So you have read all the F DS material, understand how patriarchal institutions, reinforced by our social groups, condition us to be good little Pick Me s. And many of us were good little Pick Mes.

What now? You don't want to be a pick me any more but getting over a learned behavior isn't easy. But you have to keep it up. Always. Because going back to pick me ways is death and misery.

Only you can make the changes to stop being a pickme. It's not your fault you were a pick me, so don't even go down the self loathing route. But you are responsible for the choices you make post F DS enlightenment. You have full agency here and That's a good thing.

Backsliding and slips will occur. The key is to get back up, learn from it and move on. Build muscle memory.