How can you be charming without giving validation?

FireDrillem · 2018-12-05T23:39:12+00:00

“Charming” isn’t something that you DO, it’s something that you ARE.

She can earn your validation and/or approval. It doesn’t always have to be a never ending “chase”. However, never ending respect and cooperation is a must.

stevecapw · 2018-12-06T01:35:01+00:00

Smile, have fun, flirt. Women communicate differently from Men. For them, it's more about emotion and how you convey what you want to communicate, not what you say.

books_are_friends · 2018-12-06T03:09:02+00:00

I think it is charming to give validation as it only is a compliment to yourself. If you’re spending time with a girl, she reflects on you. At least that’s how I’ve seen it. If you’re too worried giving her a compliment will inflate her ego, she’s the wrong girl. Find one who plays along and reciprocates and is receptive. She should appreciate your attention

epicfadeout · 2018-12-06T04:21:07+00:00

I feel like charm is something that comes naturally to me, and girls can sense it pretty easily, often times without complimenting them at all. Don't try to amuse women, just be self-amused. If anything you'd be much better off lightly teasing them, and even then it shouldn't really be something you're trying to do...if you genuinely like and enjoy yourself enough, then the charm and playful energy will just flow out of you naturally.

Casd12 · 2018-12-06T04:51:32+00:00

By doing shit that's fun, teasing and joking around.

Thizzlebot · 2018-12-07T00:02:46+00:00

Charming is making people feel good because that's the kind of person you are. You're thinking of mindlessly handing out compliments there's a difference.

vandaalen · 2018-12-05T23:31:37+00:00

You are making her feel good, special, important etc.

And why would you want to do that?

FireDrillem · 2018-12-06T00:59:50+00:00

Yea, you’re definitely on the sperg spectrum on this one.

Become accomplished and develop some character. Remain comfortable In your own skin and yes, get your mouth piece together. Learn to use the language with a sense of style. You’ll complement them by your presence, not by your Asperger like comments about their pretty smiles or hair do.

Title	How can you be charming without giving validation?
Author	zyzzstarr
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	December 5, 2018 11:17 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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