Men, Do Not Touch A Girl’s Ass Without Their Permission

TLDR: Guy grabs my ass after our date to see if I would punch him

Relevant later: Previous to this date, I was actually visiting a friend out of state and we went to a club together. This guy grabbed my ass and I turned around and decked him for it. Him and his friends came over apologizing, and I told them that they have no right to touch someone without their permission.

This was the first date I went on two years ago after my ex and I had broken up. This guy approached me at a bar and seemed nice enough. Biggest thing though was he was super drunk and his breath reeked of cigarettes. Regardless, my friends pushed me to talk to him and give him a chance since I hadn’t dated/tried to date anyone in months. We did bond on a few things, so honestly talking wasn’t bad. As I get up to leave the bar though, he smacks my ass. I gave him a look of disbelief, but my friends pulled me away before I could react.

Cut to about a week later, he hits me up. He offered to meet the next day, but I couldn’t because a coworker of mine had passed and her wake was the next day. He should no sympathy or care and just immediately asked for the following day. I just said fine knowing I had to put myself out there again.

So we meet at this bbq place actually across the street from the bar. We start talking and he is asking me questions from the night we met. I pointed out that he must have been super drunk because I answered all of these. Then he goes “yea I was really drunk. I vaguely remember slapping your ass as you left...”

I responded back along the lines of “Yes you did. Honestly, I wasn’t sure if I should bring it up because I knew you were drunk, but please don’t do that again. I don’t like people touching me without my permission and the last time someone grabbed my butt, I punched him.”

He apologized and we moved on. He shifts the conversation to our day to days and asks me what my biggest stress is right now. I explained how I was in grad school and juggling three jobs to pay for it. His biggest stress was the fluctuation of the weather and his fear of his weed plan dying...

We get the bill and head out. It was still early at that point so he asked me if I wanted to walk to his house (it was around the corner). I agreed to just to sit somewhere and talk. I just met his roommate and he showed me his weed plant. As we go to leave his house, he holds the door for me and I walk out first. OUT OF NO WHERE, he smacks my ass. I had my keys between my fingers and went to punch him, but stopped. He goes “I wanted to see if you would punch me.”

Wtf. He walked me to my car and goes to try to kiss me. I said no and left the car. He hit me up later saying that he wanted to go on another date and I said nope. Surprised that he never hit me up again (kudos to you douche).