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F***BOY WARNINGBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:50 PM
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#JustLVMThingsBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:55 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:41 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:23 PM
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FDS MEMESBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:01 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:00 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:18 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:12 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:21 PM
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#JustLVMThingsBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:14 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:09 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:34 PM
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COUCH CREATURESBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:55 AM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:24 PM
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DISCUSSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:06 PM
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SCROTES MADBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:52 PM
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COUCH CREATURESBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:21 PM
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DISCUSSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:09 PM
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Balkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:13 PM
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I AM A GARBAGEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:28 PM
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SCROTES MADBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:12 PM
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DISCUSSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:56 PM
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#JustLVMThingsBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:29 AM
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QUICK TIPBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:15 PM
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Balkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:36 PM
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NAH, SISBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:38 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:24 PM
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POP CULTURE PICKMEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:35 PM
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NAH, SISBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:07 AM
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#JustLVMThingsBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:50 AM
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NAH, SISBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 01:18 PM
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DUMP HIS ASSBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:54 PM
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LVM LOGICBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:28 PM
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COUCH CREATURESBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:43 PM
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SCROTES MADBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:55 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:01 PM
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Balkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:12 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:35 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:14 PM
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NAH, SISBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:44 PM
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Balkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:48 PM
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COCKHOLM SYNDROMEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:04 PM
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DISCUSSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:54 AM
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Balkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:28 PM
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LEVEL UPBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:35 AM
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DISCUSSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 11:37 PM
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SCROTES MADBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:28 AM
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QUEEN SH*TBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:06 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:57 PM
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Balkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:13 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 03:19 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 01:09 AM
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#JustHVMThingsBalkanka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:22 PM
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u/savevideobot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:44 PM
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Your ex was trash! Glad he’s gone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 09:15 PM
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Don’t even care about getting married tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:27 AM
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Preachhhhhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:26 PM
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I love being single to the point where it would take an amazing person for me to change up my lifestyle. Even casually dating ends up being more work than I feel like doing these days. A lot of my friends in their 40s are going through their first divorces right now and when they finally get to the point of moving out/being on their own they just talk about how they can’t believe how much time they wasted in a failing relationship that time bettering themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:15 PM
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That’s pretty much at the root of the issue. I think a lot of people don’t know how to be alone. Then they involve themselves with people who always give them a ton of emotional labor to do and they fall into thinking that what they are doing is actually worthwhile, when it’s actually just codependency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:55 PM
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And she was raped by her pornstar boyfriend- yet she is still trying to remain relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:03 PM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:35 AM
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Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:35 AM
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It’s def performative imo. But I think a lot of people see it from your perspective which is why it was so popular! I guess I didn’t like the language of it all, esp “fix how she’s acting”- no fix how YOU’RE acting. The verbiage is off to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:33 AM
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Thank you! Sorry a little late :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:32 AM
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I thought 30 was so old when I was 15 too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:42 PM
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Soooo many of those on twitter. I swear I have like 200 other screenshots I haven’t posted. Too many to choose from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:41 PM
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Baha 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:41 PM
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Lol wouldn’t surprise me if it got taken down. Men don’t like to be shamed of mocked, that’s only for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:26 PM
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Thumb dude’s cousin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:25 PM
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By thumb you mean his head/face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:24 PM
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Lol every other day some kind of fake profile or satire on the tinder sub is upvoted to the top mocking women, but at least we know it’s true that most Redditors spewing misogyny all day actually resemble this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:24 PM
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So let’s take the stupid shit they say about women and dating on Reddit with a grain of salt. Redditors aren’t on our radar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 09:32 PM
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You’re in for a laugh when you go read the replies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:38 PM
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Take the money first tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:14 AM
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On every. Damn. Thread. You’ll find the notallmens and then the hedidnkthingwrong crowd. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:13 AM
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Absolutely. My ex did this to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:13 AM
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Well shit he just exposed himself then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:12 AM
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I get that completely but I think that’s a very diff situation from what the tweet is discussing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:10 PM
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The logic is flawless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:05 PM
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Unless you look alarmingly like a child or intentionally engage in what those freaks call “age play” you should be ok... I’d hope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:55 AM
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I think it’s moreso her whole act. She makes cheesy childish grimaces and dresses up in anime style clothing. Overall she acts childish. If you’re not doing that then you should be okay haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:37 AM
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Yeah MICHAEL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:18 AM
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That’s so fucking sad. She has no self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 05:14 AM
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It’s always scary telling someone their partner is coming onto you. I’ve seen it back fire when the person is in denial or manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:20 AM
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According to the twitter thread the girl is still with the guy but at least the women in the thread are all on the same page as us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:02 AM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:58 AM
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There’s a current roast-a-scrote thread on twitter! The replies are hilarious, highly recommend tuning in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:57 AM
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Horrifying haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:49 AM
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Beyond primitive thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:47 AM
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There’s something called hyperbole. Check it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:45 AM
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Ew. How embarrassing for him and awful for you. I’m glad he’s out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:42 AM
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Oh my god I hate that I know this reference haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:42 AM
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It sucks but she has started saying insensitive stuff to me too. She’s changing and morphing into his personality which is childish (he’s 6 yo younger too). One day when she catches him sexting a girl 2 tables over while he’s sitting at a cafe with her again maybe she will come to her senses. Yes he did that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:34 AM
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I truly wish I was gay. My lesbian friends are much happier (though I will say there is sooo much drama in the LBC).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:29 AM
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Shame on them for not being wise enough to have some perspective. Trash people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:28 AM
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Haha it’s ok. In other candid pictures, she looks fine like a normal fit young girl. But that just goes to show that the posing is intentional to create the illusion of that tiny K-pop/anime girl aesthetic that is so infantile and, frankly, annoying. I feel bad saying that because I know there are so many people who love that stuff but I just have issues with how it portrays and objectifies women. I randomly fell down a rabbit hole reading about how these K-pop singers are treated. Of course eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:04 AM
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They’re blind to the fact that they tried to replace their moms with their wives. Yet they respect their wives less ofc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:54 PM
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I truly hope so bc these dudes belong in a gulag tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:53 PM
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I’m glad too! That’s such a toxic trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:42 PM
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I love that sub! Also you’re correct! That’s why I worry for some of the women here whose end goal is marriage... I just don’t want them to be let down like most women are in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:42 PM
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I’m scared to look but I’m sure shortcels have some crazy theory 😂 no no. It’s a nice little Sunday, let’s not go to that dark place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:40 PM
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What gets me is when she does the grimaces that make her look like a confused child. It’s sooooo cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:38 PM
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It’s very scary. I’m just glad my nephew plays sports and is too busy with other hobbies to end up like this. Plus my brother would ship him off to the motherland for rehabilitation if he ever turned into such a degenerate 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:37 PM
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It wasn’t always easy bc I moved away from my home country to the states where men are on average much shorter. Now idgaf but it was an insecurity when I was younger 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:58 PM
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I think it comes down to maturity. Some stay in this childlike state where they want to play with Starwars legos but then lash out at women for being the cause of their unhappiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:57 PM
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Yup and it’s a great sign of his decision making process. Young people can maybe get a pass on this bc they’re still learning but grown people need to know that bad vibes and trash people = drama and negativity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:56 PM
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It’s funny bc these are the same types of men who end up in incel groups blaming all their problems on women... when in reality it’s their own fucking fault for being degenerate losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:55 PM
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I bring this up to people who badger me about getting married and they roll their eyes. I know deep down they wish they were single like me bc they’re always having some kind of marital issues while I sleep peacefully not having to deal w someone’s bullshit every day. I don’t see marriage as something that would benefit me unless he had a lifestyle to offer me that is better than I’m doing for myself, which many don’t. It’s a societal joke yet somehow single women are spinsters while men are bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:54 PM
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I’m gonna have to agree. I got hate mail calling me retarded bc I posted this by someone with an Avengers avi. I’m gonna add an obsession with capeshit to the red flag list ✅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:32 PM
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Wild. I just don’t get it. Getting aroused by cartoons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:30 PM
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That’s a line a lot of people cross and end up greatly regretting!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:30 PM
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I fell down a rabbit hole no sane person should ever find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:28 PM
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That’s fine but I still think there’s a line that can be crossed. I find a lot of women who are super into anime/weebs start acting like the cartoon characters and it’s incredibly cringey and infantile. They make it their entire personality (bc that’s everything today). It feeds into the fetish of men who are into the genre because it’s their fetish and they enjoy childlike little girls who squeak, squeal, and cry and basically just act like children. Creeps me out honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:22 PM
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I enjoy the Japan circle jerk sub where guys like these get lambasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:03 PM
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What a psychopath. What was he trying to do? Get sympathy from his friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:02 PM
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Idk but I’m starting to appreciate being tall lately haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:00 PM
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Glad you left his ass! Terrible character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:59 PM
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Good observation. The internet also helped freaks find each other. Now they’re the loudest of all 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:57 PM
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Haha I’m sorry. Honestly, when I got older and stop going out so much all the time, I joined Reddit and it really opened up my eyes to this whole Internet world I didn’t know about until I was about 30. On one hand, it keeps me hip and in the “know“ but on the other hand I definitely fall into some rabbit holes I wish I had never found. Overall though, I don’t know if it’s just because I’m getting older, but I feel like a lot of younger people are intentionally becoming more and more infantile. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:12 PM
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Simp is short for “simpleton“ like a guy who simps for a girl just to get a crumb of pussy. Reddit keeps me pretty hip haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:03 PM
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I totally hate it too. Good on you for saying something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:02 PM
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But is started in his younger years/20s though? I know there’s men of all ages into anime- but the majority of them are younger. The screen shots in my post were from teens and 20-somethings. It’s much more prevalent in younger gens who grew up with internet and porn simply bc of growing up with access to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:00 PM
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That’s so immature and appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:58 PM
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This reminds me very much of my high school relationship. Young men can be so toxic not just to their partners but to themselves. If they didn’t reinforce that behavior among themselves many of them probably wouldn’t have turned out to be such big pieces of shit. I hate that “fuck bitches, get money” was such a vibe when I was a teen, it was such a toxic atmosphere for young girls to be treated and “played” bc it was the bad ass thing to do. I see some of these guys on fb now holding their new b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:57 PM
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It’s hilarious to me like EW you treat your gf with respect? SIMP! I guess it’s true, the most manly thing they could do is fuck another man then?? Lmao. They are all a bunch of circle-thinkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:54 PM
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It’s another thing I never understood societally about the way marriage or relationships are viewed. Like if you are so pained by the “ball and chain“ then why the fuck did you even get married or enter a relationship? No one forced you to. I can’t stand men who roll their eyes and act like acknowledging their partner is just the biggest chore in the world. Truthfully, that’s why I am part of the group in the sub that really doesn’t even want to marry. I never want to be that person someone drea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:53 PM
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I agree but I think that’s kind of a separate instance. A lot of men will talk shit about their partners to their friends to come off as macho or to prove that they aren’t “pussy whipped” because they are idiots and desperate to seem cool or like “players”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:50 PM
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Lmao I just replied to someone else about this faulted logic of theirs. They don’t want to come off as “pussy whipped“ yet they will use their girlfriends as a scapegoat or trash them to their friends so they don’t come off as simps? Lmao. They do it to themselves man. I love that you got the last laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:48 PM
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Young men especially will talk shit about their partners to their friends to come off as a player or macho too. They don’t want to get called pussy whipped or a simp so they will trash talk their own girlfriends. They don’t have the logic to see how stupid that makes them look in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:46 PM
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I should have articulated myself better. In some of her photos, she will intentionally pose in such a way to make herself look cartoonishly disproportionate or “underdeveloped” (like in the pic I linked) for effect. The whole anime fetish is basically based around childlike girls, which is why it’s so problematic. The facial expressions she makes are also very childlike, her anime schoolgirl clothing, along with exaggerated blush makeup, and that’s done all intentionally to appeal to these creep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:42 PM
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Story time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:20 PM
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Ew my god. I’m glad you got away from that dude and his trash pile of friends. Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:20 PM
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Frankly, I don’t even care if these men take themselves out of the dating pool, I’m just seeing it affect young women now and I really don’t like it. Let’s just say I fell down a very disturbing rabbit hole and there’s entire porn genres where girls imitate hentai faces where they cross their eyes and stick their tongues out ... gagging and they do that heavy blush makeup look. Like ladies please stop! It’s further proof that all of this so-called “sexual empowerment“ is really just catering to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:18 PM
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Noooooo he got a hatchet man!? Hahah!!! I’m sending this to a friend who low key dated one back in the day and she tried to hide it from us. Thanks for the laugh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:14 PM
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Baha that was my mood this morning as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:13 PM
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Sheesh. I’m fascinated by your studies. Hope you can post some stuff you learn in here! Would love to hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:13 PM
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Not just a neck tattoo but a JUGGALO one!? Good lord! I’m ‘02 so I do think there was a large trend shift from back then. It was still a very late-90s aesthetic back then. I swear generations overlap the first 3 years until the new trends kick in. If we look back at each decade, those first 3 years are so transitional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:06 PM
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I agree. I am not from a western culture so the way that some of these boys have been raised is pretty shocking to me. I know most of it probably has to do with my age as well, but how do we not blame the parents? If I had a son who locked himself in his room all day and watched cartoons, didn’t shower, had cartoon girls with large breasts all over his wall… We would be having a very serious intervention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:02 PM
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I’ve just started noticing that men in their 20s are so infantile acting. They are into things that are for kids… They collect little figurines, play games all day, wear superhero t-shirts, watch cartoons, it never ends. There are so many man children now and it’s become completely normalized. It makes sense why they fetishize cartoons of little girls who squeal and scream while they bounce around their big anime boobs. I’m cringing just writing that out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:58 PM
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The posters all listed their ages and they were much younger so that affected my title. I know there are people of all ages who are fucking weird. I’d say they’re outliers in comparison to kids who grew up with internet and porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:54 PM
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I wonder if this also applies to friends whose partners talk shit to you… I have a friend who has turned into a total pick me. Her boyfriend has become more and more brazen with his teasing and taunting of me. It definitely is affecting our friendship. Haven’t spoken in months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:53 PM
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Oh shit. I didn’t see this post here and I just posted the tweet my bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:49 PM
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My nephew is friends with someone who dated her and they went to high school together. He said she looks like a walking pencil and has been known to post thinspo. I’m a former anorexic in recovery, and I browse the ED subReddits on here and see so many young girls talking about how they want to be K-pop skinny or anime skinny. She absolutely looks intentionally cartoonishly super thin in some images that get posted around along with comically large breasts that she brags about buying. I’m not bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:37 PM
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I’m sure there are older people into it but it’s popularity is much larger now than it ever was and the demographic of weebs trends to younger people. I’m not trying to shame a whole generation, it’s just an observation. The people who posted these things I threw together were under 20.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:31 PM
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That’s fucking disrespectful and awful. We cannot allow ourselves or other women to be treated this way any longer- I’m glad this wave of empowerment is happening. This shit needs to end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:05 PM
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Ok so now that I think about it, the only really weird trend I can remember is fucking Juggalos LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:54 PM
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Haha lucky you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:52 PM
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Crazy. I went to the third biggest high school in the US and I literally can’t recall any anime whatsoever. I was a social butterfly so I was friends w pretty much all the groups too. There was a big shift between 2000s and mid-2000s when the whole “emo phase” started I think, especially with social media and the internet getting more advanced. I was already in college so I got out of there in the nick of time I guess lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:52 PM
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We can only hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:49 PM
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Thank God my nephew plays sports and has hobbies. This shit scares me. There has to be some kind of correlation among the young boys who end up addicted to animated porn and some kind of trauma or need for escapism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:48 PM
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I see anime clips posted on twitter in replies and it’s basically young girl characters that squeal and scream/cry most of the time. It’s very off-putting for me to think that an adult male enjoys watching this and is so passionate about a cartoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:44 PM
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Yeah I agree... for me, anime and gaming are a huge red flag. I don’t recall ANY anime during my younger years (I’m 35) and def not to the extent as it is with younger people today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:41 PM
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I think the anime/weeb thing is popular among younger people so I’m very out of the loop on how it went so far bc I didn’t grow up with the current pop culture. I see it a lot all over Reddit and twitter, it’s alarming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:36 PM
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I didn’t mean literally 12- the way she acts and dresses is very childlike and she does it on purpose. It’s a very obvious anime influence at least to someone who isn’t part of that subculture or whatever you could call it. Her body/frame is very small and looks like an underdeveloped child (the “anime girl thin “ look, stick thin, no curves) and then a overtly large boob job, again very anime-esque. I’m not body shaming but it’s troubling to see a young woman altering her body to appease weebs.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:31 PM
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Why are even men in their 20s like this? I’m seeing it more and more and it’s beyond creepy. They are so infantile and meek acting. It’s beyond unattractive. They really feed into the whole “soyboy” meme jfc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:18 PM
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I am horrified. I didn’t grow up with the current pop culture but I see it everywhere. There’s currently a girl going viral (the Ok Boomer girl) and she basically looks like a 12yo with a huge boob job. She does very anime looks and posts first traps all day. I mean... the comments under her posts are so pedophilic it makes me ill. What is this anime obsession among nerdy western dudes? It’s a fetish, is what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:16 PM
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They’re a bunch of trad LARPing teens. They fetishize orthodox Christianity in particular because it gives men the most power. These are the type of people who have no accomplishments or value of their own so they are basing their entire personalities around being born white and western as a way to lift themselves up over others without to any actual personal merit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:13 PM
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Yup I mean those subs are basically 4chan lite. The swill of the internet full of NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:03 PM
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I’ve come to the conclusion that men on Reddit aren’t capable of being wholesome. Something about this website, maybe the anonymity, attracts some of the most foul specimens that exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:00 PM
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That sub is just an alt-right ecochamber where they use Christianity as a way to hate minorities. See for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:54 PM
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I’m torn on this. She’s a new mom and is probably exhausted and going through it all (especially if it’s their first baby). On one hand you may be adding to the stress w this info, on the other you may be saving her. I’ve heard of this phenomenon where once women have children, they are so focused on child rearing (hormonally, mentally, physically) that they are less inclined to take any shit from their partner. Ofc, men like to use this phenomenon to make it their own when they post shit like “…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:06 PM
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The article I spent over a year trying to give him the things he needed to be himself. I stopped touching him and waited for him to touch me. I stopped asking if he wanted to go out together, see a movie, or take a walk. I stopped asking what he wanted for dinner or if he wanted to eat with me. I stopped asking for anything at all. And, strangely, it worked. He became happier. He would hug me because I didn’t hug him. He would want to see a movie with me because I hadn’t asked him to see it with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 01:29 AM
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Lmao generic brand Nick Lachey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:16 PM
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I stopped speaking to mine 6 mo ago. It’s been really hard but with time... I realize that she needs this rude awakening. If she manages to leave him, I’ll be here to listen. I’ll dig up my old post if you want to read. Edit: here you go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:53 PM
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Whewwww this hits too close to home sis. There have been a number of trads coming into FDS and I wish they’d btfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:25 PM
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Some dude in the AskFDS sub just “whatabout”’d me when I talked about dead beat dads. Like spend 5 min browsing advice subs on Reddit lol. More like r/nametheproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:24 PM
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My fav part about this sub. It’s so refreshing on an otherwise very homogenous website. I usually stick to twitter for that reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:08 PM
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This isn’t DEBATE FDS you keyboard warrior lol
/r/askFDS19/03/20 04:06 PM
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This meme is hilarious. I love that it’s been trending. But the image itself is so violently 2000s it makes me uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:01 PM
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🤦🏻‍♀️ lurk more. You’re clueless. Lmao literal WHATABOUTism
/r/askFDS19/03/20 03:59 PM
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You think women with children have time to spend 8 hrs a day gaming like those kids’ dead beat dads? No. Most of the labor falls on women. Men have more time for escapism by design. Lol you’re lost man.
/r/askFDS19/03/20 03:45 PM
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I agree with your statements here. I also have issues with the “core texts” from a feminist perspective (marriage won’t automatically make you happy and shouldn’t be your end game in life). I hope non-wester women stay the course in this sub and continue to post frequently and educate others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:37 PM
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It’s not but we see it more with men than women bc they can be afforded the luxury due to their privilege. More escapist media is catered towards men, including porn.
/r/askFDS19/03/20 03:35 PM
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Agreed. If all comes down to consumerism and marketing of these identities and labels. It’s sad.
/r/askFDS14/03/20 05:22 AM
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I’d say misguided women who inspired and encouraged by men*. After all, everything they champion that differs from radical feminism is for a man’s benefit so... the cards are kind of on the table you know?
/r/askFDS13/03/20 11:03 PM
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We are being silenced and we are required to be okay with it, otherwise we are T*RFs and bigots. Liberal feminism has set women back decades, and I grew up with second wave feminism.
/r/askFDS13/03/20 09:33 PM
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I’m really sorry to hear about your gf struggling with substance use disorder. A lot of people in the alt-right part of this website will just call it degeneracy, but most often, addiction stems from past trauma. Substance misuse is also used as a coping mechanism for other things too. It’s not just “bad character” like many people want to believe. I am a non-conformist of sorts myself, but I think the commercialization of “nerd culture” has definitely degraded the younger generations. There’s n…
/r/askFDS13/03/20 09:02 PM
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Escapism. So many men in their 20s are so infantile. That’s where the terms Peter Pan and manchild stem from. They consume media and “toys” that, I feel, stunt maturity. Hobbies are not useful or productive, like vidya, capeshit, etc. Instead of being athletic or honing a practical skill or knowledge, they spend hours mashing buttons or consuming endless media like Disney. I know criticizing vidya on Reddit is like a mortal sin but at least I can be honest here. The culmination of all these fact…
/r/askFDS13/03/20 07:14 PM
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Only if he was as wealthy or wealthier than me tbh. I’ve been down this road, couldn’t pull the trigger. I saw my life flash before my eyes of having a man in my life who would become resentful and not add any valuable assets. Marriage carries so many risks. If you ignore the annoying libfem mumbo jumbo in this article it brings up some good points. In fairytales, the main character usually only gets her “happily ever after” after she’s married. For couples in relationships, there’s often an exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:07 PM
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You’re right- some people only want to be married and have dreams about their wedding day without focusing more on the substance and rationality of it. It’s driven by mindless consumerism. The wedding industry complex is repugnant imo and highly exploitative. If people want to indulge in it- fine, but the idea that it makes someone a “pick me” to opt out is where I have an issue. I think it’s potentially dangerous to even promote that kind of mentality in this sub. Women are capable being happy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:49 PM
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I feel you! Stay safe sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:37 AM
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They always are super attacking and condescending. They come out in droves on this topic. It’s SUCH an American convo - that’s exactly what I always think when I read these threads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:45 PM
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Another day in GC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:37 PM
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I truly hope you don’t!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:57 PM
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Pick mes are truly setting us back man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:23 PM
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It’s hard bc they have a lot of made up lingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:22 PM
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This is what incels and red pill dudes accuse women of doing. Yet men have been doing it to women for decades, even in marriage lol. That’s bc they see us as property. Plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:27 AM
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No it’s actually bc of their jaw shape duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:26 AM
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Lol heres the latest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:05 AM
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Lmao yes once this corona thing is over. So down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:57 AM
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It’s their nature. Always has been. Look how many men kill their wife and kids bc they’re miserable and want to off themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:41 AM
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Oh yeah lol writers always get shafted. That’s one is the worst “for exposure” deals in this gig economy. Lol he really wanted to use feminism as a way to lure you into it smfh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:40 AM
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They’re too far gone. Once you end up in that realm of the internet, like 4chan level, it’s over. They’re like their own little subculture is degeneracy and hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:38 AM
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Dicklets on respirators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:37 AM
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I always say... I’ve known some amazing, beautiful women in my life, no matter how fantastic and gorgeous they are, their SO is always going to act like they’re a ball and chain, dread going home from work to them (despite having the house cleaned up and dinner on the table), and begin taking them for granted. It happens every fucking time bc that’s male nature. Miss me with that shit. They will be a part of my life if and when I want them to be, but they’ll never get the best of me or have the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:34 AM
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Haha!! You’re all very welcome. I’m really fascinated by the swill of the Internet that they inhabit. It’s horrifying and enthralling all at once. Every day I’m more and more amazed by their degeneracy, but as disgusting as it is, it’s also borderline comedic. Since they are obsessed with FDS and don’t understand it, it’s important to make sure they’re not doxxing and/or targeting any of the women here. God knows they’ve got the time and hyper-fixation for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:29 AM
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I couldn’t agree more sis. You bring up so many good points. These apps are basically doing the work for these LVM and serving them up access to women by putting in minimal effort. Especially for socially underdeveloped men who sit on their phones all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:26 AM
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They’re just incapable of anything positive. It has to involve irrational hatred and oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:23 AM
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Haha ewwww. How cliche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:21 AM
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Far from
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:50 AM
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Lol! I mean hmmmm. I don’t think FDS is comparable to a red pill. We aren’t actively encouraging women to manipulate and lie to men in order to use them. Many of the women here genuinely want to be in loving relationships. However, I am not one of those women LOL but I’m just saying… I’m definitely the minority here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:48 AM
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Bingo. Like how fucking exhausting. If I want to fuck or am in the mood for company, there’s plenty of disposable dick available. I’m of “single for life” subset of women here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:15 AM
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They are a danger to society. Like if you’re shit posting incel stuff all day eventually you become deranged. You can’t be normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:13 AM
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He is delusional lol. He was good looking up until that point. Then I lost all respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:11 AM
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I don’t fuck around 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:11 AM
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Boyos lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:10 AM
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It’s very entertaining to lurk those subs. It’s like a whole world I didn’t know existed bc I had a life prior to this injury that’s given me a lot of time to look at stupid shit on the internet lollll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:10 AM
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Jesus. What cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:09 AM
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And most of the time, they don’t even make us cum so it’s like fuck! What’s the point even anymore lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:36 AM
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Ugh god I’m cringing so hard reading this. Female socialization is so cancerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:35 AM
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100% I’ve never done it and do not plan to. I’m worried for some of the youngest FDS members who are just starting out and are inexperienced. Especially for their physical safety! I saw in another post that they do Beckyfishing. Stealing pics of women go use for their sick games. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:23 AM
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You’re right. I strongly dislike apps like Tinder etc. I find them to be dangerous. At least I hope this post helps women consider that putting their likeness and info on an app that exposes them to the scum of the earth like these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:13 AM
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Basically. I guess they consider this “black-pilling”. I constantly get PMs thanking me for spreading the black pill lol “the true nature of women” uhhhh ok pal. Have you seen half the shit men say about women on Reddit? They’re fucking delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:08 AM
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They’ve been busy crossposting a lot from FDS today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:51 PM
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They x-posted this in shortcels lol They keep telling us we are spreading the blackpill, which I guess in normal person logic just means reality. But to them: Kek I'm starting to love FDS they're dropping blackpills everywhere soom enough every simp and soy will understand women are shallow whores. Cope. No one wants a small dick. What about gay bros? Bet they don’t either. Not a trait special to women in the slightest but they can’t wrap their tiny brains around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:43 PM
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Yes exactly what I was thinking just now! Read my mind! Protect yourself at all costs my dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:40 PM
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Lol they cross posted this in shortcels https://www.reddit.com/r/shortcels/comments/fh5lle/umm_sweaty_if_you_dont_worship_kweensyass_slayy/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:36 PM
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If they actually spent time here learning about what we are actually saying, they would turn around and call us “based“.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:27 PM
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Another comment was that this was exposing how “woke” we are in reality. Meanwhile the rest of Reddit calls us TERFs lmaooo. Like do your research sweaty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:25 PM
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It’s over for chadfishcels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:22 PM
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Totally agreed! They tend to grasp to the most conservative and oldest examples and values of the culture and hold on for dear life. That’s why you’ll see a lot of balkan/slav worship coming from the alt-right. They love to LARP as some “based” war criminals when in reality they’re 14yo and grew up in the suburbs of Ontario lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:18 PM
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P much. In the diaspora it’s amplified imo. I’m currently in the states and whenever they sniff out that I’m from the homeland they always default to like balkan-level behavior. Chauvinist and machismo abounds. I like manly men but only if they have something to show for it, ya know? This dude basically assumed bc we had that commonality that I was just going to do him a favor and work for free bc that’s what our women do lol serve men lmfao. Like bro we aren’t even from the same country, so com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:02 PM
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I suppose this sub is going through some growing pains and the trads are getting louder. Not wanting to shell money out to the industrial wedding complex doesn’t make me a pick me lmao that’s just absurd. I’m a grown woman who can decide what to spend money on. To those who want expensive weddings, enjoy! But to call women who don’t subscribe to mindless consumerism trends, “pick mes” is fundamentally anti-woman and absolutely not radical feminism in any way. Edit: and fwiw I do have the disposa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:54 PM
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Wtf is wrong with people lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:41 PM
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You’re flair tho lmao. My choice to not participate in mass consumerism culture, including that of the wedding industry, has nothing to do with my stance on dating, sis. It’s a personal preference. Especially bc my father would be footing the bill as per tradition. Let’s not spoil this subreddit by not allowing women to have their own opinions on things unrelated to feminism and dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:22 PM
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I’m such a fool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:03 PM
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Haha good ol Benny. Yeah, I can’t think of anything more classless than asking someone to perform their professional services for free when just meeting them. I don’t even ask my friends to unless I can reciprocate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:51 PM
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Frankly, shelling out tens or hundreds of thousands for a wedding is crazy to me as well. I’ve been part of wedding planning for family and friends and it just completely turned me off to the idea. I’m a very independently wealthy woman and I just work with money and finance too much to be okay with that kind of consumerism. Doesn’t make me a pick me tho 🤷🏻‍♀️ To those interested in learning more instead of just downvoting and name-calling: look into how the wedding industrial complex exploits w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:50 PM
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I’m with you on this sis. I’ll wear a ring if it’s an heirloom but I have no interest in going out and supporting the exploitation. The consoooooom culture of weddings and engagements in the west is so over the top to me. I’m not judging those who are really into that stuff but this does NOT make us pick mes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:45 PM
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In another post it was censored as m*les and I kept reading it as moles baha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:38 PM
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Lmao your edit. Ruffled some ball hairs 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:37 PM
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He kind of dropped the charm act and that smug smirk just left his face lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:29 PM
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Not shockingly he was also from the Balkans. Guess his entitled nature just kicked in lol. Edit balkancels mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:27 PM
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For a couple of months now. I don’t get a chance to read every single post and sometimes I don’t get to check in for a couple days. But from the discussions I’ve had in here with other women, it has been a really positive experience. It sucks to hear that there is shit like that going on in here. Do you have any quick examples? I’ve seen race and culture discussed but it was in a pretty productive way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:20 PM
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A pick me would have jumped at the chance to “prove her worth” since this guy was actually very good looking. I’ve been doing my line of work for 12yrs now, I don’t need to be paid in exposure lmao. His demeanor completely changed as soon as he realized I was not going to be manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:17 PM
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Ahhh reading this is like you’re in my mind! That’s how I feel - verbatim. Also why I really like this sub. There are so many of us in here who are from all different backgrounds and yet we are all supportive of each other. I enjoy reading about everyone’s different experiences, even the most disheartening ones, because I like learning about other people’s cultures, perspectives, and lives. Being able to interact with all different kinds of women here is a blessing. I never saw or felt that in G…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:15 PM
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Like literally what Lolol. I can’t take them seriously now. White feminism is def a thing and they are really living up to their reputation in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:56 PM
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I’m so glad to see this discussion here. After the Super Bowl halftime show, there was a lot of uproar about Shakira and Jennifer Lopez. Some women in GC had no qualms with making pretty racist remarks about the cultural and indigenous dances Shakira was performing. I mean they literally were using rhetoric that the KKK would use like to describe ethnic dances like the Afro-Colombian ones she did. Lo and behold, the woman who described it as “imitation air fucking” akin to hula hooping (?!?) was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:52 PM
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She is way better looking than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 07:04 PM
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Ah my Southern European sisters sigh. It’s deeply ingrained and usually infects the diaspora.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:46 PM
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I refuse to believe that’s a woman writing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:41 PM
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Truly a clown world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:41 PM
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In really horrified by the comments and now this is apparently something worth LOLing over. People are doing spit takes hurhurhur! Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 06:40 PM
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I used removeddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:46 AM
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r/nametheproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:10 AM
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Lmao yup. I have guys like that fetishize me in the states thinking that’s how it will be if we have a future lmao. Why? Bc I can cook? Oh buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:26 PM
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Holy shit lmao what a fucking rabbit hole. There’s a post in there now crying about why we hate their sub. It’s by a man 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:23 PM
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Damn I can’t find it! Edit nvm foundit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:18 PM
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Adding to sidebar is a great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 06:34 AM
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Yeah and they do. But this sub is huge now so I worry they get bogged down. It’s a lot of work! But I do agree we don’t want every other post to be like that- so I’m with you on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:22 AM
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One of the best things about this sub. I love reading about their experiences and learning- even though I’ve read so many harrowing and disheartening stories. It’s important to listen and acknowledge the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:17 AM
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Yeah it’s been a while for me too lol. Still the same low lives who are achieving nothing in life and sit online all day trying to make up biotroofs to justify their hatred for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:54 AM
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I agree but we also should be aware of factions of Reddit that are actively trying to get us shut down, as well. We don’t want to get sloppy with TOS and moderation rules. It will also help keep an eye on potential trolling sabotage. So I still think it’s good to stake out those who may want to silence us. Just wanted to offer another perspective! Also, it’s kind of fun to see how men on Reddit are willfully ignorant about women while they spend all their days crying about us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:50 AM
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Isn’t there an entire sister sub for “leveling up” and self improvement?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:41 AM
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Was talking to this guy I met and Reddit was brought up. He mentioned he lived that subreddit. I immediately distanced myself. Guess who tried to hit me up nearly a year later while living with a LTR? Yeah. Piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:48 AM
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That’s why I laugh when these incels and other subs say we use me for meals. It’s not an exchange. It’s an investment if effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:10 AM
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Ew you don’t need a simp for a boyfriend. Good riddance. You took the garbage out. Great job! Can you break the lease?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:07 AM
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As an independently wealthy woman this always makes me laugh. Every man I’ve picked up as a stray has always wanted the perks of my lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:58 PM
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Cheers to that sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:55 PM
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It’s kind of embarrassing how they think they get this sub but they couldn’t be more off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:51 PM
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Just bursted out laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:42 PM
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I am so baffled by this situation like I can’t even begin to make sense of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:24 PM
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No wonder so many 20-somethings get so much anxiety before turning 30. If they see the people in there as representatives, I would have been spooked af too lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:23 PM
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Ah my bad. Maybe I’m mixing them up! DoT is such a trash heap. So many socially stunted people ranting and wallowing in pity. It’s really pathetic to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:18 PM
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Wow lmao. Second hand embarrassment for that fella.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:15 PM
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Bball fan(atic) here. Lmao this dude had such a trash career I cannot believe the audacity rn. I bet Trae Young is mortified to even be mentioned. When asked to point out when Gilbert Arenas' downfall began, most would cite his infamous decision to bring guns into the Wizards locker room in Dec. 21, 2009. But those who followed his career closely know the turning point was actually on April 4, 2007. more info on his trash career in the NBA. Methinks the scrote doth project too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:14 PM
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Lol wait what! What did he even mean...??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:09 PM
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I just lurk there and read their stories for material to post here because some of the people in there are fucking pathetic. It’s truly the average redditor: dating edition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:08 PM
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All the mods there are men lol. Shocking!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:06 PM
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I think the 1/4 stat is from here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:04 PM
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I use this alt only for FDS basically because I don’t want to deal with annoying triggered men elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:03 PM
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I also find it ironic when they say we perpetuate sexist stereotypes against men, because it’s kind of like people claiming reverse racism... in a sub that is supposed to be about white fragility. They really did show their hand huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:02 PM
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I think she means that one in four women who are murdered, are murdered by their male partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:52 PM
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This sounds like a nerd who sits on Reddit all day reading the relationship and legal advice subs and then trying to create a story that puts all of the worst scenarios we’ve seen posted there in one fanfiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:51 PM
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They may start shitposting here to try and get us banned. We need to make sure we are staying tight with Reddit TOS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:34 PM
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I feel like we don’t really push trad LARPing on anyone here. It’s their personal choice, especially since some people here are from other cultures and have religious backgrounds. What are we supposed to do? Shame them until they fit a brand of western white radical feminism like in GC we find acceptable? How is that even helping women. That’s why I don’t even like that sub. I prefer the diversity we have here and how we don’t judge or shame. We are here to help each other navigate the testy wat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:32 PM
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You’d just think that a sub dedicated mocking the type of men who are incels, MGTOW, etc would realize we are just women trying to protect ourselves but it seems like a bunch of libfem handmaidens and “feminist men” in the end. Looks like it’s stated downthread that it’s bc we are “terfs” even though we literally never post anything transphobic. We just want this to be a space for women who have shared women’s experiences. We literally can’t have anything for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:24 PM
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I bet most of them are men then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:20 PM
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Truth be told, there are tons of fragile white men on Reddit and it’s been a great place to see screenshots and examples of that but why go after FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:15 PM
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Right? That was the kicker for me. Like we are the antithesis of nice girls lol. They just want to be mad. Like what does our sub even have to do with the premise of their subreddit?? Have they not even seen most of the posts here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:06 PM
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Here is the NP link, please do not brigade, participate, or vote in the OP. There are many more comments in the entire post that mention FDS and it’s mind blowing to see how little people understand about what we are doing here. I wonder how many of these comments are being made by “feminist” men. I think about how many women are in this sub hearing each other’s stories and seeking advice so they don’t end up in manipulative and abusive situations - and we aren’t even allowed to have that. Their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:02 PM
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If you go into watch Reddit die, one of the top posts is crying about how MGTOW and Red Pill are quarantines but “horrendous” FDS isn’t. I mean lol it’s fucking laughable. Go see the comments if you enjoy popcorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:34 PM
3

