Men have "fragile egos" because the average woman doesn't know how to tell men things in ways that make them want to listen

31,929 points•4,535 comments•submitted by Sandi_T to r/unpopularopinion7322445522& 44 more

Before the whining about "mansplaining" begins, I'm a woman, so don't waste your nail polish.

I hear too often how women "can't tell him" various things bothering her, because "he has a fragile ego." No, you can't tell him these things because you're attacking him and being hateful when you tell him.

You also can't tell him things because you only tell him negative things. You're ungrateful.

If you tell a man, "I like it when a guy gives me chocolates," he'll probably give you chocolates. If you snap at him that maybe you'd forgive him if his lazy ass got up off of the couch and got you some chocolates... You're likely to get only a big argument.

If he gets you the wrong kind of chocolates, and you tell him so with all the fury in your rotten little soul, you're to blame when you get no more chocolates.

If you tell him how much you appreciate how hard he tried, and actually, you know, appreciate that he DID try... And then say that your favorites are X type, but you will enjoy these today because being from him makes them special, you'll get your favorite next time for sure.

And before you stamp your entitled little foot and screech that he should just listen to you no matter how you say it, maybe you should consider the fact that that's the sort of thing a spoiled child would say, not an adult. If you can't be bothered to be thoughtful towards him, you're a spoiled, demanding brat, not a woman.

Appreciate him like loving adults appreciate each other. Consider his feelings, and stop demanding consideration you don't give. Cut the double standard. Don't abuse your partner. Don't talk to him in ways that you'd never tolerate from him.

Oh, and stop being prickly and refusing his help. Let him help; it's not "infantilism," it's partnership and caring. If you're an island, be single. Relationships are not all about you doing everything alone while demanding the other person magically read your mind to know when he's allowed to be a kind human and pitch in.

And if you're not like that, I'm not talking to you.