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WHOLESOME CONTENTBlackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:43 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEBlackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:54 AM
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Blackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:38 PM
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Blackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 10:17 PM
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LEVEL UPBlackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:11 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVBlackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:46 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEBlackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:26 PM
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Blackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 08:26 PM
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DISCUSSIONBlackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:39 PM
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Blackishcat27/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:28 PM
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22

All I have to say is stay the fuck away from any Marines!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:36 PM
9

Oh really? Every time I see someone run a stop sign or change lanes without signaling or go way over the speed limit or treat a neighborhood street like a race track or breath down my neck on the freeway it's always always a male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:55 AM
4

Truer words were never spoken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:08 AM
22

That's what I think too. It honestly sounds like victim blaming to me and it's wrong. Down vote me, I don't care. We have no idea what this woman has been through. For all we know he was absolutely lovely until they married. It takes lots of time and courage to escape an awful relationship. Ask me how I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:20 PM
6

What a monster! I hope karma gets his ass quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:15 PM
3

FUCK that. I'd rather die alone! Also not true at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:10 AM
3

Fuck?!!!!! Seriously?!!! That would be an instant divorce as far as I'm concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:09 AM
2

I have high functioning autism. You would never know by looking at me. Also a high school drop out. I'm now in my junior year of college with a high gpa. Also congratulations OP. That's really fantastic. Being self sufficient is so so important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:11 PM
4

Also maybe point out to him that breaking up if he doesn't like her is much much better than wasting more of her time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:05 PM
6

This is really sweet and selfless. there's no way her boyfriend has a lot of money. He's young and young people aren't usually well off. He's doing whatever he can to help her and I'm sure it's a genuine sacrifice for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:07 PM
19

I always wondered why they had such a problem with it. This explains it flat out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:12 PM
9

I tried some new wines this week, had fun with hello fresh cooking boxes am going to a nature conservatory today and am going to do some paint by numbers kits with my children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:09 PM
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What an absolute hypocrite! That whole jab at autistic people pissed me the hell off as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:56 AM
2

Every time I hear something like that I call 911 because it can so easily escalate into physical violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:10 PM
4

Please please please follow the instincts that will protect you. Unless there's a legally binding document stating you're married birth control is the way to go. There's literally no reason at all why you have to share that you're forging ahead with bc. What he doesn't know in regards to this won't hurt him. Protect yourself please! Also your pro life boyfriend would probably be okay with throwing a woman in jail for not wanting to die from birth complications so really really think about whethe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:02 PM
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My apologies. As it turns out I was misinformed. I'll delete my comment. I don't want to give out bad information!.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:44 PM
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He sounds like a nightmare! I'm sorry that relationship didn't work out for you but congrats on leveling up! 💚💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:26 PM
9

They'll say anything to gaslight you into thinking porn is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:18 PM
2

more about HVMing either from women about men who are HVM. I think way too much attention is given to lVM's here. Maybe not everyone thinks this way but I believe that you Attract what you think about. Strategies for filtering are fantastic and I would love to see more of those too. Too much about LVM and women can start to feel discouraged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:13 PM
37

Flatout RAPE! She should sue the hell out of him for medical damages!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:55 PM
18

You made the right call. He went out of his way to destroy something you love and tried to mask it as just joking. Fuck that dude and I don't mean literally. You deserve Soo much better. What he did was abusive. Look up signs of emotional abuse. One of the signs is destroying a partners things. Stay strong and don't go back to him ever! This is the kind of person who would eventually kill you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:36 PM
6

Exactly this! My husband is really sweet and I swear he's even more cuddly than I am after sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:29 PM
2

What a complete asshole and that last line about just casually having an abortion for his benefit! I'm pissed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:23 PM
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Exactly! I've struggled with it all my life but somehow manage to be kind to people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:15 PM
2

Also even if I were still actively Mormon people should be able to make their own decisions. You never know what someone is going through or why!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:36 PM
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Not Mormon anymore for so many different reasons they're too long to list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:35 PM
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My husband and I married when we were active Mormons. I just discovered a few days ago that he's genuinely pro choice as am I. Bless him! It made me so happy to hear that. I know he has my back and is for equality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:36 PM
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Life goals! You're never too old to go after your dreams! I'm going to look them up now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:33 PM
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Right! So we're all supposed to bow down and agree to anal just so they won't cheat? Yeah, fuck that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:29 PM
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That's beautiful and made my day! I hope he's as great as he sounds. It's awesome that he wasn't afraid to show you his enthusiasm either. Definitely a green flag as in some ways he's showing vulnerability and openly showing you who he is. It also shows emotional availability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:26 PM
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My husband actually had to point the last part out to me because I would get so riled up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:19 PM
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I fucking hate this song so so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:17 PM
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So his car window was more important than his daughter? Hope he rots in jail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:13 PM
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I constantly tell my son who's ten stories like this. They're definitely true stories. He's a great kid but no one is perfect. He has a typical ten year olds aversion to vegetables. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:58 PM
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I think maybe you all found your 2021 theme. 🤣. Happily married here. I just haunt this sub to help others. I've been through way too much and learned valuable lessons from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:58 PM
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The toilet was actually clean!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:31 PM
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That word "gentle" has gotten me into trouble as a woman far too many times! I wouldn't worry about being gentle. It needs to be about self preservation at this point for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:30 PM
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Do you have to ruin everything for me? Lol. Ugh. I didn't even think about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:01 PM
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That's flat out rape!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:57 PM
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It does. It absolutely does! I'm sort of a stay at home mom but I've been doing gig work and have started to save whatever I can from that. Also researching and following up on ways to make money work for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:53 PM
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Here's to hoping he burns up n hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:50 PM
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Damn turns out Ursula may actually be high value or almost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:57 AM
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I love Mulan! Watching it was actually a huge turning point for me as a child. I grew up in a heavily patriarchal society and watching Mulan made me feel like I could be a badass too and didn't need a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:55 AM
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A church dance surprisingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:11 PM
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Ethical my fucking ass! There's nothing ethical about abandoning your wife who you made promises too to chase this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:24 AM
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Well, someone ratted me out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:12 PM
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Time to get a new phone number!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:56 PM
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You'll get through this! You will heal! It'll take a lot of time but you will. I strongly strongly suggest blocking and deleting both your ex and his partner. Keeping communication open will make the healing take longer. I love your name for your car by the way. Throw yourself into hobbies, books, food, redecorating, whatever you need to stay busy. Hugs. Sending positive healing energy your way. You've got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:55 PM
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it's okay. I'm sorry you went through that! Shame has it's place but not here. it takes strength to get out of a toxic relationship! try not to beat yourself up, that can lead yoy to other toxic relationships. I hope you find joy and your healing is fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:22 PM
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Bullet dodged! As far as I'm concerned using the word count is an instant deal breaker even if you've been married twenty years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:22 AM
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Okay, you can't! This is a one way ticket to getting trapped in a miserable relationship thinking he'll change if I do x, y and z.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:24 PM
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As a Mother I just want you to know that I greatly appreciate people like you. I respect your choice to be child free. Why is none of my damn business. Thank you for doing it the high value way. I hope all good things come your way and I'm sorry the group you wanted to join turned out to be such a shit show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:12 PM
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This pisses me off sooo much. Shame on them. I'd be willing to wage war over this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:41 PM
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My husband is an ISTJ. I love how reliable he is. He keeps me grounded and helps me find ways to hash out my goals in ways that'll actually work. Dreamy Pisces INFP here so I appreciate it alot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:07 PM
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Where is her self respect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:03 PM
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This is stellar! Also seems like a great filter to avoid abusive jackasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:22 AM
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So you have what it takes to marry a prophet? Is he starting a cult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:07 AM
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I mean I know this is disgusting but I'm highly interested in the step by step process and products involved. That's a cleaning blog I would read!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:10 PM
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The infj door slam is life saving. INFPs and INFJs have a bad habit of dealing too much with horseshit from people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:01 PM
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Look relapses are normal. Beating yourself up will only lock you in bad patterns. Forgive yourself and do better next time. Shame can make you behave in ways that are detrimental if you're not careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:55 PM
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That completely undermines what Black Americans are dealing with. The two shouldn't be compared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:30 PM
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That last two hurt my heart. I'm really glad you got out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:15 PM
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I don't know you all. My dad was a Pisces. True high value husband and father all the way. My roommate on the other hand who is also a Pisces....I feel sorry for anyone who gets involved with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:09 PM
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Did he crap in the tub? Is that what that is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:49 PM
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Especially women! I think it's part of why we're more likely to stay in abusive relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:29 PM
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The thing is even just saying that could put her life in danger. Fucked up but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:44 AM
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I genuinely don't see anything wrong with this. Maybe he's planning on spending time with his family or friends earlier in the day or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:07 PM
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If men experienced first hand all the stress and pressure that goes into getting ready for a date as a female or even half of the danger they would be more than willing to pay for a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:03 PM
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Ugh. Just a male using the word simp is a huge huge red flag. Those guys will never treat you right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:14 PM
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This could actually make a difference. I genuinely hope it does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:09 PM
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For those of you more skeptical feel free to skip. I use a validation meditation from cups of consciousness to help balance my chakras.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:07 PM
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Gotta at least give him props for being honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:43 PM
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I like those three things too. There's nothing wrong with that. His arrogance on the other hand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:44 AM
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My son is ten. I'm already trying to train him to take initiative with household chores. We have talks about why explicit content is not something to look at. It's taken a few months of immediate consequences when he doesn't clean up after himself. He now cleans up after himself with no prompting. We talk about sexism. What it is and why it's wrong. We've had talks about girls not owing him anything, not even a kiss just because he paid for dinner. We talk about how babies happen even sometimes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:28 AM
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Did you find my roommate's toiletries?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:50 AM
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She'll care after she's had three of his children and is ten years older. I promise you she'll care then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:45 AM
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Absolutely true. I don't stalk the MGTOW page anymore but redpillers and MGTOW will pull this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:49 PM
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Sounds like horseshit. He's looking for an excuse to watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:44 PM
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I'm so sorry and you just worded what I was thinking about on the red flag side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:38 PM
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It may be it may not be. These guys may just feel that sex shouldn't be some casual thing that gets thrown around everywhere. I wouldn't weed people out based on this alone. If anything it could possibly be more of a green flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:37 PM
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Thank you for pointing that out. I completely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:00 AM
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There's a strong possibility that he's married. Why else would he not want you to visit? Run and don't look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:26 PM
7

