Depression that I cannot shake. I feel trapped. I have done everything I know how to do. I hate that I was born into the life that is mine.

carolinaflash · 2020-04-28T13:17:13+00:00

Should look into therapy, bro. Your issues are rooted far too deep for a stranger to really help.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-04-28T14:33:43+00:00

What did you do today before you wrote this post?

I am working on my mental health currently as well and always looking for ways to make myself feel good that do not require anyone’s external validation but my own.

I’m no pro and I’ve only started recently, but here is what I’m doing for today mental health wise. (Focus on today and hope/plan for tomorrow.)

BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE, FIRST: Delete social media.

I would recommend when you get up , try meditating for 5-10 minutes.

Make your bed.

Brush your teeth.

Throw some short stretching video on YouTube on. And do some stretches.

Take a multivitamin and drink at least one or two cups of water.

Already that’s couple things you accomplished that you can be proud of.

I haven’t incorporated these things in yet but I know i need to start praying to my God first thing when I wake up instead of grabbing my phone to look at notifications. Then I need to start doing self affirmations for at least 3 -5 minutes look at yourself in the mirror in the eyes and gas yourself up, tell Yourself you love yourself and you will Make sure everything will be alright. If you can’t trust anyone else , you have to trust yourself, at least.

I also need to start journaling , writing down my progress and my thoughts on paper. It’s your journal , just write for a bit whatever you want. Letters to people about how they tucked you up and why you don’t like them. Letters to yourself about how things will be okay or how you should’ve did this or that, just get it on paper and out of your mind when you need to.

I gotta write down or at least think of things I’m grateful for today. Like this morning while meditating I was thinking to myself: about how blessed I am, yes I am in quarantine but I have a lot of options. I can do whatever I want with my day in my limited means. I am currently doing pull-ups, after words I am going to take my vitamin , eat a banana or 2 and then hopefully go do some jump rope if I don’t get lazy. I am feeling active today , gotta take advantage.

You know yourself , get shit done.

Good luck.

leopardinstinct · 2020-04-28T13:19:08+00:00

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StoneKingH · 2020-04-28T16:29:48+00:00

Try to find a decent therapist and look into CBT. And seriously start meditation. Make sure the therapist is a man and not a complete BP. Rare to find I'm sure, but it's worth looking especially if you can afford it.

Journalling is helpful in combination with CBT. There's a post called "a method of journalling" that I saw on TRP a while back.

Seriously, start mindfulness meditation. I don't care if you've tried it or anything or don't believe in it (science backs it now), do some fucking mindfulness meditation, every single day, at least 20 minutes.

I'd recommend seriously cutting down on the weed and stopping microdosing LSD. Look into psilocybin macrodoses (3.5g upwards) and therapy surrounding that. While I think microdosing can be helpful, LSD microdosing reports have shown much more chance of mania or related negative thought spirals.

I was molested when I was 11 years old and it fucked me up real good. Suppressed the shit out of it until about 2 years ago and it made my already shit self esteem tank real hard. Was depressed and suicidal for the following 2 years. I had smoked weed from 16 till about 21 a fair amount (I'm 25 now). I had free therapy through my university but the woman wasn't that great and I think your therapist needs to be smarter than you for it to work. She did however point me towards self CBT which I found very helpful. Cutting weed completely fucked me up more so I cut it down drastically to like 2x a week, probably 1.5g in total. Recently found CBD to be better.

Daily meditation, journalling, and CBT. It's a daily battle aswell. Don't expect to wake up after a day of doing this shit and expect things to get better, cause life isn't sunshine and rainbows my friend. But it does get easier, and it does get better, you just gotta stick with it every day.

When you undergo trauma your brain cements thought patterns related to that trauma pretty deep, and retraining your brain to have healthier thought patterns is a journey and a half.

Now all of this is great stuff, and I still personally do it daily cause otherwise I start noticing my brain going back to old thought patterns, however the single most beneficial life experience I've ever had that helped with my own issues was a psilocybin trip of 4 grams, in the dark, nice music, and meditating. That shit will clean your soul, or at least show you how to do it yourself.

drevenx13 · 2020-04-28T16:43:04+00:00

Go buy/adopt a dog. The dog will become your best friend. My ex had a small pinscher that I first thought was annoying, however, when I took him out with me for a run, I realized how good it was physically for me but also mentally because the dog became addicted to these runs and he was always excited and happy when I brought him with me. He would even carry the leash in his mouth to me when I was lazy on the couch to send me subtle message that it’s time to go running with him.

