I need some guidance guys

MaxLorenz · 2016-06-24T21:26:20+00:00

If you have no interests, goals, drive, or direction, you might have a low testosterone problem. Go to your school's clinic or a doctor on your parent's insurance. (If they balk, ask them how many years they want you living in their house before they're willing to help you get treatment!)

Start lifting weights. If you can't afford to join a gym, lift paint cans or old tires in your garage. It will help give you purpose. It will make you look great. It will boost your testosterone.

Get a notebook. On page 1, describe the man you want to be when you're 25. Put one descriptive item on each line. It doesn't have to be great. Writing something stupid on the list is better than writing nothing, so just blurt it all out on paper. You can always revise it later.

Now go get all your video games and donate them to a homeless shelter. You'll start to feel like a sexy billionaire and that will give you confidence that you can achieve anything.

Before that feeling wears off, delete all the porn off your computer. And off the flash drive you have hidden in your desk. And off your phone. Delete all the links, too. This stuff fucks up your brain more than pot, and feels better. If you don't remove the temptation, you'll suddenly be 40 and have nothing in your life except for a strong right hand.

After you do that, go back to the notebook. Take each item on the list and write it at the top of an individual page in the notebook. Then, on that same page, list one thing that you could do THIS WEEK to take a small step toward that goal.

Get a calendar. Write one small step on that calendar each day. You're not allowed to have dinner until you have accomplished your small step. That means you won't eat some nights, because you haven't earned it. If you're with someone else during a dinner you haven't earned, tell them your story and explain why you're not eating.

Now you have purpose and direction. Whenever you lack motivation, remember that you're going to be THE FUCKING KING by the time you're 25 because everyone else who is 19 is going to spend the next 6 years jacking off and playing Warcraft.

Here's the real test . . . will you go do this right now? Or will you think "maybe tomorrow" and click on RedTube? The quality of your life is shaped by this small choice . . . every day. So what's it going to be?

Edited - typos

Kingtorythegreat · 2016-06-24T19:40:19+00:00

Stop jacking off and spend more time outside.

If you're not happy with what you're doing...do something else

mustanggt90210 · 2016-06-24T19:41:21+00:00

You have no goals, that's what you're doing wrong. It also sounds like you lack any real hobbies, as well.

In my opinion, I'd try to find a hobby that gets you out of the house first. You're going to get nowhere playing video games and watching movies all the time. You can't meet new people sitting on the couch

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-06-24T19:55:50+00:00

I also find I get on with women SO much better than guys. They're more expressive, more comfortable talking about things and there's no competition. In terms of friendships I have always got on with girls better, I'm not camp at all it's just it always clicks with girls and I never run out of things to say around them which happens constantly with guys.

And here in lies the problem. You get on with women because you described it - you are a great emotional tampon. You are a great "friend" to women. You get them to talk to you and you talk to them, you let them pour your problems onto you, you are a nice little orbiter for them who gives them validation. You never run out of things to say? You are talking way too much.

Women need girlfriends too. Sounds like you were a girlfriend to these women. That's why you click with these women - you are not threatening to them, because you are a soft weak beta who is too much of a coward to escalate and let your intentions known, so they feel comfortable around you, because you are NO DIFFERENT from their girlfriends. The same reason why women like to have faggot guy friends.

Girls have always been really easy for me, I'm tall and handsome and as I say I always say the right thing around girls and the wrong things around guys, so girls are something that I cracked at a young age.

Are you fucking them? Yes or No? They can say all the things they want. Women will tell their beta orbiters how handsome they are and how great they look, and how they will make a great lover for some lucky woman out there one day, but if they are not fucking you, its meaningless.

Even if it means I'm a bit feminine minded, I don't show it

Stop being feminine minded. Do you lift? What other masculine activities do you do? Sounds like the problem is that you hate guys and love hanging around girls, aka the classic beta, threatened by masculinity.

But I have been struggling with my porn addiction for the last two years, it means I haven't had sex in about a year and I won't until I can get through this thing.

It takes willpower. But stop watching porn. Porn is for losers. Don't be a loser.

I'm always bored at home by myself, no friends, not texting anyone, nothing to do but video games and movies, which also makes it harder to quit my porn addiction. I'm just miserable, I don't have any goals. I have nothing to prove, I'm just bored of life.

Are you lifting? Are you working? Are you going to school? Forget about women and take charge of your life. Get into shape, work on your SMV, get educated, make money. Sit down and make short, medium and long term goals for yourself. Where do you see yourself in 3 months? 6 months? A year? 5 years? 10 years?

What am I doing wrong?

