https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/dt7cfx/comment/f6v4wj8

From a male point of view... you meet a woman over OLD. She likes you (what a fucking miracle, of the 50000 who ignore and despise you) and you like her. But the reality is she is what you can get, not what you want. But you close your eyes to that because otherwise you are throwing away the one thing that you have managed to get out of this cold dark world. But after a few months the gnawing sense that this isn't quite right cannot be ignored anymore so you taper off and end it, whether directly or cowardly like. Now that can be the truth, or a cover for the fact that you've managed to extract what you want (sex) and are now moving on. But that's where its at.

OLD is exceptionally toxic.

Yet people who post here get death threats for trying to avoid this. How about men actually quit their bullshit?