Hey my guys been lurking here for a minute now and I'm in need of some advice. I apologize if this is long but I need to get this off my chest.

I started seeing this girl around 2 years ago, I was 23 and she was 22. I met her at the start of the summer through a mutual friend and we talked and went our separate ways; and I remembered thinking about how I wish I could run into her again.

This happened 2 more times randomly at different places throughout the same summer. The final time was at a bar and we were both standing at the bar ordering drinks. We ended up talking a bit and she confessed she had a crush for me lol. We ended up hooking up and I got her number. I thought she was dope and we ended up talking more and making plans to hangout.

At the time I was spinning a few plates, but overall really got along with her and started to care about her. So maybe a month or two into seeing her I dropped all the plates and committed myself to her. I felt a bit bad because I believe she thought we were something more than what we were when I was seeing these other girls. It was a little bit difficult to take her seriously though because she was going through a kind of party phase and I wasnt sure if she was playing the field as well. I told her I was seeing girls but that I dropped them to continue the relationship with her.

Shes smokin hot so naturally I assumed she had a long list of dudes chasing her down which was true. She made it very clear that she dropped any guys who were even talking to her & even blocked them off social media, she has over 10k followers on instagram and she even set her profile to private.

This girl became slightly obsessive over me and stopped going out to bars, started cutting back on her drinking and basically almost dropped it. Stopped doing coke and xanax and smoking cigarettes and all this other crazy shit altogether. Slowly I could see her shaping up, didnt think at all about the long term but I knew I was happy with her at that moment. Over the course of the next year and a bit her habits started getting better and better. She became more organized, we started to go to the gym together; Shes a personal trainer and my passion for the last 12 years is lifting. Started doing new hobbies together, traveled together. She fixed up her eating habits and is somewhat doing a meal prep type of thing, she finally got a stable job where she makes ok money. Got her license, but no car, I feel like we have both grown a lot together and we really bring out the best in each other.

Fast forward 2 years to the present and I'm not as happy in this relationship anymore. The sex has always been amazing, and has never really tapered off or I have never really gotten sick of it, we still fuck like rabbits. I myself am in a slump about finding a solid steady career choice, and lately it has played on my mental more than I would like to admit. I'm trying to stay positive and continue to better myself. Lately all she talks about is marriage and having kids and moving in together, I do think about it, but there is still some stuff I feel like she must do before I would consider having these things with her.

I've talked to her about getting a car. I know she wants to get a car just needs some more money saved up, but I also think her past kind of haunts her (She got into a car accident when she was younger that ended up messing up her spine pretty badly & left her with a permanent dizziness condition.) I feel strange always being the one who has to drive and I've talked to her a few times now just encouraging her to get a car and have her own independence and to also take some of the load off my back.

She has issues waking up early in the morning and also is a bit of an insomniac, I'm the complete opposite. Sometimes I try to set up plans early in the morning only to cancel them because she needs to sleep in. She blames it entirely on her dizziness condition but I call B.S. because I know her well enough, her condition doesnt affect her that much.

Our gym sessions together have come to a halt. She has stopped going entirely and without a car it's difficult for her to manage to go by herself. I used to go by myself after work and would ask if she would want to go and she would decline the offer usually 95% of the time. Eventually now I've moved locations and it's been difficult to find a gym that I like, so I haven't been for the last 2 months. Since shes stopped going for the past little while her overall figure has changed a bit. She naturally has a great figure more girls would kill for so shes not looking too bad but I was so accustomed to her looking amazing all the time. Is it wrong that I prefer the way she used to look, and that I wish she would keep up the gym?

Finally her behavior has been pretty controlling lately, I cant talk about another woman at all without her becoming slightly aggressive. If we go out together to a bar or a club and if a women hits on me Infront of my LTR she will verbally yell at the girl or even grab them and push them away. If I go out with my guy friends to a bar my girlfriend is usually very apprehensive about it and will usually be displeased and make me feel bad for wanting to spend some time with them. I wouldn't do anything behind her back, I used to be a shithead but not anymore.

Anyways long story short I find it hard right now to see a future with this girl and raising kids with her. between the controlling behavior towards me interacting with females, her inability to get a car, her issues with managing her time in the mornings, and also just being on top of other things in her life. I feel like she takes after me and the things I do, i have changed my frame a bit and I dont feel like I'm leading her as well as I should at this moment, she has always been by my side and been supportive of the things I do. Should I try to work things out or do you guys think it's a lost cause? I've talked about these things before with her and they have yet to be creased out and I get anxious thinking about the future if these things aren't worked out. I know shes willing to put in the leg work to make this work though.

Tldr: LTR is hot, has worked through a ton of shit, has done a lot of growing up so far but has more growing up she still has to do. Wants a future with me and talks about it non stop but I need to see things change. Change has yet to happen and my patience is wearing thin.