Exactly this. I love my daughter so so much. Just her existence is repayment enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:13 PM
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Right. An iud could cause complications. There's also the depo shot. It's untraceable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:01 PM
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Actually I'm sure he could find a way to track the phone. Is there a friend or family member who would be willing to get you a phone? Just one of those cheap month to month ones from Walmart or Target? It's critical that he doesn't have your number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:59 PM
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Good grief. Is it too late to save this girl? She needs us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:53 PM
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He's going to wreck that poor girls life. No doubt she's bought into fake feminism if she's proposing to him. I feel awful for her and I hope she levels up and runs like hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:50 PM
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I actually did this to my husband. 🤣I started wearing more feminine stuff, doing my hair and wearing makeup after we got married. I wanted to make damn sure he liked me for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:41 PM
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I'm fascinated. I want to hear this. Whenever you're feeling up for it if course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:52 PM
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No doubt this guy has been brainwashed by the MGTOW cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:20 PM
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The thing is though, how do you protect it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:05 PM
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Yes. It frustrates me. I have two children. We can all get along just fine. I respect everyone's right to be child free as long as they're not a jerk about it and don't think they have more rights to public establishments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:52 PM
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Yes please. I agree. I'm completely shaken up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:43 PM
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Well that's it you all. I'm officially done having children. This world is way too fucked up. Also what can we do? Seriously fuck this. I want to take action. To start with Amazon has lost all of my business unless they fix this! Maybe even than. Let everyone know about this and call for a boycott to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:35 PM
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Thank you for ruining Mulan for me. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:19 PM
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Nice retort though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:17 PM
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One thing I strongly strongly recommend I'd making sure that you have your own hobbies and interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:23 PM
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He sounds nice and I'm happy for you. Just please be aware of love bombing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:01 PM
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I can see why this might make you uncomfortable. However a man being willing to pay is one way to test how serious they're about you or how into you they are. Let's not forget that getting ready for a date is much much more expensive for a woman than a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:06 PM
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Are YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? Right. Because everyone totally shows who they really are right away. I'm livid, absolutely livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:47 PM
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He's such a liar. Drinking alcohol flat out weakens your aura and messes with your chakras in a bad way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:16 PM
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The entitlement is it any unreal! Love your retort though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:54 PM
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WTF? She's beyond georgous. He's just threatened by her and is trying to bring her down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:28 PM
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Leaving. Immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:32 PM
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Seriously! What is it with people? Dating during the pandemic isn't high value. It's selfish. I can't say it enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:37 PM
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Checkmate! I sense a divorce in their future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:49 PM
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This is flat out rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:55 AM
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Honestly he doesn't sound great and you don't sound happy. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:31 PM
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I hope she divorces his ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:07 PM
10

FUCK THAT! I'd rather die alone. Same with regular porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:44 PM
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His inability to write a real sentence is astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:07 PM
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There's no such thing as a high value date during a pandemic because anyone high value isn't dating right now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:04 PM
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You want stuff to do away from people? If you live near a clean lake paddle boarding is amazing. Highly recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:37 PM
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A Gemini actually! Shocking I know. What makes it even more amusing is I'm a Pisces. My dad was a high value Pisces. Best husband to my mother and dad and stepdad anyone ever could have asked for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:33 PM
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I'm sorry you have to deal with that. If my son half-assed something I'll make him do it again. He's learned he's not saving time by half assing anything. One time I woke him up because he said he cleaned the kitchen and didn't do it properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:30 PM
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Full disclosure I didn't read the whole thing. The only line I needed was "breaking things when he gets mad." It's no wonder you feel stressed and repressed. You're definitely not free to be yourself. This is emotional abuse to say the least. You're life will be better and happier without him in the long run. Break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:23 PM
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Well that's both mysoginistic and misandrist of him. My ten year old son is so so loving, protective and paternal to his little sister it's crazy. I genuinely thought they would fight all the time or not get along but he's very nurturing to her. He definitely looks after his sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:11 PM
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Do yourself a huge huge favor and forget about that garbage fire. Stalking it will only mess with your head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:18 PM
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Nope out of there. He was obviously trying to hide it from you. Don't make excuses for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:27 AM
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Right. Worked well for my parents. Both Pisces. They were together for 35 years until my dad died. He was so selfless and loving. HVM all the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:15 AM
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Good. I'm on the right track. Teaching my son to cook and grocery shop. He's ten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:02 AM
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He sounds emotionally unavailable. I wouldn't keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:57 AM
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Hell yes! I totally forgot about that show. Everything she does is painfully cringe worthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:55 AM
5

Marge Simpson. Damn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:51 AM
21

This seems like a great way to get trapped in an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:32 AM
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YES!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:42 PM
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My husband's a Gemini and he's actually very high value. I'm a Pisces. We're the strangest match ever but it works. Lol. My low value ex was a Capricorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:34 PM
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I don't think it's extreme at all! I've heard entirely too many horror stories about lives getting ruined because of financial irresponsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:11 PM
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I'm with you actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:15 PM
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Run fast! Don't overthink Think this through. You may be child-free, you may not. You may change your mind. Whatever your decisions there's literally no reason to stay involved with this guy. Always think about the future and how it may shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:06 PM
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Look on the bright side. They're waking up. Also it takes time to realize that when you've been brainwashed your entire life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:53 PM
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It's not good for anyone. Particularly women though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:52 PM
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I'm so so sorry. That is beyond fucked up. I'm also really glad you're not considering joining or anything. I grew up in it. It's a fantastic way to be on a permanent never ending I will never be good enough or perfect enough shame spiral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:51 PM
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Poor woman. She's lovely and deserves so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:35 AM
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This makes me super happy. I was wondering if they were still together. They were hands down my favorite couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:39 AM
2

Mason jar salads. Make them for the whole week at the beginning. You only have to do the work once and have delicious lunch for the rest of the week. They have to be layered right to stay good though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:18 AM
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Listen more than you talk if you can. You'll learn so much by doing this. Good and bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:12 AM
1

I'm curious about the Nokia cell phone. Why is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:08 AM
2

I have asbergers too. With lots of time and practice you'll learn how to read people and listen to your intuition. Run from this guy and don't look back. For some reason his casually approaching you while you were grocery shopping seemed like a disregard for boundaries. The fact that he's pressuring you and refusing to take no for an answer...huge red flag and the age difference is another. You did well. Now stick to your guns and don't cave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:06 AM
5

Yes! 100 percent. To that I would add that if a guy is an aggressive driver stay away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:58 PM
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This pisses me off so so much. Way to support rape culture. Ugh. Also, dump his ass already!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:55 PM
2

The taxes thing is horseshit. Everyone pays taxes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:54 PM
3

Ugh. My daughter has a baby girl that she's so gentle and loving with and is already saying she wants to be a mom. I didn't deliberately push this on her. Her grandma gave her the doll and I didn't take it away. Kicking myself now. Although my son played with them too and is now learning to cook. He's very paternal and nurturing for a ten year old but he spends so much time with me. His dad is very loving too but I've definitely had more of an influence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:45 PM
2

Way to go! Small steps are always the way forward. You should totally watch Britney runs a marathon if you haven't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:33 PM
19

Dudes having a fucking affair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:32 PM
2

Yeah...I wouldn't be friends with this dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 07:39 PM
5

I'm dying 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:46 PM
11

You have the inner strength to raise your daughter without him. I promise you do. Try not to worry too much about the debt right now. Just please please for your sake and your daughters get the hell out. Even if you think you're weak, you're not. You can do this! Everyone else has already given all the practical advice needed. We've got your back and you can come here for emotional support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:38 PM
2

I was actually thinking that too. Feels inauthentic to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:29 PM
12

That poor girl. This is so upsetting! Three months? With a daughter? Did she get dropped on her head as a baby or something? I have children. If my husband died I'd wait until my kids moved out to try to date if at all. It's not worth the risks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:17 PM
24

Two words. Covert narcissist. Run like hell and don't ever look back! If a guy only wants to talk about themselves that is bad news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:22 PM
3

Also I don't get the women there who think that just because they have children doesn't mean they're allowed to have hobbies or do anything fun. It's called balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:12 PM
0

Look, until you've heard your own child bitch about what you're serving every single day you don't get to judge. After awhile it can definitely wear on you. I cherish my children. They are loved, wanted and cared for but I am not going to listen to my son's entitled attitude about what he's eating when there are children starving. I'm not running a damn restaurant. He can deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:09 PM
8

We're all here for you. You can do this! Also I don't know what it is about women but we always feel like jerks when standing up for ourselves. Guilt is how they trap you. You've got this. Get past the cat crisis first I guess if you're do inclined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:57 PM
7

That's flat out child abuse, sexual abuse at that. Someone call CPS on her ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:31 PM
7

The way he talks about his daughters mom?! Just no! Run away from this dude as fast as you possibly can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:30 PM
17

Who cares if you sound crazy or needy. Men always try to use those words against us. Don't let them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:00 AM
3

Dump him and move on. You deserve so much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:00 AM
28

Do your heart a big favor. Stay away from this boy. It's only going to end in heartbeat for you. Throw yourself into a hobby. Any hobby. Focus on your friendships more. Get more education. Things are not going to change with him. I'd also strongly suggest why men love bitches. It should be required reading for you. I'm concerned that you're getting your self worth from what a boy feels or thinks about you. Work on that self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:32 PM
41

To each their own I guess. My dad was so lovely, gentle and kind. He said he didn't want his kids to be afraid of him like he was his dad. Same thing with my husband. His dad is a living garbage fire. My husband had to work really hard to overcome it but he's a fantastic dad now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:40 AM
30

I'm American. That's divorce worthy as far as I'm concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:35 AM
5

Right. The Myer Brigs personality profile. It's really really irritating when people use it as an excuse to be an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:56 AM
1

Sheer evil. If he hasn't raped anyone, he's well on his way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:58 PM
2

Someone needs to have her license revoked. WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:52 PM
53

Hollywood movie stuff isn't real but it sounds like he's sincere and really does love you. Congratulations. I'm super happy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:44 PM
11

Same here and I wasn't being rude or anything! It made me so mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:30 AM
2

Yep. If my husband died I will never get remarried. Ever. He's fantastic but it's not worth the risk to my daughter and my son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:04 AM
6

I love Mulan. Best Disney movie ever. Both of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:38 PM
11

I would buy your parenting book. I learned something to work on with my children just now. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:36 PM
1

Not at all weird. You just learned faster than most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:46 PM
8

It honestly depends on the man. My dad was actively Mormon and was high value through and through. My husband and I grew up in it but are out now and he's also high value. I think for someone whose religious the big danger is assuming they're a good person because they say they're Christian or whatever religion it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:48 PM
4

Right there with you. This is an intense level of codependency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:37 AM
8

It's probably too late. Time to start over. He'll only end up resenting the change. Also just saw that last comment about him feeling the need to remind you how much he spends on you. He's score keeping and that never bodes well for a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:26 PM
2

I use to stalk the MGTOW sub. It was like a train wreck I couldn't look away from. That led me here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:48 AM
3

This is satire right? Please, someone tell me this is satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:46 AM
17

He looks like a serial killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:51 AM
4

This isn't exactly fail proof but you can look up or study FBI profiling to help you read people or know when they're hiding something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:50 PM
3

I've heard this about Pisces men too but my dad was an amazing Pisces dad. High value all the way. My son is an aquarius and he's only ten but he's very loving, protective and paternal with his little sister. Maybe they're exceptions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:38 PM
11

When I started cooking I didn't know were any of that stuff was either. It's called effort. Also asking for help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:58 PM
5

Listen to your instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:55 PM
3

I'm so so happy for you. I kind of had a feeling that something was up. Anyway congratulations. This is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:32 PM
8

That's really scary. Did you check his basement for dead body's?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:59 AM
2

I wish I could find friends like this. I have no idea where to look though. Covid 19 doesn't help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:27 PM
1

The worst part is that he's making assumptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 10:55 PM
20

Don't make assumptions yet. Go see and find out what's actually going on. Also to address what others have said, refuse marriage if he offers unless he puts your name on the title too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:26 PM
84

I mean I'm all for this but it was wrong to drag the kids into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:22 PM
20

We need that law everywhere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 02:18 PM
1

I'd file for divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:16 PM
6

I didn't even think about this part of it. If he hasn't proposed yet and it's been four years you don't owe him anything. Also work on your fear of being alone. There are worse things. I promise you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:58 PM
2

