Value: TheRedStoic Lesson1

Primer:

This includes some hardcore Meta theory. For those who don’t understand what that is, instead of making value judgments, we will talk about value judgments. An example would be “That is valuable”. This is a value judgement. To truly understand the Sexual Market Place, you need to look at it objectively, understanding Metatheory, “Why does she judge that to be valuable” is a much more important question. It’s the difference between solipsism and objective praxeology. If you wish to stay updated with this series just add me as a friend.

Summary/TLDR

If you're in business and doing well, you'll likely understand this much better. If you're not, then please keep in mind, the sheerness of this is not limited to financial or corporate institutions, it is the function of the machine of human interaction. Simply, in a quantitative industry, it becomes more stark. Note, value is not about sex, sex is something you buy with value, or passively is offered as a bartering chip for your internal value. Hence, this post is how to "afford" sex frequently.

Value is what you bring to the R.M.P., and what is passively exuded in your S.M.V., and is a core of your standing in the S.M.P. It is both your income and expenditure for getting what you want from the world.

Defining the Terms

• Value. Almost every post in trp is about failing to have it, failing to maintain it, failing to utilize or recognize it, and how to increase it, internal vs external, how to measure both, etc. Imagine that value is your cost and your profit.

Definition:

What is value? Value is what the world sees in you and wants. Quite simply, if others want it, it has value. Additionally, your value is no higher than the highest bidder. This is not to confuse it with being strictly external value, as value comes in flavors, internal, and external. They are not mutually exclusive, that was an inclusive "or".

• Internal value is anything which improves what others want from you by improving yourself. These values are important in that they cannot be taken from you except in extreme circumstance. This is why trp always says to newcomers, GO LIFT. GO READ. GO GET EXPERIENCE. Other noted internal values are education, above average levels of field specific training, temperance, fortitude, perspective, sonder, abundance mindset, and integrity. Internal value is how you go about securing external value, as it is your fuel for your external expenses. A high internal value lets you gain external value more often and at a larger magnitude. In other words, build your body, mind, and skills, to afford what you want. Internal value is not regulated by others anywhere near as heavily as external.

• External value is important as well, though it has a cost. External value can also be taken from you at a moment’s notice, tragedy, misfortune, or even some idiot with a knife can separate you from your external value. Things like nice cars, clothing that is trendy, or any tangible assets, can shift quickly and with barely any warning, and require a large upkeep of energy. Keep in mind external value isn't only physical, charity and trust are also external, as well as your public image. 'Charity and trust especially should be treated as incredibly high maintenance'

Application:

How to treat, build, and spend value? Treat internal value as a long term investment. Build it, build your portfolio, and your passive income will replenish faster and at a larger amount right? When you buy that nice car or refresh your wardrobe yearly, or want a classy night on the town, it's better coming out of the yearly passive income (dividends, bonds claimed, etc.) than your monthly active income (your jobs paycheck) isn't it? The same goes for internal value as opposed to external. So you build lifestyle changes, lifting, weekly outings, speaking to everyone, saying no happily, habit forming, great stories built through experience. On to the actual lesson.

How and Why

You are what the world sees you do. If you're a person who is constantly adding value to the world, people will want a slice of it, who doesn't want nice shit? Everyone thinks they have something to trade, many think they can get some free! (Read entitled people /women) The world is endlessly hungry, bigger, better, and stronger than you. It will fuck you. It will crash and consume you and leave nothing for you. This is why external value MUST come from excess. Coming from someone who hosts large parties monthly, there's a lesson to be learned here. As a party dwindles in size what happens? The fast starters move to a new venue, most will lag about until competition is too fierce, some will close the shop and lick the plates. If you're good at managing your value, the party costs you nothing active, you could throw one every day without actually hitting your active income.

The danger of ignorant practices

If you're really bad at managing your value, you will eventually have nothing left to fuel yourself, you will first lose external value, and afterwards damage your internal. It's like buying meals for a date when you don't even have savings. When you can't afford rent. When you haven't bought a gym membership. When that new car is more important than finishing your college education.

• "The man who kills a man, kills a man, the man who kills himself, kills all men." -G.k. Chesterton.

Do not kill yourself 'and all future opportunities' by outspending your value.

You must internalize that to give value cheaply or for free is suicide. There must always be a sufficient exchange. Equivalent can be ignored, the exchange must bring you more than you're losing.

