Why are we so needy?

absolutelynp · 2020-04-28T19:00:10+00:00

On neediness related to pleasure: It's caused by hijacked dopamine system due to easily available instant gratification rather than putting in the hard work for long term results. You keep wanting more and it's easily available. Porn, sugar, social media, drugs, etc..

On neediness related to others: humans are extremely social beings. That's how we evolved to dominate earth. Sharing knowledge and experiences while sacrificing for the greater good of humanity. You exist and have a great life because of all the doings of your ancestors and their contemporaries. Your actions will determine the life of future generations, if they exist.

Re. plates. They are plates. They break and branch swing. That's the deal.

Finally, never ask how you can control others into doing what you want. Show them and make them realize why it is the best thing they can do.

muricanwerewolf1 · 2020-04-28T20:51:06+00:00

What the fuck? How has nobody given the correct answer for this? The answer is very simple, lack of abundance. If you knew woman B and woman C were waiting in the wings to give you everything woman A is currently giving you and you consider them better or equal to woman A, your frame would be rock solid. If woman A started pulling away, or shit testing you, you would let her go, because you have the opportunity to get what you need from somebody else. Your neediness and drive to control the actions of a woman are driven by a need to hang on to a resource that you consider to be scarce, one that you cannot get easily.

A man with no confidence in his ability to get women is needy. He knows that he’s won the lottery getting the girl he has, so he acts to try to appease and keep her, eventually driving her away. Now, you can either learn to fake not being needy (while your gut boils every time she doesn’t return your text right away, or goes out with the girls) or you can work on yourself and your abundance. Your choice.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-04-28T19:24:25+00:00

This is a great question and I wish I had the general answer.

I think my neediness comes from wanting to be emotionally loved and cared for by my father. I don’t want to get into a serious discussion on how my father affects my life, but I wish instead of acting like I was a burden , he appreciated the gift of having a son and took it more seriously. I wish he made sure that i knew that he loved me. A child needs that for real or else he’ll go searching for love and validation from others, but it is a thirst that’ll never be quenched.

It’s hard to be honest. It’s my mission now to try and be enough for myself, but it’s hard.

Neediness isn’t attractive and I think because of it and other things out of my control I lost my girlfriend. Which has me feeling lonely which on top of neediness isn’t so good. I deleted social media to try and chill on the seeking validation thing from total strangers cause that’s just nonsense. I’ve started to notice that I’ve been using reddit/asktrp to get some form of validation as well. As long as I’m aware of my problems, I should be okay. But yeah man, neediness is a slow poison. Try your hardest to nip it in the bud.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-28T21:51:19+00:00

Young men are needy because you need sex like you need oxygen. If you only had one tank of oxygen, you would be really fucking protective of that tank. If you had unlimited oxygen, or if people offered you a fresh tank 10x a day, you would give much less of a shit about it.

drevenx13 · 2020-04-28T20:48:43+00:00

Focus on money not on women and your neediness will go away pretty quickly.

TigerTamingSword · 2020-04-28T21:02:19+00:00

I'd say it's the sign of an incomplete psyche. I believe that what we label as neediness is, at its core, anxiety over the fear of loss. Where it stems from varies from each person. It could be abandonment issues originating from childhood, traumatic past relationships, being bullied, cruel self criticism. These issues run at the background of your mind and produces uneasiness in the face of uncertainty, such as when a girl ghosts you or your friends don't seem to care much for you. If you seem to have a unsatisfying relationship with the people around you, it frequently tends to be a reflection of how you relate to yourself.

DJCuddlessp · 2020-04-28T21:17:28+00:00

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bandraboyz · 2020-04-28T20:17:21+00:00

Because our balls produces millions and billions of sperms for reproduction and we need to be needy of sex for that purpose. Nothing bad in being needy. Just be needy and approach all girl you find attractive. You will learn to game accordingly. Remember your neediness got you to trp.

Title	Why are we so needy?
Author	DJCuddlessp
Upvotes	14
Comments	18
Date	April 28, 2020 6:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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