Do you two do anything fun together? I mean I have times like this in my marriage. I think those boring parts are just part of the ebb and flow of a relationship. Try doing more fun stuff together and see if that helps. It definitely helps me when my husband and I are in a rut. I definitely crave adventure more than him so I'll talk him into trying paddle boarding or an amusement park with me or something. Also I second the therapy suggestion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:55 PM
13

I'd say if you're not ready to break up with him, turn the tables on him. See how he reacts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:36 PM
5

Hell no! You are not being dramatic or overreacting. You deserve respect in a relationship. Dump his ass and live a happier life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:34 PM
22

Has women of the wall been banned too? If not, I'm going for Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:37 PM
10

Dude can't even spell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:34 PM
2

I for sure would have been burned at the stake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:25 PM
1

I'm definitely in the show appreciation camp. I always always show appreciation for my partner when he does something special for me. It motivates him. Also honestly if I weren't shown appreciation for what I do I wouldn't be nearly as willing to keep doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:14 PM
25

My biggest concern for you is in the event that you got into an abusive relationship. We can screen all we want but a tiger doesn't always show their stripes until years later sometimes. The ability to drive is freedom and indepedence when you need it most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 12:05 AM
1

That's actually an excellent point. I didn't think of it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:18 PM
9

I for one would love to see porn become illegal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:58 AM
25

Damn that's dark and extremely fucked up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:47 AM
4

I respectfully agree. This sort of thing is something MGTOW would do. It doesn't make our sub look good and it's an amazing sub and can legitimately save lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:52 PM
11

Exactly. WTH is wrong with her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:39 PM
1

Have you tried calling him out on his shit? For example when he brought up Colorado, you could say something like that sounds great. When do you want to go? If he gives some sort of evasive response go on your trip, I mean go on your trip either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 10:31 PM
5

I don't know. My husband's like this but I know for a fact if we were in danger he would protect us even if it meant his life was forfeit. So I'll forgive him the bug thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:46 AM
10

You have to value yourself in order to be high value and stay away from toxicity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:13 PM
1

I mean fair point. i got defensive because a lot of people think Wiccans are satanists which isn't true at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:40 PM
6

Exactly. If a guy refuses to use a condom, dump his sorry ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:34 PM
20

I'm sorry but I call bullshit. This is like saying men cheat because their women don't fulfill their needs. That shits never okay. Expecting to be treated with respect? Absolutely. Expecting love and kindness? Of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:12 PM
29

How would you do that without him finding out if you are married and file joint taxes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:11 AM
6

There's nothing wrong with liking Disney movies. Video games in moderation are fine. As long as he's not ignoring you or responsibilities for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:19 PM
3

Same right? Sounds more like a potential INFP than autism. Some people are like this. Myself included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:13 PM
5

This has literally nothing to do with the topic. An introvert is not autistic by default.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:12 PM
4

The best thing you can do is leave him alone so he can heal. Sometimes things don't work out. That's life. I can tell just by reading everything you wrote that taking him back would lead to heartbreak in either direction. If you want to be single than be single. Let go of your guilt. It sounds like you've learned a valuable lesson. Learn it and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:08 PM
2

what a monster!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:06 PM
7

I'd go for the first date. If they can't handle you being a Wiccan they're an uninformed idiot whose not at all worthy of your time. Too many uninformed people have the wrong idea about Wiccans. Anyway I wish you the best of luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:27 AM
7

Exactly. This is divorce worthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:57 PM
28

You are both very young. As long as he's respectful and treats you like a person I wouldn't worry about not having a whole lot of relationship experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:19 PM
29

If they can absolutely beyond a shadow of a doubt prove that they priotize you and have self discipline and work ethic gaming doesn't have to be an issue especially if the games have an ending. Stay far away from guys who play MMOs or league of legends though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:14 PM
16

Ryan is the absolute worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:45 AM
3

Exactly this. The only way nixed faith relationships work is if everyone involved is genuinely respectful of each other's beliefs and non pushy. It sounds like he's being very very pushy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:06 PM
4

It would be lovely to see his face after he hired a lawyer and they inform him of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:52 PM
9

Especially especially if you can't fucking aim!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:50 AM
3

Not necessarily. They may just be looking for someone kind too. Definitely be on guard though just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:12 PM
16

Don't fall for his lies again. We're all here for you and he's proven he's a promise breaker and just plain awful. You can do this. We're all here for you. Also considering how manipulative he is I think breaking up through text or a letter is warranted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:28 PM
3

It's entirely up to you. It's your life but the one thing I would say to you is that if you don't want marriage ever and you're sure don't take the risk of having a child outside of a marriage. It makes you far too vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:27 PM
13

Drop him. Completely disrespectful. That's a deal breaker right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:12 PM
12

This is fantastic and so funny. They speak the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:26 PM
2

My husband is HVM as was my dad growing up. The thing is no one is perfect. My dad had asbergers and was pretty socially akward but he was so loving, patient, kind and selfless. My husband has the socially akward thing going for him too but he's also very loving, giving and in a lot of ways very selfless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:13 PM
18

Right because dogs are fiercely loyal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:34 PM
9

Exactly. Because cats are awesome. Dogs are alright too I guess most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:32 PM
4

Same here. That would be really great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:33 PM
3

He may not have been great but living on your own if you can is a really really good idea before moving in with someone else. His whole I would have broken up with you thing is ridiculous though. Still encouraging you to live alone for a little while may have been the only valuable thing he gave to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:29 PM
13

Absolute narcissm. That's all this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:37 PM
10

Someone has entirely too much free time on their hands during the pandemic. What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:40 PM
22

Usually though they just put on their headset and literally tune out everything going on around them so good luck having a conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:50 PM
1

I hear you. I'm having the same kind of issues. I go for drives, long ones to deal. Hikes are still allowed. Just stay away from other people and try to cultivate some indoor hobbies to get you through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:46 PM
9

You and I think alike. That's exactly where my mind went.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:43 PM
1

Sure she was tempted but she still had free agency. The whole thing seemed like a dirty trick to me and she made the best of a bad situation, Once again that is if you believe the bible but I'm deeply suspicious that there's any truth to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:19 PM
2

Nope. Absolutely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:32 PM
7

He sounds like he's game for starting a cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:24 PM
9

I'm so sorry. It might sound to you like I'm overreacting but I promise I'm absolutely not. You need to get away from this guy. Pushing you off the couch is abusive behavior. He's treating you like property. His comment about changing your love language? Extremely manipulative and he's selfish for that and for pushing you off the sofa. Even if you replaced that sofa with a bigger one for you both, it wouldn't change his core. Please please op don't overthink this. Get away from this guy if there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:20 PM
14

Agreed. Empathy and genuine kindness I think are more important than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:42 AM
3

It's totally fine not to date. Your self worth is not dependant on attracting some guy. You can do whatever you want with your money right now. Save, travel and stay single for awhile. You have a good thing going with your parents. Don't screw it up. You don't have to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:07 PM
14

Holy hell this sounds like it could turn into I'm a great guy because I don't cheat on you or hit you and everything else about them is a nightmare. He also lied which I take huge issue with. Not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:15 PM
21

Next thing you know they'll be after us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:52 PM
39

Maybe but people who become porn addicts usually start with the soft stuff and it gets sicker and more degrading over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:51 PM
4

Damn. I completely forgot about that. I was raised Mormon so we never really covered that. once I read about it I became even more against religion. It's not like she was asking for anything unreasonable either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:01 PM
1

Is that the lady from love is blind?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:38 PM
14

That woman is scary but bad ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:37 PM
23

Eve from the Bible. She did what she thought was right even though she knew there would be consequences and everyone would turn on her. If it weren't for Eve being brave and following her intuition if you're the sort that believes the Bible if it weren't for Eve we wouldn't be here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:35 PM
45

I used to warn people here but felt like I was giving them free advertising so stopped. Just watch out for phrases like divorce rape, the wall, chads, incels, betabux, betafucks. Questions like what do you have to bring to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:40 AM
20

bloody hell. That is beyond terrifying. As someone who used to be a Wiccan any guy using the word warlock is someone to run far far away from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:31 AM
3

I have the same problem you do. The only real answer is too continually stay on your toes. You're already doing everything else you can do with the grounding and protection. Don't give up hope though. I'm married and my husband's HVM. We just have to filter through more mud than everyone else. Low value people are drawn to empaths like moths to a flame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:36 AM
31

Beautiful and I agree with most of it. I take issue with the idea of twin flames though. That seems like a recipe for disaster and an excuse to have at the very least an emotional affair for someone who thinks they found theirs after several years of being in a loving, healthy relationship with someone else that they married and had children with. I'm also deeply deeply skeptical that polyandry or polyamory could work in an actual high value relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:21 PM
41

I think this might be satire. Hopefully this is just satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:14 PM
25

for reals. Hopefully she finds a way to warn anyone a way from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:10 AM
59

Right? The least he could have done is been upfront about it but I guess that would have ruined his fun. I hope he dies miserable and alone. What a moron!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:56 PM
186

holy Hell. What an absolute sociopath and men bitch and moan about laws favoring women in divorces. Shit like this is why. What a creep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:26 PM
13

Should have opened an only fan's account and when he raged at you told him you'd cut it out when he stopped looking at all that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:38 PM
41

Another classic. Saying you're the abusive one so you start questioning your own sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:52 PM
12

I think it might be time to cut your losses. Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:02 PM
11

You just stay away after you warn her. You did your job so don't get involved in the drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:27 PM
10

Please please tell her. If she makes a bad decision after that's on her but I would want to know for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:25 PM
134

It's amazing to see how many women are socialized to feel guilty for finding creative ways to stand up for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:35 PM
2

I don't agree with everything for sure but I've found some value in things she has written. It was worth filtering through for me but it may not be for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:03 PM
1

Those ageist guys are most likely porn addicted with a tendency towards pedophila. Don't give them a second thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:10 PM
2

This poor woman! Even my low value ex got out his guitar and played nothing else matters by metallic to put effort into his proposal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:07 PM
4

This stupid woman. If it were up to a majority of men she'd never touch a gun or have any rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:01 PM
3

Just a ban from breaking mom's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:58 PM
6

Exactly this! I'd go so far as to say it's more important than anything else in here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 04:15 PM
11

I truly hope this creep dies alone and that anyone he may have found attractive will swipe left simply because he's an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 04:00 PM
22

Got me too. I was genuinely worried thinking this was your story. Some very specific details in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:00 PM
45

That retort is sheer gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:21 PM
10

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:19 PM
29

Block and move on and if you can next time take an Uber or Lyft or drive yourself. Never get in a dude's car, especially on a first date. I'm so sorry. What a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 06:06 AM
1

Exactly and here's the thing. Most guys who are actually HVM aren't going to be online. they're going to be out living life..well maybe not right now but once things are better. People in happy relationships don't spend time complaining online. it's us usually miserable people. Because of all this it seems like there's no HVM left. Remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:45 PM
2

I've been thinking about this and I'm with you wholeheartedly. It's like saying a mass shooter's name in a newspaper. They want attention and they get it. Also, I think focusing on this will make women who are trying to date feel less hopeful. I've always thought the law of attraction was a little hokey but it has some good points. focusing on negativity isn't going to help anyone here. Is that being said posts like how to recognize abusive behavior and red flags? Those are helpful and necessary…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 05:26 PM
5

I love that I'm raising both of my children to be kind and empathetic and mischievous and that my son does things like deliberately befriend the kids that get picked on even though he knows that will make him a target. I love that I'm kind and caring but still have a backbone and am not afraid to tell someone off if they deserve it and that children and animals immediately trust me. I love my singing voice, that I can sing Opera and normal stuff and that I have badass songwriting skills, guitar …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:10 PM
2