Sadly many women in Southern Europe have this attitude. Cultural pick me attitudes are prevalent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:14 PM
2

This is so sickening and heartbreaking. This thread has put such a pit in my stomach. I wish I could do more to help and protect WOC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:58 PM
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Performative HVM are a danger for those who are not well versed in FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:54 PM
3

The mods of these subs tend to be the worst of all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:28 AM
5

Yes 😂 looks like he’s been FDSpilled (everything is a pill w them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 12:01 PM
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It was in the comments of this post where these dorks were saying shit like “women are trash by design“… Why? Because we don’t want to have children with their subpar genes? I’d say that’s the opposite of trash. They love to use these biotroofs to shit on women but when their own “blackpill” is too much to bear, they just blame women anyway. There’s sub called blackpillscience where they drone on and on about how they are scientifically getting fucked over by women. I keep getting DMs from these…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 11:54 AM
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Wtf!!!! That is absolutely disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:00 AM
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If def isn’t our job!! I fell down a rabbit hole recently and continue to stumble upon some of the most disgusting spaces on Reddit with these guys. They all seem to be anti-porn, super obsessed with traditional values, Christianity, blaming every single thing on Jews and minorities and women- of course. But they want to “save us” because we are incubators for their bloodlines. I mean they are all like 14-20 years old and holy shit. Imagine being that big of a loser during your prime years to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:41 AM
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They talk about how much the degeneracy of women has ruined the world while they spend 12 fucking hours on 4chan saying the n-word. I mean good lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:33 AM
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Lmao jadakiss laugh killed me!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:31 AM
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The amount of men like this on the internet is, frankly, alarming. Like what the actual hell is going on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:20 AM
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I mean the delusion is like wow. Lol! I mean literally ALL we have to do is be tradwives to ugly LVM and carry multiple pregnancies to fulfill their dreams of a white ethnostate! So EASY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:19 AM
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Not constantly having to think for someone else. Not having to base my plans around someone else’s schedule and mood changes. Not having to compromise time I spend with my friends, playing sports, or my various hobbies because I have to humor someone else’s preferred activities. Not constantly having someone keep tabs on my life and schedule 24/7. Not having to put up with someone’s family when they are toxic and draining. Not having to feel like I’m someone’s property or that I belong to someon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:15 AM
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My parents fucking did this to me my whole youth and still do to this day even though I’m a grown ass woman. It totally fucked me up and caused be to have zero self-worth. They always assumed I was in the wrong somehow no matter what. It made getting out of a horribly abusive relationship very difficult and it almost ended up killing me. I still deal with the effects of this daily bc I’m always doubting my intuition or decisions. Always second guessing everything but I’m working on it actively. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:09 AM
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The white nationalism subreddits are IMMENSE on Reddit. There are so fucking many of them and it’s insane. I accidentally stumbled upon Consume Product thinking it was an anti-consumerism sub but it’s basically a racist, anti-Semitic shithole. Unreal. Went down a deep rabbit hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:28 AM
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I saw a comment from a dude in there saying he’d love to “hate fuck” someone and I was like 🤔 sounds a lot like rape buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:25 AM
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Yeah look at the attempt. It’s called Clean Living Kings and it’s all about tradwives, the Bible, blaming everything on Jews and minorities, and crying about saving the white race. What can you expect from the average male redditor?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:24 AM
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But if you happen to end up manipulated and abused, they’ll blame you for choosing poorly lol. They will always find a way to blame the woman even when the man is at fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:21 AM
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That classification of skin color doesn’t even exist outside of the states so it’s funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:08 PM
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You must be younger. There are entire dissertations about the glorification of anorexia in fashion and media. I grew up during the worst of it. Also, “glow” and “healthy skin” is very easily facetuned and photoshopped. I’m not body shaming. If anyone can spot ED behavior, it’s someone who has the disease. The fact that men in certain subs on Reddit were saying that they would only date single moms if they looked like her, says everything you need to know about how stupid the idea of “dad bod” is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:10 PM
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Considering they are the upper echelon of dads… That’s definitely not the way “dad bod“ is colloquially used at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:44 PM
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I have been in treatment for anorexia twice. She did look ani to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ she also exhibited ED behaviors. It’s literally the only time I ever tuned into that show because another ED trip tipped me off to it. I’m not body shaming. Anorexia is literally glorified still to this day by media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:41 PM
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Yes I definitely follow the trends as an old person LOL!! It’s a relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:46 PM
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Yeah I like a man who can eat. I’m very into cooking and nutrition, but I have such a hard time dating dudes who are constantly on a restriction cycle. Partially because I’ve struggled with anorexia my whole life, but mostly because I see eating hearty meals as a masculine thing, especially if I am the one who cooked it. I could never date or be serious with a guy who has more safe foods than I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:46 PM
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We must have definitely grown up in different generations! The 80s, 90s, and 2000s were all about having huge boobs and absolutely no ass or thighs. Think Tara Reid. It was truly a blessing when the athletic thighs/butt trend became more popular… Even though it has swung the pendulum a bit too far in the other direction at this point with women modifying their bodies into comical proportions with dangerous surgeries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:37 PM
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I totally feel you. I’m an athlete and tall but even I don’t really prefer super ripped guys. I like a natural athletic body without T-shirt muscle. I always laugh at guys who spend so much time in the gym but couldn’t throw a ball properly to save their lives. There’s just something about that static bulky muscle that gym rats get that is such a turn off for me. And it’s very rarely proportional because the workouts they do don’t really develop muscle naturally as it would occur if you were act…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:33 PM
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They don’t have periods, they don’t get PMS, they don’t deal with raging hormones or menopause… They don’t naturally carry more body fat due to biology, they are not under constant societal pressure to be impossibly pretty and thin at all times, while also hairless, with only perfect hair in the right places, and painted on skin, while also growing humans in their wombs… I feel so bad for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:18 PM
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Check it out!!! If you like shows like the bachelor/bachelorette it’s awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:16 PM
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In general, in this sub, we have discussed how society has pushed this idea of dad bods being an ideal to further lessen women’s standards while the concept of a mom bod would never fly, even though women are producing actual human beings inside their bodies. Men are simply getting fatter and it’s become acceptable and trendy. Therefore, a pick-me woman would be proud to announce that she doesn’t expect the same physical ideal from a partner as she does of herself, seeing as that this woman is c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:10 PM
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I don’t follow the show but wasn’t there a single mom wants who was like a borderline anorexicly skinny? I just remember there being some talk about it where your average male redditor made comments like “if single moms looked like that I might date them” or something. I may be misremembering. This was years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:07 PM
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Dating in my 30s has been full of way more options than I had in my 20s because I can date up and down in age. The best part is that I don’t have patience for very much bullshit because after wasting a lot of my time in my 20s, I made sure my 30s were filled with tons of hobbies, friends, travel, volunteer work, etc. I seriously don’t give a shit about “finding love“ because my life is so full of love right now that throwing myself at some random with a big dick seems like a waste of time. I sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:52 PM
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Yeah dad bods are skinny fats though I would t say muscular bulked dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:36 PM
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Have you ever seen the show UnReal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:35 PM
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Isn’t it ironic too? Considering a woman actually produced an actual human being and gave birth to it to earn a mom bod? The dad grew a beer gut, but yes let’s give them the credit and allowance they deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:35 PM
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I don’t watch the show or anything so thanks for the clarification but, that being said, the way they are advertising it and twisting words makes it even more abominable imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:11 PM
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A lot of Balkan people are darker skinned. Even though we are Southern European, Americans or westerners just clump is into Eastern Europe. Americans have a really weird racial fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:08 PM
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They are like ticks looking to suck blood from the host lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:16 AM
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Sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve seen this pic floating around the Internet for a couple days and felt it could send a message of how we see men who expect their wives or gfs to be their surrogate mothers. I know I had one lol... or 2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:14 AM
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Too bad a lot of hyper-religious men use the Bible as a way to create this dynamic lol. Browse subs like Coomer and Brotopia. They will use any excuse or validation to not be men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:34 PM
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Well yes they also do... many of them. Coddling mothers are cancerous. My ex had one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:30 PM
2

Peaking as a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:29 PM
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It’s gonna be a no from me dogg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:28 PM
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No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:31 PM
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Those of us who were born in the 80s definitely differ from people who say they are “90s kids“ because they were actually born in the 90s. I was in high school in the 90s… Totally different experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:03 PM
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Eek bullet dodged. I’m glad you’re out of that phase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:20 PM
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I’m not sure how to do that and I’m on mobile. Maybe one of the mods can do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:17 PM
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Because of my athletic hobbies, I’m around a lot of 23 to 26-year-olds. It’s honestly embarrassing to see how they act sometimes, and especially on social media. Some of them will complain about being single and in the same breath post obnoxious TickTock videos of random girls doing something stupid and caption it with “why are bitches so stupid hurhurhur”- like bro, you’re 26. Finish your degree and get a fucking job. Get off Twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:15 PM
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Sorry I just mean that clumping such a wide generational range as “millennials”, dilutes your point a bit. I don’t know many 40-year-olds who are my peers that would ever be into this shit. But there sure are 25-year-old millennials and younger Gen Z who are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:11 PM
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Just like people who are obsessed with anime and weird animated cartoons that are created for children, it’s really just a stones throw away in most cases. I was feel like I sound so old when I say this but, I really don’t understand why so many men in their 20s are so openly infantile. On Reddit and Twitter (and in some cases, real life) I see men who are like 25 or 26 years old who collect toys that my 10-year-old nephew wouldn’t even want to play with right now. I totally understand nostalgia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:59 PM
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I feel like the millennial label is so arbitrary. Some millennials are turning 40 this year, while others are 25. I am part of the elder millennial label and I literally have nothing in common with people under 30. While I think Gen X and boomers tend to fall more closely in line with a set of “attributes”, once the millennium turned, that generational label really had a distinct dividing line between those born in the 80s and those born in the 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:55 PM
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If I had to see this while out gl grocery shopping with a relative or really anyone I would be so mortified and sickened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:08 PM
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Time for a shortcel purge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:40 PM
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That’s all these little impotent twerps can do… And then claim there is no patriarchy and that women are entitled. The satire writes itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:39 PM
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It’s nearly harvesting season! I must prepare!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:29 AM
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My title was completely sarcastic btw - I just thought the delusion was something to laugh at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:28 AM
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I’m subbed but FDS is much more my style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:06 PM
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I think the person who wrote this deserves a clap back? Yes? Can we agree?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:46 PM
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They have no hobbies or lives. They’re an absurd blend of narcissistic and self-loathing enough to make themselves feel special online. I can’t think of anything more pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:45 PM
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Agreed !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:14 PM
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Ugh I’m sorry to hear that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:08 PM
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Honestly sounds dope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:06 PM
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Godly creatures ma’am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:49 PM
2

This dude said he was going to go on a shooting spree in LA today. Totally normal and part of Reddit TOS I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 09:46 AM
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You’re absolutely right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:30 AM
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I’ve been a fan in the past but the crowd is a bit different. They’re also at war with each other so content is like dime a dozen in there. Lots of men lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:29 AM
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I highly recommend it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:27 AM
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I’m really glad you’re strong now and away from that piece of shit. I’m with you sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:23 AM
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Hope he gets discovered for his bullshit and loses his miserable job at whatever 4HL job he’s trying to hold down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:18 AM
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Don’t be surprised if one of them uses your history/story and uses it against you because “you stayed and sucked his dick even though he was abusing you.” They will send you DMs. They have no idea how real life works, what the abuse cycle is, how hard it is to escape that kind of situation safely without getting killed, despite the daily examples in the news of women being killed by their partners. They’re so obsessed with their delusional ideologies they have no concept of what real suffering i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:16 AM
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I lurked the shortcels sub and it was entertaining to see how such weak minded men could think they’re so superior. If they ever went through half the shit the average woman does in a lifetime... they wouldn’t make it past 21. I got fan mail from them today since they all lurk here and saw I posted their embarrassing content for us to mock. They are truly deranged and evil little trolls. They literally talk about how they’d love to hate fuck certain women and wish certain women would get gang ra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:54 AM
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Yesss!!! We love to see it! I never once felt like I was being judged for not “following the ideology“ to someone else’s standards. We all live different lives here and have diff goals, we are brought together for the same purpose – which is to help each other live safer, and more satisfying lives! I feel so much solidarity with the women here, who I’ve never even met in real life even. It’s also been such a great learning experience to understand what women who are different for me go through w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:38 AM
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Talk about disproportionate comparison lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:32 AM
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Economic metaphors provide the language for conversations on Reddit with titles like “thoughts on what could be done to regulate the dating market,” and for a subreddit named sarcastically “Where Are All The Good Men?” with the stated purpose of “exposing” all the women who have “unreasonable standards” and offer “little to no value themselves.” (On the really extremist end, some suggest that the government should assign girlfriends to any man who wants one.) Which is not at all to say that hete…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:25 AM
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True I just couldn’t help myself. It’s good to remind ourselves from time to time that these are the kind of guys who send us fan mail calling us empty egg cartons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 02:03 AM
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Oof size large!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:34 AM
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The are the more intelligent gender, clearly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:05 AM
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Very true. Something they should think about more deeply. The detail in which they analyze every detail of a man’s structure is amazing. Truly. Like fascinating as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:58 AM
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My fav part about this sub is that we are so diverse: diff races, ages, religious views/ upbringing, socioeconomic standing, geographic setting, etc and I have yet to see the women here tearing each other down like I see in other rad fem subs (who call us toxic lmao). That’s why I’m happy to stick around here and meet amazing ladies from across the globe as we help each other in real ways with direct impact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:53 AM
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I mean like isn’t what he doing kind of gasp GAY? He’s favoring men. It’s so sad to see them repressed. Even the one who posted about making a Grindr account. If they weren’t such homophobes maybe they’d be happier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:38 AM
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I’m blinded by my hubris 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:25 AM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:17 AM
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r/nametheproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:10 AM
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The absolute state of the job market ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:05 AM
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Let’s be real, they want to fuck Chad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:03 AM
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Men who have fallen into these incel ideology echo chambers are by far the weakest of them all. Sitting online, commiserating, coming up with far fetched rants about how women and minorities are inferior, everything is a Jewish conspiracy, etc. This is what happens when you’re born male and have literally done nothing in your life or achieved anything other than being born. It’s easiest to blame everyone else and society for your pitfalls, instead of yourself. They have no solutions other than t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:01 AM
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Epic blackpill: “clean your fucking room!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:52 PM
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Well when you have no hobbies... you have a lot of time to proselytize. They’re definitely not hobbymaxxing over there. I just a message and invite to one of their YouTube channels bc apparently I’m interested in the blackpill lmao. GO OUTSIDE, KIDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:50 PM
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Also, there are some radfem subs, which shall not be named, that are full of older women (and I’m in my mid-30s) who will openly say disparaging things about FDS and totally discredit any good that shit sub is doing for young women who may have lost their way. I’ve definitely seen it online and in the workplace- not a good look. I’m happy to be the older subset of posters here providing advice for young women that need it. I will not carry on the torch of “bitter older woman” in any sense of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:48 PM
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Their idol Jordan Peterson: don’t forget to wash your penis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:44 PM
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He has to wake up every day and cope w the fact that he’s ugly and unloveable and that he will die alone. Everything else is just a bonus. Edit: oh, and he’s a manlet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:37 PM
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Easter Europe, bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:32 PM
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Yeah it’s a wild ride. I’m a tall woman so snort men don’t bother. Though, most of my fondest relationships were w men my height or even an inch shorter when I was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:25 PM
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I just can’t imagine sitting down, writing this out, posting it, and then feeling like I actually accomplished something for myself in life. The vast majority of women in this group here speak from our experiences with low value men, especially of the abusive of variety. The majority of these incels have never even had contact with an actual woman. This is literally make-believe. They need to be shunned and ostracized into obscurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:47 PM
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I love the top reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:41 PM
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You clearly cannot recognize brilliance when you see it. Typical female!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:41 PM
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Apparently one of them made a grinder acct and got tons of matches but is too “inhib” to go through with it. Hating women and sitting at a computer seems so much more productive, doesn’t it? Studying shortcels today has been fun. I’m laid out due to a sports injury and man, this is better than binge watching Netflix lol! I love how much outrage there was over FDS when I’ve seen multiple comments in threads calling for the raping of women etc. wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:38 PM
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And their genes, of course. They deserve all their pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:17 PM
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Good on you! Fuck these goons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:11 PM
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Yup and you have to stay cordial for politeness sake but it’s good to always have a guard up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:34 PM
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Or just simply being attractive and having images of yourself enjoying your life is enough to reach for the rope, according to these incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:33 PM
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Bingo. Also what’s their obsession with IG? I literally haven’t posted in like over half a year. I don’t even go on it anymore bc it’s basically fb 2.0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:23 PM
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Bingo!! Total pick mes. Had a supervisor at a temp job constantly roll her eyes at me bc she would only give me extremely vague instruction and then scoff if I asked questions lol. I actually ended up leaving a scathing review through my temp agency (which was all woman-owned, for women) and I think she actually ended up getting in trouble after my contract was over!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:22 PM
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Borderline pandemic at this point. Incels and corona. We need vaccines lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:11 PM
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Oh yeah. Dealt with that as well!!! Particularly older women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:08 PM
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I’m nursing a back injury so I’m laying around for most of the day after a long week, and boyyyyy the incel rabbit hole is deep! Fascinating and disgusting. And it’s on a public forum for all to see. I have no sympathy for these pathetic dickskins. Sent a couple links for various friends and they are dumbfounded. We are gen x/elder millennials and are just having a hard time grasping how this younger gen just got so fucked up lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:07 PM
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As they’d say, it’s “cope” for his desk jockey job and unfortunate appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:00 PM
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From my research today they also use roasties, holes, and various common vulgarities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:59 PM
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Would be a shame if this got picked up by some kind of media outlet or something to make higher ups aware how prevalent and malicious incels are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:58 PM
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Absolutely. And with female socialization, they’re already expected to be overtly agreeable and overly accommodating. It’s important for women to know that male bosses will leverage sex or flirting over them, or find ways to punish them simply for being “too attractive”. I dealt with this when I yelped for several years after college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:57 PM
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Not the way he’d like to though lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:54 PM
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Lol just got fan mail from an incel from my own country. Fucking mortified for him. No pride whatsoever. I’d love for his parents to find out what kind of filth he writes online and the fact that he’s so mentally weak that he’d succumb to such a degenerate mentality. They’d prob revoke his citizenship and exile him to an island without internet connection so he can stop putting shame on our people and his last name. Embarrassment to our already tiny country with dwindling population. At least he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:52 PM
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He has quite the fan base doesn’t he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:49 PM
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Amen! At this point, the internet has given men a way to lead double lives. They put on their fake work face, but the ideologies they build behind the scenes when they’re at home the rest of the night posting to incel forums is something else entirely. They can’t be trusted. I don’t trust any dude who is overly familiar with 4chan or even Reddit tbh bc there are so many toxic male spaces where all they do is fantasize about killing and raping women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:47 PM
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Lmao I’m getting fan mail from them now. Fucking losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:36 PM
29

take a look
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:59 PM
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There have been a couple cases in the past few years where dudes who have gotten busted at work for participating in incel forums etc. just recently one guy worked for the government and wanted to “exterminate all jews”- he was in his 50s. People are very good at hiding behind their public personas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:32 PM
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I fear some women who are just entering the workforce may not be prepared or have the tools. It’s important to know that these kind of malicious creeps dwell in middle management, where they will probably stay the rest of their pathetic lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:30 PM
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They are pathetic excuses for humans and deserve every ounce of self-loathing and pain they feel day to day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:23 PM
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They’ll be the first to deny that male privilege and abuse of power exists. Then use this as inspiration. Another guy in shortcells threatened/warned he was going to shoot something up in LA today. I’m just flabbergasted that these people exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:16 PM
1

Oh my god. I’m so glad you got out of that phase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 05:13 PM
2

That was the fire date, he continued to try to manipulate me and I felt like fucking with him. We are from the same culture so it was like basically me being appalled by the audacity to think he could make a fool out of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:59 PM
2

Literal shape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:20 AM
5

Lolol! I’m so glad I shared. It was honestly a jarring experience. I didn’t expect it. I thought maybe he was shy bc he had a fat hog or something, and didn’t want to be used for it, but nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:47 AM
3

Haha yes but I’m not Albanian. I’m from ex-yu :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:46 AM
2

Wow really?? Crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:45 AM
3

Would not try to date with such a massive porn addiction and medical penile issue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:45 AM
3

I was disgusted by the flowers and they were hideous lollol. Belong on a grave, totally didn’t match my place and aesthetic. Low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:43 AM
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That’s literally all they know how to do at this point. Reddit is just one big echo chamber for nerdy, socially inadequate, gamer types who need each other’s validation that their mediocre standards of their own lives are good enough bc there are so many of them that are living the same LVM way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:25 AM
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That’s the best part. Once you realize how much you really don’t even need male attention or approval, it’s practically impossible to even go back to concerning yourself with what they think. It’s so nice to prioritize my hobbies, self-care, and good friends over dealing with some dude’s shit. I mean, they don’t even make us cum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:15 AM
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I’m subbed! I think someone may have cross posted earlier - but feel free do you do. I will pop in to answer and questions/concerns. Thanks for the compliments- I’m not perfect but I’m working with what I have left in me to deal with men at all after everything I’ve been through! FDS is a great resource for women, and we have to be aware of these types of situations more and more with porn addiction becoming so prevalent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:03 AM
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Not sure why he felt he needed to share the severity of this. He did like speaking for sympathy. You know, fellow immigrant, yeah nothing like pity to make you feel attracted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:37 AM
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It’s all based on your personal standards. I am a sexual person, sexual chemistry is like one of the most important things for me. Otherwise, I really don’t need a man in my life. I usually make more than them, have a better social circle than they do, and even drive a better car than they do and have more assets than they do. I’m just in that kind of position where maybe the only thing that could really benefit my life from a man is some good sex, but that’s very hard to come by these days lol.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:35 AM
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WELP. Obviously we don’t want to be coerced into sex with anyone, but for a guy to be so vocal about not having sex until XYZ, it just rings the alarms for me. Then I can pretty much confirm it by playing with them a little bit and peppering in sexual innuendo. They become soft as baby shit, whole act comes tumbling down. Especially in person 😂 it’s aamazing what a sheer top that is high collar and long sleeve can do with just a hint of bra showing through when they are coomers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:28 AM
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He sent me the most hideous floral arrangements, another performative act. One time, he tried to ask me for a work-related favor (after all of this mess) and I refused. It was just another lie to make sure I’d be home to get one of his gross and tacky bouquets lmao. Like he literally made himself look worse with every fucking move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:23 AM
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You hit the nail on the head with so many of your points here. Honestly, I wouldn’t have even bothered with this dude if he hadn’t been from the same culture as me. In some ways, I guess, it was like me living out a bit of a revenge fantasy on the abusive ex who almost ended my life because they were so similar with their performative fakery acts. I even unironically told him how much he reminds me of my ex when he tried to slightly neg me for saying I don’t want anything serious, though he had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:18 AM
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Exactly. Unless the dude is like very adamant about his religion or something, there’s going to be something wrong with him if he is trying to act so deep about intimacy. Especially if you fucking make it very known that you are not interested in a serious relationship. It was insulting to me that he thought I was this stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:10 AM
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By his logic, he will have manipulated a woman enough to want to stick by him. That’s why I could tell that all the stories about his “terrible ex-girlfriends” were total bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:08 AM
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L O L this is another example of why it’s important to now assume that waiting is HVM. Just when you think they can’t get any lower...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:01 AM
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Haha! I don’t usually participate in the “teach him a lesson“ part of this but something really compelled me because of the fact that he tried to use a professional/work connection to try and manipulate me. Like, motherfucker, I was doing you a goddamn favor! But that wasn’t enough, was it?! Well, let’s let the monkey dance now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:59 PM
3

