He told me his intentions, this is a long one ladies

So I met this guy at a party last week. It was a mix of church people and friends or friends. We really hit it off, he asked me to go for a walk and show me around the property, to get away from everyone he said he wanted to meet me and see who I really am without other people around and having me to worry about appearances or expectations (he told me this after) we talked for hours on a Dock until late in the night and he made his move after about 3 hours of us just sitting talking. The conversation just flowed and there was definitely butterflies and a feeling with it. We kissed, he was really romantic about how he did it and he said he felt the spark and I did, do too... and kept talking and kissed some more and ended up making out, like really making out and I stopped him and told him I’m a virgin, and he said that’s okay, I’m not sure why you felt like you needed to tell me that if you thought I’d have a problem with it but I don’t. I like the girl I met and have been talking to. And I told him like, well that sorts out the assholes cause after that their done and leave. And he still seemed oblivious to the fact I’m telling him like, your not getting laid man. But he didn’t try anything he was a gentleman. The kissing did get physical but I was into it he was respectful and didn’t go to far. We didn’t even realize it but somehow 9:30pm turned into 4am and we were still out on this dock kissing and talking. We’ve been talking for about a week since and I like him. He tells me Goodmorning and goodnight every day.. But I’ve been hurt by “nice guys” before so I’m still skeptical.. We were talking last night and it got a little serious and he kinda threw this at me after parents got mentioned (by him) and I told him I’m not worried parents love me but maybe it’s best I haven’t already met them. and he said well I wasn’t worried either but then this followed- it’s a copy paste of his text and I mean we talked thru it and agreed we’d like to continue to get to know each other and made clear like we are both looking for more, a relationship, not a fling- but anyways I just wanted y’all s take on the situation cause I’m not used to having somebody come at me this genuine, he’s a church guy I’m 25, he’s 26 and teaches 2-3 year old Sunday school at his church he’s pretty religious but not to much like he’s still a normal kinda guy— the thing I found kinda weird, maybe the first red flag 🚩, is after all the talking and him saying yes he wants to “pursue my heart and learn what love means to me” and how he can be good to me I tried to make plans with him this weekend and he said he’s busy doing this and that, he starts a new job Monday and it’s his last weekend to meet up with friends before he’s working all the time (as a firefighter) and I told him well my friends and I were planning on going to this line dancing club Saturday night if he happens to end up there and he was like oh! That’s actually where I have plans to go with my friends Saturday night! And he seemed like okay it’d be cool to see you there but still didn’t invite me.. it just struck me as odd like we’d have this long talk about intentions and we wanna take it slow and we like each other but the first chance you had to hang out with me you didn’t take. Like if that’s where your planning on going with your friends why didn’t you say like if you wanna meet me here and we can have some fun and see each other like, it doesn’t have to be a date. Just an invitation would have been nice or some indication that he is interested in having me around not necessarily there to be with him all night and intrude on his plans he already has scheduled with friends ..

Anyways here’s the text he told me his “intentions” and then a few of the ones after I just want yalls take on it and advice of the situation if it’s like nothing or if I should maybe see it as a flag like, maybe he just likes the attention too and it’s gonna be another guy that takes my attention and interest but doesn’t put in the effort to spend time with me..

Him: Guess that ones up to me to figure out lol. But I will tell you one thing Rebecca. And it's not a threat or an ultimatum. I'm just going to be real with you for a minute. It's just kinda who I am and how past relationships have shaped me. I've been hurt before, and it sounds like you have too. I am not free attention. I don't like being used, and I do not use other people like that. I am not after sex. I am not looking for a fling or someone to abuse and put my problems on and bail or block. I want a friend. My best friend. That I connect with and trust and can share my faith and walk with god with and can respect, encourage and cheer on and build up and care for them and their heart, make them feel valued and worthy and come into something with them as whole of a man as I can and grow with them. And I expect them to be the most whole version of themself they can be as well. I like what I saw in you and felt with you, talking with you, holding you and kissing you, all of it is the best I've felt in a while. trust is important to me. Idk what your gonna do with what I'm telling you but I figure it's best to put my intentions out there from the start before we're capable of really hurting each other.

Me; I appreciate you putting it out there, one of us needed to. I'm not looking to use anyone or lead anyone on, I've been on that end of a relationship or friendship and wouldnt wish that on anybody. I'm open to being friends, best friends or maybe more if that's where things start going but I'm not forcing anything or forming any illusions about it either

Him: I get what your saying.. I just don't want us second guessing each other's intentions. I'm not that guy. I am intentional in what I do, and who I connect with. Kissing you was a decision I made feeling that spark talking with you for all that time. And the attraction just built from there. Somehow hours felt like minutes alone out there with you. I like where we started, I really do. And with all that in mind I want to continue with it if you do

Me: Continue with what? Be specific, since that seems to be what we both want from the other

Him: Pursuing your heart. Getting to know you, and your heart and what love means to you. And show you mine and my truth. I didn't kiss you to play with you I did cause I felt something with you and I felt you do too. I like the woman I met. The sparks there, it was cold that night but I was warm with you let's see if we can turn it into a fire that doesn't go out

Me: I love fire, so if we take it slow, maybe there's a chance for something great

Him: I'd like that, and I like you . I want to

Me: Ok then, so if anything changes, we talk about it?

Him: Yes.