Ten. Hopefully, I'm not too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:03 PM
9

Good for you. Same here but different circumstances. I'm now constantly on my son's ass about doing chores and cleaning up after himself and I'm quick to point out bad behavior in movies and stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:37 PM
9

There's a special place in hell for people like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:19 PM
3

That's a good first step. Be brave. You've got this girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:58 PM
20

I got banned too for that too. I didn't even do anything offensive. Ridiculous. We could help them. Too bad they won't let us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:49 PM
2

This is exactly why it should always always be a woman's choice. There's a special place in hell for people like that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:51 PM
6

Good for her for nexting this creep. Being single isn't some damn disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:45 PM
28

Holy hell girl. Please please run from this dude. He sounds insane. I'm so so so sorry that you're dealing with that. Run and run far. You should definitely be worried. Start making your escape plan and make damn sure you don't give him any clues at all. This guy is downright dangerous. If you're not on birth control get some quickly and don't clue him in. I don't know where you live but if you're in the u.s shelters are still taking people in even during the pandemic. If you have friends or fam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:37 PM
28

No idea. Maybe he's thinking about marrying you. I guess I'm not much help here. Just don't let him turn you into a forever girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:27 PM
8

I know a lot of people here despise the love language book but I've found some value in it. It sounds like your love language might be verbal affirmation while he is acts of service. Try to learn each other's language. If that doesn't work than re-visit things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:20 PM
6

Listen to your intuition. Stay away from this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:00 PM
3

Exactly what I was thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:26 PM
26

I wouldn't worry too much. Some people just aren't into social media and that's okay. If anything it could be a good sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:51 PM
29

Have I got a story for you! my first real boyfriend actually kidnapped me and refused to take me back to school for three days. I didn't have a license or car so I couldn't leave and pressured me into sleeping with him. Looked at porn and I later found out he was cheating on me with a guy. thank goodness I didn't get any infections or anything. I almost got kicked from the program I was in as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:34 PM
2

that's true but i was thinking that if he's willing to just leave her in the car like that he might have abusive tendencies and that if he finds the mail first it could be bad, really bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:19 PM
3

A baby can still happen with a condom. I get not liking birth control so i don't know, maybe there's some alternative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:18 PM
2

I don't know. Not sure I would go with anything that can come through the mail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:42 PM
8

I just read your whole post. You're definitely not going over reacting. I'm sorry but he sounds awful. The no gifts or celebrating thing is already heartbreaking but just leaving you in the car while he goes on his bike ride? That's beyond fucked up and controlling and abusive. The good news is you don't have kids. Do not have kids with this guy, ever. His selfishness will only get worse. Get on birth control if you're not and don't tell him m about it. Other good news is you've only spent three…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:16 PM
49

He couldn't wait one second for you to respond? WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 03:01 AM
9

Does he ask you to try weird stuff in bed? Criticise your looks or compare you to other women? Does he last too long in bed, like an hour or more. Is he able to keep it up? Those are all indicators. I wouldn't worry if he doesn't immediately respond to a text. Everyone needs some alone time. As long as he responds back that day at some point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 05:39 AM
80

If he doesn't do anything for your birthday, Christmas and valentine day, he's just not that into you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:52 AM
71

Ugh. Jackass. Obviously you know this already but calling you uptight because you disagree with him...gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:21 AM
10

I'm so so sorry you went through that. Also, super proud of you for getting out. Thank goodness you left when you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:55 AM
6

Pass if he's like that drunk he'll use it as an excuse in the future. It's total bullshit that people can't control their actions when drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:15 PM
3

That and the licking groceries which really really makes me livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:12 PM
137

Exactly this and never ever show your cards. Don't ever tell a man about FDS. No matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:14 PM
19

Fuck these morons. Dying alone is way better than competing with porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:24 PM
5

If you can walk away. Don't tolerate that shit. He's low grade trying to normalize the idea of him cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:46 PM
42

Pathetic. Him acting like no one has ever spilled oatmeal in a microwave. I still do that sometimes but I'm a badass cook. He's just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:31 PM
3

Hey Vina is a great one. Female only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:42 PM
17

Yes, exactly. Please, please tell her! I don't know how much of FDS you've scrolled but a husband like this could easily share pics of his wife in some sick human trafficking ring and she'd end up a victim. TELL. Even if it means you and your boyfriend break up. If he has a problem, he's not as HV as you thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:41 PM
23

Nope. Fuck this! I'd rather die alone with a few cats than ever ever deal with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:42 AM
25

It's like everything else. Take what you find useful and leave the rest behind. You don't have to make it your new religion or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:20 AM
2

So this may be true, however, none of us know why she chose this as a profession. Maybe she has a baby and for whatever reason, this is the only way she can feed her child. I use to judge women who did this harshly and then I watched "Little Fires Everywhere." More specifically the third and fourth episodes and I realized that if I were in that woman's situation, I might seriously consider this to feed my daughter. I never realized just how privileged I am until I watched this show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 07:12 PM
7

Has anyone brought this to operation underground railroads attention? They might be able to help. They're all about stopping this filth in it's tracks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:31 PM
6

Right now it absolutely makes sense to be cautious so I wouldn't hold it against him if he's at least calling and coming up with creative ways to spend time with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 10:52 PM
2

Points for honesty at least!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:48 PM
74

He's not your responsibility. Would he do the same for you? I seriously doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:40 PM
7

yeah, maybe I'm just on a high horse today and need to get down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:41 PM
-2

Thank you! My point exactly. When I brought it up it just got ignored so I think I might be done with this particular Reddit sub. For a place that claims to be empowering and woke it sure insults autistic people a ton. Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:20 PM
-2

Can we stop with the autism insults please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:18 PM
6

They're so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:17 PM
9

I wonder how he would react to a woman who was like cool but you have to do the same?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:16 PM
5

Call me crazy but if someone has a "work wife" or "work husband" and they're married, they're having an emotional affair behind their partners back. I'd never ever put up with that shit and neither should anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 03:00 PM
8

That's really sweet. He actually sounds like he might be a keeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 12:36 AM
7

For the love of whatever you cherish do not tell him! If you're worried about your cats don't leave them. Take them to a shelter. I know that's awful but it's better than leaving them with him. You're not making a mistake, please find your inner strength and never look back! You can do this and it will be rough at first but life will be better even if it takes awhile. If you need someone to talk to or encouragement to continue staying away feel free to PM me if you want. I'm really sorry that yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:48 PM
9

That's fantastic. I know I don't personally know you but I'm still proud of you. High fives all the way. Sincerely, a random stranger on the internet. Also since you've known it's what you want to do since middle school you'll be great at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:39 PM
10

I agree 100 percent. Also using I'm sorry all the time gives away your power and makes you look weak, especially in a professional setting. If you really really really messed up a heartfelt I'm sorry is a good idea but only when backed up with actual change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:37 PM
1

It's time to block and move on. Calling you the C word is or should be an instant deal breaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:04 PM
16

Absolutely. You may miss him and that's okay but don't look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 07:48 PM
4

You may not. It takes guys a long ass time to grow up. Also from personal experience I was always happier single as a teenager. Focus on you, family and friendships. Hobbies and education. Best way to go. I promise you. Worry about dating later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:44 PM
1

I'm so sorry. That sounds really lonely. I'm an introvert but I've always had a great appreciation for extraverts. It's so much easier to keep a conversation going. It's a shame we can't just hang out. I hope things get better for you. In the meantime check out Hey Vina. It's a friendship app for only women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:19 PM
4

If he wasn't interested before, why the fuck should she be interested now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:40 PM
5

Great advice. Also any sort of silent treatment. Run like hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:43 PM
7

Awe, that's rough. I hope you feel better soon. It's insane that women still have to put up with this shit though, isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:10 PM
14

We should call the damn news reporters ourselves, for reals. I'm fed up with this shit. We should do exactly this. People's job performance reviews should be based on their actual ability. Not gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:04 PM
25

I seriously hope someone sues the ever living daylights out of him for discrimination. Fuck people like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:44 PM
5

To each their own as long as no one gives me a dirty look for bringing my daughter to the grocery store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:09 AM
2

Yes and this is one of the worst things women can do. It screams take advantage of me. It's also a really difficult habit to break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 11:37 PM
12

Learning guitar, eating healthier and chasing after my writing dreams through college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:13 AM
35

For reals. I see red when I hear this shit. Some men take ten years or more before they show true colors, than it's too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:54 PM
6

Why don't these women just run like hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:35 PM
7

I might be out of my element here but you could start with commending here for having the bravery to say no when she didn't feel like doing something and thaT she did nothing wrong and that she didn't owe that boy anything at all. If she doesn't know about intuition try to teach her. There must have been a reason why she felt uncomfortable and that her not kissing the boy because of her feeling uncomfortable was following her intuition. I don't know. Like I said I might be over my head here. Als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:34 PM
37

I use to be pro-life. Stories like this are why I'm now pro-choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:17 PM
4

That's fucking ridiculous. There's no way he's not cheating. 3 or 4 vacations a year without your wife? Shady as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:57 PM
1

Yes, do exactly that but wait until her vacation is over. Don't ruin her trip with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:49 PM
0

If you're into flower remedies or willing to try them go to the freedom flowers website and try the confidence blend. It's not going to work immediately but it will work. After about a month you'll see a change in your confidence. It did wonders for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:23 PM
5

Well you escaped an LVM. The trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:19 PM
1

Bloody hell! I can't believe there's some dumbass advocating for this sort of shit show. Domestic violence isn't just physical. It's also emotional abuse. This definitely falls under emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:12 PM
2

Politely let him go. Treat people the way you would want to be treated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:09 PM
12

Cold shoulder blouses are cute, feminine and don't show too much while still being classy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:08 AM
14

Height. There's no height reduction surgery that I'm aware of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:12 PM
1

If you're up for it you should ask for his wife's contact info so you can check and see if she's actually agreed to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:33 PM
4

This is something LVM do to fuck with your head. they will forever and always try to convince you that you were the abusive or toxic one. This dude twisted everything and got inside your head. I promise you, you were in no way being toxic at least from what you've described here. He was the one in the wrong, not you. If you haven't read Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That?" you should. I think it would be valuable reading for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:29 PM
16

Oh, man. He's likely to kill someone. I really hope she chooses her cat over him. Cats live long lives and are very sweet and loving, unlike that trash she's entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:28 AM
10

What the fuck? What's in the water these crazies are drinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:25 AM
59

Also, everyone makes people with BPD sound so crazy. Spoiler? We're not. We just have to work much more on our abandonment issues but it can be done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:22 AM
14

This guy's a fucking idiot! Women who do those things if they got paid for all that labor would make at least one hundred thousand a year. Do these fools know how much a full time personal chef cost?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:55 PM
53

No, you didn't overreact. He sounds like he's MGTOW. Stay far away from those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:01 AM
32

If he's being sincere, nothing but respect for changing his ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:06 AM
35

Libfem is the greatest joke ever played on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:04 AM
32

Ugh. This is a bald faced lie brought sincerely to you by the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:23 AM
5

This is so so sad. that poor ten-year-old! What sort of absolute dirt do you have to be to have no sense of responsibility for your child!? bloody hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:51 PM
3

Same. Marshall is HVM all the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:46 PM
4

I use to love how I met your mother. FDS ruined it for me. I realized just how incredibly misogynistic it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:53 PM
7

What is it with all these guys that can't spell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:08 PM
5

For one there's literally no way to tell for sure that someone in a porn film is there voluntarily. No way at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:35 PM
5

