How to start for those dealing with Depression/Anxiety

dispatcherselfish · 2016-04-06T14:28:54+00:00

You missed diet. What you eat makes a massive difference in the way you feel and was the first step out of depression. If you are currently feeling that very tired feeling from being depressed, take a mile walk. It's another paradox, excercise actually gives you back some energy.

Brewjo · 2016-04-07T09:39:37+00:00

Once you start and you start making newbie gainz (one girls' number, one successful interview, one business contract, acing one test, learning one set of chords; it only has to be one thing), you will find the motivation to continue. If not the motivation to improve yourself, the competitive nature of your Y chromsome will kick in.

One of my first launching points was nofap, I wish dearly that one point would stick with the community there.

You take a small risk or defer a small pleasure, survive and grow from the outcome. More importantly you take that one skill and apply it to any challenge. But they just hamster it into a mythos about gaining or loosing super-powers...

Also, as always, The Six Pillars of Self-esteem by the recently deceased Nathaniel Branden is the benchmark tool to build the person in the mirror and the person in your head fuse.

fuu969 · 2016-04-06T19:22:20+00:00

if you are depressed, chances are you have low self esteem.

Then what you needed was positive reinforcement. Yes it's in the past because now it's too late for that

most people here bragging about their successes have had that positive validation from their peers or family as kids or teenager

They never had to fight in life though and let themselves go, then they got fucked by life and women and they find TRP. They begin to lift (fuck, that's so obvious) and don't act like pussies and magic happens, women are attracted and they don't even remember that they never really had any real problem to begin with.

What about a depressed guy with low self esteem?

Prerequisite : positive validation from your peers

If you didn't receive it, or worse, if you got bullied or rejected, now as an adult, you are on your own That's life, fight for you and make it happen!

You are no longer a kid and are responsible for your own validation.

Be happy to be a man, you are managing your own life ! Women wait for us to manage them.

mellojumper · 2016-04-07T00:53:07+00:00

For men I cured anxiety by avoiding porn and fapping. It's what starts it for most men

ser0402 · 2016-04-07T20:02:30+00:00

I needed this. I've been depressed for at least 2 years that I can remember (started long before that, I just never realized it till then) and have had panic attacks at least once month for the past year or so and reading the red pill has definitely helped me maintain at least a small semblance of confidence. I have been trying to start working out and cultivating knowledge (I'm a lit major, not that lucrative but i get to read quality literature and analyze it so that's nice) but I lack any and all motivation to do so.

This post has been the most helpful post I've read here on TRP and I've been lurking for several months. After reading this I am definitely not as afraid to fail as I have been before. I was definition blue pill white knight before TRP and at least now I can say that this post has pointed me in the right direction.

PittyParra · 2016-04-06T23:28:22+00:00

I like this post. Going to favourite it to remind myself whenever faced with a challenge or opportunity that, originally, I would back away from.

Currently, I'm relating this to travel. Never travelled (by plane) more than 6 hrs from where I live. When an opportunity arose I would find a way to not go on that long trip and miss out on beautiful experiences.

Not anymore. I booked a direct 12.5 hr flight to Dubai in May. You have to face those fears and do something about it.

Benny757 · 2016-04-08T00:46:15+00:00

True, we are all narcissistic and self-absorbed. But what you have to see is that is our default setting. It is the default setting of most every one. We see ourselves as the center of the universe, and we see from a perspective of just us, and us alone. We see our reality alone. (and in reality we are truly and utterly alone as far as reality and experience goes.)

So, from the ideas of David Foster Wallace (I come up with this, my mind would not go so deep) how do we become "well adjusted" and be able to exercise this "amused mastery," this level headedness to allow us to become leaders and productive members of society without losing frame? (losing our cool, right?) Education. We educate our minds so that we don't know so much as how to think but "WHAT TO THINK." It is this blend of constant, continuing education which makes us "get it."

We may have depression and anxiety. This may (may?? it fucking will!) fuck with our very lives and successes, in career, happiness, finding love, etc., etc., etc.

But, eventually, every man must own their shit. They must deal with their problems. Got an anxiety issue/depression, go get help. And there are some cheap drugs which help deal with this. A well adjusted man goes and gets help.

First things first guys. Take care of your fundamental needs first. Maslow's Hierarchy, bottom of the pyramid is YOU. That which makes you function and strong. That is the simple first need for you. Just focus on that. Build that. Women, girls not necessary here. Groundwork. PATIENCE!!! How do you eat the elephant? One bite at a time.

sonofchad · 2016-04-08T05:46:52+00:00

Porn and masturbating was a huge reason for my depression and getting rid of it has finally allowed me to pursue my goals and become the man I want to be.

Stythe · 2016-04-06T16:59:01+00:00

I found that when I had a self-destruct though, challenging it to the end was a good way to get over it. For example, if I'm afraid to say something, I ask what the worst thing that can happen is.

Hoodwink · 2016-04-07T23:36:26+00:00

Don't call it narcissism. That's probably not what you are describing. Narcissism is basically living in your head and believing your own lies you tell about yourself and others while making fun of others for believing in your lies. Self-consciousness is shame+reality. Narcissism is shame+lies (well, it starts with shame, but I think shame becomes all but extinct except for a certain subject or two).

Call it self-consciousness and shame. It's almost the direct opposite of narcissism - although narcissism is related to shame, it's an entirely different as it's a self-defense mechanism. The way to combat self-consciousness and shame is through humility, as you have said.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-04-06T15:27:39+00:00

Depression comes about because your Frame is weak and your ego let's too much through that ends up bothering you.

Consciousness is at it's essentials just electricity.

So in the big picture you are just electrons like everyone else, those electrons existed before you were born and will be here after you are gone.

The Blue Pill places a distortion on your consciousness that creates a sort of cage of fear. (mental slavery)

It's the chronic fear that drags you down, tires you out and makes you depressed.

So begin by just strengthening the insides of that Frame and devote energy towards making your Freedom a good thing.

Freedom means a strong Frame.

Say:

"Fuck you outside world."

...as often as you can.

Then laugh, this whole life thing is a massive joke anyway.

How to start for those dealing with Depression/Anxiety

Accept that you are Nothing in order to start to become Something

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Title	How to start for those dealing with Depression/Anxiety
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