Seeing a guy, all the usual lvm problems, however does not appear to be mean spirited (still being cautious). He's quite babe, intelligent and interesting which I find appealing. Very hard for me to find men that i'm attracted to and actually want to speak with. Uninterested in being in a super serious baby-baby-i -love-you-and-will-die-for-you relationship and am uninterested in marriage. However am still human apparently and love going round to his on the weekends and doing lazy, fun shit after working all week on my own personal goals and endeavours.

Okay so.

Question 1: What do you genius women do/ask for when you don’t want the classic committed slave relationship but also don’t want the risky fwb commitment either. Like what are the other options? I like him and care about him. But I don’t want to do this wife shit for him and I don’t want to do fwb either. I think I want an exclusive relationship but it feels like theres no way to do that without it escalating to something gross and wifey. We also don't have a shared goal that we are working towards or anything. And I don't want that either.

Question 2: Recently. I’ve been feeling like cooking at his. Nothing excessive. I just enjoy cooking sometimes. It can be pleasurable. He cooks occasionally. Mostly we get takeout. But i’m worried once I start with that bullshit i’m done for. Can it be done.