It’s some kind of zootherapy that really made me feel better at the time when I was in a similar state that you are.

AlecIcarus · 2020-04-28T14:22:18+00:00

First of all, I'm sorry you had to go through all that. But at the same time, you cannot let your past and everything that has happened to you before define you. No matter how many times you get fucked over by people, no matter how many times people let you down, there actually are decent human beings out there but you just need to get through the shitty ones to find the ones worthy to be in your life. Easier said than done, I know. But don't give up just because you've had to deal with shitheads in the past.

Also; as someone who has been (and still is) struggling with depression and has been on all kinds of medication as well, trust me when I say medication isn't the solution. In my experience; nine out of ten times the meds they prescribe you doesn't even work for you as a person, and others have massive side effects. You're better off trying to get to the root of your problems and facing those demons yourself without the use of those pills. And on a side note: That anxiety you said you're dealing with? You know smoking pot enhances whatever you're feeling? So if you're anxious all the time, pot might make it worse. Figure out whether it's actually in your best interest to be smoking pot right now.

You need to think about you right now. Fuck the wealth, fuck the job. Your mental health is most important, and if that means quitting your job or finding something else that suits you better so you can work on yourself, so be it. Money isn't everything in life. Especially when you already seem to have it all but still feel like shit. I'm not saying you should definitely quit your job, if you like your job, by all means. But you need to take a good look at your life right now and revaluate what actually is doing you any good. Balance that shit out, get rid of everything that's having a negative impact on you and replace these things with positives.

Look, I clearly don't have all the answers and I doubt any of us on here will. We don't know the full story. But it sounds like you need real professional help. Just remember, nobody else can actually fix this for you, they can help provide you the tools to fix it, but you gotta do the fixing. Look for an other psychiatrist until you find one that you feel actually knows how to help you. There are some good ones out there, but just like I said earlier; you gotta go through the shitty ones to find the ones worthy.

Take care bro and don't give up.

2020-04-28T17:38:29+00:00

1.Biological imprints.

2.Conditioning.

3.Learning.

It seems like you've fixed the last two.Your biological imprints still need some work.Random suggestion:try martial arts or yoga.

Sketch123456 · 2020-04-28T18:50:02+00:00

Please look into EMDR Therapy.

I've had some past trauma as a teen that I carried with myself all the way into adulthood.

EMDR has significantly helped me and I hope it can do the same for you.

SalporinRP · 2020-04-28T22:58:13+00:00

Get yourself a good male therapist man. Your problems are probably outside the scope of a forum about getting pussy.

I have suffered from bouts of moderate depression so I know somewhat where you're coming from.

What really helped me was meditation and mindfulness exercises.

Get some professional help, but from my POV I think you not having a social circle is your biggest problem. Humans are naturally social creatures and it's one of our base needs. For you to be 25 and have zero friends is playing a part in your issues I guarantee it.

fatbloop · 2020-04-29T10:17:42+00:00

Start therapy again. Don't think it won't work for you now just because it didn't work for you when you were a kid.

And lay off the weed and LSD. It's going to rot your brain. Don't use anything as an escape.

You have to learn to be accepting of everything that happened in the past and then letting it go so you can move on. Meditation will help.

SensitiveProfile5 · 2020-04-28T13:31:39+00:00

My response comes entirely from a good heart and as a solution based on an objective mindset.

You're probably too spoiled. And it made you lose track of the healthy, basic routine human beings need in order to function. It's not your fault, but only you can fix it.

Start minimally with as much energy you're capable of to do the basics bit my bit. Get the best sleep, exercise even if a few minutes at first, spend most of your day on your passion (productively), socialize with human beings in the evening and constantly force yourself out of unhealthy addictions. The overwhelming illusion that you can't do these and continue will disappear from your mindset waaay more quickly than you anticipate now, and you'll feel like you've gained superpowers.

Then maintain and level up. You will soon feel completely at peace.

Title	Depression that I cannot shake. I feel trapped. I have done everything I know how to do. I hate that I was born into the life that is mine.
Author	bigburgerboy
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Date	April 28, 2020 1:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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