My girlfriend of 2 years suggested an open relationship last month, and I was open to the idea because she told me she was feeling depressed and her sexual attraction to me was diminishing, due to some of my recent weight gain. I was reluctant at first, male pride and whatnot, and even considered leaving her but she told me she loved me and I caved in and figured if I can not make her happy sexually I can at least allow her to go on her own, and still have me as a loving partner.

The very next day she had sex with one other ex boyfriends from college, which sorta made me upset,but she then went ahead and called him her "lover" on facebook. I was fucking pissed off because my mom is a facebook friend of hers and she asked me if we were still together. I had to have an awkward conversation with my mom, and she told me she felt sorry for me. Needless to say I stormed out of my mother's house and headed straight home to give my GF shit. When I got home she was there,with her ex, cuddled up under a blanket watching netflix.

I was so fucking stunned I went into the bedroom and considered writing her a "dear John" letter and leaving. I sorta agreed to the open relationship part, but the cuddling and smooching on the couch looked more like girlfriend and boyfriend time, and not fuckbuddy time. I fell asleep, and the next morning when he went home I came out in the living room and told her shewas wrong. She told me I was being a jealous asshole and a creep. Am I over reacting here? :::::UPDATE..... Updated posted in the thread. Mostly good news!!!! ......

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UPDATE:::I confronted her and told her I wanted out of the relationship as I felt that she was using me and instead of dumping me to find someone she is more attracted to. I told her that I regretted my decision to agree to an open relationship and that I only agreed out of personal desperation of holding on to an "idea of love". I explained to her her that she is like drugs to me, as drugs make you feel awesome but are terrible for you and control you when you become an addict to them.

And holy shit did she cry her eyes out!!! She waled and called me sexist and mean and cruel. I have to admit I had to really put on my best "poker face" to keep myself from going to her and holding her. It was an instinct I really had to fight, but I remembered this MGTOW thread, and I suspected that she might be using my own instincts against me. Her ex boyfriend then shows up out of the fucking blue. I am not much of a fighter and I know this guy was going to try and start shit with me, so I went to the kitchen and boiled a pot of water, so I had hot water to throw at his face in case I needed to defend my self. ( saw it on a t.v show)

He comes in, and when he sees me standing in the living room and her there, his eyes get wide and he said, " Oh, I guess you told him then". I walked up to him ( my anxiety seemed to vanish in that moment) and asked him what you think she told him.

She tried to get him to leave the house and told him to come back tomorrow, and then he kind a got a pissed off ( at her ) look on his face and told me that they had been having fucking around behind my back for about 6 months, and that she told him that we broke up a month ago but I was still living there due to the lease.

At this point I actually broke out in laughter. I think it might have been due to the stress of it all, and the absurd nature of all my girlfriends lies and the fact that she had been even playing this other dude behind my back.

My anger pretty much vanished, I shook the dudes hand and said, " She is all yours bro, I am kicking the habit." This all being revealed and her being exposed in this way really changed my feelings for her, IN AN INSTANT, and made me feel good about myself in a strange way, it reminded me of that scene in the movie Wanted when the guy comes back to his ex girl friend with Angelina Jolie.

Anyway, I start packing my shit in my suitcases, I take all the valuable gaming stuff the flat screen and cram all clothes in a bag and get the fuck out of there and go to my mother's house. I guess I have to figure out the lease later, I will figure it out in the future, I would live there alone with a new roommate if she wanted to get out.

I am at my Mom's house and an hour ago, my GF( ex gf) send me a text.... "WHY THE FCK DID YOU LEAVE A BURNING POT ON THE STOVE NUTCASE!! I H8 U AZZHOLE."

I pasted the message as it appeared on my phone. I laughed out loud thinking about the boiling "self defense" pot of water that I left on the stove and forgot about when I left. HAHAHAH.