Stop saying, "...I feel like..."!

Antifeg · 2020-05-04T16:27:50+00:00

Yes I agree big time. There was shift some time in recent years from "I think...." to "I feel...". I see it all over place(youtube), political programs or even gaming channels run 99.999% by guys. Instead of "think it's best strategy..." or w/e people keep using "I feel..." like wtf? Your feelings is your subjective reality maybe put something more than that?

softbeats · 2020-05-04T15:41:10+00:00

I mostly agree but I do think there’s still a place for “feeling” when talking about subjective or abstract ideas.

If I’m composing a photo I might feel that a certain angle would work better when someone else might think both angles are equal.

Hiromant · 2020-05-04T15:51:16+00:00

Same goes for all the passive aggressive "It's almost as if X" and "Imagine doing Y" arguments reddit is full of. Stop being a little bitch and say what you mean.

MrMagtow · 2020-05-04T20:14:15+00:00

Oh get lost - this is nothing more than a "MAN UP!" post.

It also pushes the narrative of being an ignorant Blue Piller. Not understanding women is the problem - the whole "women are wonderful" rubbish. (1) Talking to a woman, arguing with her with logical arguments won't get you anywhere. (2) Understanding women, you understand that their feelings are the narrative through which they understand the world.

This post is such rubbish.

JackSkell0255 · 2020-05-04T16:44:57+00:00

Facts, logic, and evidence. If I’m having a discussion with people whose opinions actually matter to me, I will ask for these, and use these.

I don’t discuss anything with people whose opinions don’t matter to me. Wasted air.

SufferableKant · 2020-05-04T15:53:41+00:00

I feel like this is a good post :-)

aoeAoeAOeAOEAOEEE · 2020-05-04T19:20:22+00:00

There is room for intuitive thinking (feeling). I disagree with your statement. Ive trusted my gut/feeling/intuition many times and I turned out to be justified in doing so. There are many times in life where all the facts or even no facts are present and you have to rely on that feeling.

I do agree with the "I feel like" it sounds feminine.

Cowgineer · 2020-05-04T23:19:28+00:00

The only time I say "I feel like..." is either describing a state of physical discomfort I am in, what I desire to eat, or I'm getting the "gut feeling" that something wicked this way comes (which is your caveman programming telling your modern brain to bail the fuck out NOW!).

sapereAudeAndStuff · 2020-05-04T20:36:21+00:00

Which verb people use in speech (I see... it sounds like... I feel... etc.) Has to do which which modality they are presently thinking in.

People who say "I feel" in this context are kinesthetic thinkers. They're not thinking in emotions so much as in shapes, textures, temperatures and movements.

Many good engineers are kinesthetic-dominant and you hear this language in an engineering shop all the time.

womenLoveMe2 · 2020-05-04T23:07:34+00:00

Thanks, needed that

realChebz · 2020-05-05T00:19:49+00:00

I hate that statement too lol. Had a snotty female coworker who "felt like" every sentence she made to coerce everyone to do things her way.

GeneralBohr · 2020-05-04T20:39:56+00:00

Well I use the term when I don't have evidence to back up my claim, e.g. speculation. "I feel like"/"I think", is the terms I use, the discussion can still be factual content.

However "I think" It is important not to inflate the term "I feel like".

R3dd1tSuux · 2020-05-05T00:07:57+00:00

No. Incorrect, absolutist thinking. Do NOT disregard feelings - utilize them ALONG with logic, facts, and reason.

Facts matter, yes. As does intuition, if someone has a connection to that. It really does exist - studies prove it and some people are better tuned-in than others.

Feelings *combined* with logic often lead to a more thorough understanding of a situation. We're not fucking robots, 'kings.' Your gut 'feelings' often have a lot to say if you pay attention.

A bonus to this is when you understand your feelings (which drive your behavior far more than 'logic' does, get real) you'll be better-prepared to see when and where others attempts to manipulate / coerce you or those around you. If you just 'disregard feelings' you're likely going to have more internalized stress and be a miserable person to be around. Maybe that's your goal, but MGTOW doesn't mean robot.

mgumanto · 2020-05-05T07:58:50+00:00

But my gut feeling saved me couple of times. In my observation per se i have concluded that feelings are just final result of experience and our organic calculation. Yes men mostly do rely on facts and stats but making it female exclusive is just plain wrong. When you see a metal bucket with water you automatically feel the weight, and thus assume appropriate posture. When you see shit you feel how it is going to smell like. But i get what you are trying to imply, men on most times don't overtly rely on this feelings alone, when evidence is there men will override their feelings.

sootlord · 2020-06-16T13:59:24+00:00

I somewhat disagree. When I say "I feel like" Im primarily associating with my intuition. Plus because of my individual nature I lean towards my intuition more over being rational for decision making. The real caviat is self control.

Sure you can rationalize everything and parrot "be a man" like we are some monolith that can't be weathered. But we are only humans and should accept every parts of ourselves good/ugly. "I feel like" is what gives color to our individual experience. But thats just me.

Title	Stop saying, "...I feel like..."!
Author	Johan_24
Upvotes	99
Comments	40
Date	May 4, 2020 3:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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