel like I am weakening her up for the next guy to come in and take her. In fact, I have a story about where I did just that.

Unabashedly Me

But even when life get shitty for me, like a time I thought about killing myself, I look back and laugh at how ridiculous it was for me to contemplate such a silly thing. Sure it was not fun, but it sure was funny.

"The best man does not always win."

It really is the guy who is there. You cannot always be there, so just accept that there will be other dudes. When a guy does get upset at that, it is just his silly ego getting in the way. Better or worse, does it matter? The only thing I concern myself with is if I am getting what I want. What I want is a good life filled with pussy, freedom, and fun. Sometimes I get pussy from girls who give up their pussy to other dudes. And? Why should I care what they do when I am not around? As long as I do not get a disease, and she still does give me that passionate love/lust, I am happy.

Rynolz · 2016-02-20T02:11:16+00:00

Don't hammer me for straying here.... But I truly think there may be only one book that is needed to understand the interactions between men and women. Iceberg Slim "Pimp: The Story of My Life" You literally won't get anything more honest about the mindset (frame) that is needed to handle the shit that women will pull on you. I have had so much success with women (and financially) come from me taking the words in this book very seriously. I saw an interview where Chris Rock was saying he buys that book for every single person that was on his movie sets for "wrap" gift (@ the end of the shoot). And I can honestly say that anytime I strayed from this information my relationships with women suffered and so did I. Staying strong and believing in yourself, while simultaneously refusing to compromise your principles for ANY woman, will change your life. That is the core essence of the book. I don't advocate "pimping" women out only because of the risks of that lifestyle (no righteous morality here), you could literally die living that life and many have. This book is suppressed big time by the mainstream, try to find it in a big bookstore ANYWHERE, you won't. However it is the key to unlocking your understanding of women. This must be tempered with real life experience. But hang on every word he says and contemplate the meaning in the book and your life will change. It has for friends I've given his writings to as well. As a side note, not everyone is ready for the raw reality that this book presents to you, in which case I recommend "The Naked Soul of Iceberg Slim" this will give you the bigger picture when Robert Beck aka "Slim" actually looks back on his life and reflects that some of the things he did were wrong. This will ease you into the ideas and yet still give you enough game to go out and pull a young hottie and have her as your play thing. Don't ever pass up this kind of knowledge if you see it staring you in the face, it will change your mind and your life.

favours_of_the_moon · 2016-02-19T21:45:55+00:00

She could have just gotten bored in an hour and fucked a delivery man. She might have had a bad dream about you and checked out of the relationship because of her 2 AM feels. Was he better than you? I don't know.

It's more a question of, will it make you feel the burn?

Luckyluke23 · 2016-02-20T03:23:50+00:00

Saturday night? You stayed home playing video games because you thought you were not good enough for/better than the girls at the club/library/grocery store/DMV. You didn't fucking show up.

Instead of learning new skills, you jacked off over your keyboard. Instead of taking that class, you sent 1,000 text messages to that one girl about how you're going to take that class. You didn't show up.

The whole time you pissed away opportunities, your real honest eager self was banging on the basement door in your brain trying to get the fuck out. You didn't let yourself out. You weren't allowed to escalate with women or assert some real intensity in a challenge like a race or tournament. You weren't allowed to experience a life of real fucking consequences.

Most of your problems (mine too, everyone's really) are that you just don't engage the situation. You don't have fun. You don't get out there. If a woman goes off and cheats on you, sure you can reexamine what happened, but don't pander to your own sense of loss by writing a song about how she was stolen by Chad the Winner. That downplays all your hard work, puts that bitch on a pedestal, and sets you up to feel like a loser again the next time it happens.

I pretty much did this last night (Friday, I'll probs do it again tonight, though I'll be doing an assignment)

could you got into more detail about THIS subject. you ending post to wrap it up didn't wrap it up on this subject.

sir_wankalot_here · 2016-02-20T03:54:22+00:00

Saturday night? You stayed home playing video games

Probably I would have been better off if I did that when I was young 😊

Title	The Best Man Doesn't Always Win - I don't think some of you even know what winning is.
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Date	February 19, 2016 4:44 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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