Hi so first hope you all good and keep up the good work, also I'm on my phone so sorry for any bad formatting.

Alright girls hold into your silky underwear cause I need some help here and it's a bit long.

The story is pretty simple, I have had a group of 4 friends all guys from Uni, let call them A B and C ( started uni in 2009 so yea we old) C is half british half Egyptian has always been a selfish argumentative insecure asswhat!! Trust me I dated him for a week, and let's say after man wanted to wait for me outside the toilet and vice versa I broke it off....like honestly I am a grown ass woman I can go to the toilet by myself ^ Anyway, he always was in a relationship, never single for more than a month....sometimes less. He met this amazing girl 6 years ago and we welcomed her in our group first as his girlfriend then as her own person because she rocked and she stayed with him even through his bullshit, soo much bullshit my God.

Fast forward 3 years ago they decided to go to Peru to experience ayurveda or ayueshka, it's supposed to be a hell of an experience ( expensive to boot) where you discover your true self through fasting and then taking a mix of herbal drugs that brings you to the edge and you come back then hopefully Horrayyy Another year went by and they got married yeaay and continued to travel. We all continued to live our life, me and A and B staying more in touch than him.

Then 6 month ago they came back, we meet up and straight away I noticed some things were not aligning, she lost a tons of weight, cut her hair super short, dont speak much anymore and if she does she agree with everything he says. He is addicted to weed and knows it but said some bullshit about not wanting to be part of the Matrix ( hello Keanu would like is shit back) so he smokes all day and off course does nothing much.... now I heard through A that they decided to get into an open relationship....which I thought was a joke but it is trueee and the best part is that, he invited his girlfriend to our A house for her to meet us, I was not there thank the gods!!

Now, I have no problem with people choice in life, however first I hate his hypocrisy because although he said they were in an open relationship which apparently she agreed too, it is only for HIM! When A asked him if she had someone too, his answer was " why would she? " and then tried to justify it by saying in his culture it is normal for man to have multiple wife's.....this guy always said he was British as long as I known him. And the culture thing is even more bullshit because he is from a Coptic Egyptian family so Christian not Muslim and I am from a muslim culture and it's not like that, there are specific things a man has to do to get a seconde wife....not a girlfriend!! Carrying on, I saw him a couples day after that at A house and told him politely that although I respect his relationship I did not want to meet his girlfriend and to please let me know in advance if we doing group outings or chills at A's place if she is going to be there so that I could stay home. I told him that I did not agree with his view, and I did not want to be rude to a person that I have never met and make awkward for everybody, basically to not involve me in his drama, we are not 20years old anymore man. He seemed to agree with me and said he respected my opinion and thanked me for letting him know. Fast forward to 3 days later, I receive a phone call from A who told me that C told him I was rude to him bitching about his life choice, he even shouted at A about why he told me about him bringing his girlfriend.....someone should tell him if he wants to keep something a secret not to invite it to a house full of people. Now A said to him that first even though we all a group, he is way closer to me than to him and secondly, he doubted the fact that I bitched about his life choice, he said knowing me I was being honest and straight forward and that yes the situation with his open relationship was putting all of us in an awkward position. He reminded the dude that, even HE did not agree with his choice, especially because he told him that his wife said that she was not happy anymore and his solution was to get a girlfriend soo yea if it comes to him and his drama or me he will choose me. As you can imagine that did not go down well with the dude who had a temper tantrum like a 5 year old, calling all of us close minded and whatnot and that we were not true friends.

I am astonished at how this guy got from me telling him that yes his life choice are his own but as I dont agree please respect my views to me being a close minded bitch....

Now I am still friend with his wife, and we are supposed to go have a coffee together, hopefully without him, I am wondering how to talk to her about the fact that she should not accept his bullshit and that if she is not happy to leave his dead ass and get back her life. However, I fear that she has gone to deep and will not hear anything I say, I feel like she has given up and thinks this is what she has to live with now and it break my heart to see her like that.

Any advices would be appreciated to get a Queen back to her self!!!