Difficult situations & growth

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July 6, 2020
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What were some of the most difficult situations you’ve went through that ultimately hardened/molded you and taught you valuable lessons.

In reference to Faith, Physical, Mental, Skills, anything really.

I’ve had my highs and my lows and learned to embrace the trials when they come as they tend to be very rewarding afterwards.


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Title Difficult situations & growth
Author agoodcrayon
Upvotes 3
Comments 12
Date 06 July 2020 03:47 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

[–]agoodcrayon[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Thanks, that was probably the 5th time I’ve read your journey.

Whilst going through those situations, did it feel like a bunch of puzzle pieces being placed randomly? Did it feel hazy?

I ask this because I’m 25 and it surely feels like that at the moment. The path isn’t clearly lit. I’m just making decisions based on wisdom and discernment hoping that it all makes sense in 20 years time.

The hope I have is that Gods not a liar and living righteously whilst improving myself overall will lead to great results.

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Whilst going through those situations, did it feel like a bunch of puzzle pieces being placed randomly? Did it feel hazy?

Before Christ everything was hazy.

After giving my life to Christ, things began to fall in place a little at a time. There were many times that the path was not clearly lit for me either. Sometimes that had to do with God not revealing more at the time, other times it was my sin and preoccupation with earthly things that kept me from seeing clearly.

For instance, when my wife passed away my thought over the next few months was "Why God? She's finally starting to take her relationship with You seriously. Things are finally starting to improve. Why would you take her now?" Little did I know at the time that God had better plans for me.

I’m just making decisions based on wisdom and discernment hoping that it all makes sense in 20 years time.

This is correct. Each step taken in faith and godliness will pay off later one way or another, even if it doesn't make sense now.

The hope I have is that Gods not a liar and living righteously whilst improving myself overall will lead to great results.

God has proven Himself to not be a liar. However, what "great results" are you expecting? Things often turn out great; however, things often become very difficult as a Christian. Look at the fate of the disciples - all but one died a martyr's death. Look at the fate of Christians in hostile countries - they get persecuted, their houses get burned down, they get raped and sold into slavery, etc. If you live in a first world country like most of us do, then chances are good that things will turn out well for you when you live for Christ. But there are no guarantees.

Remember Colossians 3:1-17

If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. 2 Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. 3 For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.

5 Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. 6 Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, 7 in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them.

8 But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds, 10 and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, 11 where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave nor free, but Christ is all and in all.

12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17 And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.

I don't want to discourage you, but remember that there is a cost to following Christ.

[–]agoodcrayon[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

No worries here man. I understand life is temporary. Jesus went out with a bang and returned.

Life after Christ finding me has been better than I could have imagined. I just wish I had more understanding of upcoming seasons, I think I’d progress a lot better.

The cost is amazing and the suck is rewarding.

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I just wish I had more understanding of upcoming seasons, I think I’d progress a lot better.

I've been waiting at least a year for God to move me to a new job. He tells me not to do anything, to wait on Him. It's hard. I'm learning to be patient and trust in Him. What is He using your situation to teach you?

[–]agoodcrayon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think he wants me to do the same.

I feel called to go into acting and build a brand. To influence culture, you have to be in a position of power, otherwise no one will listen to what you’ve got to say. I think we need more Godly men in positions of influence, especially in entertainment as majority of people are consumers and most of what’s out there is horrible to the heart and mind and indirectly influences our decisions.

In order for that to happen, I’ve gotta build my wealth in order to be able to make the moves in that direction. I’ve got no debt. I still live with my parents. Have a full time job. Repair cars from the auction and sell them. I’ve got 3 cars in my name now.

Now, they still have minor issues and id love to work on them after work but it’s been raining every chance I get, and I mean literally. Or something else comes up and I have to shift focus elsewhere.

It seems I can’t catch up no matter how bad I want to or try. This is why I think God wants me to be patient. His timing, not mine. Maybe he’s paving out the landscape so it won’t destroy me if I were to rush into it. In the meantime, I’m working out and have saved over 10k in cash.

I feel ready to blast through the door of opportunity but I guess I’m really not.

[–]Willow-girl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The hope I have is that Gods not a liar and living righteously whilst improving myself overall will lead to great results.

Well, be careful with this! Righteous people still get in car wrecks and develop cancer. Etc.

[–]agoodcrayon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know ;) lol that’s life.

[–]Praexology1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I grew the most mentally through probably two ways.

The first was through my Grandpa who groomed me to be the spiritual succesor of his best friend after he died of a brain infection because I showed the most immediate promise to satisfy that role despite being the youngest in my family. Ever been psychoanalyzed by a professional until you cried, then told your crying was a form of manipulation, not as a criticism, but merely as an observation? Makes your brain weird. Oh well. This has made me into a hyper aware person that for some reason can read people extremely fast, to the point that people consider it one of my defining characteristics.

Second was after a series of serious near-death experiences that had more weird effects on my psyche. I struggle with slipping in and out of some kind of fugue dissociation. But it has helped me to understand God in greater detail because my imminent fear and axiety towards death disappeared. It was through this that God nipped the "Why does God allow good people to die?" question right out from me.

I changed the most spiritually when I saw and felt my mom being healed in my hands. I haven't even come close to a crisis of faith since that unexplainable day. I've had a few bizarre events happen that I couldn't explain, but this one really took the cake.

[–]agoodcrayon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for your comment. I feel you on that intuition part.

[–]Willow-girl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My first husband died in 1997, my mother in 1998 and my father in 1999.

I learned many lessons through this ordeal but the biggest one was that life is short, and if you aren't living it the way you want, you have no one to blame but yourself.

[–]UpTanks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This year, and I think for others this would be the case too - mental health. Just being stuck inside for 90% of the day for months on end.

A lot of people did well with it, but I hated it. Got good grades at Uni and still in good shape, but the mental games were tough.

Its a massive cliche but I've learned the importance of cultivating and maintaining faith. Paul's prison letters and John hit hard this season.



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