Don’t worry… Somehow they will find a way to blame this on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:56 PM
8

It’s really just another performative act “ look, I’m changing for you.“ Lol this dude is 30!!!! This is shit teenagers do and fall for. No wonder he was “rattled” when I called him out on his bullshit. He literally has the mentality of a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:55 PM
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That’s pretty much where I’m at. We are shamed for this by the socially inept nerds on Reddit in the “manosphere” bc they have no grasp of what real life is beyond video games lol. I would say 97% of my married friends (with and without kids) are fucking miserable. I would never trade places with them even for large sums of money. Somehow we are still fed this bullshit that we are required to be married with kids to fulfill some kind of female destiny, and if we don’t, we are a scourge on societ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:53 PM
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I’m sure it happens naturally. But I can only go off of what he said. I’ve been with a decent amount of a sample size of men, but he was the first gonzo. It definitely caught me by surprise. I don’t think it’s very common, honestly. I’ve been more up-curves than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:45 PM
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😂 thanks - I’m glad it was entertaining! He’s totally gross and not even aware of how bad it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:38 PM
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Seriously. I wish something like this existed when I was about 10 years younger… hell, when I was 20 years younger. Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:37 PM
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I’m definitely not perfect! I think these big changes are going to make it easier for you to better yourself and focus on what you want. As women, we are made to feel guilty for being selfish and not existing to appease others. It’s total horseshit. I know so many women who are living absolutely miserable lives that have a husband and children who all disrespect and abuse her. That will never be me, and I am OK with that! That’s not for lack of trying however… But I wasted enough time putting my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:35 PM
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You are very welcome! I really wish I had sat down at the computer instead of using voice to text on mobile, but maybe this is better than something overly long and drawn out. More conversational. I’m not 100% sure exactly when I had that “awakening“ but it really was around 30. I had made some life changes at the time, like a big move, and changing the scope of the people I hang out with. I had a close guy friend, who I definitely had a crush on, but he was clearly just using me because I was n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:45 PM
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I will only say that next time you definitely shouldn’t even feel like you have to go through the performance of making him cum. But I’ve been there before when I was still trying to be a pick me and every man’s fantasy. Dark times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:36 PM
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It’s been a while since I have fucked with someone of my own culture and he was generally good looking but I could tell that he wasn’t at his optimal. When I originally first met him, we were both in winter jackets so it was hard to see his physique until the first date when he had on more form fitting clothing. Then I found out he wasn’t at all athletic (red flag for someone from my part of the world- huge sports culture, non-athletic men are usually weirdos and outcasts) so I knew what I was g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:34 PM
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Lol oh geez- thank you but I’m really just a seasoned old chicken. I didn’t think this post would really get much attention and am surprised it did! I’m in this sub primarily to help young women not repeat my mistakes that made me the way I am now. I’m very comfortable with my lifestyle (I love it), but I know it’s not for everybody, and it shouldn’t be. I want to help women avoid abusers at all costs, so I am happy to share a couple of my exploits. Have some more archived for another time 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:27 PM
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I guess someone who is amoral, can play the game, can manipulate (but actually be good at it) for personal gain, emotionally detached. I’m fully aware that this is not exactly a healthy way, emotionally, to live but with the extreme cases of abuse in my past at the hands of men I was in relationships with, it’s really the only way I care to be at this point in my life. I’m still at an age where men are fucking about and wasting women’s time. Maybe when I’m like 50, I will meet someone who is at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:22 PM
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He was awfully fixated on how hot I was to be such a prude. I knew he was full of shit. Another factor was that he is someone from my culture so I already went into it not believing a fucking word he said. Not because of self-loathing, but because of plenty of experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:14 PM
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I truly hope that you spend the bulk of your time working on accepting things from the past and bettering yourself. Of course, this sub is not only for dating advice, but definitely don’t feel like you are missing out if you are prioritizing yourself and your healing over dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:09 PM
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Lol! Thanks. I’m by no means perfect. This type of lifestyle is not for everyone but there are particular things going on with me where living this way makes the most sense and I get the most benefit out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:07 PM
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Anytime a guy thinks that he knows what’s best for you and disregards what you actually tell him, you know what time it is. When this happens to me, are usually decide to either completely stop talking to him and distance myself/block (esp when I’m really busy and it’s spring/summer). Or, if he thinks he’s particularly slick, I will fuck with him and teach him a lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:06 PM
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Kind of hard to think of a hypothetical way to go about it honestly. It’s always going to be very situational. With this guy specifically, he was trying to push this whole idea of “falling in love” even after I told him I was absolutely not interested in having any type of serious relationship, that I started purposely breaking down that fake façade he had put up to seem like he was some kind of hopeless romantic just looking for an emotional connection (in the wrong place, knowingly!!!) - I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:02 PM
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Lmao yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:57 PM
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That’s great to hear! So proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:57 PM
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It’s an incredibly real thing. Dirty John anyone!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:15 PM
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It’s one thing if you are maintaining a healthy lifestyle and working out, but it’s a complete other thing if you are so anxious that you can’t eat and your body starts breaking down fat and muscle. It’s also incredibly aging! Health above all else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:14 PM
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I’m just going to ramble off a couple of other red flags I saw from him: When we met initially it was a very quick introduction and we exchanged numbers because of something work-related. When he started texting me, he quickly shifted gears into asking me what my “situation“ was. I immediately told him that I’m single but I plan to stay single and I’m not interested in any kind of serious relationship. Red flag: He completely disregarded that statement and continued to pursue me romantically. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:12 PM
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You deserve better. Just like I would tell anyone who has a partner that struggles with addiction, you are not obligated to stay or to fix him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:55 PM
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Haha well... Tbf, I went through hell in my youth to get here. I was in an abusive relationship that almost put me 6 feet under. But he wasn’t the only one in my past who was controlling, low value, or abusive. He was definitely the last one, however. One day, I kind of just grew up and realized all the factors that lead me to this type of abuse cycle and said never again. Instead of spending the majority of my time worrying about dating and men, I focused completely inwardly and started working…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:52 PM
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I did some research and it’s concerning. I do believe he was semi-hard but it just wasn’t getting fully erect. I’d compare it to a chub but it was full gonzo. Now, this could be a genetic thing idk but he claims he bent it from his furious and incessant jerking so while am I to argue? I mostly think he was embarrassed because he was not very confident in his posture and was kind of covering his dick up which made me pull back and be like… OK what’s the fucking problem? I would have more sympathy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:45 PM
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You escaped something far greater than you realized at the time probably... good thing you’re out and will never put up with it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:37 PM
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Yep which is also a big sign of insecurity. Had something eventually happened between the two of you, you would have to deal with his inferiority complex which commonly comes out as some form of abuse and controlling behavior. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:36 PM
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Haha thanks! I actually wrote it on mobile using voice to text so I was mortified by my grammar and lack of punctuation when I read through it. At least it’s entertaining lol! One thing I find is the best way to deal with these types is to drop subtle sexual innuendo- but only if it naturally fits into the convo. They may resist at first, but that wall is paperthin. It will come crumbling down and they will quickly expose themselves if you egg them on even the slightest bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:17 PM
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If you think about the fact that they are so in denial of the effect that something like porn can have on them… They’re capable of convincing themselves of anything. Any rational human being, man or woman, should have the sense to realize that masturbating to pornography, especially the brutal and extreme type that is now prevalent, can be detrimental emotionally, physically, and mentally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:59 PM
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I’m glad this is of value to women here! Wasn’t sure if it would gain any traction but I can image this guy is out there right now doing it again to a vulnerable, lonely woman who will fall for his decently handsome looks and HV fakery. I’m happy to answer questions about other red flags I saw him exhibit within the 2 weeks of talking/texting with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:44 PM
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Feel free to cross post! I am happy to share the story. I have many male friends because of my somewhat male oriented hobbies and because of work. All of them that openly reveal that they regularly watch porn all have relationship issues, both of the single and married variety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:36 PM
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Yepppp. That’s why this story needs to be heard! The porn sickness is RAMPANT and affects men and boys of all ages. I would be devastated for a woman to hold off, catch feelings, and then discover something like this. We need to be vigilant and unwavering when it comes to our stance on porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:27 PM
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Lol I’m not a mod. You’re victim blaming a woman who is stuck in an abuse cycle. Look who is acting like a flaming dumpster fire. Look in the mirror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:25 PM
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I’d rather be alone than just tolerate someone bc the “love me” - there has to be mutual love there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:24 PM
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Your flair speaks for you. Comment less, lurk more. You have a lot to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:19 PM
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Oh yeah I’m 35 now lol but tv helped me with English at the time so I watched all these shows as a teen. I’ve also dated internationally and honestly there isn’t just one culture of guys that has value, it really comes down to finding an individual. Needle in a haystack. I’m good though, I don’t have time for that kind of searching game!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:35 PM
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Girl you’re making my anxiety soar! Thankfully you recognized he was psycho. I’m worried for you. There’s a lot of support here if you need it - lots of international women too. You don’t need a man to fulfill you. Let us know how we can help so you don’t put yourself in danger please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:26 PM
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Topanga was from Boy Meets World! Both her and Felicity gave up going away to amazing school and bettering themselves for man children who didn’t deserve them. I’m not from the states so I already grew up in a misogynistic culture but when I moved to the states I had pick-me pop culture “raise me” as far as boys go bc that’s not something that was discussed in my family or with my mom. It was a terrible pick-your-own adventure disaster 🙃 feminism came later for me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:25 PM
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Learn about the abuse cycle and please never spread this uneducated and misogynistic filth again. Shame on you if you’re a woman, I’d expect this from only a depraved man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:22 PM
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Yep she is deep in the abuse cycle. Even now that she has a child. She needs help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:21 PM
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In pop culture, however, it was pick-me central those decades. Last week we were posting the worst pick me picks of the 90s! Topanga, Sex in the City, Felicity... ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:18 PM
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I had to learn a couple times due to my 80s and 90s female socialization. Truly the worst era for women dating! I’m glad you learned and never looked back! I have no choice but to stan!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:14 PM
6