I'm seeing red right now. I'll pay that seven as soon as I can. Hey lurkers keep telling me how porn doesn't hurt anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:24 PM
3

Cord cutting to help with never going back and breaking those toxic ties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:11 PM
23

Same. It upsets me to think that taking Zoloft or something like that is an automatic deal breaker. My dad took that and he was still very HVM. He treated my mother like gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:12 PM
7

Ariel from the little mermaid. It doesn't get more pickmeisha than giving up your voice for some dude you know nothing about! My favorite movie when I was a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:04 PM
2

Playing guitar, paddle boarding on the water, origami, reading and writing poetry,songs and stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:01 PM
1

Ugh and Carl's junior is still just as ridiculously sexist as ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:59 PM
19

Oh man. I seriously got after my ten year old son for doing exactly this the other day. He's a good kid. He's still learning and it takes a lot to teach him. Trying to raise him to be high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:05 AM
16

Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You're smart. I'm exactly the same way. There's nothing, absolutely nothing to be gained for women from casual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:44 AM
9

What a trash fire! I'm so sorry you had to suffer through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:35 PM
77

Poor girl. Mormon culture is an awful thing to deal with when you're a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:26 PM
5

I think it's okay to flirt with him but don't flat out tell him you like him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:52 PM
35

You're intuition is there for a reason. If you think something is wrong it usually is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:25 PM
9

The way they use Joe's voice to get inside your head is absolutely insidious. Please don't pitch fork me but for a few episodes I was sympathizing with Joe which made me aware that that voice is exactly how they get in your head. Abusers. Thankfully I snapped out of it quickly and learned a valuable lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:26 AM
2

Damn. Yes! It's about time. Hold those guys to their own standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:10 PM
1

Hell no. He's in the wrong here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:49 AM
13

He has some nerve. I really really hope she doesn't give in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:37 AM
1

THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:33 PM
7

For the love of God don't go. This could be a human trafficking trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:38 AM
2

Yes. Please do. Save her before it's too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:20 AM
1

Congratulations. That is actually the first step to having a healthy relationship should you decide you ever do want one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:17 AM
14

I love Pink. She's a badass high value woman. One time she stopped a concert because people were fighting and scaring a kid in the audience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:03 AM
9

I'm dying. This is too funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:02 AM
10

That is one of the biggest lies you will hear. At exactly your age I had a boyfriend who watched porn and spoon fed me the same trash. I would dump him but only you can make your decisions. I promise you'll be less miserable if you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:35 AM
2

Are you able to block him and change gyms? It will help your healing process if you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:28 AM
16

I'm so sorry this happened. Don't show your cards ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:57 PM
4

He sounds racist as hell too. Why are blue eyes and blonde hair perfect genetics?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:54 PM
2

Just be respectful and be honest but kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:53 PM
1

Call me crazy but I really thought the boss was way out of line too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:06 PM
26

Exactly. That and all the porn they watch. I don't think any sane woman actually wants to have sex with a guy who's drooling over other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:03 PM
2

Polite no the first time. Second time you have to say no tell them you have a taser and know how to use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:00 PM
5

Ask yourself this. How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Would you be happy about this sort of behavior from him or livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:51 PM
1

I think if it had to be summed up in one word.. selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:44 PM
2

I hope his wife divorces his sorry ass and cleans him out as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:23 PM
6

Hell yes and they do exist. My husband never does this to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:57 PM
51

I'm so sorry. This breaks my heart. I know I can't change your past and I'm just some stranger on Reddit but you are worth it and you are lovely and beautiful. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:14 AM
14

Also a taser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:14 PM
2

Dude can't even use correct grammar or spell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:40 PM
4

I understand where your mother is coming from but if you've never been in a relationship like this you have no idea how difficult it is to get out. It takes a woman an average of 11 times before she leaves an abusive partner for good. The mind fuck tactics these pricks use are astounding. Shame makes it even more difficult to get out. Yours truly. Someone who's been in this hell before. If I didn't have family and friends who showed me love and empathy I wouldn't have been able to leave. Your mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:05 AM
2

That dude looks like sheer evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:46 AM
9

Low self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:22 AM
3

It's about damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:20 PM
14

Agreed. Being with a porn addict would be worse than being alone. I promise you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:04 PM
2

What do these women do to look like that at age 61? She looks amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:59 PM
1

Now. Break up with him now. He's already crossed the line several times. Your life is too short to throw away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:56 PM
9

Oh yeah. I'm sorry but this is definitely wife territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:55 PM
5

Thank you. That's actually great advice. Hopefully my daughter will listen to me when she gets older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:14 PM
6

This is so awful, Everyone should be able to be free of this filth while getting an education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:30 PM
10

Am I crazy for thinking anytime you can see this in any form in public it should be reported to a manager? I mean kids go to these places with their parents or sometimes by themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:28 PM
5

Are they gone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:14 PM
66

Me too, I also took the guy to a fancy restaurant. Thankfully I learned real fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:11 PM
10

It really depends on the anime. My husband is great. Very loving and respectful and he loves anime. He's not into hentai though or anything weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:32 PM
1

It's a good thing. He's trying to be thoughtful and considerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:33 PM
1

There are shelters who will take you in and help you get on your feet. You just have to look them up. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hugs. You are strong enough. You can do this. Please please get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:31 PM
4

More than enough to break up with him. My husband and I have disagreements and arguments but we talk through them respectfully. Also my dad never yelled or cussed at my mother. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:54 PM
1

I'm just against guns in general. How does he store them? Does he keep them safe? IF he does those things and you feel safe around him despite the guns I wouldn't worry too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:05 PM
13

It never ends, does it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:45 AM
1

You're very brave. good luck and stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:59 AM
2

For anyone else reading this comment, I can't stress just how true this is. If anyone gives you the silent treatment run like hell and don't look back. However someone respectfully asking for time to cool off and then giving you a time at which they're willing to revisit the issue, that's okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:58 AM
8

Did we grow up in the same religion? The guy worship in Mormonism is nauseating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:40 AM
2

It's hard to say. Have you seen him when he is angry? That in itself will tell you alot. Still too many guns for my taste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:25 PM
30

This comment alone is why I despise MGTOW. If they could just go their own way without being sexist dicks I'd have no issues with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:28 PM
4

Hell. I'll probably get banned for this or something but I actually agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:04 AM
15

I understand being uncomfortable with other guys getting close like that. I would never tolerate that on my end in a relationship. Him telling you he's going to cheat if you make him wait too long? Deeply deeply concerning. Who cares about his birthday? Because he obviously doesn't care about you. Break up with him now. You're 14 and this guy is pressuring you for sex? Run, please run. Be smart. Also please stay. You can learn so much from the ladies here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:41 PM
3

I'm so sorry but she doesn't sound like a friend. With friends like that who needs enemies? You deserve real friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:10 PM
5

That my self worth is not based on how I look and whether some guy finds me attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:22 PM
17

Run. They're usually narcissistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:53 AM
7

Definitely wait until he says it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:43 AM
3

I'm innocent I guess. I had no idea that was a vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:41 PM
3

It needs to be brought back or something similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:30 PM
7

You're not an idiot and he's a jerk for lying to you. He's definitely definitely watching porn though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:18 PM
7

He genuinely sounds porn sick. It may be time to cut your losses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:16 PM
2

True and if a guy has a weight limit at all they'll just ditch their woman for getting fat even if she's only just had a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:33 PM
7

PLEASE PLEASE RUN! huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:30 PM
8

He's flat out trying to manipulate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:38 AM
27

Uum if a girl is six feet tall and weighs that little she has an eating disorder. He's an absolute moron!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:22 AM
3

Are you able to get a cat or dog? Best way to go although dogs are way high maintenance and will require more of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:27 PM
14

Ugh and than that gas lighting and denial. Was to stand your ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:46 PM
18

Ugh so this! My husband and I took in a young dude who was in danger of becoming homeless and holy shit! I practically had to housebreak him. Peeing on the toilet seat and not wiping it up. Ick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:57 AM
4

This is the most poetic and thought provoking thing I've heard about advertising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:12 PM
12

My biggest hope is that one of his wife's friends recognizes his build or something after seeing this on FDS and outs his sorry ass. Wishful thinking but hey it could happen. She deserves so much better, whoever she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:12 AM
2

I'm the sweetest woman you'll ever meet until someone fucks me over then the claws come out and there's no looking back for me after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:42 AM
3

The fact that he was trying with you while being with someone else is really really bad. Big huge red flag right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:27 AM
11

I remember that post. There are so many stories like this one. Why take the risk at all if it can be avoided?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:15 PM
31

If she's actually right rich is the best way to go that way when they cheat you can take them for all they're worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:02 AM
19

Nope. You did the right thing. He tried to get you into bed straight away and it sounds like he has a compulsive lying problem. Don't second guess yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:27 PM
3

Public place with lots of people around to keep you safe. Do not let him guilt trip you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:28 PM
3

Hell no you're not evil! You're brave and strong as hell! The only way they will stop getting away with this shit is by holding them accountable. What you did took endless courage. You're also helping to keep this from happening to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:12 PM
15

FUCK THAT! I have nothing else to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:08 PM
10

True. My dad didn't make alot of money but what he did make he turned over to my Mother. He took the bus every day so my mom could have the car. My mom was and still is disabled. He selflessly took care of her and would spend time with his kids even after working a long shift at the hospital as a health care manager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:04 PM
15

Yes and the victim blaming that happens at BYU is appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:58 PM
4

I'm irritated. I'm sure what he means by none toxic are complete pushovers. Pisces here and I'm not afraid to tell someone to fuck off when they deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:56 PM
1

Women who love too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:46 PM
12

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Unfortunately his looking at porn is a major major issue because that's where all his sexual energy is going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:50 PM
3

The whole thing is deeply deeply disturbing. We've managed to change a lot as women. I wonder if there is anything we can do about porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:01 PM
30

And porn is supposedly healthy and harmless. I'm so full of rage right now. Porn needs to be shut down for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:32 PM
6

Thank you a much. You ladies are amazing. I've no reason to try this right now but it's good to know that it's there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:26 PM
3

My ex fiancee use to play exactly this game that he's trying to play with you. Six years of my life that I wish I hadn't wasted. Please don't let him guilt trip you or manipulate you which is exactly what he's doing. Don't play his game and try not to let your ego and or pride get in the way of what's actually best for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:18 PM
15

It's possible but there's no true way to tell if it's voluntary or not so I'm assuming it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:59 PM
30

I honestly think if porn did not exist most of our issues with men wouldn't be issues anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:21 PM
47

This has to be human trafficking. There's no way in hell she is there voluntarily. Can we do anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:43 PM
14

Bad idea. You don't have an easy escape if something goes wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:16 PM
22

Music can tell you so much about a person. Especially their anthem. Stay far far away from this person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:26 PM
4

An LDS church dance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 05:03 PM
48

First of all I'm really happy for you so congratulations. Second this reaction of yours is reflective of how you feel about yourself. You are worth it and you're worthy. Tell yourself that over and over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:58 PM
5

What the fuck? This is a joke right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 12:05 AM
14

It's so nice to see things like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:59 PM
9

What a prick . Also what's with the Trump tan?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:56 PM
12

Dump his ass permanently. Remember it's much better to be alone than be with the wrong person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:59 PM
5

I've got the same issue so I feel your pain. I usually try asking people about themselves to take a little pressure off of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:55 PM
24

Yep. Lol. Should we write MGTOW a thank you letter? I'm totally kidding of course. I'd die first but that's how I found this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:50 PM
21

