She may be a plate or even LTR, do you ask "what happened"? I have a new plate with which I think I broke frame by acting too rough, which made me coming probably as butthurt, when she suddenly got upset in the middle of the conversation - I sensed it was with purpose, for me to chase her. Instead, I didn't chase, but actually detached a little. But... From then, I acted cold and distant, letting her initiate and it was a stupid game, cause she was waiting for me to initiate and etc.

I told her I don't like this, she didn't agree that she was doing it, I set a boundary, then, in the following conversation (another day) she started a joke, I continued it, then she got upset at the way I continued it, but more like a princess.

Am I being butthurt here and acting too harsh?

I noticed, in the beginning, when we texted, it was a moment when she acted like this (she sent me some photos of her, I didn't want to send some back), she got upset, I continued with game, remained in my frame, she almost detached, then I simply sent "?" then the energy changed back to attraction, normal level, as before.

Aren't we supposed to ignore those tantrums, if they come as a result of some insignifiant stupid stuff? I don't think she was THAT invested that she cared I didn't reciprocate with some comfort and I still think they may have been shit tests. But it creates confusion inside my head, cause the reality says the otherwise, the results are more similar to failing comfort tests, instead of shit tests.

I also made the mistake of talking too much on the phone with her, although face to face my game was on point.

How do you treat similar situations, ESPECIALLY without being in an exclusive relationship, but making the mistake of talking too much, perhaps creating expectations? Without avoiding her for 2-3 weeks aka soft next, already did that, we say each other 10 days ago, since the last weekend I said I cannot go to her (since I kind of broke frame before, with talking too much).

I also noticed that soft nexts tend to be effective for the moment, but they somehow get back to the same test that created the situation. Basically, once you soft next and get back, it's like you always have to soft next, until hard next.