Intro

I was in an LTR until just over a year a go, I started lifting of my own motivation c.4 months ago and I’ve been a lurker on TRP for around a month now. Since absorbing its ways I have made good progress physically and mentally, reflecting on and analysing the balance of BP and RP actions I have taken with women in the past, seeing where I lost some potentials and where I did well with others. This was my first full close since prescribing to TRP.

The Set-Up

I matched this Australian girl through Tinder (let’s call her Susie, HB6.5/7) on the Tuesday leading up to Christmas day.

Opened with some remark about her name and conversation flowed from there, gave some Australian based banter/innuendo and suggested she accompany me to this London gallery exhibition I wanted to check out (friend flaked) Saturday. She agreed, I got her number and said I would call her after a few days to arrange a time.

I was planning to call her on the Friday after work to arrange, and she preemptively texts me in the afternoon which I ignore until I’m done with work. I call her in the evening, tell her my plans to go to a bar with mates tonight and set the time for the Saturday. She texts me later that evening with a basic ‘what are you up to? :)’ text, ignored.

The Meet-Up

I shoot her a text mid-morning saying I will be there around 2 and did she find the address, to hedge against her flaking. She confirms attendance. I actually arrived on site about 20mins late (unintentionally), and missed a text from her saying she had arrived, so I was hanging around outside thinking she had flaked until she called me to say she was inside.

I slowly walk up to her, eye contact, slow big smile, greet with a hug and some small talk about getting there ok (I had planned to take a train, but decided to drive last minute to avoid any potential Christmas delays. This decision would pay dividends later on). We walk around the gallery and i’m making small talk, using kino from the get go to which she responds well and feels comfortable touching me as well. She shoots me a few shit tests about how often I do Tinder dates, types of girls I like and last time I banged etc. I overcome through amused mastery. She says she's doing pole dancing classes which provides me a ton of innuendo ammo. During our conversation I insert DHV’s re: sports, work and social life.

On the way out I say I want to check out the shop for last minute presents. At the till there is a HB8 that serves me and offers me complimentary Christmas chocolates, and I rib Susie about not being allowed any, to which the girl serving me giggles and makes some don't be mean remark. Pre-selection, check.

Later I suggest checking the Christmas markets and we get some mulled wine, Susie starts getting more physical with me after the drink and states how she is a lightweight (go hamster go), I laugh agree and suggest going to this cool bar I know near east (where I parked my car). I kiss her as we get up to move on, and we hold hands walking around after.

During the journey to said bar we kiss a few times and she puts her “cold” hands under my shirt to warm them up, and I do the same and feel the tension escalating. After one drink at the bar I say I can only have one because I have to drive home, and suggest giving her a lift back to hers, to which she suggests that she would like that and I could stay to watch a Christmas movie Netflix if I want. I say sure and can’t help but smirk, which I think she notices because she immediately says “it’s not Netflix and chill btw!” (that Hamster) I nod "sure" and change subject.

The Get-Down

We get back to Susie’s house and I honestly thought it was about to go tits up at this point. She had lost her keys while we were out so we were locked outside and sat in my car at the front of the house. She started stressing about the keys and the tension we had built up was starting to get away from me. Fortunately her landlord lived close and had a spare set. I stayed icy calm the whole time, feigned napping and told her "don't worry there's always a way in".

Cue 30 minutes later, landlord delivers (who's cool and we talk to about our travelling experiences in front of Susie, social proofing) and we’re inside, the film starts and I take less than 5 minutes to begin massaging her and undoing her bra “to give a better massage”, move to legs and ass and she says we should watch the rest of the film in her bed.

Once in bed I’m escalating the situation, touching, removing clothes and start rubbing her up, but this is when the LMR kicked in hard and she started saying she doesn’t normally do this, we just met etc. (cue hamster). She stops responding to my attempts at escalation so I freeze her out and starting texting my friend, which got her squeezing my arm and eventually straddling and kissing me. All is going well until she again says she won’t do anything tonight, another freeze out and again she’s on me until LMR crops up for the third time. At this point I feel like if I keep doing the same thing it’s not going to get anywhere and say i’m tired (in a DNGAF manner) so we should sleep and we spoon to sleep.

I wake up on Christmas morning and i’m touching and pulling her clothes off like it’s wrapping paper, she’s wet as hell and gives no LMR. I strap up and away we go, great sex.

Afterward she praises my ability to make her cum and she tells me that she doesn’t do ONS because the guys always disappear/stop talking to her etc (hamster, hamster) I don’t say much just laugh change subject to something light-hearted to try and make her feel comfortable that she's not being judged and got to her to relax easily. She asked if she would see me again, and I said "sure" but set no date. She even made eggs before sending me on my merry way.

Lessons Learned

The Date

1. Touch early, touch often. This is one of the spots where I have fallen down the most in the past with new women on dates or approaches. Internally it felt unnatural at first but after seeing how well she responded after the first couple of touches it was easy from there. I have been doing the same on night game approach since to good effect.

2. Making sure to engage everyone positively wherever you go together. The three times I did this was in the shop with the girl helping show pre-selection, at the subsequent bar with the barkeep who was flamboyantly mixing drinks and with the landlord. I think this helped me with social proofing in an environment where we interacted with strangers only.

3. Logistics are important. I’m from the suburbs so the gallery we met at is far from my place, but I was happy to check it out by myself if she did flake. I knew I was taking a risk arranging a date there as going back to my place was not an option, this is also in part why I eventually decided to drive so that I could offer the lift back to her place if things were going well. If not for this I highly doubt I would have got the close. It worked out well in the end and I think she liked the fact that I had a car in and of itself (DHV).

The Close

4. I had to power through a fair bit of LMR. Susie said she came from a conservative family and lost her virginity late, so I put it down to this but in the end she let her body do the talking, AWALT. I’ve read other FR’s or general advice on TRP which advocates not giving up when faced with such thick LMR. I generally felt though that the morning would be my best bet and this proved true as there was literally zero resistance at this point, who doesn’t like to be woken up with a bit of touchy feely?

Power through the LMR, listen to her actions not her words.

Conclusion

She has messaged me since, we’ve spoken sporadically and she seems chilled. With new year’s coming up and work i’m going to have a busy schedule so I will see how things go, but I can see this girl being my first plate. As we know though, 1 is 0 and 2 is 1.

Any advice or feedback appreciated!