TL;DR: I've improved my life to the point where I would be a great addition to any social scene yet my friends seem to actively not want me around by not inviting me and/or considering me at all.

I'm part of a large friend group. 20+ people all in their late 20's. We've all known each other give or take for over half a decade and some even more. I've always been very good with people, reading situations and also held in a high regard with most people. I don't step on anyone's toes, form genuine bonds and would rather help you have a good time rather than me. Yet.. my issue is that I don't seem to get considered amongst anyone in my friend group. I don't get invited, people forget that I exist, I feel used, discarded and I don't seem to be much fun to be around. Overall, it's affecting my psyche and my future approaches to hanging out with friends.

I've had this "problem" in multiple facets of my life for as long as I can remember (school, work, extracurricular etc.) and I've never sought advice or help. One, being because this issue is quite trivial in it's nature and not much to care about when the day's over. The second being when it did bother me, I'd always look within to find more fixes to this problem.. i.e. have more charisma, partake more in conversation, don't be an asshole, make people around you comfortable, listen more, be caring, be interesting etc.

When I do self reflecting I realize that I have a good head on my shoulders and I'm honestly proud of the traits that I possess. I know that I would want to subjectively have ME around. I'm always talkative and trying to keep social, I have a hot GF that my friends like, my own car that I offer to drive people in, I'm athletic, have my own place, more thoughtful about other people than they are of me, I always add to the scene, I'm the first to offer to pay for something, witty, generous, and overall a lovable asshole. This is the vibe I get whenever I'm out with my friends. But the only problem is is that I feel that I need to always have to invite myself and ergo feel that I'm potentially intruding because actions > words. If and when i do invite myself to anything, it's met with positive reinforcement and everyone SEEMS to enjoy my company due to the things I've listed.

This weekend is what made me break because twice in the same weekend I got "forgotten" about. I got invited to a party on Friday but then no one told me when and where to show up.. All my friends were there and when that got brought up from me, people said "oh I thought we told you.. haha". The second incident was today where a few of my close friends all went to the beach with their GF's and didn't bother asking me if i wanted to come too. They asked earlier this week part of our group chat and I said I was down.. but fast forward to today and they are all there and I never heard a single word back - they even asked someone else outside of our group chat!

I've been quietly letting myself be tortured with examples like this for years on end.. and no it doesn't seem to happen with everyone else, just me. I've tried to engage in more frame control and stoicism so to not let it bother me.. but I do see myself using more logic that I'm probably not worth having around. I value being social, being out with friends and around good energy. Even though I can't see much more other ways that I can make myself become more noticeable.. I still keep on trying.

For anyone that has a seamless social life and has people always inviting them out.. Please offer your advice.