Musty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:13 PM
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I just can’t even imagine what it would be like to live that life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:13 PM
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You mean you don't want to spend all your time, money and energy convincing an entitled thot who brings nothing to the table that you're worthy of subsidizing her, feeding her, spoiling her and being treated as second class citizen put on this Earth to serve women? You sick sick man, how dare you, these women are kWeEns, they have vagina you know, that means you owe them attention and money, don't be such a mysoginist 😂😂😂 Delusional psychopaths. I’d def stay away from using Reddit for anything i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:07 PM
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As I get older, the act of getting ready and leaving my house, having my dogs be alone for hours, and the time spent in social situations, really has to be fucking worth it. Going out is a pretty exhausting process, especially if you add in commuting time and money spent on self-care to look nice. If I’m going out with anyone, the plans sure as fuck better be prearranged, confirmed, and appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:48 PM
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Been there many a times!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:43 PM
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There are tons of low value women on Facebook. I still have an account because I have international family and friends but I never post or really open the app. I highly recommend doing the same! It seems you are far too leveled up for any discourse with them. Twitter is much better, by the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:40 PM
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The best part is none of the comments in the thread were about that. They were all dorks on Reddit circle jerking about a video game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:37 PM
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Everything in this pic is a hand-me-down or was free on the curb. He spends his money on video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:35 PM
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Looks like all the clothes he owns are folded to the right of his computer... tucked into the shelves of his hand-me-down study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:35 PM
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Look how the commenters on the right see nothing wrong with this lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:33 PM
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He’s negging himself with how he lives. Folded clothes in a study desk? Plastic foldout chair for a computer? Everything in this pic looks like it was acquired from dumpster diving. Including the comforter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:32 PM
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Aw looks like we are getting brigaded already with downvotes. Some poor keyboard warrior is sitting on “new” downvoting Lolol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:27 PM
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You clean up before he comes over to hide your mess lol so the apartment stays fairly clean looking OR in comparison to how he lives like a pig, your own apartment seems clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:23 PM
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Or do things without you having to ask him to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:34 AM
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If a dude admitted he was too shy... FOR TWO YEARS, all attraction would disappear instantly. This is not a man who can take charge and go after what he wants. Sounds like a passive, weak character and I can bet you she will be doing all the work and double the emotional labor. It’s sad but she will have to learn the hard way like many of us did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:39 AM
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The bar is on the fucking ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:36 AM
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This is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:21 PM
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The shit women go through with men, being treated like fuck dolls, human flesh lights, getting pumped and dumped, insulted, played, etc and yet we persevere. This guy gets dumped for being low effort and now he’s scarred for life and seeks validation online lmao I mean the FRAGILITY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:17 PM
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18 and doesn’t go outside or socialize? I’m going to sound like a boomer but wtf is up w this generation? This seems to be an alarmingly common thing with Gen Z. It’s fucking weird. Video games, porn, computers ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:14 PM
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I’m 35 and regularly get hit on by guys in their early 20s. I definitely don’t look my age but I have a theory that they have been conditioned to be attracted to older women because of porn. One guy kind of even admitted it to me. I’ll fuck a hot younger guy if he has good dick but i’m not really in the mood to be someone’s porn fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:12 PM
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r/nametheproblem Great sub to keep these events archived. You know Reddit will always upvote any instance where a woman has done something wrong and circle jerk it to the front page but men are killing women nearly every single day and reddit sleeps soundly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:48 PM
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Lol with the hundreds of subreddits on Reddit that exist fetishizing raping and killing women, THIS is what you call sexist? Laughable. Edit: to the brigaders r/nametheproblem Since you won’t see these cases on the front page. Reddit will only upvote the rare cases a woman does something wrong and jerk their dicks raw to it. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:29 PM
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But they laugh at the idea of toxic masculinity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:27 PM
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They lurk this sub and saw this post. Lots of comments being deleted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:11 AM
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That last bit rings so true about intersectional white feminism in the west. That’s why a lot of us here are from different cultures/races yet we somehow all “get it” and can relate to each other without having to explain it (like you did so eloquently).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:26 PM
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BPD is the new “female hysteria” of this millennia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:02 PM
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Same. He would beat me senseless and she would tell me to “run home (upstairs) quietly”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:46 PM
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Especially this level of primitive Balkan fuckbois.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:45 PM
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Can confirm. Balkan men are usually abusive misogynistic pigs but in Albania they are doing honor killings etc. It’s appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:44 PM
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Check out the update I edited in, MRAs brigaded the thread and it was locked. I linked the removeddit link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:39 PM
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Check out the update I edited in, MRAs brigaded the thread and it was locked. I linked the removeddit link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:39 PM
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There has to be a cool girl who would think this is a groundbreaking threat that makes him edgy and cool. Always. Balkan women on twitter are the WORST pick mes ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:37 PM
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No prob!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:09 AM
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That’s copied from the BOLA post but LA is very strict about people commenting from subs where posts are cross posted so I just left it in there. We don’t want to be accused of brigading etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:05 AM
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They’re a nightmare lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:38 AM
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Omg lol what the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:03 PM
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Oh yes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:02 PM
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These guys tho, it’s so weird. They just use religion as a way to put themselves above “degenerates” but then they proceed to literally be bad Christians lol. The irony is great but what do you expect from 16 yr olds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:47 PM
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Absolutely. I feel terrible for her and hope that asshole gets what’s coming to him. I’m glad your situation is improved and sorry you ever had to be treated that way. Unbelievable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:28 PM
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Most likely he kept her pregnant and barefoot for years as a form of abuse based on his behavior right now and the fact that they have FIVE kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:22 PM
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I’m not the OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:34 PM
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What I find funny is subs like coomer, dogbrains, and those other religion-obsessed, anti-Semitic, alt-right subs love to use screenshots from FDS but if they took 5 sec to actually read any content in this sub they’d quickly turn around and call us “based” for opinions like this. They’re just too blinded by their hatred of women to think critically. Like they’re soooo close to understanding what we mean when we talk about the oppression of the patriarchy but then they take a hard turn and just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:07 PM
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r/nametheproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:55 PM
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I live in a big city and childcare is upwards of 1500 a month unless you’re ok with dumping your kid at a shitty daycare where the staff abuses them or lets them sit in dirty diapers for hours 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:54 PM
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This is seriously abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:52 PM
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You can’t even get childcare for 1 child for 1300 a month! Edit: For babies and toddlers, the average cost of full-time day care at a center is $972 a month. And that's average. Depending on your location and the center you choose, prices could exceed $1,500 a month per child for full-time care. Source.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:41 PM
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I always wondered... this doesn’t go against Reddit ToS right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:15 PM
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I don’t have the bandwidth for it bc I have hobbies that don’t involve advanced forms of escapism. I know some ladies here love gaming and no hate on them but the “culture” surrounding it, as far as men go, is completely toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:03 PM
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The hate for women just JUMPS OUT regardless of political leanings. He’s mad because what we are saying is true and a reflection of himself. Imagine a programmer incel edgelord warning us we need therapy or we’ll become a cat ladies. Totally something a man who has a lot of experience with women would say amirite gals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:00 PM
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Baha yes!!! That’s why I don’t even subscribe anymore. It’s like mind-numbingly dumb and I’m embarrassed by 80% of the comments/posts there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:55 AM
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The memes there are so childish I’m convinced the average user is like 14 and some of the incel-level rants and shit talk about women deserve its own “Croatian cringe” subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:52 AM
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Lmao gnome!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ old men are hopeless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:14 AM
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Late to the party but holy fuck girl... I sincerely hope you never talk to this dude again - EVER. You deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:10 AM
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That’s what I’m picturing... it’s kind of a grandpa move to pinch at your thigh as kind of a loving gesture, and my grandpa def did that to me, my mom, aunt, and my cousin but it’s done in a way like pinching a child’s cheeks. Still, he shouldn’t be doing it to strangers and, you’re right, he may have been old/senile and didn’t realize that it’s inappropriate. Still not ok tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:03 AM
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Yuck I’m really sorry about that and it’s def a fringe case and unacceptable. In general Croatian men truly aren’t the type to do that to any women unless they’re actual sociopaths or totally uncivilized rednecks. The biggest issues are the tourists so that’s why I assumed so. They come to Croatia and act like it’s a free for all and it causes so many issues during the summer it’s like a mini crisis - sorry for assuming. I think the complaints Croatian women have of Croatian men are deeper than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:49 AM
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Exactly lol of course his post history shows he’s some programmer so we know he probably has the personality and lifestyle of a doorstop. I think the post got removed but I grabbed a screenshot in case someone comes asking for receipts 🧾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:46 AM
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Lmao there was an ongoing joke about the kolo thing on twitter and so many diaspora cros were triggered by it. I wish I could find it but it was like 2 years ago. I just got tagged in the Croatia sub for this post and some dipshit told me to go get therapy before I become a cat lady yet he knows everything we listed in this thread is fucking true. Like where is the lie???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:39 AM
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Lol we just got tagged in the Croatia subreddit for this post and told we need therapy before we end up crazy cat ladies. Croatian men and their original humor, I tell ya!!! Total knee slapper! Not even going to dignify those nerds with a response. That cringe subreddit is full of HS kids and gamer incels who have no lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:26 AM
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Huge risk indeed. Dealt with it myself. I’ve never been happier being single and will never tie myself to a LVM again, Croatian or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:56 AM
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They’re usually in the most common diaspora cities/countries and are super young, finding their “identity” and feeling “included”. I think they just like to thirst trap for the attention of having admirers from over there bc it makes them feel validated and “approved” by the gatekeepers of their culture. They know they’re second or third gen but having someone over there lust after them makes them feel more authentic maybe? Idk man. It’s WILD. It’s also funny bc they think those guys would actua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:35 AM
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Being there for it def shaped my world view and I think all of us wear a scar on our hearts from it that really will never go away tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:29 AM
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Absolutely. It’s very complicated and multi-dimensional with like 5 diff sides in each conflict and then there’s that revisionist history and it’s a headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:28 AM
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Baha the Croatian girls in the diaspora are the worst pick mes I’ve ever fucking seen. If you’re on balkan twitter at all, literally every fucking post is like “I can’t wait to be a wifey soon and wear matching outfits with my baby”. ummm girl you’re like 17yo why don’t you focus on finishing high school?? They kiss ass so hard to the FOBs on there too bc they love to be validated by a native lol it’s so cringe inducing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:26 AM
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Balkan war history should literally be a whole separate class lol it would take over a year to even get through half of it. Exhausting tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:18 AM
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She was 💯 dealing with tourists (I mean Paris and Croatian coast are like 90% tourists anywhere you go, locals flee the area). We can rag on our men all day but Croatia is very safe and our men aren’t going around doing that shit like in places I’ve been in America. If any dude from my city was seen doing that, he’d get the shit kicked out of him and be ostracized. During the tourist season it’s always foreigners (read: drunk tourists) who are causing problems or committing rapes, you’ll be hard…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 03:02 AM
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Dude. Wtf is WRONG w cro diaspora guys? First of all, lmao ... they can barely speak the language (and when they do it’s like really fucking bad) yet they are like the biggest and baddest Cros. I’ve literally had one tell me that I’m not a true Croatian because I don’t go to church LOL. So this fucking kid born in Ottawa Canada is going to tell me, and immigrant from Croatia who was actually there for the war, that I’m not Croatian. He is so much more Croatianer than me you see bc he dances kolo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:52 AM
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As we say, “everyone had dirt under their fingernails and blood on their hands”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:46 AM
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Yep and it happened again in the 90s. The region is a powder keg and I wouldn’t be surprised if it happened again. The glossing over part for western history classes is probably bc how insanely complicated the aspects of the wars are and it’s kinda like eh who cares about these shithole countries ... that is until GOT featured Croatia and Americans learned we have beaches 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:45 AM
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Me too sis. ME TOO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:42 AM
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Here you go https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e5j80o/warning_to_all_my_immigrantculturalethnic_sisters/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:15 AM
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Very wise choice ma’am!!! I made a post here a while back about how to vet FOBs, you’d probably get a kick out of it 😂 Diaspora Croatian men make me want to kms btw can’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:14 AM
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Video games are a huge red flag to me. I’m older and didn’t grow up w this gamer culture but holy fuck I’ve never seen such emasculated man children who are literal slaves to gaming consumerism before. Reddit exposes me to it more than the real world but shit is scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:11 AM
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Balkans have always been a black hole to the rest of the world honestly. We are always left out/glossed over. There are people in America in their 40s who don’t even know where Croatia is on a map and still think it was “part of Russia” I mean -
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:56 AM
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I had 2 LTRs one was American and one was Croatian (in Croatia). It’s hard bc my brother married an American woman and she destroyed our family and it’s really been a nightmare. I’m a bit scarred from that. When I date American dudes I feel a little fetishized sometimes (they love the idea of having someone they may consider “exotic” cue eye roll), and then the other side of it is that sometimes I miss just being able to speak my native tongue and share that culture with someone. When I go back …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:52 AM
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The irony of slavs obsessed with Nazi Germany era Croatia is one of my fav historical ironies. Like they put us in camps too if we refused to wear the uniform. They trapped and tortured my grandmother and tried to burn her alive in a locked barn after they forced her to feed and clothe them as they used her village as a base. I’m supposed to idolize them for “freeing” Croatia for a year 😂 we were useful puppets. It’s embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:36 AM
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The fucking audacity of them leaving diaspora to bring one back, keep her as an isolated pregnant bangmaid, while having their kicks elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:35 AM
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Sorry that happened to you. They were most likely tourists honestly. I grew up in a Croatian tourist town on the coast and was constantly groped by tourist men. Croatian men are shitty but it’s very unlikely they are groping women in the town they live. Just my 2 cents. Paris and Croatia are like 90% tourists so the people around you most of the time are not natives or locals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:03 AM
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Most Southern Europeans are very similar honestly, especially our men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:01 AM
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Idk I’m from coastal Croatia so I’m lucky and I still think we have a beautiful country but the men here are absolute garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:50 AM
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Bingo balkan SMOTHERS are the WORST. My mom thankfully wasn’t that way with my brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:45 AM
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Croat here and yep to all this. Most notably: -Madonna whore complex due to religion -Childish antics from coddling balkan mothers -Daddy issues from abusive/cheating fathers -Low motivation, cynical attitude -Machismo culture leading to entitlement -Low emotional intelligence leading to violence -Prone to alt-right brainwashing -Lack of education or useless degrees -Idolizing criminals and mobsters -Still think sexist jokes from 30yrs ago are funny -Label obsessed but won’t work to afford it -G…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:45 AM
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Same goes for old radfems tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:54 PM
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Racist dogwhistle usually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:06 PM
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Some of them never reply and I’m just like 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:28 PM
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My dogs legitimately prevented me (and still do) from entering some stupid ass exhausting flings and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:27 PM
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Oh I’m getting better every year too 😃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:16 PM
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I can’t tell you young ladies how shitty it is have been of dating-age in the 80s/90s/early 2000s lol. That’s why us older women love being in this subreddit. Half living vicariously, half warning those who may be brainwashed by these “classics”!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:09 PM
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Funny how the LVM I know in my life are superfans of the show 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:07 PM
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It’s hard for me to come around to JLo having grown up watching her pick-me ways. Now after the super bowl she is back in my side-eye territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 02:05 PM
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I developed a light switch coping mechanism early on from trauma in my childhood and I’m oddly grateful for that. Once something is done or someone crosses the line, I flip that switch and it’s like they never existed. Block, delete, forget. Sounds hard but, fake it till you make it and you’ll build the callouses and stop self-harming like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:57 PM
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Ladies please be careful of the personal info you reveal here as far as location. There are many angry 4ch*n types who lurk here and have no qualms with going through all of your comments and doxxing you based on tiny details. It sucks bc we love this community of women, but we shouldn’t forget that it’s public and there’s misogyny abounds. Otherwise, the Balkans are a black hole for HVM. Most are chauvinist pigs but there are decent men in big cities. Requirements are education and formal job, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:55 PM
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I would def take a break from OLD if I were in your position. You’re living in a city where people can still meet organically fairly easily through activities. Give it a shot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:40 PM
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Another fab post that needs to be pinned/sidebar/handbooked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:30 PM
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Same. Was a teen in the 90s, wasted my teens and 20s on shit like this bc we were told it was devotion and commitment. I still made it out ok thanks to strict parents but damn, I still paid a hefty price with my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:29 PM
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Tbh it really feels like the opposite is true these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:23 AM
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This was unironically posted on twitter and reposted in the “based” subreddits like coomer and on 4ch*n of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:14 PM
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I think that’s moreso red pill. Diff flavor of dorks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:53 PM
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They’re all like 14-17yo they don’t know anything about life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:52 PM
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Yeah I don’t miss this shit at all. My whole teenage life and the first part of my 20s (almost all of it really) was just one big male attention performance. My gen got absolutely fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:38 AM
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This is HEALTHY. Too much pressure is put on women to always “have a man”- there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single. It’s such a pathetic and outdated notion that single women have something wrong with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:30 AM
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The same person who wrote the green text would vilify a single mom too tho lol blame her for picking a poor partner whether she was left or left a bad relationship and then she’s deplorable damaged goods and a whore. You can’t win with them bc the bottom line is that they hate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:12 AM
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Okay- Benzos. Xanax is in the green text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:23 PM
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I’ve seen Reddit get trolled by fake 4chan twitter accounts lol friendly fire is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:17 PM
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They think our entire destiny is to become someone’s property and raise their progeny. No sweaty, only if your genes are worth carrying on and you don’t become an additional child because you’re a useless schlep. Otherwise, I’m a completely fulfilled and happy person on my own bc I don’t depend on others for to feel whole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:43 PM
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I mean, it very well could be, but only bc it’s been recruitment cell for future school shooters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:38 PM
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Yes very much so. Also bizarrely obsessed with Christianity and Puritanism lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:37 PM
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Imagine women from FDS posting to 2X loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:34 PM
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It’s easier to blame the shortcomings of the modern man (socially inept, out of shape, addicted to vidya, anime, and porn, underachieving) on women for refusing to subject ourselves terrible partnerships than to accept any accountability. Oh and Jews, they’re to blame for everything too, according to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:34 PM
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Check out the coomers sub. It’s something else man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:13 PM
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Being obsessed with women’s egg count as a teenage boy... totally normal and healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:07 PM
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The Xanax part yes but you’re forgetting the carnivore diet and refusal of proper detox. Oh and dick washing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:06 PM
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Can’t wait to see the reaction from handmaidens and those that think this sub is a toxic. Counting down to the TERF chants too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:01 AM
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I okay soccer too! I watch more of it these days tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:44 AM
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Me too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:18 AM
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Omg. MODS!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:21 AM
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Best of luck on finals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:46 PM
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I tried to cross post yest to another FDS sub but I couldn’t! I hope the mods will make some allowances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:44 PM
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Dudes that always leave complimentary/creepy comments on your social media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:00 PM
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1.4 isn’t that much at all. Just shows how dumb he is lol. He’d blow through that with rent and sustaining two families within a couple years. Life is expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:06 PM
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According to the comments: It wasn't a compliment. She immediately let him know that she views him as being far more desirable than herself, which basically also let him know that he could probably degrade her and treat her like garbage and she'd still be "grateful" for the experience to be with a guy totally out of her league. Lmaoooo can’t win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:58 PM
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Yeah there is no reason to defend those subs... they are literally the swill of the Internet along with 4chan and the like. Also, I can’t believe two people actually sit and talk about these subreddits IRL lol, no offense to her, it’s just like wow I didn’t know people did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:54 PM
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Seems to me like you’ve been mislead to believe that men and women exist on the same playing field, therefore somehow excusing the blatant misogyny and hatred that these men express in those subs. The problems women are dealing with in regards to men are not just “how men are acting these days”; these are systematic patriarchal oppressions that have been pushed upon women for centuries. Please never make this comparison again in good faith.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:31 PM
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My grandma taught me to sew when I was little but I need to re-learn. It’s on my list of things I’m planning to take on this year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:00 AM
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Oh shoot sorry had no idea that existed! My bad. Someone yesterday said this sub wasn’t promoting anything positive for women so I felt inspired to make a post like this. Thanks for letting me know. Edit: I tried to crosspost this over there but I deep getting an error. Any tips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:57 AM
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Sounds like an awesome plan! Purging my wardrobe has been a religious experience. It’s so good to finally let go of my impossibly tiny clothes from when I was deep in my ED. It was a safety net for so long. I’m a grown ass woman now and I don’t need to be the size of a 10 year old anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:56 AM
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I love carnival season! We have something similar called Maškare where I’m from. So much fun! Enjoy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:07 AM
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It’s honestly going to make you quit IG and FB if you use them Bc it’s where all the best content comes from originally. I only do twitter and Reddit now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:08 AM
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Here’s a revolutionary idea. How about celebrating MOM BODS for the fact that have the ability to CREATE HUMAN LIFE and the fact that mom’s who have given birth DID THAT. But that will never happen. Of course dad bods would be celebrated instead. OF COURSE. What did dads do to get a dad bod? Let themselves go? What a cause for celebration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:40 AM
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Twitter legit has the best reply gifs/memes/clips
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:39 AM
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This post is a piece of art that should be in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:18 AM
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I truly honestly hope you do - I think having support is the greatest way to go through with getting what you want with this journey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:17 AM
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PS check out this recent thread https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/eytaq2/i_was_blindsided/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Honestly you should consider posting something about your preparation. I’m sure ladies here can help and provide a ton of input so you can finally be free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:14 AM
