She says she likes me but still stays in her relationship

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I am so fucked up right now. I have never felt a pain so bad in my life. As you can see for the last 5 months or so I have been posting on this account about this girl.

Basically last summer she liked me and I had the opportunity to date her but I didn’t because she was dating around a lot and not for sex. Then after that she cheated on my best friend. However when the school year started she started dating a guy she has been dating for the last year. It was heartbreaking seeing them together during my final year of high school and really ruined it. I want to be with her so badly and after 5 months of thinking about the risk I decided to tell her that I really like her. I told her this before we were going to workout together and when I was talking I was really nervous saying it and was kind of shaking. She was smiling the whole time I was saying this and put her hand on my shoulder and said “hey if me and Jim don’t workout..it’s me and you”. While pointing at me then her.

I was shocked she was still interested. We went into the gym and really didn’t talk about it much and then when we were driving home and listening to music she turned down the music and told me she had something to tell me. She said that she liked me a lot last summer and said that it seemed I didn’t feel the same way. I basically told her that I really regretted not dating her in the past. She then told me that she is in a happy relationship now and not interested and I told her I know and understand that. Afterwards she said she was not just saying this but that I was the most favorite person I ever met and she told me how much she cares about me. Afterwards I dropped her off in shock about the whole scenario.

I just don’t know what to make of this. She goes to college 2 hours away from me next year and I am scared we won’t be able to date. Her boyfriend who is not as interested in their relationship as she is told her that if she moves away she is breaking up with him. (Btw he is still in high school as a junior). What do I even make of this. I really want to wait it out and then when they break up date her for awhile and then go with her where she moves. This may sound crazy but the business I built makes 100k a year and I can afford to do it or even go to the same school with her. I know people are going to tell me to move on but I don’t want to and is not an option. I want this relationship more than I want to live. Someone please tell me what should I do?

Also if you want more background info it’s in my post history. I would write it but I feel like it might be to much info.