Another reason not to "settle down." Man finds out that his son is not his from a DNA test. Conflicted about raising him.

Flaye2 · 2016-10-20T06:14:38+00:00

Paternity tests needs to be mandatory at childbirth.

redchords · 2016-10-20T05:39:44+00:00

Her description of the boy's possible fathers: "those other men are trash".

The men she cheated with and the guy she eventually got pregnant by are trash. But she lied to this guy and expects him to be responsible for her choices. So trashy guys get the sex, and the good guys get the bill? Fuck this shit. I bet he's going to be forced to pay child support until the kid graduates college. He's done. This is so fucked up.

hollybegin · 2016-10-20T07:33:55+00:00

People, including my own parents, are telling me to "step up" and "be a dad".

Translation: You got fuck in the ass by a slut, your prospects are ruined and the boy is not yours but you need to be A MAN and work yourself to an early grave in order to provide for them.

With parents like this (Fuck the others!), who needs enemies?

I don't know the man nor his personnal history but can't help and feel sorry for him. Like u/Arzu1982 wrote, poor guy is toasted big time, both financially and psychologically. He probably won't be able to totally recover and with the Court System as it is, he's in for a little less than 18 years of child support.

Because a SpecialSnowFaked couldn't keep her legs closed, the lives of a man AND a boy are now ruined.

Excellent job!

Arzu1982 · 2016-10-20T03:58:23+00:00

This guy is screwed, without vaseline, since he's married whether it's his kid or not, he's still on the hook for support.

This is one of the main reasons why I didn't marry, because legally she can fuck another dude get pregnant by him and have my ass pay for support.

This information was provided to me by an attorney.

Stick a fork in him he's done.

the-capitan · 2016-10-20T05:53:23+00:00

she should commit suicide by gunshots to the back of the head with 2 separate guns. or go to the gym and accidentally drop the barbell she's powersquatting while running on the treadmill, across her neck.

then he should put the kid up for adoption.

as long as women feel like they can get away with this, they will attempt it.

BruceJennerTesticles · 2016-10-20T11:13:25+00:00

I really want to leave. I want to divorce my wife and ~~, I know this sounds horrible,~~ leave Ryan as well. He's a toddler right now, so he wouldn't even remember me at this point. I really just don't want to be a part of this "family" anymore. I want to petition the court to take me off the birth certificate.

I do NOT find that to be (or even "sound") "horrible."

His statement is entirely correct -- if the child is still a TODDLER -- then the boy will NOT really "remember" this man.

Ergo, it is probably the best scenario for him to both divorce the woman, AND have his name removed from the child's birth certificate.

The child is, alas, a "bastard" -- and that is due to the moral character (or lack thereof) of his mother (AND likewise his "biological" father) -- that is a sad reality but it IS "reality."

The only OTHER scenario that I can see as potentially "better for the child" -- would be the one that our SYSTEM does not ever contemplate, and which would (given the DNA evidence) seem to most people as being "unconscionable" and even absurd -- and that would be for the man to be able to divorce the woman, obtain FULL CUSTODY of the child (with the woman having a "no contact" order), and for the man to raise the boy as if he were HIS own (fundamentally no different then than a "stranger" adoption).*

Note that I say that would be better/best for the child, (and possibly/probably "better best for society" as well) it is, or should be, optional/subjective and up to the MAN, whether he wanted to do that... or not.

Why better/best for the child & society? Because the mother is -- by definition in terms of her "moral character" entirely "unfit" to raise a child -- she is in essence a "slut/whore," and the environment that SHE will create and raise the child in, will be horribly detrimental to both the boy AND to society at large. He is already the genetic offspring of two "pieces of trash"... and his ONLY possible/probable path OUT of becoming a "piece of trash" in turn is to be RAISED (solely and entirely) by a person of solid/noble character... IOW in this case the man who is NOT his "biological" father. (But,for THAT to be "effective" the "biological mother" and "biological" father" {i.e. the two "pieces of trash"} must be categorically and ENTIRELY removed from the boy's life; they CANNOT have any contact with the child, unless under the control/direction of the "legal" father, and/or until he reaches adulthood, period.)

