How to deal with an ex who has fucked you up?

somuchluv2give · 2018-03-05T07:14:09+00:00

She was never yours it was just your turn.

The girl you loved never really existed. So why do u feel bad about something that was never and could never have been real?

Nothing you did or didn’t do could have changed the outcome. It was an inevitability. So there’s no sense wondering “what if” or “what could I have done”.

Think of it as a lesson, probably the most valuable one you’ll ever learn, and you got to learn it a lot cheaper than most guys. All you lost was time and energy and maybe a bit of money. You didn’t get divorced raped and u don’t have any kids. So you win. Now you understand women, so u know u can never love them.

No woman will ever love u. She will only love what u can do for her. If you don’t like being alone then go out and date women, but trust me when I tell u it will never be like it was before. It’s impossible to fall for them once you understand them. You will never have an emotional connection with a female like u had before, but that’s not a bad thing! It’s a good thing! Now u can engage with them and never be vulnerable or hurt by them. They are meant to be fucked. They were never meant to be soul mates.

lostapwbm · 2018-03-05T07:39:50+00:00

Realize that you are just as mad at yourself for giving the bitch permission to play with your feelings as you are her for playing with your feelings.

Then, forgive yourself for being foolish, be grateful that you only lost some time and some hurt feelings (rather than alimony checks, child support checks, jail time, etc.), and resolve to never make the same mistake again.

Docbear64 · 2018-03-05T08:25:25+00:00

You sound kind of codependent , One of the most important things I listened to and life-changing books I've read was No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover . Before I could ever swallow the Red Pill I had to listen to this book and it helped me address a lot of underlying issues I never realized I had . Issues stemming from Growing up with hardcore abandonment issues from growing up with a single mom and unbeknownst to me these issues clouded and limited my views on how I valued myself, other people valued me, and how I saw the world.

Not sure if it will help you but I feel like it's one of those books where if it doesn't speak to you in the first 20 minutes maybe it's not for you and if it is for you you won't be able to stop.

Here's a link to the audio book , hopefully it helps : https://yourlisten.com/aceofplace/no-more-mr-nice-guy

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2018-03-05T13:12:31+00:00

It was not your fault.

JayJayEcks · 2018-03-05T14:51:32+00:00

You were delusional.

Love from a human woman is an illusion.

You believed a lie.

Wake up.

No woman will ever want you.

You are just a utility.

Go forth, from this place, and fuck whores, escorts, and sex dolls.

Griever114 · 2018-03-05T13:28:01+00:00

If you want 100% reciprocated love, get a dog. They will NEVER:

Cheat
Lie
Divorce rape
Child custody rape
Mentally manipulate

Etc...

They WILL:

Love unconditionally (So long as you don't abuse them)
Will defend your life with theirs
Keep you active
Keep/make you smile

Etc.

SRod1706 · 2018-03-05T14:37:52+00:00

Are you not recovered as in you can't get on with your life or are you not recovered as in you can't believe the lies anymore. If you are here it may be that you now know AWALT is true and are looking for a way to go back to the way things were. There is no going back. Start looking forward instead of looking back.

AtomicMatter · 2018-03-05T18:39:07+00:00

How long were you guys together? I don't understand how after so long you still haven't gotten over her. To me it seems like you obsessed over her too much. Do you still frequent her social media? Do you talk to her? Took me about a week to get over an ex and that's the longest it's taken me. Distract yourself focus on your life because I can gaurantee she's over you and has forgotten about your existence.

NewLife_2017 · 2018-03-05T19:03:09+00:00

I don't feel happy being alone.

Need to know more. Are you in school? do you work? Little of both?

Title	How to deal with an ex who has fucked you up?
Author	MrNobody1122
Upvotes	40
Comments	23
Date	March 5, 2018 6:42 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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