One of my biggest issues is approach anxiety and this anxiety stems from my almost allergic, blood-curling distaste for people that are phony and inauthentic.

That being said, I fear that when I approach people sense this inauthenticity.

And it’s valid. I’m not genuinely trying to meet women and get to know them. Rather, I am trying to seduce them. I am trying to make a good impression. I am trying to become better at charming women.

Women pick up on all this “trying” behavior thru subtle body language queues and nervous ticks that subconsciously eek out of me.

What are some concrete steps I can follow to take these behaviors I am trying to get better at and become more natural? I want my interactions to come across as more effortless. And more from the perspective “Hey I’m a fun cool person. You should come along for the ride because you’ll have a great time.”

Tips for ECs appreciated. Thanks.