Am i right to follow the rule of 3?

2016-06-22T22:20:28+00:00

I don't tolerate shitty people a friend to me is someone who makes my life better if only in terms of me enjoying their presence . I am quick to cutoff people who show they are unworthy of friendship . I think a three strikes rule is generous , if someone shows you they can't be trusted three times that's an person not worthy of your trust . If you need to trust your friends cut him off and hopefully you find better company .

I would guess if he apologizes and at some point expresses a real understanding of the boundaries he's crossed maybe you can consider letting him back into your life. I see nothing wrong with your thought process though .

MattyAnon · 2016-06-23T00:21:13+00:00

then relapsed and did the same thing, is it harsh of me to cut someone who cant follow the rules out of my life?

Once is a mistake, twice is a betrayer. I put a lot of time and effort into helping other people, but if that person ever starts to do things that hurt me or my life or my lifestyle, they're out. Me first, everyone else second.

That hand-biting dog can fucking starve for all I care.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-06-22T23:11:17+00:00

He did it once at the start of the friendship and told people something i purposefully made him think was a secret, of course since modern friend circles have no privacy it gets back to me immediately and i not so much punish him but rather explain to him that this is his 1st strike and i dont appreciate him running his mouth.

Secret Societies often have oaths were they must swear themselves to secrecy or face getting murdered.

Imagine how much more powerful a group could be if there was that level of trust and discipline.

Masculine men once formed these groups, these teams, these gangs, these mafias, but since there is the feminine influence in everything there is a reduction in the possibility of trust. Women invade male spaces to prevent us from having power.

The Duel

We forget that the practice of facing someone who brought dishonor upon you in a duel was once fairly common.

There were codes of manly honor once.

jeezydasnowman · 2016-06-22T23:44:21+00:00

Change it to the rule of 1. Rule of three is for pickup only.

Stop being a nice guy.

Don't discuss your friends transgressions with them and tell them they have a first strike ugh.

Don't be dramatic thinking your friends are intentionally fucking you. You just choose shitty friends and they are are being shitty because that's how they are. Don't cut off, replace and be quiet about it.

e9579bd4 · 2016-06-22T22:59:07+00:00

Would you let me kick you in the nuts 3 different times?

3 chances is 2 too many. If someone is a coward or untrustworthy, cut them loose immediately.

2016-06-23T01:39:47+00:00

He did it once at the start of the friendship and told people something i purposefully made him think was a secret, ofcourse since modern friend circles have no privacy it gets back to me immediately and i not so much punish him but rather explain to him that this is his 1st strike and i dont appreciate him running his mouth.

You shouldn't have said anything to him about it. Once you know that he'll do that, you simply don't trust him to not do it, and you go about your business without making a scene about it.

and generally am a nice guy

Please never say that ever again.

GayLubeOil · 2016-06-23T18:17:38+00:00

You need to focus on yourself. You are young and have potential. Most people don't. The more you associate with people beneath you and take on their problems the more you rob yourself of your promise.

2016-06-23T08:58:30+00:00

"People are only interesting in what they have to offer to you"

Why bother to make random rules and test people about it ? Just take what they have to offer. If really you want something like a business partner you can trust it matter, but otherwise... why even bother ?

Rommel0502 · 2016-06-23T14:10:09+00:00

The number of chances I give is contingent upon the level of transgression and the environment in which it takes place.

A friend gets drunk and acts foolishly in front of women at bars and is a general embarrassment - probably three chances. A LTR flirts openly with another man - zero chances.

evileddy · 2016-06-22T23:07:55+00:00

Seems fine to me. I imagine most guys here don't even let it get to strike 3. They just smile and slowly ghost out of that person's life.

ThePwningCamel · 2016-06-22T23:16:47+00:00

I see why you consider my idea of 3 strikes completely too lenient, however my rule of 3 has stuck with me for almost half my life, it started when i was 12 (8 years ago) and its allowed me to give people the chance to improve (something which im sure you disagree with) but i like the idea that maybe i will make them a better person. (perhaps that is both ridiculously hopeful and maybe naive).

Perhaps if i stick around this area more i will learn to not be as naive.

2016-06-23T04:11:36+00:00

You are doing the right thing. You should realize, perhaps, that your friend may not have blabbed by accident; he very well have known your rules, and just blabbed to be a big man, not caring how he hurt you or exposed you. Some people that we hang around with are not necessarily friends.

He's a fucking blabbermouth. Just because YOU will keep a secret is no reason to think that your idiot friend can. As a matter of fact you should have cut him out of your life after the first one. Loose lips, and all that.

hailhailhailandkill · 2016-06-23T11:30:32+00:00

FRAME!

It's a whole in itself. Not exclusive to dealing with women.

Unrequited misfit = invitation for more!

2016-06-23T12:21:06+00:00

Just demote him, shitty or not let him be without your intimacy. It is always good to have them around, you never know when you'll need them.

tyron3 · 2016-06-23T13:02:03+00:00

I've always heard "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

2016-06-23T20:06:28+00:00

you are a 20 year old MAN with god boundaries. that is all.

2016-06-23T21:00:50+00:00

If I can't trust someone they aren't a friend. They're at best an acquaintance and that's only if they are a super fun person to be around or bring something to the table.

If I can't trust someone with little shit how will I ever trust them with bigger more serious things?

5t3fan0 · 2016-06-24T00:08:25+00:00

that aint no friend of yours: once is a mistake but twice is disrespect and/or betrayal.

the toxic cunt will trow you under the bus at the first sniff of pussy or coin. hard next asap.

your rules and boundaries are normal and legit, id say "3 chances" is even too much generous

Umbrifer · 2016-06-24T21:08:09+00:00

Following your own rules is the definition of integrity.

Grimsterr · 2016-06-23T19:47:24+00:00

You simply do not give someone the chance to betray your trust more than once, they can still be your friend, but never trust them again, they've already shown their true colors.

Title	Am i right to follow the rule of 3?
Author	ThePwningCamel
Upvotes	34
Comments	36
Date	June 22, 2016 10:08 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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