Clarification about the BDSM rule?

wish_i_wasntavampire · 2020-07-06T17:35:27+00:00

Here we go again...

I suppose you could start with searching the male depravity flair and the pornsick limp dick flair. Look around the sub, read posts, etc.

There have been many, MANY posts that answer your question perfectly.

ETA: And I'm sorry for going through your post history (was looking how long you've been on the sub), but girl DON'T ask him out and DON'T post nudes online.

whatisfunemployment · 2020-07-06T17:42:02+00:00

BDSM is just another way for porn-addicted men to abuse their partners in the name of kink/sexuality. And we, as women, are told off for not being into what is because it is, as you said,

a perfectly healthy way to explore sexuality and have fun while being intimate

Shouldn't it say something about men who are into BDSM, that they need this level of extreme stimulation and must inflict pain onto their partners to get off? This isn't a sub for promoting abuse. BDSM is abuse, intentionally.

bye-raspberry · 2020-07-06T17:43:32+00:00

Please enlighten me on how letting your partner beat you, restrain you/tie you up, and pretend to rape you to get off sexually is a healthy expression of sexuality

43rdaccount · 2020-07-06T18:04:53+00:00

1) theres enough subs on reddit about bdsm, so it's not a big deal to exclude it from this sub. just go there for that.

2) "debating" or even talking about bdsm like you want to in this thread is already taking up space instead of posting sm useful to help and support each other or share information to make ourselves stronger. just read the facts in the handbook and respect the space and the kinds of conversations we want to have here

3) bdsm is already normalized and mainstream, and mainstream modern dating, as fds sees it, is not beneficial to women in general. go to r/sex or wherever if u just wanna perpetuate these dating patterns, including asking out the guy and whatever else

4) if you are into bdsm, good for you, but we honestly dont care. whatever type, whatever role u have, whatever works for you, we dont give a fuck that we are lumping it with the abusive instances of bdsm bc at the end of the day, we will not encourage women to learn about or get involved in something that has a high probability of harming her physically, emotionally, psychologically, permanently, arbitrarily.

Title	Clarification about the BDSM rule?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	July 6, 2020 5:32 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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