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Debating on whether to send this to OP. I wonder if anyone has!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:12 AM
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Do you think anyone has linked OP to this yet? 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:01 AM
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Ah in sorry I must have misread. You absolutely need to get out of that. They always say there will never be a “right time”. Also, I highly recommend you drawing up the papers and making living arrangements and having it ready for when you drop the bomb. In your case, I wouldn’t bother trying to have a conversation about it first. He won’t change at this point and you’ve allowed it to drain your life long enough. Trying to discuss it or telling him can cause a whole world of problems for you and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:59 PM
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I’m very sorry you went through that. I know someone who went through the exact thing, even the moving to small town and not knowing the language part. You were isolated and he knew he could mistreat you bc you had nowhere else to turn or go. Absolutely disgusting behavior. I hope you’re doing better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:53 PM
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I was in a relationship similar. Also wasted my youth but you know what? At least you’re no longer there and got the f out. If you want to keep being reminded that this is a great achievement, look at some of the insane comments from guys just like your ex. Delusional losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:34 PM
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You absolutely do not have to feel bad. Check out this comment from the thread. This dude is exactly like the fiancé in question. This is purely LVM response: I feel like people (and you) are making way too much of a big deal out of this. It happened one time and you're acting like it's the end of the world. So what if he played one game and didn't sit down to dinner when you said? Maybe the issue is more with you and how you feel than it is with him. Why do you feel so insecure in your relation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:14 PM
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I’m so sorry 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:07 PM
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That’s great to hear!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:24 PM
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This is a thinker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:49 PM
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It’s a total cesspool. Look at other threads. So much bad advice it’s almost like a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:49 PM
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I’m sorry to hear that. You deserve so much better. These kinds of addictions are very real but if he’s responding to your needs with violent outbursts, it’s not your job to fix him and endure that kind of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:54 PM
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Oh yeah. I can def see how this would be a breeding ground for unfulfilling relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:53 PM
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Sorry I didn’t mean it in that way. It’s like a figure of speech of “showing him reality“. I think that dumbass sub took the red pill name/concept from the matrix movie anyway Lolol. Edit: Description: The red pill and blue pill is a popular meme representing a choice between taking a "red pill", that reveals the unpleasant knowledge and the cruel truths of every day life, and taking a "blue pill" to remain in ignorance. The terms are directly derived from a scene in the 1999 film The Matrix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:44 PM
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Haha. I mean we shouldn’t really be shocked at the fact that there are a ton of know it alls on Reddit who actually don’t know jack shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:32 PM
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What’s it going to be like if you decide to get pregnant and have a difficult trimester? Or when you are laid up after giving birth and can only focus on taking care of the baby? Would he step up and do it even though he hates it? I don’t know. Cooking is a basic life skill for men and women. The level of stubbornness he has towards learning a basic life skill just makes me wonder if he will be the type of father to instill life skills into your potential child down the line. Or will that all fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:30 PM
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Yeah it’s like having a teen in the house. Growing up, no matter how much I fought w my parents as a teen, we ate dinner at the table. It’s a matter of discipline and respect for my mom who worked all day then made us food. It was not negotiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:23 PM
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Meanwhile the 18yo is demonized for becoming a teen mom prob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:22 PM
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Honestly yes. I used to think I was too harsh but I can’t handle people who are ok with seeing something wrong and continually allowing it go get worse and worse. Anytime this subject is brought up in one of the dating app subs, people will always jump to the excuse that people with depression struggle to keep their house clean etc. etc. Honestly, if it’s that bad, they probably shouldn’t be dating and should instead be working on themselves. Far too often people seek out relationships so they d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:20 PM
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Have you thought about doing a date night at a cooking class? Sometimes you can enroll in a class that’s one a week usually on the weekends and couples use them as date nights and it’s BYOB etc. I’ve seen men get super into it when stuff like sous vide are introduced which turns into a hobby/gadget interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:52 PM
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Baha this is such a great response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:28 PM
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This is a tough one. On one hand we could say that their relationship may have been doomed from the start and he never respected her. She prob fell into the trap many women do who think the man will change. “Maybe if we own a house together, he will feel a deeper sense of ownership and want to help out.” Reality: the make a major investment that can potentially put them in debt and it will add strain to the relationship. Then fingers will start being pointed. “Maybe if we get engaged, he will fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:20 PM
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Sometimes when they post pictures of their “battle stations“ I’m too distracted at the squalor of the rest of the surroundings. Some of them live in ramshackle pits of clutter. But it’s OK because they have 40 super hero figurines in their bedroom (covered in dust). I don’t know if this is purely a cultural and generational thing with me but... it’s highly unattractive when a man has no respect for his living quarters. It’s just a reflection of the lack of respect he has for himself. Someone who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:48 PM
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You know what? You’re right. I think if I’m going to give any make lurkers here some advice it would be go learn something niche or for specific occasions. Learn to make sushi really well. It’s not like you’ll be making sushi every day (srsly don’t - once I learned, I went crazy and gained like 5lbs in 2 weeks bc I couldn’t stop making it lmao) so it’s a nice skill or treat to break out once in a while to treat your woman if she’s the type who wants to do the cooking. Learn to make a proper omel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:34 PM
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I’ve read about this and then wondered why so many of the women gamers who are known or whatever put up with it. I know nothing about this hobby kind you, but I do know that there’s always some kind of crazy drama surrounding women in gaming. Would you see that there are a lot of pickmes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:11 PM
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That comment about the woman who cooks for her bf and brings it to his gaming chair and watches him eat it. Omg. Edit: no EVEN WORSE. She gives him the plate and then goes and eats by HERSELF. Unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:08 PM
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Hate to say it but yup. They called some of us in here “based” while I was lurking out of morbid curiosity and it gave me a chuckle. Like hey maybe we are just speaking the truth bc men keep blaming women for all their inadequacies. They’ve become self-ware. Are radfems going to end sexism!?! Lmao. Coomers is insane. It was always a concept I had in my mind and came across the meme by accident on twitter which led me to that wild side of Reddit. I was like omg others think about this too! How is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:52 PM
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The straights are NOT ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:31 PM
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I see it on Reddit a lot. Like all these diff fandoms are super cringe to me but I never say anything obv bc I’ll get dog piled with hate. These dudes seem so infantilized. There’s a sub that’s like “average redditor” or something - don’t bother w the comments bc it seems to have turned into the new cringe anarchy or something (some alt-right racist and sexist BS from the few threads I’ve seen) but that sub really does feature the examples we are thinking of right now. Overweight homely dudes in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:27 PM
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“I like to do the cooking and I hate help” Yeah that’s me. You know why? Bc every man in my past has been useless at trying to help to the point where I’d rather just let me enjoy my peace while cooking instead of having to teach a 35yo how to chop an onion and hold a knife. It’s not a good thing. It’s a sense of needing control over these chores that I’ve developed due to my past of having to do it all. This goes for cleaning too. I’d rather it be done well or not at all if he sucks at it. My a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:15 PM
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My gen didn’t have the gamer or “geek” culture that’s popular today. The men who do play at my age are usually socially inept Peter Pans who are about to be middle aged w nothing to show for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:08 PM
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That sub is filled with the worst stereotypes on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:04 PM
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That sub is like a collection of the worst types of people on Reddit giving horrible advice. Time and time again I see it. No idea how it even happens or what social phenomena is occurring. Every time the OP is a woman it ends this way. Also there’s zero moderation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:20 PM
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That subreddit is basically men and children giving horrible advice. In the past (on a diff username) I got into it w them bc they were invalidating a woman whose life was being ruined bc she couldn’t get a night of sleep due to her bf snoring. Their advice was literally a threat to her wellbeing and sanity. Terrible subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 04:17 PM
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You probably are a feminist, just not a libfem. You sound like a radfem, in case you’re curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:28 PM
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Focus on yourself, starting hobbies and habits now that will help you in the future and make you an enriched person. Men at your age are boys that are still highly immature and you’re at a perfect time to explore the world and yourself on a deep level. Be your own companion until someone worthy comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:24 PM
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VO M I T
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:00 AM
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I feel like a lot of them curate that image that they don’t care though. Back then guys were literally fucking grimy 😂 no beard wax and pomade just organic grease
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:40 PM
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Ah god. Yes. This is the reality. People get so caught up in the glittery and glam parts but the day-to-day of marriage is actually very much like a job. If someone starts sucking at their job or the wrong person was hired, the company is fucked. Stripping it down from all the romance is necessary sometimes bc love can blind you from the truth- which is sometimes ugly... like you’re being unappreciated, you’re doing all the work, they’re not pulling their weight etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:40 PM
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Oh dear. This sounds like a child :-/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:27 PM
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This meme is ok, probably appeals to the younger subset more and is pretty fantastical. But getting adoration and validation simply isn’t enough in the real world. This is like the ideal when you’re in jr high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:26 PM
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It’s getting invaded by trads, men, and conservatives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:23 PM
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Off-topic: that wig is A W F U L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:22 PM
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Lol ugh the 90s slacker style sucked for us women. Now it seems that men are much more fashion-conscious and it’s no longer “gay” for them to care about their appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:21 PM
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It will probably be brigaded by trans women who feel this sub is transphobic like it did in another post in that very subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:35 PM
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I can’t block him bc he is my mainline for clients. I’d literally lose thousands of dollars a month. He is testing boundaries, however, so I have to put him in line every couple of weeks lately. He’s in sales so you can imagine how insufferable he can become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:42 PM
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Give it a couple years. Even at 28 I was vastly different than I was at, let’s say 30 or 31. Seems crazy that there could be such a difference in only a couple years but I started hanging out with more educated and hard-working people in their 30s and made fast friends with all kinds of different women. It also helps to change your mindset and how you perceive other women as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:38 PM
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Had to do this with a pick me friend. I miss her but I had to put my foot down. Her behavior a started to affect my life negatively and I felt disrespected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:53 AM
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pork sick I feel terrible laughing under such a serious post but the typo is iconic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:38 AM
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This should be pinned imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:37 AM
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So many men who victim blame women in abusive situations don’t understand this concept whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:36 AM
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Yeeeep that’s a big part of it. We really got dealt a shitty hand. As though being teenagers wasn’t hard enough, then we have these internal battles with ourselves in our 20s. That’s why I think subs like this are really helpful for women. Every so often I will see a post that makes me raise an eyebrow and I can tell it was posted by a woman who is young and still sees other women as mainly a threat to “their man” or their pursuit of a relationship. It’s pervasive mostly in threads where some wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:24 AM
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Honestly yes. Probably helped that I was dating one of them for a really long time. Even though they were kind of stereotypical douchey HS dudes… But I mean most teenage guys are pretty shitty LOL. We played pickup b-ball all the time after school and smoked before school in the AM. Lived within walking distance. I know it’s rare but it worked somehow. This is also before social media so idk if that makes a big diff. I’m still super close to one of them from the group to this day- from 25 years …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:19 AM
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Are you under 30? I find this changes drastically once we get older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:00 AM
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When I was younger there was still a lot of pick me behavior and internalized misogyny among women – I would dare to say much more than today. I was always very friendly with women and had a lot of female friends when I was younger but in high school it kind of became a different battleground. It just seems like a lot of insecure popular girls competing to be the best, prettiest, and get all the guys. I was a bit of a stoner back then and an athlete (I know, what a combo) so I naturally gravitat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:57 AM
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That or it’s written by a man. Sounds so weird to come from a lesbian honestly. This might be something for r/asablackman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:52 AM
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There’s this dude I was friends with in college who I never hooked up with but I know how to huge crush on me. 15 years later we are casual friends because we work in a similar industry. He has a long-distance girlfriend who lives in Asia yet he lately he is constantly hitting me up and then at times he will get flirtatious. Like he would ask me about engagement rings because he wants to propose and then suggesting I drive 40 miles to sit on his dusty ass couch and watch him play video games? Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:46 AM
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Bc we are a “TERF” sub. More freak out about this can be seen here Cis people on this sub need to stop speaking over the voices of trans people. Femaledatingstrategy will ban you immediately if you even try to talk about the trans experience. You’ll be labeled as male and permanently removed to from the sub. I too thought this sub was innocuous until I was banned for being a trans woman. Seriously just search the sub followed by “trans” to find all their posts about trans women. It’s literally n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:10 AM
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And they want to blame Jews and women for everything as though it would lead to some kind of solution? Like what? Fucking genocide? Like seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:35 AM
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If you want to do more, google how to help pollinators (the only bees that matter).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:55 AM
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Legit turned my properties into pollinator attractions. Best thing I’ve done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:58 AM
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As a pollination nerd I have so many questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:55 AM
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I’m so sorry I really didn’t mean it in any deeper way. A lot of fans at the time knew what was going on but it was such a different era that these celebrities were not at all accessible to us where we could just tweet and retweet our concerns. I was also in an extremely inappropriate age difference thing at the exact same time as her and my own parents (and his ofc bc culture) even knew about it but it was OK because he was successful and a “great guy“. I remember listening to Age ain’t Nothing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:50 PM
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Loool even if it was satire, all of us have come across dudes who have some disgusting beds/mattress. I had this guy friend who literally had a ripped comforter on his bed. I asked him how the hell he even washes it without stuffing getting everywhere and he tells me he just doesn’t wash it 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:20 PM
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The sub that was quarantined today is literally nothing in comparison to what I found last night while nursing a hangover and I couldn’t fall asleep. There’s a whole other level of “Trads” who believe in being porn free, no drinking, no drug use, waiting for sex until marriage, being devoutly Christian, but then this is what they all have in common: blatant fascism, racism, anti-Semitism, and misogyny. It seems like men really want to help each other but they just can’t stop using societal excus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:01 PM
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This is actually a really interesting post. I have been in your situation before, but it didn’t work out for me, personally. I think the reason is because my father is extremely intelligent and he has always been the “leader“ of our family. I’m close with him so I tend to want a man in my life who can similarly take over some of the thinking and directives. In every other situation in life, like with friends or at work, I’m always the one who is taking over the thinking, planning, analyzing, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:10 PM
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But they will be the first to say that society only cares about mental health of women and that no one cares about men. I mean for how many months did we see that meme posted all over Reddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:55 PM
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Lmaoooo they really do dude. Now that athletisure is trendy they can wear the same washed out sweats when out w their gf who put hours of work into her look. It all comes down to the fact that people have always allowed them to think “close enough“ is acceptable. We’ve never had that luxury as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:54 PM
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Lol WHAT I have never heard of this. Just why???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:51 PM
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Not letting him see you react in emotion or anger. Be cordial, quick, and on your merry way to enjoy your freedom from his shitty ass and baggage. No spite or revenge is worth your time, he’s already shameless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:50 PM
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Hmmm this sounds like a western problem I’m too foreign to understand. Read: dads from some cultures are invasive and overbearing af 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:46 PM
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Ummm I fell into a rabbithole the other night on Reddit and found where these types of “men” (read: 15 yo boys) hang out. It’s clean living kings and they’re porn free, wait till marriage, women are weak but must be protected, I demand a virgin, and full of crypto-fascist bible beating various Christians with insane levels of anti-semitism. I was flabbergasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:41 PM
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I think, for me, this meme is more about how celebrity and false empowerment is one big business that banks on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:36 PM
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We cared but we didn’t have social media back then and had nothing but “rumors” - it was like a known secret but what could fans do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:35 PM
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There’s actually some solid advice in there for a change but holy shit… What is up with men in their 30s being complete children when it comes to basic life skills????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:27 PM
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I broke mine in my 30s. You can do this. My PMs are open!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:15 PM
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Surprising bc by the reaction to this stuff I would have guessed he was like an MRA or something. Will be objective when I watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:27 PM
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Interesting. Will do. He was criticized for taking scenes out of context and intentionally misconstruing them for outrage 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:40 PM
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Omg lol empty liquor bottles? That’s dorm douche decor. At least do it creatively if they have cool labels or art on the can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:20 PM
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If you were to bring these points up to a man, he would say “rape is rape“ but that only applies to when men get raped, apparently. Also, they conveniently don’t like to mention that most men are raped by other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:14 PM
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It’s funny because some of the top comments are calling out the hypocrisy and the fact that these scenes were almost all purposely created to touch on the issue but you know they’re not even bothering to do any critical thinking and just slamming the upvote button. The creator of the video is intentionally misleading them for views and boy did they eat it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:37 PM
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They can literally get FREE FURNITURE in many ways but nah too much effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:34 PM
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Wow. That’s absolutely sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:15 PM
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Haha right? But she sure made herself look special to all the men in circle jerking in that sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:41 PM
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lol that’s true. She claims his “mind was blown” though so it’s like ... really bro?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:36 PM
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This “minimalism” trend is literally an excuse to be a bum. Flat out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:35 PM
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The fact that this was so heavily upvoted and celebrated in a sub that’s not even specifically catered to men, just shows the average Reddit user demographic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:33 PM
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The comments in the thread are filled with pick mes saying how they “opened their boyfriends eyes“ to home decor simply by taking them to homegoods. I mean imagine living this day and age and not knowing that you can actually go to a store specifically for home decor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:32 PM
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Don’t take it personally. We also have no idea whether this is an ED or literal laziness and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:15 PM
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I’ve been hospitalized for anorexia more than once and it may be true but that’s not really the point here tbh. The sense of pride she feels in coddling her grown husband who clearly has issues just reeks of codependency and LVM- ED or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:15 PM
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They will treat you averagely but jump to act in a time where they can look like heroes or big shots. Oldest trick in the book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:11 PM
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Legit. Every. Single song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:28 AM
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Btw Fiona Apple is the worst “pick me” of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:07 AM
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Totally get it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:50 AM
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I’d also beware of “heroes” who only act for grand gestures. Don’t be blinded. It’s love-bombing and super toxic. Doesn’t make them good guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:35 AM
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Trauma bonding happens a lot in younger years- esp if people are mistreated by their parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:29 AM
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I feel a sense of duty to prevent young women from being abused the way I was (to an extreme). I can handle young women not realizing their agism when asking for help. In fact, that’s why I feel I’m here. I never want anyone to go through what I did... repeatedly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:11 AM
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I think this younger generation has definitely been infantilized beyond our ability to understand it. I consistently see women who are turning 23 years old posting in the sub ask women over 30 freaking out about “getting old“. I think a lot of it has to do with social media and the altered images women are seeing constantly, all day, every day. My teens and 20s were a flaming dumpster fire, I finally started recovering in my 30s and I know my 40s will be much better. I’m willing to sacrifice a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:02 AM
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Oh I agree completely. Sorry if my comments sounded more harsh than I intended. I actually really enjoy this sub but I have noticed recently that it’s beginning to get a bit militant and label- obsessed. Actually, I’ve noticed this in a lot of radfem spaces lately. Women are humans, and we are not infallible. I actually really appreciate the journey Alanis has taken me through my life as I have followed her music. I think this sub is an amazing resource for young women navigating the dating scen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 11:42 PM
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Sure but let’s not forget that she is also human and to err is entirely human. As an artist she makes herself vulnerable with songs like this and it’s all very relatable to many women. Very few are raised with any tenets of FDS and struggle with self-worth etc. I think it’s unfair to place unrealistic expectations on women or Alanis to be pillars of unwavering strength when we know we are existing in a system that works against us. Anyway, I’m definitely not saying all of her songs belong in an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:38 PM
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Sure but I also feel like 11-year-olds aren’t even developed enough to understand these adult concepts so viewing them in hindsight with the knowledge that you have as an adult kind of blurs it. Especially because those were the days before the Internet and children were not constantly involved in adult spaces like they are now. What Alanis wrote about and sang about is what a lot of women go through before and as they come to an understanding like the women in this subReddit. She also grew up d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:19 PM
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I think you’re really taking that out of context. That whole song is about how much she allowed herself to be degraded and now she bears that cross because of him. I highly recommend reviewing the lyrics of pretty much every song on that album. It was one of the feminist anthems of my youth. But you really don’t have to because you’re entitled to your own opinion. Seeing Alanis mentioned in something anti-feminist it’s just something I never thought I would see in my almost 40 years lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:11 PM
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Weird bc I was a teen when JLP came out and I didn’t get that feeling at all 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:50 PM
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Honestly, why is this information at all necessary to him? It’s not even one of those “small talk“ type of questions I would ever entertain. Regardless of your answer, he’s preparing to make some kind of judgment on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 10:33 AM
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Hmmmmm Alanis? How familiar are you with her work? Jagged Little Pill is all about recovering from shitty men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:33 AM
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Tbh she sounds like an unstable drunk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:43 AM
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I suck at CSS stuff but I think the mods should use one of those snapshill bots or something that archives posts right away in case the OP gets deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:56 AM
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I’m so happy for you. Wasted so many years of my youth getting brutally abused. It’s not always easy to wake up. Great job on saving yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:44 AM
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I think they have issues with healthy relationships prob. Those are women attracted to abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:13 PM
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You p much nailed it on the head there sis. This is beyond accurate!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:43 PM
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OMG I totally saw all of those posts when I first watched season one. Beck* totally deserved it because she cheated on Joe right? Jesus fucking Christ those men/kids are delusional! Season two went totally off the rails. I really don’t think I will watch the next season now that there’s a baby involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:40 PM
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Basically the starter pack I mentioned lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:06 PM
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Is there some kind of conspiracy with so many posts on twitter like this one or this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:58 PM
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And it’s upvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:26 PM
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I struggle with an ED and it definitely affects aging. It’s one of the things that keeps me from backsliding too far into relapse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:22 PM
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Adopt*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:26 PM
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Hence the use of “much more honorable” since she already feels like she’s heroic for enabling her able-bodied husband’s laziness. You extrapolated a whole lot from the title because you were looking to be offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:09 PM
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Many children with special needs are overlooked because sometimes their care can be seen as a very big undertaking by potential parents. That’s why many stay in the system until they’re adults. Not to mention, in non-developed countries where disabled babies are disposed of at orphanages left to die of improper care. Seems like you’re taking the word honorable out of context in the title. If you want to take care of someone who cannot feed themselves, help a disabled child. This person comes acr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:04 PM
