I’m having a hard time getting a plate to chase more. Obviously this is only over the phone right now. Whenever we interact it’s positive, but I’m always the one calling, and mostly the one that initiates texting. So of course I pulled back, but it wasn’t very effective. If I don’t text she won’t for days, maybe she’ll send a short text and take hour+ to respond. I pull back even more and that continues. But when I engage she’ll engage. So simply pulling back is not working, but I don’t want to keep the dynamic of me being the only one that calls, and initiates texts.

I know the common response will be “well if she’s interested she’ll communicate, so pull back and don’t force it”. But I want to be a little more proactive. Rather than just wait for it to happen, what can I do to actually get her to chase a little more besides simply pulling back?