Oneitis during lockdown is actually doing my head in. I can’t even go find plates🤷‍♀️ what the hell can I do 😅

MrMonkeyMan7 · 2020-05-05T19:02:10+00:00

You're still at the phase where you actually develop "crushes"/become "invested" in girls. Getting rid of oneitis by finding other chicks to have oneitis for is a temporary fix. Read the sidebar.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-05-05T19:38:23+00:00

I feel you bro, I literally just checked asktrp to see if anyone else is going through this. Brooo I am fucked. All I wanna do is check her social media but I’ve been taking a break from social media for 2 weeks now , and it’s just so I don’t look at her stuff or seek her validation.

My brain is literally trying to come up with all Types of ways of getting around it. Shit is really the worst. I just keep telling myself there is nothing there for me, but I want to connect in anyway I can. L

Good shit on day 60 no fap. I’m like 12 or 14 days in now. I don’t know if it is helping either or not tbh, but I want to rewrite my brains dopamine receptors anyways. I gotta be on the hunt when this shit is over , no releasing unless I earn it.

With this quarantine i don’t know what to do girl wise though :( online dating is such a joke right now.

I have been working out, working my job , meditating learning about new ways to make money and how to become a better man. But all I really want at the end of the fucking day is her. Shit is so fucking beta , I can’t. The brain knows one thing and it’s like the heart says nah you want her, please go get her. Even though I broke up with her too - I did it because she disrespected me though and couldn’t let that behavior slide.

Shit is so sad cause I doubt she is even thinking about me. Or maybe she is and I’m just too pussy to make a direct move / don’t want to seem needy and give up all my cards.

I know there will come a time where I will be over it and I will think of her fondly and be like that was fun, but right now I’m just tight because the future that we were supposed to have is now impossible to attain and I really wanted it. I’m in love with the fantasy of her and I’m in love with how we used to be and potentially could be. Shit is just so wack, when you expect someone to love you for you and then learn they only loved your value and they can’t love unconditionally.

I feel mad goofy now for opening myself up Nd being so vulnerable. L

Wish I could meet a new girl with the knowledge I know now and keep things cool. Fuck.

desvenlafax · 2020-05-05T20:27:45+00:00

Monk mode.

FuzzCod · 2020-05-05T21:05:57+00:00

Same, I'm trying to keep myself sane. Exams are coming up so I've got plenty of shit to do. Hitting the heavy bag trying to improve my cardio. And before that just coding all the time.

And most of all, trying to force all this trp in my head. Things like:

- She's not yours, it's just your turn

- She's not special, they are all the same

- Reach abundance and you won't worry about your onenitis

Recently bought the book subtle art of not giving a f. And most of all that I am a pussy and need to man up. And realizing all the blue pill shit I've done.

bigdudecfc · 2020-05-05T22:19:08+00:00

Listen to some Patrice o Neil....bro,your perception will not be about oneitis anymore but self respect and taking Ls

dzkkne · 2020-05-06T00:57:20+00:00

You are not in a rush. It’s time to concentrate on yourself and think. You are not missing out on any pussy man so stop worrying about it.

It’s great time to train your brain to concentrate on your own priorities and build from there.

TheH1dd3nFear · 2020-05-06T02:48:34+00:00

Monk mode bruv

spartan_samurai · 2020-05-06T08:23:58+00:00

This is your mental strength test period mate. You don't have any pussy supply in lockdown so there are millions other people like you who are going through the same situation.

Try to focus your attention in improving yourself, you can read books or learn cooking. Just don't let your brain having thoughts about your ex beacuse she ain't give a fuck about you.

What's the point in wasting your time on online dating during lockdown, you not gonna see her as much you would like. Chances are girls on online dating apps are busy feeding their ego by chatting with their many orbiters.

TheChinkLord · 2020-05-06T09:10:25+00:00

There are plates everywhere. Take your pick! Just make sure you don’t bring this type of attitude near them or you’ll be getting oneitis again!

RedJourney23 · 2020-05-05T21:27:14+00:00

Been there. Still kind of there. Although my state is opening back up now so I will be in a mad dash this summer trying to collect plates.

My advice is to either get off social media or block her. Anytime the thought comes up, meditate a little bit or do something else. Remind yourself of all of the negative qualities of her and why it's best that she's not in your life. Good luck bro

Title	Oneitis during lockdown is actually doing my head in. I can’t even go find plates🤷‍♀️ what the hell can I do 😅
Author	MrMonkeyMan7
Upvotes	9
Comments	24
Date	May 5, 2020 6:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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