Y’all I did everything RIGHT. Talking to a guy for 2 months. Set my standard of not having sex until we could both commit to being exclusive, and he respected me for it. Wasn’t in any hurry, and held back all the usual feelings of falling head over heels before I got to know him. Gave him the space and time to get to know me too.

And for the very first time IN MY LIFE, I CHOSE.

  1. Doesn’t text for two days and expects me to jump when he says jump?

Sorry, I’m busy.

  1. Compares me to another girl he finds attractive?

I could never.

  1. Makes zero effort to plan a creative date?

I can do better.

  1. I chose to be done with him when I saw that his investment was low quality. He didn’t offer to talk on the phone or FaceTime during quarantine? Insisted on ignoring ‘shelter in place’ and coming over to cuddle?

That’s gonna be a no from me, dog.

And right now I feel nothing but “on to the next one”. No crying at night wondering what I said wrong. No clearing my Friday hoping that he’ll want to hang out. No checking my phone and thinking of clever ways to get his attention.

When a man is quality, he will WANT to share with you, know your mind, appreciate every drop of your attention.

I’d have sex with a simp any day, instead of a boy child who is too insecure to cut me loose or take me on.