Hello gentlemen, I need you to help a UK brother out... Would appreciate advice from someone in similar boat. Apologies for long wall of shit...

I will be upfront and tell you all the truth.

Have been with my girl for 10 years (I’m now 30) and I finally want out. I honestly cannot even come up with the plan how to exit and how to handle the situation. This involves my daughter who is 4 stuck in the middle.

After years of taking her shit, being a little bitch, situations like police station locked up, disrespect in front of others, disrespect to my family members, physical and emotional abuse, abortion etc I am losing my respect for myself.

It was accidental child, but for sure I do not regret having my beautiful daughter. 4 years I’ve been struggling and taking emotional abuse and what not, every event like Christmas, Easter has been nightmare with fights. I do not want to show this anymore to my daughter how to suffer in relationship.

Everything has been going down hill after daughter was born and I finally got a picture. Every time I work on family, getting better at things I get shot down and lose my motivation. She blatantly told me she doesn’t want a house together, she is financially fucked up, she doesn’t respect my sex requests, she is boring as fuck, she doesn’t respect how I tell her to raise the child, and finally what she’s done last week after argument fucked me up completely.

She was 4 weeks pregnant, and after argument decided to do an abortion without my approval. After finding out she was pregnant her body language told me that she never wanted second child anyhow, however I did.

So, this is it and after multiple tries to exit and comebacks and shit it’s time to move on.

Now, the problem is my situation. I work full time and she does, child goes nursery and starting primary school September. We both split house rent bills 50/50. She doesn’t have family living in UK. I could move out and pay child support, which would be about £400 a month if I had my daughter 2 days/week. I could find a room to rent and move out and afford to pay child support. The problem is if I move out, she can’t afford £1600/ month house rent, which would put her and child homeless. I do not want this scenario because my child is important and I want to resolve this like a man.

She is not reasonable person to speak to at all and is hypocritical.

She is good mates with my family and talks with my mum about our relationship etc. I know she will use child against me like she weaponises her pussy.

She’s been sucking up-to me and apologising, but I blatantly ignoring her advances as I really feel fuck all for this person no more and couldn’t give a fuck if she disappeared below.

What would you do in my shoes?? Please help me with some right moves how to handle this like a man without frustration. Fuck I’m losing it...

Thanks gents and sorry for the read!

Best wishes