Oneitis Problem

TheBossnian123 · 2016-12-22T05:57:31+00:00

Better to die shitting than constipated. Go ask her on a date, do something.

malgrif · 2016-12-22T05:46:29+00:00

Ask her out. Date? Great! Get rejected? Get over it. Don't try again. Let her crush your feelings for you. Don't be a pussy, you don't want to be her friend.

filitantmeminist · 2016-12-22T07:38:36+00:00

You have an issue of being half a person.

You have a hole in your soul that you, borderline self-destructively, need to fill.

Gays do it with aids and mass partners.

Fat people do it with food.

Cutters cut.

Men with certain issues obsess over women.

Let me tell you something, this doesnt help your situation but I dont even know her and I can tell you her pussy stinks and she probably loves cock that's not yours. So move on and fall in love with yourself instead.

officialkingofhearts · 2016-12-22T07:20:10+00:00

As most the other guys said here, ask her out. You never know the answer if you don't ask. If she says no, you don't have to waste your time on her anymore.

nonthaki · 2016-12-22T11:10:42+00:00

Read the countless stories given here in this thread & compare the behavior of the girls mentioned in the posts with the one you are crazy for . Soon enough , most of the crazy behaviors will match & You will realize she is not the unicorn you think she is .

Even if You get that bitch , Remember , You will be just wifing up a whore .

winatreddit · 2016-12-22T12:19:07+00:00

there is no " Teh Oneeee" that's the key. You keep thinking about her cause you already fantasizing you, her and your children. Stop that thinking!

thZem · 2016-12-22T05:05:25+00:00

Have the same issue. I'm mainly waiting on responses from others but for me I've been meditating to let those emotions drive past.

Rhythmic · 2016-12-22T13:18:28+00:00

What can I do to keep my mind off a particular girl and focus on myself?

If you were to try to think of anything else but a polar bear, you'd notice how the harder you try to push the thought away, the more you think it.

Trying to push thoughts away backfires. What you have to do instead is decide what you do want to think about, and then watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself drifting away from what you do want to think about, gently get your attention back on track.

Don't beat yourself up, just keep bringing your thoughts back on track as often as you have to.

As you do this, you may notice how drifting into your old habitual thoughts is very much like falling asleep, while getting back on track is like waking up. Rather than being hard on yourself, congratulate yourself each time you wake up. Reinforce the good behavior. Keep chipping at it consistently over a long period of time.

Don't expect this to be a quick fix.

You will get good with consistent practice.

Good luck!

Ozymanberg · 2016-12-22T17:41:39+00:00

Game a lot of women. I know it might seem scary(or not, dunno how shy or charismatic you are), especially for a beginner (it was to me), but it's essential. Why? Because even if you fail with these other women (and you probably will) it put things in perspective.

In other words, you'll start seeing how many chances you actually have with women. There's plenty of women to go around and when you realize this, you will inevitably relax around the women you're into.

Add this to the equation of pursuing your hobbies, your career, male friends, etc. and you'll be in a much better mindset regarding women, I promise. Take it slow, brother.

Title	Oneitis Problem
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Date	December 22, 2016 4:54 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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