This one has me super stumped guys. How can you be both outcome independent AND not tolerate disrespect? Let me explain....

Matched with a girl on bumble last Monday. She’s 21 and a college cheerleader. She’s a solid 7. I set up a date for that upcoming Friday night to eat and go look at Christmas lights afterwards. She loved the idea and even texted me the night before the date she was looking forward to tomorrow.

Our reservations were at 7:30 PM. She texts me at 4:30 PM that she needs to be back home by no later than 9:00pm because she “totally spaced” that she had promised her mom she would go look at Xmas lights with her tonight and that she’s sorry but that she is “the kind of person who will always put family first”. She then offered to do something tomorrow and said she would even drive to see me. I was fucking livid! There is nothing, and I mean nothing, that a woman can do that will piss me off more then waste my fucking time. I work my ass off all week. I look forward to my weekends. I could’ve done 1 million other things. Not to mention just the fucking total disrespect and flabbergasting indignant righteousness of this fucking cunt saying she will always put her family first as if she is somehow in the right for flaking last minute. Gentlemen I’ve said it before and I will say it again it is physically impossible for any woman to take accountability or responsibility for their behavior. Physically impossible. They cannot do it. They will do something wrong, hurt you, and then turn around and get angry at you if you attempt to call them out on it. Before I tell you what my response was I want to hear what you would do.

It’s a catch 22 in my mind. If I get pissed and let her know I’m pissed....Well that’s not being outcome independent. Letting her know her flaking pisses me off is me entering her frame. You should never let a woman know she has the power to control your emotions

On the other hand it’s blatant disrespect which you cannot tolerate. How do you be outcome independent in the face of her disrespectful behavior?