I’m so happy to have found this group! I was involved with a LVM and changed the locks on him 1.5 years ago. (Verbal abuse). Since then, I’ve been co-parenting my son and happier than ever. Before finding this group, I had been wanting to discuss this topic with my girlfriends but I feel that my attitude would be viewed as bitterness or hurt from having gotten out of a bad relationship. It isn’t that. It is rational. I’ve dated a lot over the years and when I look back, the emotional manipulation by men detracted from my life. The “chase” for love wore me down instead of building me up. So I’m going to keep kicking ass at work; raise my son to be a HVM and bide my time for a HVM who is worthy of me. If he never comes, I will be just fine— big career, own my own house. I got this. Thank you FDS!!!!