I kept reading this sub while I was dating him and thought I could change a LVM, so to speak. And now I realize I can't. The man said he wanted to slap me, the man who didn't care when I got sick, would openly brag about his sexual pursuits while being overweight, slovenly and overall a disgusting human being.

I'm done. I'm free! Just need him to get his shit out of my place but I finally finished it. I spent weeks being upset at losing his attraction but then I realized I'm not even attracted to him! I wanted validation but now I don't because I am enough for myself. I refuse to have a man who won't tell me how he loves me or misses me but is more concerned about "good vibes only". Living with his parents rent free, slacking off at his job and being addicted to his phone is good vibes only for him.

And as for me? I'm strength training, I upgraded my wardrobe, I'm learning new hobbies, I'm in touch with my culture and my roots and I'm heading home to my family in February. Let him rot where he belongs. I will continue to upgrade myself.