You are being a typical beta mangina with no aspirations or drive. You seem threatened by masculinity, and you think the way to be successful with women is to be a nice sensitive guy who talks to them, aka be their girlfriend. THAT IS NOT THE WAY TO WIN OVER WOMEN. That is the way to the friendzone orbit. You made no mention of anything like lifting or working, the only activities you mentioned are beta activities like video games and porn.

Entropy-7 · 2016-06-24T21:19:30+00:00

When I was a little kid I had more female friends than male friends. Guys thought girls had cooties or something but I really enjoyed their company without all the male bullshit. Over the last 40 years there have been ups and downs and a refinement of my thinking about what people have to offer, but - as against any SJW propaganda - I like women rather than hating them, all things understood.

If the guys you hang with are constantly trying to AMOG you then you have three choices:

(bad choice) Accept your role as a beta
Compete on their terms
Go Sigma

I choose option 3 because I don't have the looks or charisma or money to go head to head with the alpha males I interact with.

Being a sigma male involves a lot of aspects but the bottom line is that you get women even if you don't "get" men, as in being a leader.

The problem here is that you are not sigma, you are beta. You also strike me as an extrovert. That doesn't mean you are the life of the party but it does mean that you can't rely on the "left hand of darkness" as a substitute for meeting women in person. Personally, I like porn but I can compartmentalize it.

What you are doing right is you have feminine empathy. What you are doing wrong is that you have no masculine polarity.

Lastly, there is no greater force to be reckoned with than a man on a mission. You have no mission. There is a limited amount of advice I can give to someone who has this sort of cork-in-the-water mentality.

If I gave you a dollar, what would you spend it on?

You have a life: how are you going to spend it?

Docbear64 · 2016-06-24T22:24:18+00:00

You sound exactly like blue pill me minus your height , I recommend you read No more Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover . Here's a link to the audio book version http://yourlisten.com/aceofplace/no-more-mr-nice-guy.

What I learned reading it was that I had been conditioned and to a degree was raised in an environment that made me disdain my own masculinity . Essentially subconsciously I hated that I was a man and this book taught me that not only is being a man ok , that I had neglected and not appreciated a huge part of myself by behaving in a " Nice Guy " manner .

It covers a lot of subjects why you would find comfort in the presence of women , why other men do seem to be " too aggressive " to you , how porn negatively affects you and how to begin moving away from watching porn in an addictive or regular manner ( I too did this and listening / reading the book helped me to stop).

It also will help you create goals and fill your life with a drive . I will say that it is ONE OF THEE MOST IMPORTANT BOOKS I'VE EVER READ . I really hope you give it a listen because it can provide some life changing paradigm shifts ( perspective changes) and help you to become a better man . 6 months after listening I have more success with women , am a better contributor at work , have a better relationship with my father, finally feel comfortable in my own skin , am more accepted and appreciative of my male coworkers / friends , and feel like a man for the first time in my life instead of a really old boy .

mikesteane · 2016-06-25T02:22:35+00:00

Travel. Not the easy way. By working your passage, getting involved in where you live. Staying in backpacker's or other cheap accommodation. People on the road become "more real" because there is no possibility of vegetating in the comfort of a well known environment.

KM31548 · 2016-06-25T15:02:46+00:00

Very many of the people here gave you some good advice. I see you have some trouble hanging with guys; I did too for a long time. I think it's because you don't understand the true nature of men. It's too long to go in depth here, but I would suggest two books.

-The Way of Men -Becoming a Barbarian both by Jack Donovan. I didn't understand male group dynamics until reading these two books (really you can read the first one and be good, but I suggest reading the second). You SHOULD be reading regardless. A man is aware of the world and the dynamics going on around him. Men throughout history have always studied and yearned to learn more. Benjamin Franklin for example.

You are always being tested as a man, and a man who leads other men is definitely high up there on the SMV scale, even if it is within his own locality and not on a national scale. Find an activity you enjoy, link up with other men who also enjoy it and put together group outings outside of that activity.

PranksterLad · 2016-06-30T23:40:01+00:00

Sent you a message no reply...

[deleted] · 2016-06-25T05:14:39+00:00

Stop revolving your life around women.

The fundamental problem with you is that you're ignoring the basics and jumping straight to scoring women. The basics involve getting a body you're proud of, eating right, developing your interpersonal skills, getting a job, dressing nice, having lots of buddies and much more. Scoring women is the aftereffect of accomplishing these basics. In short, the secret to scoring women is to work towards designing your life so as to not need to score women but have a pleasant life anyway.

If your aim is to score women(which means you haven't covered the basics) and you work towards scoring women, you'll be headed for failure.

You'll have learn how to walk before you learn how to run.

Title	I need some guidance guys
Author	Impun1ty
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Date	June 24, 2016 7:25 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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