Women Don’t Become ‘Nice Girls,’ They Become ‘Pick Mes’

turquoiseblues · 2020-02-14T03:33:55+00:00

I really like this publication.

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-02-14T15:51:02+00:00

I had an "aha" moment the other day. I grew up very naive and sheltered with secure attachment to my parents. I was taught to be generous, and people in my life (family/friends) were generous with me. Social conditioning to expect less from dudes, plus my naive-ass background led me to YEARS of "well if I give them my best gifts/acts of service/words of affirmation, lay my cards out on the table, etc they will reciprocate and realize how worthy I am of their love!" Nope. I realized certain gifts/acts of service/words of affirmation from me should be withheld until a man earns it. He gets basic respect but trust is earned. He does not get girlfriend or wife privileges. Men are only going to be graced with the gift of my presence until he is properly vetted. He must SHOW me he is willing to pursue and do love language stuff first. Many women are not taught this and don't realize this on our own because we assume LVM and guys who aren't into us think like us.

Edited to add: That article was amazing btw 🔥🔥🔥

Novemberinthechair · 2020-02-14T05:45:07+00:00

She lost me at "...being a pansexual genderqueer..."

Winter_Inevitable · 2020-02-14T17:40:51+00:00

We are looked down on if we are single. I have been single for 17 years, and I get serious looks of bewilderment when I report that to people. The first insult someone will sling at you if you are single is a reminder that you don't have a man. I knew from the time I was 23 (I am now 39) that men only bring me down. That's why I am single.

Title	Women Don’t Become ‘Nice Girls,’ They Become ‘Pick Mes’
Author	greenteaapplepie69
Upvotes	99
Comments	6
Date	February 14, 2020 2:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f3liv8/women_dont_become_nice_girls_they_become_pick_mes/
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