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Adopting a child with special needs is a very honorable thing to do. Sounds like you want to be offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:52 PM
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I have a relative in my immediate family who cannot feed themselves and would die if he was not fed by his mother or caretaker (or one of us at family events). Nothing about my title is inaccurate, as you have confirmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:49 PM
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There were more gems in that thread. I’ll let you guys deduce which diet-focused sub that came from bc I don’t want it to get brigaded. Lots of great examples of marrying LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:39 PM
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Weird I can’t find it! May have gotten taken down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:37 PM
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What’s funny is that it literally says her job is “read my bio” yet these guys act like they’re some kind of genius informants lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:55 PM
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You’re super young. You have so much life ahead of you. Put yourself first and if he follows, he follows, but he is not the priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:39 AM
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I can’t stand this glorified nerd culture. Bunch of infantilized men obsessed with vidya and fantasy/comics. Nothing more repulsive to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:17 AM
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MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE. Just screams he was coddled as a child and his mommy gave into his every little whim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 01:33 PM
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Definitely. Even without a father figure it all fell on their mother which was probably overwhelming so they always got away with everything. Look at how much TRP hates single moms. They blame their mothers for everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:35 AM
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Lol what a drama jeeeez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:01 PM
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Camouflaged his thinning hair by opting for the “wet” look lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:52 PM
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Crawling out of my cave And I'm not doing just fine Mr. Darkside Triad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:51 PM
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I haven’t taken a peek at that thread again since I posted it but I know that a lot of red pillers follow our sub and they probably jumped on it from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:52 PM
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I think with a lot of us are enamored by here in this clip is the fact that this man is very genuinely and outwardly THOUGHTFUL. Through my 3+ decades here on earth I’ve known many many many men. I can count on one hand how many men I know that are genuinely thoughtful people. So many men are raised without consequences for their actions and are coddled by their mothers or other women in their lives be at grandmothers, sisters, aunties, whatever. Very rarely are they ever forced to think about c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:50 PM
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That’s actually a great idea for a post tbh. The drinking culture is huge surrounding dating and lots of regrets can be had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:37 PM
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You know 10 years ago he was rocking a soul patch and thumb ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:36 PM
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Exactly! I love the women in there “I’m a woman and I agree she wasted his time blalalala” lol yeah bc it’s so easy for women to gracefully reject a man they just met through an app abruptly if they don’t feel attracted. That has never ended poorly for a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:36 PM
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Exactly. I mean… I’m not going to sit here and tell guys not to take women for their word but how many times have you met a guy that you didn’t find attractive at all at first, but after getting to know him… He just kind of got hotter and hotter? It has happened to me so many times. She definitely didn’t say anything offensive or rude to him at the end either. Even kind of threw him a life preserver which he completely swatted away with his frantic doggy paddling and he paddled all the way to Re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:33 PM
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That’s a really scary trap in the dating world. I feel like so many people end up hooking up just because they slam a couple drinks on an empty stomach on their first date and the alcohol takes over. He’s probably a functioning alcoholic and has no concept of self because he’s drunk all the time and it makes him feel amazing. Sad sad sad. Sad he wasted your time. I have never use an online dating app but I read so many horror stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:31 PM
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I’m 35 and the way I see it is that there will always be someone to date/fuck because of ever-growing divorce rates. That’s why I refuse to settle just so I am “not alone“. I’m very much not alone because I spent my 20s enriching my life to ensure that in my 30s it would be full of socializing, trips, hobbies, etc. I bet if I go into some of those peoples post and comment histories I will find a bunch of anime, porn, and video game obsession. The way the people in that sub speak about things jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:25 PM
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I run into this problem because I’m very friendly and usually know how to adapt to peoples personalities when first meeting them. I’ve definitely had guys get the wrong idea just because I know how to engage them on their level. It’s also it makes me extremely good at my job! If there’s a good conversation on a date and I’m having a decent time, I’m not going to abruptly stop a fun night to be like “hey I’m not attracted to sexually would you like to proceed and have more fun conversation?“ this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:18 PM
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I feel like when you are meeting someone on a dating app, it makes it much easier to get past some of the small talk and start talking about what they want in a relationship etc. etc. It’s not like they randomly met at a bar where it would be harder to get on that subject without looking needy/pushy. He pretty much shot himself in the foot but now he’s being comforted by people in that sub telling him it was her fault for allowing it to go on for six hours LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:47 PM
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Also a very convenient way to “naturally“ overexpose the image of his face blurring out blemishes and wrinkles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:32 PM
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Dude goatee screams that he is the front man of a Nickelback cover band and definitely wears a thumb ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:32 PM
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Yeah actually. As I said in my post, a 37yo adult man going to his online support group being like “WTF” bc he can’t get a read on a woman after spending 6 hours with her sounds like a socially inept man child seeking validation for his wounded ego- all LVM qualities babe. If he was HV he wouldn’t have waited 6 hrs into the date to make his intentions known. HVM also would have picked up on the vibe before stumbling into a rejection like that. Even after a rejection, could have kept the woman as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:30 PM
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You bring up so many good points. I find that men in their mid to late 30s who spend a significant time on Reddit or online support communities are generally emotionally and socially stunted. I feel like functional adults at our age are used to having all different kinds of social interaction from work, clients, “networking“, to random mingling. It could just be that he’s not used to interacting with women in general. Even on the first date, if I’m genuinely interested in a guy I will already st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:25 PM
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I’m on mobile I don’t see any feasible way for me to do that. Can you click the link and see the comments yourself? Edit: all we are hearing is what he was telling us from the story but just because he didn’t ask for sex after six hours doesn’t mean she’s obligated to go on a second date with him. She enjoyed her time with someone new who she met. The way he’s handling the rejection is signifying that he’s insecure, hence LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:15 PM
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Looks like he creeped into a woman’s shower and glued to his head what he could pull from the drain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:25 PM
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They really live in their own little delusional world. That’s why single women are happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:24 PM
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Does he think he’s pulling off that “wet hair“ look? Because it just looks greasy and really thin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:15 PM
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It’s pretty funny because even guys who know me super well will still try to throw out that type of talk and I shoot daggers at them with my eyes instantly LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:12 PM
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He’s one of those, yes. How are they still tweeting?! I’d be embarrassed af to put my face public alongside all of that idiot propaganda but alas...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:09 PM
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Are you me lol? I could have written this myself verbatim! Couldn’t agree more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:07 PM
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You should see his other tweets. I suggest you take a peek if you are into tragic comedies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:06 PM
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Dude. Go ahead and scroll his twitter feed lmao. He’s part of that manosphere shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:04 PM
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Omg yes what is that all about? It always comes across as so weak to me. Why are you so desperate to shack up? Aren’t men the ones who don’t want to be tied down? Screams codependency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:44 PM
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Also interesting that if it was such a matter of importance and urgency that he didn’t bring it up before 6 hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:14 PM
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And she told him straight up. Would he have preferred the fade? That’s kid shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:09 PM
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Absolutely. “SHE DOESN’T WANT MY PP BUT I INVESTED 6 HOURS!” 😡 😭 Sometimes you just want to connect w people without the pressure of it HAVING to be something. They clearly had a good time. Just not to spark a LTR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:07 PM
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Thanks so much. Had to jump on a work call but was going to do this in a bit. Thanks for the help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:54 PM
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I fixed it! I needed to add the http:// before the np. It was my goof!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:44 PM
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I would fucking die! She sounds like an extroverted woman who enjoyed spending time with someone new but probably knew that he didn’t have what she is looking for in an actual partner. If he was smart he could have used that date to potentially receive feedback, but I’m pretty sure it’s a glaring flaw he’s overlooking or the fact that she was simply out of his league (most likely).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:41 PM
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Faaak! Ok here https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/e67at4/bumbling_idiot_in_nyc/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Will reformat on my laptop in a min
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:38 PM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:36 PM
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Running into this lately again along with the “no car” minimalists. They own like 5 shirts and 2 pants and 2 pairs of shoes. I walked into the restaurant and saw he was in there wearing a tacky overly-colorful northface puffer in a really classy lounge where people were dressed to the 9s. I literally wanted to just stay in the revolving door and walk right out. He was also wearing bright blue sneakers. He dressed like my nephew when he was 8. You’re fucking 31yo and you don’t own a respectable w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:12 PM
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I’ve had an interaction w a woman in this sub who absolutely hates dogs and it’s really creepy. Thankfully the mods deleted her comments. Will have to search back to my screenshots to see the username but it was really serial-killer sounding. Ignore these people and enjoy your pup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:04 PM
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That would require a whole dissertation to explain lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:59 PM
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It def has to do with specific cultures for sure. I guess the only generalization I can really make or a common thread that connects many different cultures is that women are generally seen as lesser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 03:17 PM
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For sure. It’s def something that needs to be approached in the right way. Thanks for considering the idea! I don’t mind being “branded” as post-wall bc baby I look damn good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:31 AM
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Haha so good to hear it! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:27 AM
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I’m a FOB myself but damn. I would NOT PUT UP WITH THAT SHIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:03 AM
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Watch Croatian pro athletes celebrate a World Cup quarterfinal goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:34 AM
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He’s talking some major incel language. I’ve dated more non-white men in my life than white men. I find this ironic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:36 AM
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Thriving :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 12:25 AM
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No not at all - we should do a post on it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:58 PM
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I tried. A lot of them are so fucking dorky to me and they don’t know the language well enough where it can be our primary. I need that. Fucking tough out here yo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:40 PM
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The guy I dealt with last week I seriously doubt is 30 like he said he was. He was probably just trying to get in with me as an older woman who would potentially support him. The information on that fake ID he had was probably all fake anyway. So glad you learned the info you needed to GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:16 PM
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That’s so crazy because it happened right around Thanksgiving so I felt pressured to invite him over because his closest family was two hours away. Thank god I did bc that’s where he unraveled. It was just us 2. Until then I was actually like wow is this too good to be true? Yeah lol. Oh yeah it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:57 PM
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I’m trying to be delicate with how I reply because of my personal experience. My brother married an American woman who completely destroyed our family. The children are full on Americans with an extremely long and hard-to-pronounce foreign last name and they don’t even know how to say two words in our language. They’re not close to us. He has completely disconnected from our family because of his wife and her mental/emotional abuse. I had to distance myself from my brother and even the kids unfo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:32 PM
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I hate to hear that, I’m sorry. I absolutely don’t blame you for not wanting to continue that kind of lifestyle. My culture is definitely misogynistic and very chauvinist/macho. But I have noticed that a lot of the younger guys have become adverse to that old-school mentality, mostly because of politics and war. Unfortunately, I am usually way too old for them LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:20 PM
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Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:59 PM
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They specifically do this to make you doubt yourself and your “authenticity“ and if you struggle with self-esteem, you can be pushed to “prove yourself“ to him. You’ll end up falling into a terrible manipulative trap where he can degrade and use you for the sake of your culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:54 PM
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Oh yeah duh. Lmao I’m over here trying to get all creative 🤦🏻‍♀️ that’s simple enough for those who wish to apply for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:30 PM
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Yeah I’m trying to formulate in my mind some kind of way to do it either uniformly or it can be on a personal basis. As long as it doesn’t require too much extra work for the mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:26 PM
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💯 I didn’t want to make the post too long and derail from the initial point but YES YES the token foreign woman is a huge issue and I will definitely touch on that either later or another day. I was at a friends house who was having people over all night that made a huge mess. They were all western men and once many of the guests left, I was helping clean up because there was truly just cups and food everywhere. I felt it was a small gesture as a thank you to my close friend who was hosting so m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:25 PM
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I was thinking about how certain users could potentially have something in their flair that signifies that they are 30+ or “older” or even married/taken so they don’t have to include their age/status to explain their experience when they are giving advice or sharing experiences. Sometimes I don’t want to mention my age because I don’t want it to come off as though I am lording it over someone who is younger and seeking help. I feel like women over 30 definitely have somewhat of a different persp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:20 PM
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Oh I blocked him instantly FOH 👋🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:04 PM
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Had a very recent experience with this. I laid down the law early and he tried to act like it “turned him on“ that I was assertive. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 bitch i’ll fucking rip your dick off if you try to disrespect me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:50 PM
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Dude the FOBs LOVEEEE porn. This one who tried to con me last week was porn sick limp dick. Admitted to jerking off 6x a day to porn. I think that in many homogenous countries, they love porn because they can fantasize about fucking women they never will have access to from different races etc. The ex mentioned in my original post had a south Asian fetish and I ended up finding out later on that he slept with underage girls in Thailand while there for “training”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:48 PM
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That last sentence fucking resonates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:40 PM
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I really did. I guess my attempt at being inclusive ended up coming off the opposite way than intended and of course I can’t edit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:37 PM
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I think if you come here past the age of 12 to 15 there is a grey area of how you identify. If you came here as a smaller child, it’s very easy to adapt to the diaspora and second or third generations IMO. Honestly, it also really just depends on how your parents raised you. I’ve been traveling back-and-forth my whole life and it’s always been very important to my family that we stick to our roots and home as I eventually plan to move back for good (again). That’s what makes me not very compatib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:36 PM
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You are entitled to your preferences. There are many men from other countries and cultures that are high value and some of them end up emigrating for better opportunities through sheer hard work, determination, and ambition. Like my father who really is a marvel of a man. While I would not discount them, immigrant women who live in the western world who end up meeting people from their origin countries are put in a precocious position that can lead to misguided decision making. There are plenty …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:29 PM
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I honestly feel a bit embarrassed because I’m otherwise an extremely eloquent and well-spoken woman in real life. I use an alt for this sub so I can speak freely without having to tip toe around things people don’t want to call out. I truly didn’t intend to come across as xenophobic or racist in any way. That’s literally not even in my scope of mindsets. I feel bad that the original comment is so downvoted because I hope there aren’t other readers who feel that way and won’t be able to see this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:17 PM
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I really tried not to be overly specific to any single culture. Because my friend group in the states is very diverse, I tried to touch on specific experiences or habits/characteristics I’ve noticed/seen/heard from my friends of other races and cultures, as well. Please point out the points I made where it comes across that way so I can amend them. Feel free to include things from your experiences to add to this list. I know the post is long but at the bottom I definitely did write what I wrote …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:07 PM
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HO LEE SHIT. That is like beyond… Just- THE AUDACITY. Of course he will have the pick mes acting righteous, then the western viewers who want to chalk it up to something psychological… Let’s be real. This is how so many of men outside of western cultures are raised and enabled to act and all we can do is be upset about it. I feel terrible for that woman and I seriously hope her church provides at least some kind of support system as I’m sure her day-to-day life at home is miserable. Maybe we can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:49 PM
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It’s ironic to see this post after I posted my thing about vetting FOB men, speaking as an immigrant. I got called xenophobic but 90 day fiancé has changed so much from its first few seasons to now, attracting some of the most xenophobic and racist viewers I’ve ever witnessed. I even had to unsubscribe from the subreddit. I feel like that show needs to be reigned in on the fact that they shamelessly pick drama-prone people from foreign countries who obviously don’t have the right intentions beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:42 PM
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I shut that shit down. I’m 35 and I don’t even entertain it anymore. They all know my attempt at being with someone from where I come from and how that ended. Of course, because he’s a man, he very rarely gets spoken about in a bad light even though he nearly killed me several times with his physical abuse. I’m sure there are a decent number of people back home who probably say that it didn’t “work out” because I’m too westernized LOL. By the way, he ended up being able to stay in the states bc …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:32 PM
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I’m so happy to hear you have found someone who is treating you properly and also sticking with you through family conflict!! I think it’s really important that he is willing to take that on as not all people can handle it with grace (like my American SIL). That’s a great characteristic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:28 PM
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I apologize if FOB offends anyone. In my circle of friends of immigrants and second or third generation women from various cultures, it’s just our shorthand identifier for people. I wasn’t about to go with “boater” lol. If I’m not mistaken, I think there was even a TV show called Fresh Off the Boat. It’s a term I hear among other immigrants like myself just to identify whether someone is a native or not. Kind of like maybe “reclaiming“ the term I guess? Since my post was directed towards other i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:14 PM
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Girl everything in that laundry list (no pun intended) was me. I wasted my youth and the most beautiful years of my life coddling and mothering a dysfunctional and violent worthless man. Fuck! Never again. And you’re 100% correct about how he “plays“ the head of the household while the woman does literally fucking everything!!! It’s almost like everybody even knows that fact but it’s just the way things are because of our CuLtUrE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:09 PM
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That last part you said actually is exactly where I was going with this post. I was trying not to be too specific about my own culture so it can be applied to many others. I also added at the end that I was hoping women from other cultures could also add their own input so we could compile somewhat of a megathread of sorts. I honestly am not some kind of paranoid xenophobe thinking that every foreign man here is just trying to marry for papers. Not even after my horrible experience. Even after h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:05 PM
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1 0 0 % this FOB I only talked to for a couple of weeks already let it slip early on just in text conversation. It was unbelievable. Spoiler alert: ended up being a total con artist predator. Miss me with that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:02 PM
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Women are always expected to be accommodating and forgiving. Once I stopped trying to please everybody, I got my shit straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:59 PM
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My intention was to be inclusive rather than xenophobic as I’m trying to speak to fellow immigrant women as a whole. I’m aware that we all come from a vast array of different races and cultures as I stated in my first few sentences and I made sure that my points are applicable to as many different types as possible without being too specific. I just reread my post and I don’t see anything that signals racial stereotyping because I didn’t have that on my mind as I wrote it. I’m mostly echoing wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:57 PM
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My situation is kind of unique because I pretty much live in both places concurrently and have for 20+yrs. Now that I’m older and have a job that I can do remotely, I spend a lot of time going back-and-forth. Personally, I don’t hang out much in the diaspora communities because there is just a really big difference between someone who is an immigrant vs someone who was born here and grew up here. Especially where I’m from due to war/politics. I haven’t had much luck with diaspora guys, though I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:48 PM
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There have been posts similar to this in the same tone that speak to women of diff background because cultural norms and contexts matter a lot when dating. There are unique challenges for women living in western countries who are from diff regions of the world. I used to be in a specific forum for discussions like these and my thoughts here are not only based on MY culture but from other women’s experiences. At no point did I say western men were better or safer. I even touched on the fact that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:23 PM
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Do no harm , but take no shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:37 PM
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That last line. YES. Some of my guy friends scrolled through the sub and said that this was an excellent tool for young women, and probably cathartic for older ones (like me) to give some solid advice. Learn from our fuckups!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:34 PM
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Haha I meannnn I am what I am ya know? Yeah at least NYC has a much more elaborate subway system. Chicago... not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 01:28 PM
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r/justbootthings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:12 AM
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Love all these new subs we are creating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 05:00 AM
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I’m not the OP lol. Check the tweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 01:03 AM
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But they love to ask when they’ll be able to plan your wedding and engagement with you as though you’d chain yourself to someone just to throw a party lmao. Gtfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:34 AM
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Add me to this please. I’m a DV survivor and have learned A LOT through my lifetime about the cycle of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:33 AM
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So wonderful to see this. It’s so hard to be a young woman today with all of the insane and FAKE beauty standards all over the Internet. So glad you’ve woken up and are on your way to bigger and better things. hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:10 AM
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Lol check out the tweet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:36 PM
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the viral tweet has some hilarious replies. My fav: “What he says: I want you What he means: I want vagina now but I don't want to put effort into it What he types: your mom is fit you see where this is going”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:46 PM
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Yeah we just try to egg them on in a way that makes them realize their hypocrisy. They never afford women the same leniency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 03:23 AM
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It’s already far too tainted anyway so there’s no going back. You need to find a distraction to stop thinking about him and move on and up! There’s way better men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 05:20 AM
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Correct. He just showed how petty and pathetic he is too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 12:20 AM
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It’s probably better that way anyway since it was in fact getting to you. Onward and upwards! Or is it upwards and onwards lmao?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 10:48 PM
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Take pleasure in knowing he purposely and pathetically went out of his way to try to get to you by doing that. How fucking childish! Don’t be sorry for venting. I wouldn’t block. Look at him putting in effort to try to get to you. It’s a sign you’ve gotten to him. You won. Next time, like the pic if you’re a gangster 😂 I do that shit all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 10:43 PM
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Don’t feel bad for replying. I honestly really hate these little text games that have become so prevalent. You’re an adult and you’re communicating like one. If he doesn’t want to reply, that’s no issue of yours. You stated what you wanted to get across and that’s all that matters now. Especially since you are more sure of your decision. I definitely think you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 08:18 PM
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I found it in some thread ages ago and copy/pasted it into my keyboard 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:32 PM
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I’m starting to realize that one of my closest friends from back home is definitely a pickmeesha. Kills me but I’m going to have to distance myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:06 PM
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This is beautifully applicable for Balkan women living in the states. Hope they read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:00 PM
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Don’t waste your time trying to get back at him. Walk away gracefully and it will leave him thinking how his 𓂸 is disposable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:58 PM
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I feel you need to work on some self-actualization without the cloud of negativity. Are you in femcel subs that fixate on this kind of stuff? I’m asking, not accusing, bc your language aligns with what I’ve seen in there. Please get out of there if you are. It’s very bad for your mental health to see yourself in such a bad light. With the right makeup and haircut, you can feel great. Unique features are way better than game instagram Bratzdoll anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:56 PM
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Fantastic work lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:51 PM
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I’m noticing a lot of red pillers in this sub lately. Really hope they don’t shit it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 03:37 PM
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Exactly. He’s a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:14 AM
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Why can’t we hate on men dating well below their range? This not* red pill woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 11:13 AM
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Lol this album is many years old!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 03:37 AM
