I came out of LTR during lockdown, and moved in with my family, which didn't go unnoticed on social media. As a result, a dormant contact of mine who I'd previously had friendly and barely flirty contact with got in touch to ask how I was. This progressed very quickly to him telling me I was looking in great shape (the breakup was tough and I've lost a tonne of weight) but that he'd always found me hot anyway. Before long he was sharing his advice on how to negotiate online dating, and my breakup more generally.
This progressed on to us having a sociallly-distanced meet up, and him making a few complimentary comments about my figure and how much he's fancied me for years and years, and how he'd really like to kiss me, etc. But we didn't because I'm in a Covid bubble with an immunocompromised person.
Looking back, there were so many red flags, but I was sad, lonely and flattered by the attention, and we had a good rapport. And I definitely started to catch feels.
So much so, I'm sad to admit I did indulge in a bit of mild sexting, until he started repeatedly putting pressure on me to go on video with him or do more than I was comfortable with, so I said no.
Between these sessions, I wouldn't hear much from him at all, which was a bit of red flag too.
Around this time, he started mentioning his ex was moving back to town, and was going to help him house hunt and find furniture, but it was always talked about in a surprised "I don't know why she would want to help me after how it ended," kind of tone.
In light of all that, I slowly started to withdraw from communicating with him.
Even so, he still regularly drops me late night texts (which I ignore until the morning or respond to with an instant no) asking if I would come to his house for sex. I doubt I am the only woman in his phone book that gets one of these either.
I've said no everytime because of the covid risk, while also making the point that his pushiness is really unattractive and not appealing at all to me.
But also, now I'm a few months out of my break-up and in a much better, more positive state of mind, I know a FWB setup is not one I want to waste time in... especially with a dude like this.
How do I go about severing ties with him once and for all? Should I just block? Or is there a better course action I should take?
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