I hope she dumped his porn sick ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:49 PM
25

How can you even understand what he's saying? He sounds like he's on drugs or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:41 PM
2

I know. I didn't think you were saying that. Also every single one of us should be aware of baby trapping so i was just getting it out there. Some women aren't aware that it's a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:41 PM
4

Well to be fair some men don't show their true colors until after a child is born. It's called baby trapping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:02 PM
8

That's an excellent point. It's completely depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:00 PM
1

I hope he gets outed and his wife takes him for everything she can in a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:31 PM
2

Have you tried Hey Vina for finding other women to be friends with. It's a friendship app. No guys allowed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:14 PM
3

That's rough but you can absolutely do this. Stay strong. Distract yourself. One day you'll wake up and it won't hurt as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:11 PM
123

Seriously? Peeing on the floor and refusing to clean it up? I'd file for divorce. No joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:54 PM
48

Is this what the world is coming too seriously? Yuck. Somebody's got a porn addiction. What an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:48 AM
11

I want to be happy for you. O really do. Just watch out for love bombing. Coming on too strong can sometimes be a bad sign. Go in with eyes wide open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:28 AM
1

Semen on his clothes? He's clearly watching porn when you're not around. Even more concerning is the silent treatment. This is a control tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:58 PM
8

Just the fact that he has a passcode and you don't know what it is is a huge red flag. When you ask him pay attention to how he reacts. If he gets highly defensive or way too casual or won't make eye contact or tries to cover his face in anyway whether it be scratching or something else you have your answer. Also there are phone apps that make it easy to hide things on your phone. Don't doubt your intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:53 PM
2

That's fantastic. I may not know you personally but I'm super happy for you that you got that far. Fingers crossed that you get the position. Good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:54 PM
38

And only women will wonder if they're being unreasonable or "bitchy." Men have done a bangup job of making women think their thoughts and feelings aren't worth anything. This dude is going to kill her if she doesn't get away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:47 PM
3

You're only 19. You have you're whole life ahead of you to find someone who's actually good for you. The first step is making peace with the possibility of being alone. You really really need to get away from this guy. He'll only make your self esteem issues worse and probably already has. Your story sounds a lot like the one I had at 19. I really wish this sub had been around back then. One of my biggest life regrets is wasting six years of my life with a LVM. Verbal abuse always always escalat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:13 PM
16

As someone who cooks it takes a lot of time and energy and takes more work then just taking you out to eat. That being said it could be a trick to try and get you in bed. Be aware and be alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:55 AM
49

And this is why women have to have laws to protect them from men's depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:38 AM
3

My husband actually got me a paddle board for the water best Christmas gift ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:23 AM
2

As a ridiculously tall girl I feel this on a soul level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:02 AM
50

Came here to say exactly that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:55 PM
14

And lonelier too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:51 PM
10

Yep. I actually really admire the no fap guys too. At least they're genuinely trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:44 AM
6

That's really sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:42 AM
12

I just took a look over there. I didn't even say anything and got banned which seems really unfair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:42 AM
25

I couldn't have said it better myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:21 AM
3

I missed that the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:09 AM
3

Fuck this guy. fighting the same war my ass. I don't see him complaining about MGTOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:06 AM
10

49 and can't spell. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:53 AM
15

What absolute pond scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:30 PM
1

5 and 6 are my biggest issues with the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:30 PM
18

Porn sick prick. That's the only reason why he would think like that or he's gay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:26 PM
29

Ugh. That line at the end. It's all awful but that's the worst part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:04 PM
7

An amazing game plan. You have plenty of time. Dealing with men can really screw with your emotions even when you are careful and use the advice here. Focus on giving yourself a strong foundation, that way if anything goes wrong in the future you can bounce if you need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:41 PM
51

Guys on the manosphere have flat out said things like " I only like anal because women hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:20 PM
6

I hope this isn't taken the wrong way. Autistic female here. I didn't tell anyone that shit until I knew them really really really well. That's not something you disclose on a first date. I wouldn't hold that alone against him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:08 PM
17

Yep. I'm tall and had the exact same issue. Six feet here. Thankfully I met a great guy who actually thinks I'm tiny. He's got Viking blood so he's ridiculously tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:32 PM
1

There are plenty of children in the world who need a loving home. Adoption would be a great way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:39 PM
88

and naturally MGTOW never ever bothers to mention the cheating on her not to mention how hard she worked to help Amazon get off the ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:39 PM
4

This. My husband and I were dating for only three months before he proposed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 08:13 AM
3

Please for the sake of your children find your inner strength and do whatever you can to get away from this creep. Being alone is far less lonely than being alone in a toxic relationship. It's not too late to make your life better. Get into school if you can. There are plenty of scholarships for women. You can do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 08:07 AM
5

No Integrity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:09 AM
1

He honestly sounds sociopathic. Do everything you can to get her away from this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:28 AM
3

I hate to say this but the mindset he has is extremely shady. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he were cheating. Go to a club he's going to and check up on him or go through his phone or just break up because he sounds awfully controlling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:07 PM
13

Why is that all the fuck boys have appalling grammar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 10:00 PM
7

Yeah but the poor dog. It's not the dogs fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:47 PM
3

I'm sure you're aware already but run like a bat out of hell. I write poetry and everything I write is something I'm feeling or have been thinking about. Writing is never" just words."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:03 PM
45

MGTOW alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:10 AM
15

Agreed not to mention the spiritual and emotional ties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:24 AM
3

Even just a ring is a caution because some guys will give a girl a ring just to get them to shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:55 PM
6

I have mixed feelings about it. Before I met my now husband I was engaged and moved in with the guy. I'm so so glad I moved in with him because I learned very very quickly just how miserable I would be married to him. I'm so grateful that we never got married and that I didn't waste years and years of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:52 PM
3

Hey so maybe this is none of my business and it's off tangit but I had the exact same problem for a long long time. The only thing that helped was eating more leafy greens like spinach, kale, etc and if you're a vegan or something taking an iron supplement might be worth looking into. Mason jar salads are a game changer. It worked for me anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:28 PM
7

I'm livid with rage right now. She's an absolute moron. Does she not realize that procreational abuse is just another abuse tactic that women have to deal with? What if everything is great in your relationship? After having a child your husband slowly becomes a monster and you know you need to get the fuck out? Well biding your time until the women's shelter has some space or you have enough money to move out. In the meantime you have to pretend everything is fine. Stealth birth control is criti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:25 PM
4

Cut him off. I don't know how you feel about things like tarot readings etc but if you're open go see someone who can help you cut ties with this loser. It will free you. In the meantime see if you can find something you love doing to distract you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:03 PM
8

Look up the honeymoon cycle. I may be reading into things but it sounds like he's the abusive type. Stay strong and don't fall for his shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:36 PM
2

Oh hell. I'd divorce his ass in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:19 PM
26

I'd bet you anything that the only reason she acts "Crazy" is that he keeps pulling shit like this. No one goes on Tinder solely for the purpose of making friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:39 PM
1

Paddle boarding if you live near a lake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:12 AM
2

I have that same kind and gentle nature. Just save it for people who deserve it and don't be afraid to tell people to fuck off when it's deserved. It takes time to grow a backbone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:09 AM
1

This 100 percent. There's absolutely nothing lonelier than being alone in a marriage. Better to actually be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:26 PM
21

Good first shot. Use less words next time. It makes you look like you care too much about what's going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:13 PM
19

The silent treatment is one I would add to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:11 PM
80

I really really hope she tells his fiancee what's up before her life gets ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:28 PM
2

He got therapy and he talks through it when he needs too which I don't have any issues with. He treats me and our children well all the way around. He doesn't want to be anything like his dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:54 PM
2

So what if his dad is a garbage fire but the man in your life cut his dad off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:08 AM
11

So true. I can't see any genuinely HVM having an issue with this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:06 AM
28

And then they complain on MGTOW about conniving women. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:44 AM
7

You know what's really hypocritical? They rant about us blocking them but they do the same damn thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:08 PM
16

I grew up in a religious cult. There's an insane focus on getting married early, on women being subservient to men. Not being encouraged to work outside the home. Rape culture. The list goes on and on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:45 PM
40

Me too for telling them feminism was a reaction to people like them. High five Sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:42 PM
14

It's a good thing if anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:51 AM
3

The phrase "nagging" is just a male way of shaming women into not expecting guys to pull their weight. It's effective too. Don't let it be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:53 PM
1

Definitely a big big exception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:23 PM
3

If he's shy like you said he is then one text won't hurt anything I don't think. If you don't hear anything back after two or three days then move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:19 PM
25

It's quite possible that he was just trying to respect your boundaries. He may have been worried because of the environment and was trying not to take things to far and scare you off. I wouldn't be worried yet. This actually sounds like a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 09:00 PM
5

I realize it's your business and all but I would never ever move to another country for a guy. It could all go wrong so easily and if you're unaware of the country's laws you could end up majorly screwed with no support system. I won't even move to another country for my husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 08:16 PM
33

Really think about it some more. I greatly admire your battle tactics. If he pulls the basement crap again and you need to use a similar strategy it's going to be really difficult to do with kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 08:48 AM
17

Block him. Nothing I going to change. Please don't be naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 07:01 AM
38

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:58 AM
24

Guys for whatever reason seem to take it much much too seriously. It becomes a huge detriment in their life. No idea why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:17 AM
7

Is facial hair a red pill thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 05:36 AM
7

Great going. If he'll pull that shit on her, he'll do it to you. Stay away. Block him and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 04:28 AM
12

I play video games too. I mean come on. Fire Emblem is amazing. The thing is I take care of my responsibilities first. Spending that much on a game station screams gaming addiction. Bullet dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:07 AM
10

I'm legitimately confused. I thought Kristoff was one of the good guys in the story. Respectfully. I'm open to hearing why he's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 06:54 PM
14

I have to say though Mulan is a bad ass and really helped me when I was a teen. Tiana's a bad ass too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 06:50 PM
3

I'm dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:09 AM
24

The funny thing is before I found a guy who's cool with my height I never had anything against dating a short guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 01:35 AM
47

Damn. That makes me feel way better about being six feet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 01:29 AM
29

Right, just because someone is supposedly religious doesn't mean they're good. Some of the most religious people are the most garbage human beings. Not always but sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:50 PM
10

Personally I think that having the courage to go by yourself shows major value. It shows that you're confident in who you are and love yourself. Go for it seriously. If anyone asks why you're there by yourself tell the truth. You love the symphony. Then you have a conversation opener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:36 PM
3

I genuinely think he's lying to you. I'd cut it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 04:36 PM
35

I really think being high value is much more about the way you carry yourself, how you treat people and not [putting up with anyone's crap than where you work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 04:22 PM
78

Their supposed justification is protection against false rape accusations. I call bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 04:20 PM
12

I hope you cut him off, what a crazy guy. As far the other dude a week may not be too long. Fingers crossed for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 01:03 AM
11

Hell yes. I want to see this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 08:12 PM
3

I'd place bets that his wife doesn't actually know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:19 PM
13

I personally think it's seriously low-value behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:49 PM
3

Is there anything constructive you can do to help yourself stay away from him? A hobby, going out with some good friends. Trying a cooking class?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:27 AM
17

This guy knew you were in a relationship and went after you anyway. Loyalty is not a value of his. I'd stay away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 01:04 AM
2

What's your secret?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:18 AM
4

If you have concerns for your friend voice them kindly. She may not listen but at least you know you tried. There are situations in the past we're I really wish my friends had spoken up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:16 AM
10