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I had to actually come back to this thread today to make a comment about how I’ve noticed that the communities that surround shows like the bachelor and bravo housewives shows are chock FULL of pickmes!!! The subreddits are insane. Women will get up on a soapbox make posts spilling intense vitriol about other women on the show… A show that is heavily edited to create drama for the viewer. All I see is intense internalized misogyny while they continue to make excuses for the male bachelor subject…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:17 PM
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You are so very welcome. I’ve been in situations like that in the past and it never worked out. He has some improving to do in himself and it’s definitely not your job to fix him or deal with his inability to be introspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:57 PM
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Of course! I think that we can be strong women without doing things that these men do like fading and ghosting. When we do that, we are no better than they are. It’s also very immature. When I walk away from a relationship or situation, I like to know that I can hold my head high for handling it properly with good manners. That way, 10 years down the line, if we run into each other in someway… I don’t have to feel ashamed for how I handled the situation. I think that it’s important to conduct yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:21 PM
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🙅🏻‍♀️ no Arthropods 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:15 PM
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This is such a weird take and, frankly, unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:28 PM
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That subreddit is fucking cancer. Bunch of whiny mangry edgelords
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:27 PM
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This was posted in lieu of a front page post of the male octopus ripping his 𓂸 off to throw at the female octopus. All the mangry babies of reddit rejoiced cheering “the ultimate go fuck yourself! Hehehe” 🙄 little do they know...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:25 PM
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You withdrew attention so now he craves it. What you replied to me is perfect! Sorry I didn’t reply sooner. I saw the notification and then your reply disappeared! It’s been happening a lot the past few days. If you really are over this guy and don’t want to date him, drop the bomb and walk away from the explosion like the protagonist in an action movie. Let him sort the mess out himself. Only rule is that you can’t turn back and walk into the flames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:02 PM
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That’s how I’m living now at 35 and have never been happier. I go to sleep not worrying about: Does he still want me? Does he love me? Does he think about other women? Am I enough? Probably why I’m aging at glacial pace tbh! Edited: oh, and I don’t have to be anyone’s mother, to boot! Not having to waste time cleaning up after a man or solving his problems does wonders for stress levels. So much time for my own life and activities!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 12:11 PM
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Gotta agree. I think a lot of younger women here want to believe in that passionate and possessive forever love with one person. As you get older you realize we just have to handle and use the man in ways he is useful and not invest yourself too much in any other way because one whole man isn’t enough usually. You can get what you truly need from a handful of them to become fulfilled as one usually fails to do the job properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:49 AM
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Share the benefits and split the issues of a man with a woman who can help rear children and bear responsibilities (when we know the majority of men don’t take the brunt of the work anyway). Sounds like good home economics 😂 in a very fundamental mormon kind of way lol but who know what it will be like in the future with all these low quality men opting out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:46 AM
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Toss that barnacle back into the sea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:41 AM
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Don’t be afraid to communicate, it’s the adult thing to do and gives you higher ground. Doesn’t have to be a long rant. In fact, it’s even more impactful when it’s a calm, cool, and collected statement that gets straight to the point without too much colorful language. Then you can walk away with your dignity and poise and without having anything to be accused of (ghosting). After sending it, feel free to block or just not reply if you don’t feel like it. But at least you stated your piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:40 AM
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It’s basically a meme at this point. I see tons of young people on twitter just referencing it on repeat. I want to be like ok NO, eat pussy* how did we take that leap straight to ass and anal?? Oh. Porn. That’s right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:34 AM
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Both of you have somehow managed to completely miss the point. This is not about the dog. This is about her leaving a man that was clearly low-quality and abusive towards her. The dog was simply the reason she finally woke up and left a low-quality man. She deserves better and she deserves to have a dog if she wants one instead of missing out on an opportunity to have a wonderful companionship animal because of a man who wants to control every move and her life while also mistreating her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:25 AM
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This really isn’t the point. OP indicated signs of abuse and other major red flags. It’s not about the dog. She clearly wanted to live her life but was stuck in a cycle of a bad man who was controlling her even from a far and causing her emotional distress. Both of you guys are writing dissertations about dogs when the point is that she finally put her needs and wants before a low quality man who was mistreating her. In this case, it was a dog that helped her wake up. All of us have our own bles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:23 AM
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Oooh yeah long long ago. But it’s hilarious to look back now in hindsight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 11:16 AM
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Btw I write for a living lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:48 AM
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Never again! Make him come to you, girl. Fuckkk that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:40 AM
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We are a good 7 years out, I don’t see myself relapsing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 04:40 AM
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I’m from one continent and live in another. Can confirm! Men from both act the same fucking way. My ex before this did the same shit. Then I moved back to the states to get the fuck away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:36 AM
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Argh. Insecurity meter is going off in my head. Just be aware of it moving forward bc it can cause issues he will project onto you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:12 AM
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Keeping you in a state of constant anxiety is a great way to wear your down and manipulate. Total abuser move. So glad you’re out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 03:07 AM
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Thank goodness for Facebook messenger actually!!! They were archived in there. To be fair, this album compilation is already a couple years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:48 AM
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Haha I’m glad you enjoyed! Yes I was laughing. So much so I actually was sending these screenshots to my friends so we could laugh together. So glad I did bc otherwise I would have lost them all when my phone completely died (old ass iPhones and no cloud backup).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:40 AM
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Making sure you arrive home safely, including offering to go out of their way if they detect your situation is unsafe or uncomfortable (bad weather). I have some very HV guy friends that extend the same courtesy they do to me as they do to their wives and gfs (who are lovely and seem to be genuinely happy partners). What I also enjoy is that I have developed actual great relationships with their spouses/gfs because they aren’t insecure and realize that some of these friendships I have with their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:08 AM
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Bingo!!!!! Totally setting her up for it! Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:02 AM
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Oh yeah… Totally forgot to tell you guys about the time he called my dad to plead with him to reason with me about communicating with him LOL. My dad told him to let it go 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:31 AM
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My favorite part is when he says he was embarrassed to have been with me and then for the next three years he continues to pathetically try to convince me to see him again LOL. The delusion is real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:22 AM
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Yes! Posting so others can avoid these types! Haven’t fucked up since then so I’m doing pretty good. Plus I’m in my mid 30s now so I’m too busy doing queen shit 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:02 AM
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Haha I hope you sleep well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 12:42 AM
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Sleep is fucking ESSENTIAL!!! You have to get as much as you can. Wishing you the best of luck. Update us sometime! I love hearing about women’s journeys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:29 PM
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That’s what happens when you hit their pride where it hurts most!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:26 PM
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Wow my ex def drank too much as well. We really are talking of the same caliber of guy haha! Except mine was obsessed with anal and had forcibly shoved his fingers and dick into my ass without prep or warning. Huge red flag. Continue to ice him and gather amusement from it before you ghost and block him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:22 PM
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Yes that’s wonderful!! Your fitness journey is also very good for you mentally. I grew up as an athlete so it was always part of my life but my self-esteem suffered still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:20 PM
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I think part of it is learning your value and worth. I worked hard on myself mentally. I was always very fit and strived for complete perfection physically, but emotionally and physically I was not strong. Now I’m unfuckwithable. Taking a very long break from men was invaluable for this process. I also have a mental kill switch. Once I’m done with someone I clear them from my hard drive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:15 PM
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I do think he still creeps on me via his daughter Bc I have her on my insta. I don’t care tho... he can swoon over me. I look fantastic for my age and he probably has lost his hair by now haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:09 PM
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There’s no better feeling than not giving a rat’s ass and walking away knowing they will suffer. I regret letting myself be degraded and giving up my dignity but it was my final lesson and I have not been in a shitty or abusive relationship since!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:07 PM
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He deserves every bit of the pain for treating me the way he did. Hope it scarred him for life. Sometimes I forget he’s alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:04 PM
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Yup! I was laughing at him the whole time. This is just a SMALL sample. This went on constantly. At least once a week for years. We didn’t even date for a full year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:02 PM
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I had gotten out of a horrible abusive relationship a couple years before that and I guess I just wanted to “move on”. I clearly wasn’t ready lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:00 PM
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I think so. However, there’s a weird unknown # that has started randomly texting me “hey hottie” etc and the area code is Georgia (where his daughter lives and goes to school)... which makes me suspicious 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:59 PM
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It went on until 2017! I think a total of 4 years. Wish I had used cloud before. I’d have the whole transcript!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:49 PM
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As an older member of the group in my mid-30s, I feel like I am on the fringe of the “no sex before exclusivity“ rule but with good reason. I definitely recommend that for women here who are looking for serious long-term relationships and eventual marriage. After the shit a lot of us older women have been through with relationships, I think some of us prefer casual relationships with more than one man to fulfill what we would be looking for if the one perfect man existed. I will go through phase…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:44 PM
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I did this exactly with the guy before him. Unfortunately had to repeat the lesson before finally learning 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:11 PM
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Yes 💯 sucks we are getting called transphobes and terfs because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:01 PM
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I’m so glad you’re out of that mindset. Seems so creepy and delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:53 PM
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This is sickening to me honestly. Like I feel ill thinking about it. Had to unsub from a lot of the cringe subs bc it became overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:50 PM
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OP joined us, so glad! We need to lift her UP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:48 PM
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EXACTLY. When I left a horribly physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive relationship nearly a decade ago, I always told myself I wanted to get involved in someway to help women avoid falling into the cycle of abuse. Little did I know, this kind of subreddit would be exactly a place where I feel like I can actually make a difference at any time and anonymously. When someone on SRD put the sub on blast last week and people mocked this space, I was pretty baffled. I’ve had some very honest an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:44 PM
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By the time I literally left his ass in Florida I was so disgusted by him I couldn’t even stand the thought of his idiot face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:39 PM
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Made a separate post and shared it with the group 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:36 PM
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Haha I know right? Damn I really hope I come across some more when I finally sit down and clean up my cloud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:27 PM
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Sorry if it’s triggering! I wish I had a complete collection of all of the screenshots but they got kind of hard to keep track of. The worst part of this is that I ended up in this relationship after an abusive relationship that nearly left me dead. That’s why it’s called a “cycle“ of abuse. It’s unfortunate that I had to learn my lesson more than once but I sure as fuck won’t need to rehash it ever again. I hope that I can help others by sharing stuff like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:11 PM
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Welcome queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:00 PM
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Haha YES THIS EXACTLY. Like they’re so smug about it. “Hey guess how brave I am... I GOT RID of my car. YUP totally voluntary. Not bc I can’t handle having a car in the city or maybe I’m misrepresenting my finances.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:47 PM
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I’d add to stay away from nerdy neckbeards. Even if you’re into nerd culture stuff and gaming, a lot of them are porn sick and obsessed with hentai and all that jazz. I’m too old to have first-hand experience with these men but from what I’ve seen on Reddit in various subs... good golly stay AWAY from that crowd. Please let know if I’m wrong on this, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:43 PM
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In the 8 mo we dated he touched my vagina less than 10 times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:40 PM
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Reluctantly dated this guy for way too long. The only thing that kept us together was the mutual goal of moving out of state into a warmer climate. Just so happened that my parents had a home there that they offered for us to stay in until we found exactly where we wanted to live. Of course, he lived there rent free because he saw my wealthy parents as a meal ticket. After playing the role of his wife for a couple of months, I packed up my things and my dogs and kicked him out. My dad flew down …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:29 PM
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He then texted me for 3 years without me replying once. I have an album of some of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:20 PM
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Luckily it seems she has a long distance barrier from him. I’ve been in dog rescue for over 16 years and dated a guy who was jealous of one of my foster puppies. Ended up dumping him a couple months later and keeping the dog forever 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:10 PM
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Here are screenshots of the story. Basically a long distance relationship, controlling, cheating, emotional abuse, etc. a classic tale. Hope OP has an epic glow-up soon with her pup in tow. Edit: OP has joined us and commented down thread! Hope we can rally around her and help her heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 06:03 PM
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I could see that. Not sure how old OP is too. If she’s much younger. Red flag. The guy is my age and if I hadn’t been on a date in a while, I could see myself going for it just to knock the dust off with a low pressure guy I know I wouldn’t get involved with long-term. Plus if he’s really attractive and packing... could be good Lolol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:55 PM
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I could see that but it seems like she wants to have some fun from her post. If she feels rusty, having someone take you out for dinner and drinks isn’t a huge waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:49 PM
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One of my fav groups from the 90s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:59 PM
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Yep! Every single thing you just said! Straight up! Everything was catered to them. We were honored to even suck their crusty little dicks! Such validation! GTFOH!!! No more. That’s why they’re panicking now. We aren’t going to put up with that shit. Also why I am against this BDSM and porn fetish bullshit, I’m not going to let the younger gen get trapped like we did it in an even more deprived way with getting their buttholes blown out from violent anal on the first date. Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:48 PM
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I’m also glad there are some older ladies in here with me so we can share our stories as warnings for the younger gals too. Learn from my mistakes! Don’t waste your money, energy, youth, patience, and sanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:38 PM
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100% I feel the younger generation now is speaking up but my gen definitely added to the fake orgasm troubles. Shit... sex in my 20s was basically performance art 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:35 PM
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SUCH an underrated show!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:25 PM
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We are so much alike in mindset (and aging)! It’s so refreshing to see it on Reddit where usually it’s women crying after total losers. Love this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:24 PM
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Oooh ok no worries. Ew this is so gag-worthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:12 PM
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Ew... if you don’t mind, how old? This is so beyond juvenile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:11 PM
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Dates are fun and for hanging out! Do it. Nothing to lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:07 PM
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Holy shit lack of depth is a huge issue!!! The worst is when they have a corny sense of humor or don’t understand references, or sarcasm, or just completely lack the ability to think critically. Such a huge turn off for me. I wonder if that’s what has punched towards otherwise damaged men in the past. Surely there’s some kind of correlation with past trauma and having a darker sense of humor or just being a bit more cunning or clever. It’s also difficult to have grown up with a really insanely s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:03 PM
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It’s from porn. They think fucking hard is going to get the fake orgasm reaction from women in porn. Simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:53 PM
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I’m all for the environment but there are hybrids and electric cars now as well. When I’m back home in Europe, a car is a MUST because I have family everywhere and I love to travel to other countries over long weekends. Much more economical and less polluting than flying all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:51 PM
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Hmmm that’s a good question. Maybe ask about doing an activity in your area that requires a drive out there to do? Like a hike or a visit to a more distant attraction? Like “have you every driven out to X to do Y?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:37 PM
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Your lifestyle totally works and your budget is sensible. However, you could blow $100 on Ubers in a single weekend in Chicago easily. I guess just having a car is one of my things, for better or worse. I’m not going to end up driving miss.daisy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:35 PM
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Honestly if they break out the jackhammer, it’s over. I’m in my mid-30s. If you’re jackhammering, you’re getting kicked out on your ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:32 PM
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Yeah there are many caveats. But I have seen less perfect looking dudes put extra effort in the bedroom whereas vain pretty guys almost don’t even know what to because they want all attention on themselves. I’ve only been with a couple non-athletic guys (usually one-offs) and they practically worshipped my pussy LOL. But aesthetically they were not fun to watch during sex. It’s difficult bc I’m athletic and very fit so I always end up with jock types and many times they also have tons of draw ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:31 PM
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Having a disability would be a completely different situation. I think what bothers me with these specific instances is that they are lacking foresight into how not having a car would make any potential relationship very one-sided. When they revealed to me that they “got rid“ of their cars, it was almost self-congratulatory. Like they did such a brave thing lol. Oh please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:25 PM
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NO FREE EMOTIONAL LABOR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 10:04 AM
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Honestly I want to believe his comments and posts are fake and fanfic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:59 AM
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Girl same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:57 AM
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Absolute garbage people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 09:55 AM
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I am beyond happy that’s over. I had a similar situation but with a younger family friend who had a huge dick. But he still sucked in bed. Total mooch/leech basically was homeless and bouncing between his dad’s and my place. Got so tired of him. Last I saw he’s running off to Vegas. Why? To mooch off his elderly grandmother. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:15 AM
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Omg a VAPING car moocher internal screaming So glad for your husband and his small but mighty Yaris!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:07 AM
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So what gets me is the way they so smugly say it like ... yeah I freed myself and got rid of my car. Like oh... lol ok. I get it. Parking is a bitch. Renting spots is expensive but these men had good jobs lol. Like how “free” are you when you have to be completely reliant on fucking public transportation and the good will of your friends to drive your ass around. Just no thank you. Also F. I’m sure you’ll NEVER let some dude car mooch again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:59 AM
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Girl I wouldn’t worry. Guys typically are into cars/like to drive. It’s just one of those male “roles”. Plus, you’re still young. My friend just finally got her license at 42 bc she moved out of the city into the country. You have plenty of time to grow and change in the future if you wish to do so. I personally just couldn’t do it. I’m a very independent woman and I don’t want to be some grown man’s chauffeur or have to put my life on hold bc his bus is late. I’m active and go to events all ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:39 AM
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Worth a rewatch. Honestly fav ep. I miss the early days of reality tv sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 02:33 AM
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Jersey?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 01:50 AM
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Lol I love how this post got downvoted to 0. We must be getting brigaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 01:45 AM
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Bingo. Even then it’s like what... is he not going to date someone who doesn’t live within walking distaste lol? Like ok good luck with that. The el in Chicago is decent but it’s not nearly as accessible as the subway in NYC. Like a 15 min car ride would end up being an hour el ride with 3 transfers. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 01:31 AM
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Omg yes dude WTF!!! This trend is seriously getting out of hand imo. Especially if they’re dating outside of the hipster circles like they’re basically like “hey unless you live within walking distance this thing is probably going to be a lot of work for you” bc their no car excuse will limit anything and everything. And I’m sorry but like... Uber gets fucking expensive. It really adds up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 01:29 AM
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Like I even move downtown! I don’t drive often but having a car is a huge life amplifier. These dudes lived in more obscure neighborhoods too that didn’t have central el lines that went by them. Just really annoying and inconvenient to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:45 AM
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If the car is tidy and well kept, it’s fine. I just like cars I guess. My next upgrade will be a fully electric SUV. Not in love with the Tesla one that came out. Waiting for other brands to catch up with something I like better. Chicago traffic sucks, but not having a car is a huge inconvenience and I live downtown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:44 AM
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Chicago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:40 AM
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Ugh god I’ve been in that situation before when I was younger which is prob why I have such an aversion to this! I also drive my cars into the ground once I buy them but I find that luxury brands are drivable for much longer without compromising style and safety. If a guy was constantly buying mediocre new cars every few years... I wouldn’t trust him with a dime of my money. That’s just a terrible financial strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 12:11 AM
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Exactly! Like our bus system is wider than the train but come on. It’s so unreliable. Always runs late, takes forever. I’m just not interested. I’m all for minimizing my carbon footprint but that’s why I walk to work and work from home. I have 2 big dogs and I like to pack them up in the car and go out to the country to relax and decompress. I just feel like I can’t deal with that kind of lifestyle honestly and knowing my giving and nurturing nature, I’d immediately fall into the chauffeur role.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 11:59 PM
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Absolutely trash tier even with a big dick. Sad to even admit this but it is pretty fucking funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 11:43 PM
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r/men_of_the_wall Come!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 09:20 PM
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I actually love getting those texts because it makes me lose any remaining respect I had for them. Nicely kills that potential that I might fuck up and waste my time on some idiot. Even at my age, there is still a danger of falling back into the fuck boy trap. Stay vigilant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 09:18 PM
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Had one just like that as well. Fucking kills me to hear about many women are out there that had the same experience. It changes you. Not right away but eventually. The cycle can be hard to break. I’m glad you’re going to instill the right values into your daughters. I think I wouldn’t have been the way I was had I not been in a constantly combative household. The fighting wore me down. Then I would starve to self-harm or just feel pain because I was so angry and frustrated by my unreasonable fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 09:04 PM
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Adrianna Lima fucked up by marrying a Balkan piece of shit. So fucking sad. Wish I could have warned her. ETA: so I looked yo his new gf and just as I suspected he went for one of his own. Cross-culture marriages never work out. Very rarely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:42 PM
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Low self worth is a killer. Had it in my prime and absolutely wasted my youth and beauty on worthless fecks. My life would probably be so different now had I focused on more high quality men... hell I even had access to them but no. I was too preoccupied with fuckboys that needed to be “saved”, the “misunderstood” types who were actually just shitty fucking people. It sucks because my parents are to blame for the most part. They really killed my self worth by raising me to be subservient (so fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:41 PM
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That was me except I had to learn the name lesson a couple more times 😒 thankfully I’m fully reformed now. The cycle is fucking REAL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:31 PM
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Please tell me you remember that crazy baptist lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:26 PM
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Omg do you remember the crazy religious lady lmao. DARK SIDED!!! My friends and I use gifs of her and quote her all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:19 PM
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It’s so cringe inducing I can’t even watch it ironically. I loved the show on Lifetime called UnReal (it’s a series not reality tv). It’s basically like behind the scenes of a show like bachelor. It’s really well written (the last least gets a bit unhinged). It’s one of my fav shows in the last couple years. Highly recommend it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:18 PM
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It’s totally acceptable and honorable. It’s your body! No need to give it to fuckboys whatsoever. You’re not missing out on anything. Most men are absolute trash in bed. A lot of us who started having sex in our teens did it with guys who had no idea what they were doing. Unfortunately, it didn’t get much better in our 20s and the act of sex itself was more of a form of validation from men and had nothing to do with receiving pleasure… It was basically a performance art. I didn’t start having or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:12 PM
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I have an aversion to super religious people. Especially someone like that who is just constantly preachy and making a spectacle of himself (like really dropping down to one knee and praying in the middle of a game LOL). I personally couldn’t marry someone who has never had sex. That’s just me. I need to test drive the car before I drive it off the lot lol. I’ve had plenty of bad sex and have become allergic to it. Everyone has preferences though. Nothing wrong with wanting to be traditional if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 07:57 PM
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It’s like wtf is their deal? Lazy? Uncoordinated?!? Like fuckin aye ... I think lazy lovers are really high on my list of things I will not compromise on ever. Athletes are good for avoiding this... too bad they’re usually dumb as rocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 07:51 PM
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Oh for sure. One big dicker I had literally was the laziest piece of shit. He thought all he had to do was get hard lmao. At one point I got off him and was like I’m too tired for this shit if you’re just going to sit there while I jump on your schlong... I had already done tons of squats that day. He also didn’t eat pussy... shouldn’t have even let* him stick around for as long as he did smfh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 07:46 PM
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I’m old and not a trad so it doesn’t appease me at all. He may not be a fuckboy but I can guarantee you he’s dumb especially being raised by two baptist missionaries lol yikes... the brainwashing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 07:42 PM
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Only downside is that hot dudes tend to suck in bed. They think all they have to do is show up. This goes for guys with big dicks too sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 06:47 PM
1

