for some reason i keep getting disrespected and i don’t know why. i may be over analyzing, but i genuinely feel annoyed and i’m not sure why i get disrespected. to start, nothing about me is anything to disrespect, objectively. i’m tall (6’1”), i lift so i’m muscular, and i’m pretty fucking attractive (experiences, i’d give myself like a 8.5-9). i’m 21, and pretty well off and have an education that i’m thankful for. so, none of these should deem me to be disrespected, right?

Well when i first started dating my ltr, she introduces me to her cousin. the first thing her cousin says is “is this your twat of a boyfriend?”. i was so pissed off but didn’t say anything to her to not be rude. she’s like 3 years younger than me and has the audacity to say that upon meeting me?

incident 2 was when my ltr’s friend came over. mind you, she’s on the “bigger side” and works out so looks fat. the three of us were talking, and me and my ltr were talking about how we met. then her friend says, “and then you realized he was ugly.” i just went along laughing here but honestly was annoyed and hurt on the inside, especially since it was coming from a fat bitch. I regretted being nice and amiable to her upon meeting her that night, because i feel like she took advantage of my kindness and social skills to use me as a joke like 2 hours into meeting me? what the fuck? things like this make me act like an asshole and not be kind to people.

incident 3: At a party, some guy says “your little brother is more of a man to you” to me in front of everyone. i’m so pissed at myself i didn’t knock his shit right then and there, but this guy who was half my size says that to me in front of my brother, gf, and friends. what the fuck?

Guys i see on the street just eye me down with hatred it seems like and act unfriendly. at parties i went to with my gf and her friends they all acted cold towards me.

are these people all just jealous of me? is that what it is? or am i unlucky? is it my posture or what the fuck is it? i know my personality is kind but not a pushover - in fact i’m called an asshole and “too confident” often times too by others. what did i do and how do i react to these situations?

thanks