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Results of my informal Online Dating study

huuuligan

December 17, 2020

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Title	Results of my informal Online Dating study
Author	huuuligan
Upvotes	33
Comments	9
Date	December 17, 2020 10:37 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kf81nn/results_of_my_informal_online_dating_study/
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[–]huuuliganFDS Newbie[S] 21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

I set up a profile on Plenty of Fish saying that I would be in town for a few months and was looking for someone to hook up with on a regular basis so I could see what type of men would respond to it. Made it clear that I wasn't looking for anything serious/a relationship/commitment and I wasn't interested in situations where the guy was cheating or in a poly relationship.

The overwhelming majority of men who sent messages stated in the intentions area of their profiles that they were looking for a relationship or marriage.

On my pie chart, I used greenish colors for guys with profiles indicating casual only. I used reddish colors for guys who mentioned they were looking for a relationship or marriage.

(And yes lurkers, we know that some guys could be down for casual or serious, but some of us have the standard that we aren't interested in men that hit up women for casual sex on dating apps even if those men are also open to being in a relationship.)

I left my profile up for 5 days and received messages from 217 men. Here are the findings.

[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[–]huuuliganFDS Newbie[S] 30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link

I've done online dating before where my profile was clear that I was looking for a relationship and most of the guys that contacted me said that they were looking for a relationship on their profile. Of course many of them outted themselves when I started chatting with them when they'd eventually try to change the subject to something sexual.

When I did this little experiment with the casual hookup profile, I replied back to a few of the guys who had profiles that stated clearly they were looking for something serious and I said sorry, we're not a match, I'm only interested in casual hookups but I see your profile says looking for something serious.

One of the guys even clearly stated that he was not looking for hookups in his details area. When I chatted with him, he said he wasn't actually looking for anything serious and was only looking for hookups, but he hadn't gotten around to changing his profile. I told him sorry, there is always drama when I hookup with guys that have a dishonest profile like his, so I'm not interested. One of my friends is also on POF and is looking for a serious relationship, so I checked with her to see if this scrote had messaged her too, and sure enough, he did lol.... Of course he still hasn't changed his profile because he's covertly looking for hookups but hopes that he'll trick more women by saying they're he's looking for a relationship.

Another guy who I replied to said he's down for casual or serious and I told him basically the same thing, I'm not interested in guys who don't put their honest intentions on their profile because it's a turn off. He said he's too old to put looking for hookups on his profile and said let me know if you change your mind and didn't message me again. I noticed that he then went back and updated his profile to include that he'd be down for casual or a relationship. After I deleted my profile, I had my friend check his profile and sure enough he had changed it back to the way he had it when he had first contacted me. So he had basically changed it to include casual because he was hoping to get laid, but once he realized my profile was gone, he changed it back because he thinks it gives him a better chance with other women.

I already knew online dating was a dumpster fire, but this experiment was seriously an eye opener for me.

[–]CognitivedecadencePickmeisha™️9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]huuuliganFDS Newbie[S] 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]CognitivedecadencePickmeisha™️8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]disposable20201129FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]huuuliganFDS Newbie[S] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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