Good point. I somehow forgot about the man pandering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:09 PM
5

I feel for her. I hope she wakes up fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:42 PM
8

I didn't even think of that. So dark but a real possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 06:27 AM
8

Agreed. I'd rather die alone than have to deal with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 04:41 AM
20

Everything they want is a contradiction so there's no way to win. I wish there where someway to warn her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 02:22 AM
60

I seriously hope his karma is fast and swift. What a selfish prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 02:20 AM
41

Also shit like this is why I'm all for looking up phones and computers. You never know what someone is really thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:27 AM
48

It is real. The good news is they don't intend to breed so they'll die out eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:26 AM
12

I wouldn't even suggest living with a man before marriage. They still get all that benefit with no real true follow-through, that being the actually getting married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:31 PM
15

Yes, emotional abuse is real and insidious. Sometimes you don't even know it's happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:26 PM
16

that only having female babies thing is really hateful. I love my son. Also how do you expect any female to be able to date an HVM if women are just aborting their sons instead of choosing to raise them to be HVM. Raising them HVM is a much much better approach. You have a valid point about other people possibly having an influence so I'm already teaching him to think for himself. Already done all the other stuff. Computers are in high traffic areas at home. He's not allowed to have phones are t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:18 PM
16

My thoughts exactly. Everyone here is so good with critical thinking and logic that i thought it would be the best place to ask. I agree. It really does need to be handled delicately. He's a very kind and sweet little boy so I'm off to a good start I hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:12 PM
52

Green flag- high energy and has lots of hobbies or interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:21 PM
41

This 1000 percent. If my husband were watching porn I'd divorce his ass with no second that and he knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:41 PM
17

That's why they're so pissed about it. The battle tactics work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:47 AM
6

They're out there. I may be sharing too much but my husband is super sweet and cuddles with me after. Anyway my point is don't lose hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:41 AM
5

I'm sorry. It's really hard to let go of a friend even when you know they may not be good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:27 AM
83

Same for open relationships or marriages. Fuck that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:35 AM
42

Even with taking your HVM out of the equation she sounds really toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:27 AM
1

I honestly wouldn't worry about that. I'm really adventurous and also the same way but I'm fiercly loyal. Always trying to learn something new. If it makes you feel insecure start going on adventures yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:24 AM
9

I mean you already slept with him. Can't undo that but as long as he keeps treating you well and making an effort there's no reason not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:16 AM
4

Move to Canada?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:02 PM
25

This. 100 percent. Action is the only way hell truly get that you mean the fuck no. Also if they're trying that shit on your first date they are already ruined. Not first date, first time. Sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:08 AM
7

Check out Renee Wade's the feminine woman site. I'm not sure I agree with everything but she still has some really great insights on what your asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:01 AM
20

That Pokemon line. I'm dying. Not to make light of your frustration with it. I just thought the Pokemon thing was really funny and creative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:58 AM
13

We actually have a social responsibility to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:21 AM
18

That literally sounds like hell and honestly I fear for my daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:07 AM
11

That really really sucks and I'm sorry he turned out to be a creep. I'm so so glad that you checked and didn't end up wasting years of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:11 PM
15

I despise whoever wrote this and the only reason guys expect that shit is because their brains are completely warped from porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:41 PM
5

Agree about not showing what cards you're playing with. That being said I'm really truly sorry that happened to you. What an awful night. That must have been really scary and frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:37 PM
26

The not taking no for an answer is always always a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:43 AM
6

Also the Lord Maximus thing is really weird. What's up with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:40 AM
5

His only good points are he's a Pisces and he likes cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:09 AM
10

That neck beard lol. I'm dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 01:06 AM
50

I don't know. If you have to give a guy an ultimatum the marriage isn't going to go well. Just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:28 AM
5

I know. I wish we could band together and rescue her and her daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:45 PM
11

This. This exactly. WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:11 AM
6

Well that's only going to stop when all women start working together and watching out for each other. If she were a decent human she would have left him alone because he's married. It's difficult to cheat when there are no willing volunteers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 08:55 PM
2

Love it. A really expensive paid firewall possibly as much as someone would have to pay and in person sex worker. That's the only thing I would add.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 08:53 PM
2

I've seen this more than once and every time I die laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:27 PM
2

Thank you for this. I love it. I'm not naturally this way so this is helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:23 PM
14

Sweet sweet Karma. I loathe people like this. He got everything he deserved and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 07:15 PM
4

That's really an amazing book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:08 PM
29

Dude should have his license taken away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 11:49 PM
6

I hope there's no one stupid enough to fall for this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:04 PM
10

Right. Like we're supposed to be mind readers and automatically know someone is going to be abusive ten years into a relationship or after we've had children or become red pilled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:25 PM
4

Awe. That's adorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:09 PM
27

Do guys seriously think that women spend every waking hour glued to their phones? Either way you escaped a landmine. Hot damn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:07 PM
7

Ugh. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 01:26 AM
6

Stabbed me in the heart. That describes my ex and I before I met my husband. Thankfully I learned really fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 01:01 AM
31

That's so sad. My husband doesn't cook. He has a disability that makes it physically painful for him to do things alot but when I had the flu he ordered door dash for breakfast lunch and dinner for all four of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:59 AM
9

. LMAF. F
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:56 AM
17

F
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:55 AM
29

Imagination Dragons? It's Imagine Dragons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:54 AM
39

I would love it if women would hold men up to the same shit they insist on holding women up too. I'd say it does. Sleeping around doesn't make a man a badass no matter what he may think. More like a walking STD trap than anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:26 PM
41

If that isn't the truest thing I've heard today I don't know what is. They will absolutely look down on a female who gives up sex easily so there's no winning. Protect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:23 PM
20

That has to be it. Any man with integrity or decency wouldn't mind this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:22 PM
19

What they usually mean when they say that is are you going to leave when I treat you like shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 04:18 PM
4

Do you have rich and engaging hobbies and or friends? Start there. Also workout if you don't already. It will give you a confidence boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 01:35 AM
21

What an insensitive prick. I'm so so sorry you went through that. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 01:32 AM
28

Holy Cow. This can't possibly be real. Ugh. I hate how anal sex seems to be expected by most guys these days. I'm happily married but I fear for my sweet little girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 01:29 AM
15

Probably before he slept with her. What a dick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 01:26 AM
3

Also it sadly takes a lot of women time to wise up to the crap men put them through and change their strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:12 PM
2

Absolutely this. I've never understood why women neglect their hobbies after children are born. It's helped me keep my sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 08:54 PM
76

Right, marriage is more like domestic servitude for women in most cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 03:02 PM
5

Scary and threatening huh? Sounds like she thinks you're a bad ass but will die before she admits it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 06:55 PM
1

There's also 7cups.com
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 05:01 PM
26

The absolute ignorance is ridiculous! I can't believe how incredibly stupid they are sometimes. A while ago there was a guy on there who thought his girlfriend was cheating because she had a yeast infection. Can you imagine?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:39 PM
33

Poor girl. It's really depressing that women are made to feel like there is something wrong with them or they're insecure if they don't want their partner looking at other women in a hyper sexual way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 07:44 PM
114

This warms my cold dead heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 07:39 PM
0

I think it's possible. I had a friend in trade school. Neither of us had any romantic feelings at all. He was just really fun to hang out with. The weird thing is we would hold hands sometimes but it meant nothing. He didn't want to date me and I didn't want to date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 04:09 PM
0

Or he's an INFP personality type. It's also quite possible that you ran into a real life MGTOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 04:01 PM
1

Exactly the words I was trying to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:58 PM
3

So she expected him to behave like a decent human being. You don't know her history. How much experience she has with men. OP may not have had any idea that going to a man's house would give them an expectation about sex. I didn't until I read this sub. Thank goodness I can help my daughter. She may possibly be inexperienced but that's not an excuse for him being an absolute cad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:57 PM
1

That sounds like blaming the victim shit. Not needed here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:53 PM
6

There's nothing at all pathetic about this. You have to be comfortable with you before you can expect to find a healthy relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:51 AM
7

Nice to know I'm not the only one who thinks this way. If every woman thought like this no sex before marriage wouldn't be a deal-breaker for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 08:12 AM
1

Don't let anyone you're dating know you're a virgin. They'll treat you like you're a conquest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:22 AM
1

Singing, I'm classically trained. Writing poetry and stories. Cooking. Occasionally playing video games. I got hard core obsessed with fire emblem. Origami. Drawing. Painting. Writing songs. Paddle boarding, hiking, camping and kayaking in the Summer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:06 AM
4

I was stalking MGTOW because it's a shit show I just can't look away from like a car wreck. They were complaining about this sub and it made me curious. I'm happily married but I'm so so glad I can help my sweet sweet little girl with this when she's older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 05:01 PM
1

To be fair here the acting was abysmal and I loved the books. I was pretty disappointed with the movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:52 PM
9

Seriously? Hating men? Give me break! Feeling rage after being cheated on is totally understandable. That album is bad ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:50 PM
4

My guess would be out highly engaged in a hobby or activity they love or want to learn. Try dance classes or cooking classes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:48 PM
1

Then he's clearly has way too much practice. My guess would be a ridiculously high body count.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:37 PM
5

Seriously! This can't be said enough! Also talk about fucking over another woman. The man is also of course responsible but imagine the world if woman refused to knowingly date married men or one's in a clearly committed relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:34 PM
40

Exactly. I've actually read on another sub that the reason one of the men enjoys anal sex is because it causes suffering for a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:29 PM
25

I find that incredibly offensive. My dad when he was alive treated my Mother like he worshiped the ground she walked on and was fiercely loyal as well as doing things like taking the bus every morning so she could have the car if she needed it. He was also the best dad. Despite his disability, he was an HVM. my best friend's boyfriend has Aspergers as well and treats her like a princess and is one of the kindest guys I've ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 03:02 AM
3

There are too many predators out there too trust with your birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 06:18 PM
8

The thing is when I was single the first guy would actually be my type until I heard the word bitch come out of their mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 03:36 PM
5

This might be a major tangit but all the flack Eve gets pisses me off too. She was a brave bad ass who had an extremely difficult decision to make and made the right one. Had she not none of us would be here. That is if you believe in that stuff. Eve is a heroine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:02 PM
1

And that tank just screams wife beater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:00 PM
1

If anything it's a positive. He's showing interest in actually having a connection with you. I'm a long texted myself. He actually sounds like he might be sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:54 PM
3

Block. He lied and if he lied about that, he'll lie about other things. That being said I'm really sorry. At least your friend is watching you're back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:51 PM
11

Think of it as an achievement. Hopefully some of them will wake up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:29 PM
3

Well I think it's taser time now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 09:31 PM
13

The biggest issue is if you're not producing it yourself there's no way to tell for sure if it was ethically produced. Your honesty and self awareness is appreciated. Good luck on your journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 09:22 PM
5

I have a major aversion to stream lined religion because of stuff like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 04:07 PM
18

I told MGTOW that feminism was a response to men like them. They were not happy. Immediate ban. The thing is though it's 100 percent true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:18 PM
14

I don't think that spark always comes immediately and is kind of Hollywood movie thinking. It takes time for love to develop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 06:00 PM
3

Is this someone you know? If so go for it. He's high value even if he's not some six figures guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 05:49 PM
11

What's sad is after I discovered that sun I became instantly suspicious of men everywhere. I don't mind the whole your own way thing. Whatever. Lots of people do that. Does it need to be so full of hate and generalizations though. Honestly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 05:38 PM
40

