Convinced that im not good enough

Casanova-Quinn · 2020-06-15T15:24:53+00:00

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” —Henry Ford

Don't fall into the trap of creating self-fulfilling prophecies. If you're expecting to fail then you already have. Get out there and shoot your shot. Let the girls reject you, not yourself.

MattyAnon · 2020-06-15T17:32:52+00:00

So im in my early 20s and im still a virgin. In the past i had bad expiriences with women where they would reject and humiliate me

Sadly this is how women are: they are immature and use you to make themselves look better.

Their SMV is sky high at your age, and yours isn't, and they are using that for their own gains.

Never ever forget that this is in the nature of women.

I get uncomfortable if a girl starts flirting with me i abort the converastion and gtfo.

You don't think you're good enough because that's what you've been told.

Get in shape, be awesome, live up to your own standards. When you know, deep down, that you are fucking awesome you'll find women will agree with you.

gcaa99 · 2020-06-15T17:08:02+00:00

I have the same problem as you, but I got much better in the last 2/3 months, yesterday got laid on the first date for the first time in my life and got 2 other girls available to me atm, but not settling, always working to get better.

You got to learn woman nature. Where you can do that? Read the sidebar pdf, ams and Steph is cold on YouTube.

Then learn game and kino. Where? Todd V, Coach Kyle, rsd among others on youtube.

I think the hardest part is making game something fun and not serious, but the moment you do it the results come in.

Go on tinder, get numbers and set up dates, maybe lower your standards a bit in the beginning. How do you do this? Playing with fire (on youtube).

You got to learn the theory, I did for a long time (2/3 years) but the moment you start applying stuff, you start seeing results.

You a virgin? She doesn't know that, so don't give it away.

Good luck

boy_named_su · 2020-06-15T14:55:10+00:00

you don't need to accept all of your negative thoughts. you're not entirely in control of random thoughts passing through your brain

so, when you have negative thoughts, say "i acknowledge this thought, but do not accept it"

then think of something in the same domain that is positive, like

"man I sure fucked up that task"

then replace it with

"but remember that time I kicked ass at [some other task]?"

sounds dumb but it helps

OpenComparison · 2020-06-15T17:39:39+00:00

6'3? lmao what an advantage, im 5'8 in my early 20s too and im banging more pussy than u. not to deprecate but cmon man its all in ur head. if you're chubbier, lift/jog/get into fitness, if you have acne get into skin care, if its about money learn some skills. Instead of the time you're wasting feeling sorry for yourself you could use that time for getting better, stronger, and smarter. You think alexander the great spent time crying about how he killed someone? NO he didn't have time for it! He was too busy conquering lands, slaying pussy, and becoming king of the fucking world. In the end I just want to say thats it not even about getting the pussy, it's about being a man, having a career, learning about life, and succeeding, women are just a byproduct and they will come, so don't be too hard on yourself.

HotHead121 · 2020-06-15T19:17:24+00:00

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thrwy75479 · 2020-06-15T16:39:48+00:00

In the past i had bad expiriences with women where they would reject and humiliate me.

People do that kinda shit to protect their ego. It's less about you, and more about them. Don't let it stop you. Keep taking your shots.

This can be applied to anything in life, and a lot of success can be had through brute forcing.

im 6'3 tall with really good genes(wide shoulders,nice jaw,full head of hair)

A lot to be grateful for there. Continue to lift, and eat healthy.

I would also encourage you to compete in something. Find something, become better at it, and then compete. It could be against yourself at first, perhaps becoming faster at something. Then, enter competitions against others.

Point is to do something. Sitting idle creates room in your mind for all sorts of thoughts to sit, and stay. Create goals, break them down into manageable tasks, and take action.

You won't have time to brood over negative bullshit that's completely imaginary.

HotHead121 · 2020-06-15T19:36:36+00:00

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ipwnedx · 2020-06-15T17:56:38+00:00

This won’t provide immediate results, but my general take on people who have confidence issues is to seriously develop themselves first.

You’ve been in the gym a year you say? That’s great. Now, amp it up. Track macros, hop on a 5/3/1 and take it extremely seriously. You’ll make a fuck ton of gains, develop (more) confidence, and your SMV will automatically increase; 3 of which women have a tendency to like.

Keep grinding and respect ✊

gediwer · 2020-06-15T22:18:42+00:00

https://killyourinnerloser.com/

fakeaccount687 · 2020-06-15T14:17:32+00:00

You are the prize, Fake it till you make it, nobody is that special. It's a mindset you need to practice

IXseed · 2020-06-15T17:15:24+00:00

Prisoner's Dilemma

Now you can either assume women do want to fuck you or that they don't.

If you think they do and they do, you fuck
If you think they do and they don't, you'll get rejected
If you think they don't and they do, you talk yourself out of it
If you think they don't and they don't, you'll just be right.

Only one of those situations you fuck.

skyrunner22 · 2020-06-15T14:48:10+00:00

Just know that is childhood trauma that you are holding on to. I think the awareness of it helps you move on, like just knowing that those are protection mechanisms that you built up from when you were a kid and how one/two/etc young girls reaction can block your progress many years later. Thinking you are unworthy of intimacy or connection with others is just a mental block.

Realize that and use game to help you move step by step towards your goals, be ok with failure/learning and gain experience. Getting that exposure therapy will go a long way, you will mess up, recalibrate, celebrate your personal victories and you will see the success come.

Dont know if there was a single book that touches on it but just the collective experience that many have gone thru this and overcome it shows that its possible. 6'3 with good genes you will catch on quick, just be comfortable that you will make mistakes and grow from it

CryptoViceroy · 2020-06-15T15:03:13+00:00

I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that there's things missing in your life.

You work a job you don't like or you're not proud of. You don't have a strong social life. You don't have much money. You don't dress your best when you leave the house. etc.

You feel lesser than others because you don't feel like you match their status.

Build that status, sense of pride and sense of belonging and it will all fall into place.

strongerthandeath97 · 2020-06-15T16:59:36+00:00

This sounds like me.I am 21.Every girl I loved have rejected me and humilliated me in the past.I always keep telling myself its because you are 5'10 if you were 6'3 they would love you.I see that you at 6'3 are expiriencing the same problem.

glowing_dolphins · 2020-06-15T14:18:11+00:00

This is sidebar stuff.

How many months have you been lifting? Have you read the books?

This is not a sympathy sub.

Title	Convinced that im not good enough
Author	HotHead121
Upvotes	15
Comments	33
Date	June 15, 2020 2:14 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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