Graceful and poised as the Queens you are. Look at yourself and your values, accept the past and instead of slumming it in the ditches with rage and indignation, rise above it. Move on up in life! Level up! (I need like 3 flairs for this post 😂)

EuphoricOnesieHugs

November 11, 2019

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Title	Graceful and poised as the Queens you are. Look at yourself and your values, accept the past and instead of slumming it in the ditches with rage and indignation, rise above it. Move on up in life! Level up! (I need like 3 flairs for this post 😂)
Author	EuphoricOnesieHugs
Upvotes	88
Comments	18
Date	November 11, 2019 11:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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[–]CoolMelonadeRuthless Strategist4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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If you wanted to talk to him, do it gracefully and leave it at that. Like ‘this isn’t working, bai’ lol.. only offer critique if they ask and keep it direct and simple.

What I find helps with rage is to either write a letter so I never ‘send it’; it helps me evaluate my feelings and let go of all that negative energy, alternately if you don’t like writing use your notes in your phone. I have a few I look back on? Rage at improper treatment by my mom (she’ll never apologize but it felt good to let it go and get it out as I actually started writing it as a text to her before I cut and paste into notes).

Do your thing but write out the negativity to let it go. So if he DOES ask why, you can be objective instead of angry; which immediately gets a ‘you crazy’ and it isn’t really fair to fly off the handle anyways or worth the energy. It feels good to release that energy but at what expense? Pitiful self righteousness? Naaaahhh write it out and let it go.

Also, when I did the planned ignoring with one of my ex’s for three days and he never said anything? hint taken. We broke up.

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Of course!

I think that we can be strong women without doing things that these men do like fading and ghosting. When we do that, we are no better than they are. It’s also very immature. When I walk away from a relationship or situation, I like to know that I can hold my head high for handling it properly with good manners.

That way, 10 years down the line, if we run into each other in someway… I don’t have to feel ashamed for how I handled the situation. I think that it’s important to conduct yourself with integrity even if it’s just some guy you dated for a couple of months. Plus, in the long run, it will make you feel better about how you handled it once the feelings of negativity wear off and you see the situation in hindsight.

In reality, you’re not communicating for him, you’re communicating for YOU. Unless this guy has an exceeding amount of other positive attributes, I wouldn’t waste my time with another chance. Anyone worth their salt would put their best foot forward in the beginning of the relationship, not after they’ve fucked up and been given “another chance“. Next!

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