Had to Google who that was. Holy shit. Talk about religious fruitcake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 06:37 PM
4

I’m here for it tbh lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 09:24 PM
5

It’s still in the SRD sub but locked if you’re curious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 05:04 PM
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Did you see the subreddit drama post the other day about this sub? I scrolled this sub earlier looking to see if there was a mega thread discussion about it but didn’t find anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:51 PM
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Dated a pro fighter/Olympic kick boxer and wasted 6 years of my life with an abusive dumbfuck with shit for brains. Dumped his ass in 2010 and never looked back. Unless he can get a job as a personal trainer or at a gym eventually, he’s going to be dead weight. Their careers as pros do not last long unless they make it to Hollywood. ETA: as an athlete and someone from a pro athlete family, beware of athlete men. These days they are not required to get an education and are plucked up by promoters…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 03:04 PM
3

Come one, come all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 03:00 PM
10

Dying laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 02:18 PM
6

Wild lol this literally happened to me this past month. Two of them have a child under 1yo and are separated after barely 2 years of marriage. Now they want to @ me with pathetic “should have married you when I had the chance” bullshit lmao FOH scrub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 02:02 PM
2

Truly! Sounds like boot trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 04:22 PM
3

Just want to remind y’all to check out r/men_of_the_wall https://www.reddit.com/r/Men_of_the_Wall/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:21 PM
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Like 4 years ago I was naively attracted to that sub because I was really put off by of libfems. I quickly realized it was a bunch of westerners trad LARPing. Being from a chauvinist culture it really irritated me so I moved to TBP to mock them. Then I got banned from there for using the word “c*nt” in a direct quote lol. I was one of the top contributors at the time too. The mods were turning into a bunch of jokes. That totally put me off to that community and the general libfem community as a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:45 PM
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At the same time, there are so many good looking guys who are complete fucking abusive bums who contribute nothing to society that incels call Chads. And they blame women for going after them and getting alpha widowed by them. Basically, you can’t win bc the bottom line is that women will always be blamed and ridiculed regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:21 PM
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I’m 5’9 and it sucks. I’ve clicked w shorter guys who were attractive but it always gets awkward for me bc I don’t feel feminine when I’m as tall and long as them in bed or when intimate. A lot of them also get insecure if I wear heels and end up taller than them. Fuck it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 01:05 AM
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