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Getting relationship anxiety

cuspids

September 11, 2017

11 upvotes

I'm dating a new guy, after three months of getting to know him here and there (just having coffee). Our relationship is funny because I wasn't in a good place in my life when we met, so he basically chased me on and off for three months and I was actually trying to avoid him, and I was actually a bit snarky at times (which apparently attracted him to me).

Anyways, so now that we're dating, I am actually smitten with him and I am getting EXTREMELY shy and self-conscious around him (because now I care, but before I didn't).

I know for sure that he was attracted to my fiesty and witty and carefree spirit at the beginning, but now that we're dating I want to show my respect and care for him but then I start losing my attractive attitude that he liked (now I've become shy, I'm nervous, I'm self conscious and I pretty much just want to melt into his arms).

Any advice?

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Title	Getting relationship anxiety
Author	cuspids
Upvotes	11
Comments	4
Date	September 11, 2017 8:53 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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[–]honeyfern5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You are both women, so just continue to be both women.

There are plenty of opportunities to be the softer more self-conscious version of yourself. It's a great way to become more intimate, especially when you're one on one. People are drawn to vulnerability, so surely he'll still love that part of you.

On the other hand, there are plenty of opportunities for you to be the feisty free-spirit you are as well. For example, when you're out on active dates, when you're visiting friends or family, when you're doing lifestyle tasks, etc.

Then? All the time you have alone? Just the two of you? No reason to force being the witty bubbly version, just be your softer self!

I think you're over thinking this which is totally normal at this stage in the relationship.

If the guy doesn't like both versions of you then it's not the right person, but you haven't mentioned anything on his part that's in-sighting that he may not like you.

Don't allow yourself to be an adorable mushball all the time basically, just choose your moments.

[–]cuspids 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

[–]HB32342 Stars3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Cardiscappa1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link