Since the goal of any rp individual is to increase net value (progression) in the SMP, you need to consider others into your equation. Connections are the biggest external value asset you can tap into, but you must be selective in who sits at the table to make a deal. Both because you are the company you keep, and also because it creates scarcity 'in access' to a real bounty of resources, 'your hard built value'. This especially falls into the realm of charity, give selfishly or not at all. Many of you already quite familiar with RP terminology recognize this as "Preselection". A powerful force in your pocket for success in the SMP.

On charity

Anyone who comes to you can beg, but they have to be a VIP to be treated. This isn't to say you don't calculate the gain of playing the benevolent God, it actually raises interest in you when done correctly as others believe there's a chance at entry, or are faced with the contrasting curiosity of why they weren't invited. This is the massive, singular value saver in saying NO.

Say no when anything and anyone isn't cost effective. This shouldn't even be difficult, if you really understand the above you know how important it is to safeguard your internal and external value. Would you allow someone who walked up and demanded 4 hours’ worth of cash from you to open your wallet and help themselves? No? Good. Then don't let some random non VIP eat from YOUR value without trading the same or greater in THEIR value to you.

Your value is a limited resource, very limited. The less time you spend building your internal value, the less often it can be spent without damaging its replenishment rate. It is an upkeep that only grows and never ends until YOU SAY SO. You are the sole judge, jury, and executioner of your transactions. Use that surplus of internal value to purchase/attract others who bring you external value. No one will save you except yourself, the world does not care about you and if allowed, will try to consume you. Do not be jaded about this fact. Be happy. The world is dependable, now you know where you stand.

It is not just a temporary perspective

It is your duty to improve yourself so that you can add value to those that can add value to you in kind. It is the ultimate truth of anyone who expects to gain anything from the world in a meaningful way. For this reason I heavily suggest doing as I do, and applying the 80/20 rule. 80 percent of your time should be spent increasing internal value while only 20% should be used purchasing external value. Before you schedule going to the club, 'which costs you time, a cost everyone must be aware of' make sure your schedule includes 4 times as much for internal value building. Lifting, education, public speaking training, podcasts, career advancement, whatever it takes, most of your day should be focused on improving internal value. When you go out to enjoy spending your value, not only can you have peace of mind and focus solely on managing the clientele, you will have clients begging to trade with you.

General rules, and lessons learned general meaning I don't give a flying fuck about your extraordinary statistically unlikely unicorn exceptions, or the 4 guys you know that break this generality in your small sample biased echo chamber of a social circle of sub-50. Let's be real people

• don't ever discuss money around women. Not how much you make, not what you do, not what you're worth.
• don't ever offer to pay for anything. She probably just by speaking to you has figured out you're in the upper demographic, maybe from what you wear, maybe the car you drive, maybe because you swipe that card a little too casually.
• no gifts. If you're the type for ltrs, the big dates sure, but don't go crazy. She should be ecstatic to have your time and attention. (Sidebar, dread, read up now)
• no 'emergency handouts'. Couldn't make rent? Not my problem. Need something for class? Not my problem. The kids need new shoes? They're your kids, aren't you a strong independent woman?
• modesty. Don't flaunt what you have. Ever. Advertising external value excess damages your position, defaulting it to provider. Advertise only internal value excess. (This can sometimes flip depending on who you’re chasing. Milfs and cougars and crazies.)
• everything is a contract. The world wants to eat you, if any relation is landing you a net loss, 'like a business deal' note how it happened. Drop the deal. Learn for the future.
• if she checks out, and you want more, pre-nup or gtfo. No questions asked. If she resists even in the slightest, you made a misjudgment, get over it, there are others.
• Don't invite people to look into your nest. They need to earn that information.

Assignment:

Until the next lesson, titled "why trp, TRS lesson 2" Practice saying “No.” This is the most valuable tool you have to protect your value. “Buy me a drink?” –No. “Can you pick me up?” –No. “So how much do you make?” –No, I don’t think that’s important. Also, lessons will be every 7 to 45 days. I'm not in this for money, so just friends me to get updates. I'll take my time to do it right.

You may choose to use a hard-no, and you may use any mixture of amplify, flip the script, create qualifiers, etc. Whatever you want, the point is to succinctly and quickly create a hard or soft no to anything which is trying to pull value from you without paying it back. This applies even to information about you, that's leverage, don't hand it out casually.

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