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Enthusiastic Consent is the vocabulary word of the day.

MuffinSongs · 2019-11-21T23:55:47+00:00

When we say no, we mean no! Not ask nicer. Not pester us relentlessly. Don't beg. Don't hump us. (WTF) Please don't assault us and do what you...

MuffinSongs

November 21, 2019

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Title	Enthusiastic Consent is the vocabulary word of the day.
Author	MuffinSongs
Upvotes	81
Comments	10
Date	November 21, 2019 11:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dzsfld/enthusiastic_consent_is_the_vocabulary_word_of/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/enthusiastic-consent-is-the-vocabulary-word-of-the.688099 https://theredarchive.com/post/688099

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[–][deleted] 37 points38 points39 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]MuffinSongsFDS Disciple20 points21 points22 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[+]internetinterpreterPickmeisha™️-14 points-13 points-12 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]MuffinSongsFDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link

[+]internetinterpreterPickmeisha™️-12 points-11 points-10 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Your unenthusiastic consent is going to get you physically hurt.

Using the socially acceptable excuse of cooking food, doesn't excuse you pretending to be naive about his intentions. You knew he wanted to fuck. Why else would he invite you home -and cook for you? I think you could save yourself from possible rape by seriously deciding if you actually want to sleep with a guy before going back to his house alone with him. Like, reeeeally think hard about it.

Honestly, it sounds like you just wanted attention, and hey everyone needs a little. But it also sounds like you led him on. You left the safe zone of paid dates in public, let him cook intimately for you, and consented to a private massage. Do you know that you are setting yourself up for danger if you don't feel 100% right?

This sub is designed to help you date smarter. Stop going home with men unless you want to fuck them. You'll probably save yourself from more assault. I'm sorry if this is harsh, but you need to hear it

[–]Hypohapa2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Using the socially acceptable excuse of cooking food, doesn't excuse you pretending to be naive about his intentions. You knew he wanted to fuck. Why else would he invite you home -and cook for you?

Because he wanted to cook and hang out with her in a comfortable place without having to worry about public appearances? Why do people love to pretend like people never go over to one another's places without sleeping together? You're NOT "leading someone on" just by going over to their place without the intention of sleeping with them. Hanging out privately and accepting a back massage is NOT consenting to being groped everywhere, especially if she clearly says "Okay, but nothing more" and repeats "NO" when he tries to reach for her butt. /u/MuffinSongs is putting herself at risk by giving out signals that make it easy for a male to violate her boundaries and pretend that he didn't know it was wrong, that is true, and you warning her of this is a good thing, but your victim-blaming tone and you actually implying that the guy wasn't really in the wrong because she "led him on" is completely uncalled for and very dangerous. And this whole "you led him on because you wanted attention, now look what happened" sounds extremely incel-ish and pick-me like. The problem with your post isn't just that it's "harsh". And she does need to hear this, but she needs to hear it from someone that won't warn her while trying to put twisted incel-like thoughts into her head.

[–]Blackishcat27FDS STRATEGY COACH0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Blackishcat27FDS STRATEGY COACH2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Blackishcat27FDS STRATEGY COACH0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link