Yes. This is so true and being alone in a marriage is much lonelier than actually being alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 05:33 PM
1

Huh. I didn't realize not wearing makeup was a pick me thing. I wonder why? I rarely if ever wear makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:16 AM
7

For reals. It's sad. I have trouble letting other women into my life because this has happened to me more than once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 12:00 AM
3

Exactly. I wonder how many people would behave like this if they knew that people wouldn't just ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:50 PM
5

Can confirm. I have Asbergers and am quite capable of chores. He's full of shit. Nobody is that dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:48 PM
1

It sounds like you both have different love languages. As someone with physical affection as my primary love language I would be totally miserable with someone who's not affection or practically allergic to it. This guy sounds really bad for you. Get out. There are plenty of guys out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:38 PM
3

Also Why men love bitches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:30 PM
3

Make sure they know that just because a guy is attracted to them doesn't always mean the male in question loves them and that under no circumstances do they have to put up with a guy who watches porn. Make sure they know that they are enough and it's okay to be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:20 PM
5

My dad. My husband. My best friends boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:07 PM
103

I was raised in the Mormon church and the absolute obsession with people getting married gave me this sense that I wasn't worth while if I couldn't get a man's approval. I'm still getting over the conditioning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:56 PM
25

The worst thing my mother ever said to me as an impressionable teenage girl were the words when a man loves a woman when having the sex talk. I foolishly took it to mean if a guys dick gets hard he loves you. I had to learn the hard way that it's not true. Thankfully I learned really really fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:55 PM
40

Dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 09:15 PM
3

Hell I've been thinking about buying a taser for awhile now. I think this just pushed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:40 PM
4

If he cheats on her he'll cheat on you. There's also going to be an insane amount of trust issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:31 PM
6

Six months to a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:30 PM
7

I hope he gets cheated on. What an ass hat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 12:25 AM
27

Stay busy. Don't ditch girls night for him or exercise classes or any of that. If you don't have hobbies get some.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:35 PM
4

Everyone else has great advice. I think the most important thing is to never ever think that your value is based on what a man thinks of you. Ever. This should hopefully guard you against toxic relationships more than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:14 PM
1

Yep. I was always willing to give men the benefit of the doubt and look for the best and than I discovered the MGTOW sub Reddit and am instantly on guard and suspicious. I hate the change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:47 PM
2

She could genuinely file a sexual harrasment complaint for that comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 07:32 AM
19

And to stop masturbating. Seriously. That makes sex take way too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 07:11 AM
2

This sounds a lot like the stuff Renee Wade writes. She's a little red pill but I still think her advice has a great deal of value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 09:10 PM
13

Exactly. Keep your hobbies or find some. Keep your friends or make some or fake having friends by going to meetup groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 09:02 PM
2

Absolutely this. I was going to suggest slapping them but that could put you into danger so yes next time make a huge scene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:54 PM
18

The silent treatment is abusive and his attempt at controlling you. It will only get worse. I'm sorry sister but that's a huge red flag. Dump him. If he can't handle the fight in a constructive way. I can't stress this enough. Anyone giving you the silent treatment deserves to be dumped. Take it from someone who learned the hard way long ago. If you're so inclined give him one warning that it's an absolute deal-breaker and then follow through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 07:53 PM
6

Empaths need this sub more than anyone else. We tend to be much too willing to believe the best of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 10:17 PM
7

She's an idiot. Hopefully she at least gets her tubes tied because if she feels the need to ask, she's not going to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 10:09 PM
2

You're an asshole. Leave her alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:21 AM
5

I'm so relieved to hear that. From what you said before I think he might have tried to hurt you. Please be careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:12 AM
3

This guy's not going to bring you anything but a broken heart. Don't fall for the sink ship fallacy. Hugs. I hope you find someone who cherishes you and treats you with respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:10 AM
5

Wrong. Absolutely wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 11:03 PM
8

It's a ridiculous and unrealistic contradiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:15 PM
19

For one there's no real way to tell if you're watching human trafficking victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:48 AM
3

I would up vote this a million times if I could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:47 AM
8

Good point. MGTOW just fills me with rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:38 AM
5

Huge red flag. Ditch his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:11 AM
10

What an ass. Fuck MGTOW for existing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:08 AM
3

Why are you friends with him? And honestly his wife really deserves to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 12:41 AM
15

She needs us badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 10:37 PM
29

Girl run like hell and run fast! Don't look back. I'm autistic too and found a great guy. You will too but it's not your current boyfriend.you are not over reacting. Even joking about that is creepy and chauvinistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 06:55 AM
12

What a POS. That dude deserves to be stripped of everything he has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 01:16 AM
20

Dude is obviously MGTOW. You're super polite for staying through the whole thing. I would have walked out in the middle of that weirdness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 01:14 AM
3

Is this a joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 09:45 PM
6

Yep. my roommate doesn't watch it so far as I know. He's a really sweet kid but he needs to get his shit together badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 12:12 AM
6

I wonder what would happen if all women just had the guts to refuse to put up with it or refused to have sex before marriage? I would love to see that happen. I sure as hell don't. I'd honestly rather die alone and I did find a guy who doesn't look at porn. He knows I'm gone the second he starts looking at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 12:07 AM
26

To be fair my dad was navy and he was a great husband and father. my Uncle too but stay the hell away from the marines. No good can come from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 11:58 PM
2

Not a male. Just wanted to show how freakin sick they can be. This is how MGTOW thinks. Freakin disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 08:28 PM
3

Just because a guy is attracted to you doesn't mean he has feelings for you. Don't put guys on a pedestal. If I had spent half as much time working on college as I did checking to see if my dead beat boyfriend at the time had emailed me I'd have my degree by now. Having a boyfriend is not a measure of how valuable or cool you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 04:12 PM
15

I play video games 24/7 and don't help with anything but at least I'm not out cheating. Like seriously? Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 04:09 PM
7

What is it with guys and refusing to learn how to cook? It's not that hard. Seriously. Stop being lazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 04:01 PM
2

Who cares? Women get told to get lost from MGTOW all the time so why is this different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:29 PM
1

That was my impression too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:24 PM
5

Meetup.com is your friend. Also an introvert here and I struggle with that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:22 PM
9

I just read through some of the comments and I'm seriously frustrated at how lightly people are taking this. Ugh. Making jokes about it and acting like it's no big deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 03:20 PM
1

Your bio sounds demanding. Don't advertise what you want in a guy. Let them figure it out. It reads more like a help wanted ad than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 07:30 PM
6

Run girl and run fast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 07:20 PM
16

I agree actually. Hold them to the same standard they insist on holding women to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 07:16 PM
9

Yep. The absolute hypocrisy is astounding. Can't have it both ways guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 07:06 PM
1

Exercise and don't eat a lot of junk.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 03:18 PM
2

Ignore the crush. Don't interact anymore than you have too. The crush will go away I promise. If it doesn't still ignore. Don't feed it. Loyalty is so important. Cheating always starts with a crush.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 03:07 PM
1

You should tell her. I would want to know. After my second date with my now husband I quit smoking permanently. I never picked it up again. He was worth it to me
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 02:56 PM
0

I think it has some really helpful advice that's pro women and some advice that's really out there.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 01:57 AM
–

Plan to eat is amazing for meal planning. Try it. It will make life so much easier. Writes your grocery list for you based on the meals you plan.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 01:53 AM
8

Fair point and I'm so so sorry for what you went through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 01:50 AM
4

How would you want to be treated if the tables turned? There's your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 10:07 PM
3

Sounds like one of those red pill pricks. Run like hell. Also don't respond to him. Ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:38 PM
1

Stay strong. Please don't take this guy back. He will only get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:16 PM
12

Yep. MGTOW is actually how I found this sub. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:08 PM
10

Happily married with a daughter. I stalk this sub for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:03 PM
13

2 to 3 years? Leave after one year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:01 PM
1

Losers like that are why women need this sub so much. What a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:48 PM
15

yep. Has happened to me. I refuse to move out of the way for some moid anymore. They always run into me because they expect that I'll move simply because they have a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 06:27 AM
12

Have hobbies, have friends, go to a workout class. Don't make your whole world about him. I think that's what she means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 11:36 PM
0

Just be careful. This guy sounds like he may be mgtow honestly. In any case good luck. Hopefully it works out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 06:35 PM
56

Not only that. They expect women to sleep with them right away and in the same breath complain about women being too free with sex. Can't have it both ways, guys. Talk about hypocritical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 02:30 AM
13

Respectfully that sounds like the way MGTOW thinks. I'm not a fan. There are great guys out there and no not all guys watch porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 10:15 PM
8

Not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 10:13 PM
24

And to complicate matters any guy any woman dates ever is going to expect sec before marriage. It's a completely unfair double edged sword.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 09:46 PM
1

If someone cheats, male or female they're not a good life partner.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 08:16 PM
-7

Fair point but a 911 call wouldn't be out of place.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 07:34 PM
1

Actually I check all boxes on the right except the drinking one. I wouldn't say I use it to solve my problems but I drink once every three months or so. I mostly read here to help my son. He's little right now but despite some extreme views a lot of MGTOW has good advice and I want him to stay out of trouble.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 07:25 PM
1

Is this a joke?
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 07:08 PM
1

At least be honest about your intentions.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 07:07 PM
1

Don't be alone with a woman. If for some reason you mustm use a tape recorder.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 06:46 PM
1

This is next level crazy.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 06:21 PM
-10

This makes you just as a bad as the women you complain about.
/r/MGTOW20/05/19 05:08 PM
15

Run!
/r/MGTOW19/05/19 08:37 PM
5

Sounds like emotional abuse
/r/MGTOW18/05/19 10:14 PM
1

That's a fair point but at this point, there's nothing to lose by trying except for half of his assets because even I can admit that the law isn't fair to men and she might take the book to heart. I did. In any case peace. I hope things work out for you and you're happy one way or another.
/r/MGTOW01/05/19 08:59 PM
3

I'm a lurker here and I'd never do that to my husband. I lurk as a reminder of how not to behave. In any case, you probably won't take advice from me because I'm a female but on the off chance that you will, see if you can get her to read the surrendered wife by Laura Doyle. I just feel bad for you. That sounds miserable. Congratulations on getting the job though.
/r/MGTOW01/05/19 06:33 PM
1

A prenup possibly?
/r/MGTOW01/05/19 05:23 PM
1

Get a camera and record every second you spend with her. Document and record everything!
/r/MGTOW26/04/19 05:42 PM
1

Walk around with a shirt that says MGTOW on it. They'll run.
/r/MGTOW25/04/19 10:12 PM
1

Meetup.com has social activities based on different interests. Not a dating site.
/r/MGTOW25/04/19 09:28 PM
1

mormon church maybe?
/r/MGTOW20/04/19 10:25 PM
1

Is this the empowered wife book by Laura Doyle? That book actually saved my marriage. I had no idea what my husband meant when he said I wasn't respectful. Men and Women are so different!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 06:45 AM
0

I'm so sorry that happened to you. My husband permanently lost his job and I'm still here because I genuinely love him. I have empathy and loyalty.
/r/MGTOW08/04/19 09:08 PM
10

Wow. That is seriously fucked up! So wrong!
/r/MGTOW08/04/19 08:59 PM
3

That comment about women being senseless is a stereotype. Not all women are like this.
/r/MGTOW08/04/19 08:53 PM
-1

I'm a girl btw. This is some spoiled brat syndrome right here. Just wanting you guys to know not all women are like this.
/r/MGTOW08/04/19 08:52 PM
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