There are times when i have to deal with annoying people. For example - a friend at school or my big brother’s friends. Now usually being unreactive and showing you don’t give a fuck helps you to hold frame. But what if my friend annoys me to the point I get so annoyed I just tell him to fuck off in an assertive tone? Would that be losing frame because I was reactive and lost control of my emotions and my temper. I did this and reacted this way before to my brother’s friend who likes to talk random shit and pester me, but it felt as though I was acting insecure and worked up.

Now if I were to be unreactive and didn’t lose my cool, smirk and politely tell him to fuck off, he wouldn’t take me seriously and would just continue to annoy me.

What would be the best way to deal with annoying people? I know being assertive is a good thing but I feel as though I lose my frame and enter theirs because I’m reacting too much, but I feel like being up front and entering dickhead mode to tell them to fuck off is the only way they’ll stop annoying me with their bullshit.