I get in my head in basic situations

For example: When I’m at the grocery store by myself, I find myself getting in my head and overthinking my body language and how I come off to other people. Then I start seeking the validation of others.

I’m a fairly attractive and built dude, so people often look; this doesn’t help as I know they are staring and don’t want to come off self-conscious or beta, ironically this is exactly what makes me come off self-conscious and beta.

Women stare but then they notice my self-conscious body language and lose interest.

What’s extra strange is I am very self-aware about this, yet I can’t seem to get out of my head and just relax.

Been lurking TRP for a few years now, but this issue hasn’t gone away after all the improvement. Pretty pervasive and fucks with my head, as well as blocks me from social opportunities and feeling good about my social abilities.

My social life is pretty much entirely built upon circumstance and other people coming to me. I think this is a big reason why.

Stupid, yes. Solve-able, I know it is. Looking for some pointers to go about fixing this at long last. Thanks