How to take action and actually improve?

polarizingpotato · 2018-12-18T02:02:27+00:00

I remember your username because I thought it was funny and some of the things you said along with your previous questions. Long story short, you're afraid of people thinking bad things about you, and that paralyzes you from acting. That's your primary issue that you're trying to solve (whether you realize that or not). This isn't an issue of motivation. It's an issue of you being petrified.

I can see from all of your questions that you're asking that you're really trying to figure this out, and that's a good thing. However, you're dancing around your fear by looking for a shortcut instead of confronting it.

So let me ask you this instead, and I'll be glad to continue a conversation to help you figure this out if you'll answer and take it seriously: Who are you afraid of judging you, and what are you afraid of them thinking about you?

SexySmexxy · 2018-12-18T02:26:15+00:00

One small step at a time.

I remember I used to read tonnes of this shit when I was like 17, 7 years later I am genuinely happy with my life.

I’m not gonna say I owe it all to TRP because it’s a lot bullshit but it also has a tonne of useful content if you ever know what to filter out.

I came here 17, and fat and broke and a small close friendship group.

And now I’m happy and finally achieved most of my goals.

It takes time and small steps, I didn’t even join the gym till 3 years after I discovered this shit.

I still have some body fat to lose ffs, and I’ve even picked up a weed addiction on the way lol, that is to say you never end up as this perfect version of yourself, but you just keep doing those small things to be better every day and in a few years time you’ll look back and see you’re a smarter, wealthier, musclier attractive version of yourself x amount of years ago.

Set achievable goals and break it down into small things even if it’s just one thing a time.

FireDrillem · 2018-12-18T01:55:39+00:00

I keep logs or I journal as a contemplative tool. However, what has helped me (action wise) is taking simple steps, one at a time.

For example; instead of going out aggressively approaching every attractive female like a thirsty beta out of the box, I just don’t let fuckable women “get by me”. In other words, any girl that crosses my path as I go about my day gets “approached”. At least say something.

Many women are relieved and more than willing when a man simply steps up and acts like a Man. They’re out there.

Title	How to take action and actually improve?
Author	polarizingpotato
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	December 18, 2018 1:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/a76502/how_to_take_action_and_actually_improve/
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