* This (FULL "legal father" custody) by the way, USED to be the "default" -- children born within a marriage were considered the children OF the marriage -- and moreover were considered the children OF the husband, period.

In the case of such cuckoldry, if it could be proven (and even absent DNA there WERE ways of legally "proving" it); then the woman (and possibly the "bio-dad", aka her "paramour/lover" if he could be identified) would have been PUNISHED for her/their adulterous act (which it should be noted not only specifically ascribes BLAME, it also ALLEVIATES the child from any blame/stigma) i.e. the mother (and her paramour) committed the crime, the child did NOT and so the child is NOT punished, but is given the status/ability to be raised as "legitimate" by the ONLY non-offending adult in his "parental" circle.

Conversely, if it could NOT be proven, but instead the woman simply CHOSE to leave... she left BEREFT of anything but herself and the clothes on her back. She did NOT have the capability of departing with "cash & prizes" as some "reward" for her infidelity; nor could she take the CHILD with her either (and certainly NOT EVER be able to use the child as a means of extracting additional resources from the "cuckolded" husband).

And that was a system that worked WELL for the MAJORITY OF THE PEOPLE INVOLVED -- not the least of which was "society" at large.

ColmM36 · 2016-10-20T15:17:59+00:00

So she cheats, has fun, and he gets to clean up the mess. Either:

1) She can't be held responsible for her actions as a women,which brings the argument of women's rights to mind, or

2) They're simply enslaving men, and aquiting women of any wrong doing, which again brings up an argument of personal responsibility, and freedom of choice.

FUBAR

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andreas-mgtow · 2016-10-20T11:53:56+00:00

DNA testing is readily available today and at least in the US you don't need consent from the mother to order tests like family tree or 23 and me.

Spend the money. The State does not care about you as a Man, they just want a warm body to support the child. You have no reproductive rights.

PlasmaBurst · 2016-10-20T13:00:07+00:00

I'm curious as to what a blue pill would think of this, but the answer to this is obvious. Lawyer up, divorce, and do what you want to be happy.

redsfan277 · 2016-10-20T14:57:35+00:00

Damn i did a google search on this subject and here is a result

https://www.myfloridalaw.com/child-support-law/paying-child-support-not-the-father/

Pretty much stating taht if you signed a document stating you are the father, or even said you were the father to anybody -- then you are the father...WHAT.THE.FUCK.

It says the law is meant for the children but its bullshit...the law is meant to extract resources from you and give them to the mother and child....its enslavement and ridiculous...why do the women get the child? and perks ? who the fuck said 'its their duty as a woman' who the fuck thinks its a good idea to always treat women as victims and therefore help them no matter how shitty and awful their decision making and life is?

This is insane the amount of bullshit a man must endure in this society.

Stay away from these bitches man...live your life happy and free without the attachments these whores will put on you...these whores will bring you down

Datson_Horrenbrand · 2016-10-20T18:32:58+00:00

think about it. he didn't knew. that child doesn't know. only that bitch knows it. yet in our society is always men who are blamed for lying and deceiving, and females are portrayed as wise and divine. who pulls the strings?!

NefariousRaccoon · 2016-10-20T19:33:49+00:00

People, including my own parents, are telling me to "step 上" and "be a dad".

Who needs enemies when you have people like this.

His own fucking parents want him to be a wage slave and a cuck to this women and her bastard child. This poor soul! God have mercy on him...

rahl_r · 2016-10-20T09:08:53+00:00

Got a cuck with a kid that ain't theirs? There's this gut, primal feeling constantly nagging into these cucks' conscious minds. It goes like this: "Ooooooh, not my genes, therefore I should just pack my stuff and leave". This goes against their blue-pill conditioning, effectively creating conflict in their minds. As a result of which, they get depressed, age badly, get sick, die earlier, etc.

Or, to compensate their guilt, they (try to) impregnate the woman to produce another offspring that embeds their own DNA this time.

Silly humans.

Title	Another reason not to "settle down." Man finds out that his son is not his from a DNA test. Conflicted about raising him.
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Date	October 20, 2016 3:38 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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I do NOT find that to be (or even "sound") "horrible."